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Why You Can’t Ignore His Balls When Giving Him A Blowjob (Or A Handjob)

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A blowjob should involve your man’s entire genital area – including his scrotum. You don’t want to just stick to the head and shaft of his penis – there’s lots more down there that has sensitive nerve endings that can create waves of intense pleasure. Here’s why you shouldn’t skip over his boys during a blowjob.

You Knew They Were Sensitive, Right?

It’s no secret that a man’s testicles are incredibly sensitive. You’ve heard how painful it is for a man to get “kicked in the junk” or to take any kind of hit to his testicles. This is because they’re extremely sensitive to pain – but this also means that they’re incredibly sensitive to pleasure as well.

There are lots of pleasure inducing nerves in the skin of his scrotal sac, but there are also nerve endings inside that can send waves of pleasure up and down his body when his balls are jiggled, sucked or fondled. So basically, that’s like 2 different sensations at once! Couple that with stroking the shaft of his penis while you pay attention to his boys and you’ve got a recipe for INTENSE orgasms!

Fondling The Scrotum With Your Hands

This is easiest to do during a blowjob, but can be done during a handjob also. When you’re giving him head, reach down and gently cup his testicles with the palm of your hand. Roll them around in your hand gently, and don’t be afraid to give them a gentle squeeze also. You don’t want to be too rough with this though, so pay attention to your guy’s body language when you do it.

If he seems to be shrinking away or is acting like he’d rather you be doing something else, then that’s probably the case and you’re making him uncomfortable. Play with your technique until you get him moaning, groaning and grinding his pelvis into you.

Licking And Sucking His Scrotum

This can feel absolutely divine during fellatio, but a lot of girls don’t like it because men are usually pretty hairy down there. Also, his scrotum is where most of his “manly” odor tends to hang out (due to the hair), so most girls tend to steer clear.

Encourage your man to shave and stay clean so you can tongue his balls. When he hears that you’re interested in doing it, he’ll most likely be more than happy to make the necessary arrangements for you to be comfortable down there.

While cupping his scrotum, bathe the skin with your tongue. Stretch your tongue out wide to cover as much area as possible. Gently suck each testicle into your mouth, but make sure you don’t graze him with your teeth or suck too hard. Again, make sure you’re paying attention to his body language so you can tell what gives him pleasure and what doesn’t.

Getting Down N’ Dirty

Remember that enthusiasm is almost 90% of a blowjob. If you’re going to be putting your mouth on his scrotum anyways, don’t be afraid to get a little down and dirty. Let things get WET! If your mouth is dry, use some flavored lube. Let it get sloppy and let your man enjoy watching and hearing you go to town on his entire “down there” area.

Spread his legs wide and make him feel exposed as you suck his penis and lick his balls. You can even lick up and down his perineum (the patch of skin below his scrotum but before his anus) if you’ve got enough guts to do it. If you do, make sure you use as firm a tongue as you can manage to indirectly stimulate his prostate gland.

Lick him from bottom to top over and over, and watch his eyes pop out of his head! Start at the perineum and lick all the way up, over his balls, over his shaft and all the way up to the head of his penis. Suck on the head of his penis some before you travel all the way back down his shaft with your tongue. Repeat this a few times before you really get going and he’ll be as hard as a rock and begging you to take him all the way into your mouth.

When it comes to stimulating his scrotum during oral sex, use your imagination. Do what comes to mind, see if he likes it, and if he does make a mental note to try it again later. If he doesn’t, scrap that idea and try something else. It’s all about having fun and giving your man incredible orgasms!

Oral Sex Troubleshooting & What To Do If Things Aren’t Going Well

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Oral sex doesn’t always go as planned. Sometimes she won’t respond well to your technique – so here’s what to do to troubleshoot oral sex.

Have you ever had a situation with a woman where you had no idea what to do, or worse, you knew what was wrong but needed a nice way to say it? This is the article for you then, where you’ll get feedback on several tricky yet manageable situations and questions you know, the kind that you want to ask about, but were afraid to.

