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Best Male Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

By loveandsex

Male masturbation has taken on a life of its own as men get more comfortable with masturbating and using sex toys. As society evolves, male masturbation becomes less and less taboo, simply because people are starting to realize that every guy does it! It is becoming widely accepted for men to purchase masturbation aids such as pornography or sleeves and lube. Women are being educated about how it is a normal, natural thing for men to do and even a healthy part of every relationship, so they are no longer getting jealous over their partner’s masturbation habits or asking their partners to refrain from it.

Embrace male masturbation as a great way to relieve sexual frustration, help prevent prostate cancer, relieve painful headaches, give yourself a good mood boost or even help you sleep. There are a number of awesome benefits that you can reap. Encourage your partner to masturbate as well. Check out our best tips this year – and take a look at the best female sex tips of 2011 – and make next year even better when it comes to learning new and different ways to satisfy yourself!

  • Advanced Masturbation Techniques – Using Sex Toys
  • Is It Unhealthy To Masturbate Daily?
  • How To Enhance Your Orgasm – For Men
  • Can Masturbation Cause A Penis To Break?
  • 6 Ways To Make Male Masturbation Better Than Sex
  • How To Use A Masturbation Sleeve On Him

Don’t forget to check out some of our all time favorite male masturbation articles!

  • Q&A: Masturbation – Does It Make Sex Better?
  • Q&A: What To Do When Masturbation Gets Boring
  • Q&A: What’s The Best Way To Masturbate If You’re A Guy?
  • Masturbation – 3 Ways To Make It Feel More Like A Vagina
  • 6 Things You Didn’t Know About Semen
  • 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Penises

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: erection, male ejaculation, male masturbators, male orgasm, male sex toys, masturbation, Sex Toys

Best Female Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

By loveandsex

Female masturbation is more common than you think – lots of girls are into it. However, not every girl knows how best to stimulate her clitoris or which sex toy is perfect for g-spot stimulation during a solo session. Guys can also gain a lot of knowledge about how to give a woman an orgasm by checking out these tips and how girls get themselves off when they’re alone. Some takeaways this year about women’s solo habits:

  • It’s completely normal! Masturbation is perfectly normal and even healthy for male and female teens going through puberty, adults, singles and even couples in a long term relationship or marriage!
  • Masturbation can help relieve headaches and other pain. An orgasm can make you feel lots better after a stressful day, or when you have a headache.
  • Sex toys are a must have! While doing it with your fingers is pretty darn convenient, very few things beat the kind of orgasms you can have when you bring a vibrator into the mix. You don’t have to have a whole slew of sex toys (although that’s pretty fun too), but one or two trusted toys that get the job done and done well definitely belong in your nightstand drawer. Our fave sex toys this year are the LELO Nea & The Wild G-Spot Vibrator (we love this one, so we got you a sweet 50% OFF deal). Don’t forget lube – our personal favorite is Pjur Lube!

Here are the most awesome women’s solo articles from this past year!

  • 6 Female Masturbation Secrets!
  • Female Masturbation: 10 Must Haves For The Bedroom
  • Female Masturbation – 5 Shower Favorites!
  • Women’s Masturbation Secrets – REVEALED!
  • Fingers vs. Sex Toys – Which Is Better?
  • Hands Free Orgasm – Can Women Masturbate Without Touching Themselves?
  • Mutual Masturbation: How To Get Your Man To Try It
  • 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Vaginas

And our all time favorite, BEST article on female masturbation is:

  • Top 10 Female Masturbation Tips

If you’re a girl who doesn’t masturbate or masturbate regularly, make 2012 the year that you’re going to start exploring your own body and taking control of your own orgasms! Women who masturbate are almost always more sexually satisfied – especially if they’re in a relationship – than their non-masturbating sisters.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: clitoris, female masturbation, female orgasm, fingering, g spot, masturbation, orgasm, Sex Toys

Q&A: Will Masturbation Affect Your Relationship?

By loveandsex

Masturbation is normal and healthy for both guys and gals – it’s a normal way to explore your sexuality as you go through puberty and teenage years, and then it becomes an excellent way to relieve sexual tension and stress when you can’t or don’t want to have sex with another person. It can also help you explore what you like and don’t like during sex, so you can more effectively communicate with your lovers about how you like to be touched. But can it affect a relationship and cause problems between two people? Can excessive masturbation ruin a partnership, or is it more likely due one partner having jealousy and control issues?

Hey Dan and Jenn – I’m 16 and my cousin tells me that masturbation makes you more likely to stay single and I don’t want to stay single! Is that true? Please help! Thanks and I love your show it has helped me so much.

–YouTube Viewer

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Men And Women Learn About Their Sexuality Through Masturbation

Unfortunately, masturbation has a bad rap. Society teaches teens that masturbation is bad or wrong, and this gets even more oppressive in families where their morals or religious beliefs suggest that it is unhealthy. However, it is neither unhealthy nor is it wrong – it’s a natural way for both men and women to learn about their bodies and their developing sexuality. It’s a perfectly normal thing to engage in even daily from pre-teen years through adulthood.

It’s A Healthy Part Of Every Relationship

It’s unrealistic to expect that your partner be able to be around and available to satisfy your sexual needs whenever you have sexual needs. It’s also unfair to them – your partner should not be totally and completely responsible for your sexual satisfaction! Especially for men and women with high libidos, their partners may not want to have sex all day every day. Many women have issues with their male partners masturbating because they feel like he “wants” someone else sexually, or doesn’t like them for some reason. This couldn’t be further from the truth! It’s natural for guys to jerk off when they have a pang of desire, without having to ask their partners to have sex four times a day.

Another reason that masturbation can be beneficial to a relationship is that it teaches each person what they like sexually, so they can then go to their partners and communicate what feels good and what doesn’t. Being able to communicate to your partner what you like is essential to a satisfying and intimate sex life with your lover, because if YOU don’t know how to please yourself, how are THEY supposed to?

Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation is also a fun activity to do together to become more comfortable with the idea of self satisfaction in your relationship and how it can help you both to relax, stay satisfied and learn what you like sexually. Doing it together can also add another element to your sex life that keeps it from getting boring and monotonous!

Jealousy Issues

Often, one partner will be jealous over the other for masturbating. They may be upset that their lover is watching porn, or they may feel like they’re not doing enough to please their partner. Rest assured that if your lover engages in self satisfaction and watches porn that it has nothing to do with your inadequacies as a lover. It simply is a natural, healthy thing to do! There’s no reason to be jealous about it.

How Much Is Too Much?

Of course, as with most things, there’s a caveat here. It can be damaging to a relationship if it goes too far. Normal self satisfaction usually doesn’t cause problems in a relationship, but if it becomes excessive, it can.  If, for example, all you or your partner can think about is masturbating, you or your partner stop spending time together to go masturbate or you substitute it for sex with your partner. In this case, it can definitely be a problem in the relationship and you’ll want to seek help as soon as possible.

Just like with any addiction, if you or your partner are addicted to masturbating, seek help. Lots of addiction programs out there can be applied to masturbation and you can follow the same steps. If it’s taking over your life, you have an addiction and it’s time to do something about it! If it’s not, relax and don’t let it bother you. Normal masturbation is healthy and even beneficial for a relationship!

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: female masturbation, fighting, jealousy, masturbation, Relationship Advice

Mutual Masturbation – How To Get Your Partner To Try It

By loveandsex

Mutual masturbation can be something fun and exciting to add to your sex  life. Masturbation doesn’t have to be something you hide from your significant other, or that you do in the dark in secret. You can enjoy masturbating with your lover, while watching them do it too. Sound like fun? Here’s how to get your lover into it!

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What Is Mutual Masturbation?

To put it simply, it’s when you masturbate yourself in front of your lover and they masturbate themselves in front of you. It can be at the same time, but it doesn’t have to be. You can also take turns putting on a great show for each other – but most people who do this usually end up getting so turned on that they start touching themselves anyway.

Most couples are too shy to try this – in fact, most people are too shy to talk about masturbation in general – but it can be a great way to bond sexually with your partner. You can bond emotionally by watching each other give themselves pleasure, and you can also pick up some great tips on where they like to be touched and how they like to be stroked.

Get Comfortable With The Topic

First of all, if you’re uncomfortable with the topic of self love in general, it’s time to pony up and get comfortable with it. Rest assured, everyone does it – men and women alike. Although our society places taboos on masturbation (heck, some people even say that it makes you go blind or makes hair grow on the palms of your hands), there’s really nothing wrong with it and it’s a perfectly normal and healthy thing for both men and women to do. Educate yourself about masturbation and get over your preconceived notions that it’s “bad” or “wrong.”

Encourage Your Partner To Do It

Before you jump right in to mutual masturbation, you have to get your partner comfortable with it too. Too often, couples masturbate in secret without ever talking about it with each other. It doesn’t have to be that way! It’s not something to be jealous of, so encourage your partner to masturbate in addition to a healthy sex life with you. Get them a sex toy to enjoy on their own – there are tons of great sex toys for both girls and guys! Don’t think that the sex toy world is limited to vibrators for women. There is so much more out there! Explore some online sex toy stores – if you get the right ones, your lover may find them intriguing enough to try!