“She Doesn’t Seem To Enjoy My Oral Technique”

It could be that you’ve noticed her not as engaged as she usually is while in the heat of the moment, or maybe she isn’t as excited about you going down on her lately as she used to be. There could be a few reasons why she’s acting a bit different:

  • You’re so concerned about your technique and pleasing her, that her anxiousness is rubbing off on her and she’s not able to get in the mood
  • You’ve lost the fun quotient and are a bit robotic or mechanical, and she’s getting a bit bored with the lack of variety.

Really though, it doesn’t matter what the reason is because the answer is the same: if she gets even a whiff of you not being 100% enthusiastic or into cunnilingus with her, she’ll have a hard time enjoying it.

So how to remedy this? Put your concerns or fears out of your head for a bit, and focus on the aspects of oral sex that are a total turn on for you. Most women will go crazy with that knowledge, and be able to open up and enjoy themselves more fully. So flash her a winner of a smile with a tweak of naughty to it, and then just go to it. It’s highly unlikely that with that attitude, you’ll get any complaints.

“She Has Lots of Pubic Hair?”

Some gents are quite fond of the 70’s look, but others would much rather see what they are doing, or they find the trimmed and/or baby smooth look a real turn on. Doesn’t matter really what matters is how you deal with it.

If it’s the first time that you’re going down on her, it may just be that she hasn’t had time to do any shaving yet. Give her some warning next time and see if she takes care of things without you having to say anything on the matter.

If your hints don’t get the job done, it’s time for the next step: subtlety. If the two of you ever watch porn together, try casually mentioning how hot you find the barely there hair on the ladies. Or, don’t trim your pubic hair. When she’s done going down on you next time, apologize for not keeping things neat and tidy, and then say with a naughty smile, “I will if you will!”

If neither of those tactics work and you really need her to perform some maintenance, your only other option is to talk to her about it directly. “I think you’re amazing, and I love going down on you. I find it difficult to see what I’m doing though, and I’d really like to give you the most amazing orgasm ever! Is there any way that we could trim things up together? I’m totally willing to help.”

“It’s Taking Too Long”

The length of time it will take to get your partner off depends on her as long as it takes. There’s really no way to predict how long, other than to use your past experiences with this woman as an indicator as to what might happen in the future.

Some women, it takes a while to get to where they need to be, both mentally and physically. Others can build the necessary tension in a few minutes, and can fly towards orgasm straight-on without a lot of coaching or encouragement. And for different women it’ll change based on their mood, cycle, past experiences, stress levels, diet, medications, and even alcohol. (Alcohol, while in small amounts can help her relax, but too much and it’ll take her much longer to climax, if at all)

Another factor that needs to be taken into account as to how long a session will last, is how much foreplay time she received prior to oral sex. The more time you spend prepping her, the less time it’ll take for her get to the finish line.

Also, the better you know your partner, the easier time you’ll have of figuring out what’s ‘normal’ for her, and how long it should take to make her orgasm.

“She Doesn’t Smell Fresh”

She may have looked irresistible when two of you went out dancing before your night of bliss, but once those beads of sweat have cooled? They aren’t anywhere near as appealing.

The easiest answer is to suggest getting her out of her clothes and hopping into the shower together. Take the sensuality one step further by lathering her up yourself, making sure not to get any soap inside of her or else she’ll be dry and may complain about itching and burning later. Icky.

If you don’t have the opportunity to take a shower together, flavored dental dams work really well to mask offensive odors in a pinch, as do some flavored lubes. Worst case scenario? Grab a warm cloth and gently wipe her down yourself, making sure to let the heat of the water soften up her vulva while you kiss and stroke her skin elsewhere.

“I Think She’s Addicted To Her Vibrator and Can’t Have an Orgasm With Me”

There is such a thing as too much, as you probably well know from your own masturbation experiences. When someone gets used to a certain method, feeling, or approach, it can be incredibly difficult to respond without it. Less variety in this case isn’t a good thing, so you may need a bit of time to, literally, retrain your partner’s clitoris to accept different, softer kinds of fondling.

If your gal isn’t willing to let go of her vibrator for a while and try playing without one (it may take her longer to have an orgasm, but in time she’ll reprogram her body to react in the same way), try it her way instead. Buy a long handled vibrator, so you can use it in tandem with your hands and mouth. See if you can alternate movements or change things up a bit with the extra ‘hand’, and watch carefully how she responds. It may take a bit of time for her to relearn how to orgasm by someone else’s hand, but eventually she’ll find the pleasure completely worthwhile.