Make sure you give them plenty of privacy and time alone to enjoy their masturbation. Honor their privacy and don’t ever bust in on them if you know or suspect they’re masturbating. If the door is closed, knock!

Talk About It With Your Significant Other

If you and your significant other have never had the “masturbation” talk, go ahead and have it! Share stories with each other about your first time doing it or if you ever got caught doing it. Talk about how it’s normal and natural, and let your lover know that you’re not going to judge them at all for their masturbation habits or what they enjoy. Share with your lover what you enjoy and what your fantasies are – take that leap and tell them what you like when you get it on with yourself and they may be more encouraged to share what they like with you!

Your First Time With Mutual Masturbation

You’ve gotten past the “masturbation conversation” and you and your lover are both comfortable talking about it and doing it. You feel ready to take the next step and try doing it in front of each other. For your first time, consider blindfolding your lover. This can be fun, but it also serves a purpose – your lover is going to feel more comfortable masturbating in front of you for the first time if they can’t see you’re there. You can watch them, but they can’t see you! Alternatively, you may feel more comfortable wearing a blindfold for the first time masturbating in front of your lover.

Another great idea is to turn the lights down very low, or use candles. The dim lighting makes it more comfortable for both of you, but still allows you both to see what is going on, which can be incredibly erotic.

Make Your Significant Other Feel Good About It

Don’t be shy when your lover is putting on the show – let them know how much you like it and how much it turns you on! This can be in the form of just vocalizing your pleasure or even dirty talk, which can make it even more erotic for them. Touch yourself while they’re masturbating, so they can see just how turned on you are at the sight of them masturbating. If you want to get your lover to do it more often, you’ve got to give them positive feedback. Don’t be the freak that just sits in the corner staring – get into it! Let your lover know that you’re into it! Enjoy it and have fun with it.

Getting Into A Groove

You’ve tried mutual masturbation for the first time and you really like it – so how do you take it a step further? Try different sex positions when you do – sitting in front of each other is nice, but you can also try lying down, or with one of you lying in the bed and the other sitting in a chair. Use your imagination and consider different possibilities and different ways to try it.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: female masturbation, fingering, handjob, masturbation, orgasm, sex tips, Sex Toys

Naughty Fingers Review

By loveandsex

Naughty Fingers is a completely comprehensive guide that goes into detail about female orgasms, how a woman receives pleasure and how give her an orgasm through fingering – or two or three!

The Good

Naughty Fingers leaves no stone unturned when it comes to learning how to please a woman sexually with your fingers. You’ll learn erotic touch, sensual massage and the exact techniques you’ll need to give her orgasm after orgasm. You’ll also learn the basics behind a woman’s pleasure, which is important when trying to understand why other techniques that have been used in the past didn’t work.

The book is well planned out, with easy to read and understand text, as well as delineated chapters that are easy to navigate through. Gabrielle Moore demonstrates her vast knowledge about female anatomy and female orgasms in each chapter, from how to finger a woman to warming her up with foreplay and sensual massage.

The Bad

While Naughty Fingers is definitely a well thought out lesson on how to please a woman with your hands, some men and women may find that the anatomical references and diagrams go a little overboard. In fact, the section on brain anatomy seems out of place, however, it can easily be skipped without compromising the take-away from the text, unless you really desire to know the physical breakdown of the brain.

The section on a woman’s menstrual cycle may be enough to scare any guy who has made it this far through the book away, because he’s probably thinking, “Hey, I didn’t sign up to learn about her period. How does that relate to me fingering her at all?” Truthfully, understanding where a woman is in her menstrual cycle and how she’s feeling at any certain time is probably one of the first things you’re going to want to be aware of before trying to finger her. Depending on where she is in her cycle and how she is feeling at the time, she may not be receptive to your advances at all, regardless of how excellent your technique is. So men, while you may be tempted to skip over this part, man up and at least glance through it. She’ll thank you for it!

There’s not much else bad to say about Naughty Fingers simply because the text is so comprehensive, there’s really nothing missed. Taking the time to really read and understand what is being said in the book may take some time, but it is well worth it.

The Bottom Line

If you really want to learn how to finger a girl, as well as understand her orgasm and how to get her there over and over, Naughty Fingers is right up your alley. It’s a complete guide on understanding how a woman’s body works so you can learn how to please her without her ever telling you what to do. There’s also a great technique section at the end, so after you learn the “why’s,” you can start to learn “how.” An excellent book for men who not only want to learn exactly what to do and when, but also more about a woman’s pleasure in general.

The Full Naughty Fingers Review

Naughty Fingers is a guide to fingering and female orgasm and is incredibly thorough. Some men may not want to read through the entire background of how a woman reaches orgasm and will want to skip ahead to the actual fingering techniques – however, without understanding the basics behind a girl’s climax, a man is never going to be able to fully please her and give her a mind-numbing, earth shattering orgasm. Take the time to learn what women truly want and what they don’t want and why. Having a better comprehension of the way women operate will help you immensely when it comes to giving your partner sexual pleasure – of any kind!

While well worth the read, the introduction is lengthy. Don’t be afraid to read through it in small chunks, because the information really is vital to what you’re trying to do. In the next section, you’ll learn quite a bit about the hands, their function and how the brain controls the hands. It seems a little out of place here, but not for long. Naughty Fingers immediately jumps into “good touch” vs. “bad touch” and how to tell if your style of touching your lover is at all what she likes or what she wants.

What Type Of Partner Do You Have?

You’ll also learn what “type” of woman your partner is, and you can determine what category her libido falls into. You’ll learn more about the different types of orgasms a woman experiences and how she experiences them. Who knew that the female gender could experience so many different and separate types of climaxes, as well as multiple orgasms! This is perhaps one of the best sections in the text if you’re truly looking to understand female pleasure and how an orgasm works for a woman.

The sections on the female menstrual cycle and detailed diagrams of the female anatomy are next. While the Latin terms for all of her hot spots might seem a little overwhelming, remember that this is not your average high school sex ed class and that you’re actually learning this stuff to give your partner more sexual pleasure than she has ever experienced before. Take a deep breath and read on! Naughty Fingers shows you all of her most sensitive areas like the A-spot and the G-spot. You’ll even learn where the X-spot and the Y-spot are (huh? Those exist?) and how to stimulate them.

Strength And Stamina

Naughty Fingers also includes exercises to help build up the stamina and strength in your hands, because it takes a woman several minutes to become aroused and to reach orgasm – even longer if you want to give her multiple orgasms! You definitely want to make sure your hands, wrists and forearms are in peak condition so you can finish. It’s not going to be very fun for her if your hands cramp up when she’s almost there.

The next chapters are where Naughty Fingers starts to get really good, because you’re going to start delving into the the steps you’re going to take to start to massage and finger a woman until she’s writhing with pleasure. Don’t jump too far ahead – start from the beginning with the labia massage before trying to insert your finger into her vagina – you’re going to want her to be plenty aroused and plenty wet. Don’t forget to have a bottle of your favorite lube on hand too!

Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind

You’ll also learn specific maneuvers and techniques to use that will turn your partner on and send her over the edge – from the “Rumble In The Jungle” to the “U-Turn” and the “Ring Around The Rosie.” There are no shortage of suggestions here, so if you try one and it doesn’t work well, feel free to try another. You’re bound to find something that really rocks your partner’s world, and you’ll actually probably find several. You’ll also find lots of different sex positions to try fingering your partner in. This ensures that you’ll never run out of new combinations of things to try, so she’ll never get bored!

Naughty Fingers wraps up with tips on how to communicate with your partner, as well as how to set the stage for what you’re going to do and get your partner warmed up and ready for it. You’ll also learn how to choose the right lube, how to talk dirty to her and how to use erotic and sensual massage to get her relaxed. All in all, Naughty Fingers has more information about female orgasms and how to use fingering to pleasure your partner than you ever thought was out there. Enjoy the read – and then enjoy putting what you’ve learned into action!

Bonus: Forbidden Sex Toys

You can also spice up your sex life by bringing some sex toys into the bedroom. If you or your partner have never tried using sex toys (apart from masturbation alone), you can be in for a real treat – but how do you know which sex toys are the best and which ones to buy? Sex toys shows you many different styles of sex toys, so you can start to become familiar with what’s out there.

You’ll learn “how to pick ’em and how to use ’em” with everything from vibrators to lingerie to dildos and dongs and anal toys. Gabrielle doesn’t forget that sex toys aren’t just for girls, and includes a section on sex toys for boys, like masturbation sleeves and prostate stimulators. If  you’re not familiar with the sex toy industry and what it has to offer, Forbidden Sex Toys will give you a starting point. It’s also a great read if you just want to learn more about what different sex toys so you don’t end up spending your money on things you don’t end up liking or using!

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