“When She Has an Orgasm, She Pees. Ick!”

What you think is pee is probably just a tiny bit of liquid that women squirt during orgasm. It’s extremely rare for a woman to pee during orgasm same thing for a man so assume that it’s really her body’s signal that she’s had an amazing orgasm. G-spot orgasms can also create a much larger amount of fluid, but again, it’s not urine.

If the liquid really grosses you out or you’re convinced it is pee, there are a few things you can do. First, go to the bathroom before you start your next oral episode, and then ask your partner if she needs to go too. It’ll prompt her to empty her bladder just in case, without you having to say it. Also, make sure that there’s a towel handy for quick and easy clean up after you’ll want one too for your orgasm anyway, so it’s not out of the ordinary. Dental dams provide a separation between her fluids and your mouth too, and if it’s only a small amount you’ll likely not even notice.

Fellatio Techniques That Will Make His Legs Shake!

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Fellatio is an incredible way to give your man sexual pleasure – with these suggestions you can literally BLOW his mind!

These moves that will make him squirm, slither and squeal with ecstasy! If you’re a bit shy about trying these moves for the first time on a penis, don’t fret! Most guys don’t know the difference between an “ice-cream swirl” and a “top to bottom lick” – they just like what feels good to them! Don’t be afraid to use a new move right there on your partner’s penis. If he likes it, he’ll be sure to let you know! This is also a great learning experience – by trying out new fellatio moves on your partner’s penis, you can learn what he likes and what he doesn’t like and use that to build the basis of your fellatio repertoire.

Start With Your Lips

Think of them as soft, wet, squishy pillows. Wouldn’t you want your entire penis wrapped in them if you were a man? Of course! That’s why lips play such an important role in fellatio technique. Lips can create a soft, swirling motion or a tight squeezing motion depending on how you position them. Although your tongue is pretty darn powerful during a fellatio session, your lips can absolutely become your go-to when giving a blowjob. Let’s go over some exact lip techniques that you can use while performing fellatio on your partner.

  • Make an “O” with your lips. You can make a loose “O” or a tight one, depending on what mood you and your partner are in and even depending on which stage in fellatio you are. Tighter, harder and faster moves are best when your partner is close to experiencing an orgasm and lighter, softer moves are great for when you’re building him up to a climax. Slide your “O” completely up and down his penis (as far down from the base as you can get all the way up to the head) – this will allow your partner to feel the full effect of your lips on his penis. For a little extra something during this move, try rotating your “O” like you were going down a twisty slide. This will completely rev him up!
  • Kiss the head. This is kind of like a French kiss, so you may want to incorporate a little tongue here – but not too much! This move is still meant to put your lips in the spotlight. There are so many sensitive nerve endings in the head of the penis that a wet smacker right on top will put him directly into bliss mode. Kiss the head of his penis just like you would French kiss his mouth – but this time, the sloppier the better. If your partner loses an erection quickly, you can use your hand to massage the base of his penis up and down to keep him erect. You can also do this just for added pleasure.

Licking Techniques

Although whole-mouth techniques are by far more pleasurable than just licking alone, the tongue plays a very important part (if not a crucial part!) in fellatio technique. It is important that you not rely solely on the tongue during a fellatio session – this will surely not provide enough stimulation for your partner to get close to climax. You can, however, vary your sucking and lip techniques by utilizing the tongue techniques, building a fellatio repertoire that rivals even the best of the best.

  • Lollipop lick – remember those long, twisty lollipops from the carnivals? The ones you couldn’t possibly fit all the way into your mouth? Well, the best technique for those was to lick from the bottom to the top, following the swirl of the candy. That’s how you’re going to perform this tongue technique. Start at the base of your partner’s penis and lick all the way from the bottom to the top (no stopping!) and make a swirling motion while doing so. Spend a little extra time on the head if you can, using this motion. This is a great teasing move – it will give him the feel of your tongue from the very base of his penis to the tip, but without being fully engulfed by your mouth.
  • Flick his head – we’ve told you that the area where the most pleasurable nerve endings are hiding is right there in the head of your partner’s penis. Why not take a page out of the cunnilingus book and flick your man’s head with your tongue much like he would flick your clitoris? Again, this move is not something that is going to suffice if it’s the only motion you’re making during fellatio. But it could be the difference between being close to climax and being in orgasm city! You can do this while your partner’s head is in your mouth (this will add extra sensation – especially if you press your lips together to create more pressure in the tip) and will give him the most for your effort. You can also do this move outside of your mouth (with just your tongue touching the penis) if you want to back off the juice a little.

Sucking Techniques

Even if you are no fellatio queen (yet, anyway) you can probably venture a fairly accurate guess by saying that the sucking techniques are the most important part of fellatio. They sure are! Our mouths have the unique ability (over any other phallus friendly orifice in our bodies) to create suction, or a vacuum feel. This is what will drive your man wild and bring him to orgasm again and again (although probably not during the same session or even the same night).

  • Head sucking – this is another powerful tool in the fellatio giver’s arsenal. Be careful using this technique, however, because it can do one of two things – either cause discomfort because the sensations are too powerful or cause an almost immediate orgasm. If used in moderation (okay, heavy moderation), this technique can catapult your partner into blowjob bliss. Place your mouth over the top of his penis, covering the head and the frenulum completely. Make an up and down sucking motion (you can also swirl your tongue around for added effect). You can do this soft or hard, depending on both you and your partner’s mood during any particular fellatio session.
  • Shaft sucking – this is different from deep throating! You will take your partner’s entire penis that you into your mouth, but without straining yourself or activating your gag reflex. Move up and down methodically (you can do this either quickly or slowly, depending on your partner’s preferences as well as how far along in the fellatio session you are and how close to having an orgasm your partner is) while creating a sucking motion – much like sucking on a popsicle. You can also do this with a great deal of suction or with very little, also depending on your partner’s preferences and the stage of fellatio in which you are in.

How To Romance Her Before Giving Her Oral Sex

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Romance is important for a woman during sex – especially during oral sex, because it gets lonely up there all by herself. Here’s how to up the romance factor.

No, we’re not talking about the obvious here. We’re talking about mental differences between men and woman and that is generally considered to be the biggest one. Specifically, we’re referring to the different ways men and women get turned on. Men are visual creatures and this is why the pornography industry brings in billions of dollars per year. Just the sight of a large pair of soft, bouncy breasts can get a man turned on in a millisecond. This is not so with women. Very, very rarely a woman is turned on by something (or someone) she sees. For women, it is mostly mental. A steamy novel will get her juices flowing before any film or movie will.

It is time for you to learn to take advantage of this knowledge and apply it to your cunnilingus technique. Yes, we’d like for you to think of getting her mentally turned on as part of your technique, so you never forget to do it. How do you get a woman mentally turned on? Romance. No, don’t cringe!

Men couldn’t care less about romantic dinners, flowers or any of the like but women can go from zero to hot and horny with these simple gestures. If you’ve been married for years and a romantic dinner doesn’t seem up your alley, this is where you can use your imagination. What would be romantic for the two of you? It can be something like an elaborate gift or a simple compliment. Most guys can’t grab this stuff off the top off their head though, so we’ve got a few ideas for you.

Erotic Massage

With erotic massage, you can kill two birds with one stone. If you’re not skilled with your hands in that area, book her an appointment with a professional masseuse. You’ll get the gift-giving bonus too! Women love massages – not only does it relax them, it makes their responsibilities melt away and as a result, they feel loved and cared for.

Thoughtful Gifts

These can be large or small, but they must be thoughtful, not generic! Getting her that new can opener (even though she’s complained about the old one for weeks and desperately needs a new one) will not do the job here! So let’s make a rule of thumb – if you’re getting her a gift, don’t get anything that can even remotely be construed as practical! Although it may seem a waste of money to you, it makes your partner feel truly special. Jewelry, Bath & Body Works goodies, comfortable sleepwear, the delicious perfume she’s been eyeing flowers, etc. are all great ideas.

If you do choose to get her flowers, don’t get her a plant! Even though flowers will die in a few days, a plant is just another thing she’ll have to take care of and in time will become a hassle (unless she absolutely loves plants).

Dinner (No, This Is Not As Cliche As You Think)

Whether you take her out, bring dinner home or cook for her, letting her forget about what to put on the table when she gets home from work can do wonders for her sexual mood! Make an effort to eat with her at the dinner table if this is something you don’t normally do – the idea here is to spend time with her and enjoy being in her presence during an every day activity. You can also turn this idea into anything, such as going bowling together, taking a walk in a nearby park or just a quiet drive to the ice cream parlor on a hot summer evening. Your time is valuable to her and is probably better than any gift you could give.

Chores

Believe it or not, chores are to women what lingerie is to men. Nothing will romance a woman and get her more instantly turned on and inclined toward her partner than if he were to do a few chores without being asked! Yes, we said without being asked. It will only take a few minutes of your time (such as taking out the trash or doing the dishes) but here again; the idea is to lighten your lady’s load. In doing so, she will not have much on her mind except what you’ll be doing to her next or the orgasm you’re going to give her.

Be Original

If you’re unsure about how to mentally get her in the mood and romance her, just follow this simple rule: break her out of her daily routine. It is that daily grind that gets women so worn down that they are turned off or “not in the mood.” If you can lessen that or break her out of it (even for a short time), you will most likely succeed in getting her mentally turned on.

Massage Her G-Spot During Oral Sex And Make Her EXPLODE!

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The g-spot isn’t some “mystical place” inside her vagina that may or may not exist – it DOES! Massage it during oral sex and you’ll have her orgasming in seconds.

Most folks who have been having sex a while have heard of the G-Spot; a fleshy, spongy bit of tissue about half way up a woman’s vagina, facing her belly button. You may have even heard about the amazing orgasms G-Spot manipulation can provide your partner, even squirting, but we’ll get more into what the G-Spot can and can’t do tomorrow. For now, let’s learn how to massage it and make the G-Spot a part of your oral sex vocabulary.

Using The “Come Here” Stroke

Use your index finger and curl it toward your palm as it you were saying, “Come here.” When you do that motion repeatedly, you’re using what’s called the “Come Here” stroke.

Now put your hand inside your partner, palm facing up, or toward her belly button. Once your finger and not much else is comfortably inside of her, curl your finger again using the Come Here stroke. You should feel a patch of tissue that feels different than the rest; spongy, soft, yielding. It will swell the more aroused she gets, so it shouldn’t be too hard to locate right now.

Take the hand that isn’t inside of her, and push down on the top of her vulva so you can feel the hand inside of her as well. You’re essentially ‘sandwiching’ her G-Spot between your two hands, and added pressure, especially when she’s really aroused, is fantastic.

It’s time to change your hand positioning now. Keeping it in the Come Here stroke position, move your hand so that your palm is facing down. If you perform the same stroke, you’ll be massaging her Perineum from inside a very sensitive area that, if you add your thumb to the outside, can be squeezed and teased at length by both.

Now you can move your hand from left to right as well, and feel the sides of her vaginal walls. You’ll find that the closer your finger is to her vagina, the more she’ll feel and the more pleasure you’ll give.

Don’t Leave Your Tongue Out!

·Don’t forget about using your tongue during this exploration too. At first, it’ll be easier to use the basic up-and-down motion while your hand wanders, but eventually you’ll be able to perform other moves in tandem with your hand manipulations. Also, if at first tonguing her clitoris, playing with her using your hands, and listening/feeling for her arousal state proves too challenging, just use the flat, still tongue on her clitoris so you can focus appropriately for now.

Adding More Fingers

Once you’ve used one digit to get things moving, it’s time to add another one specifically your middle, or ring digit. When you’ve got two fingers working together inside of her, you want them to act as one.

When you put both fingers inside of her, leave your hands as motionless as possible. Feel her muscles clench around your hand, and how much tighter everything feels with the two fingers inside of her.

Continue what you did earlier, using the Come Here stroke and massaging all four walls of her vagina. See how everything feels slightly different with another finger in place, and note her reactions accordingly.

Put your free hand on top of her vulva (above the clitoris, where her pubic hair is), and use the two fingers inside of her to push up against her G-Spot. Use both hands in tandem to massage her G-Spot from these two angles.

Don’t stop playing with her clitoris while you perform this move, either using short up and down tongue strokes, even smaller side to side ones, or the flat tongued move if you want to concentrate. She needs you to keep the pressure on her clitoris here, no matter what, even if it’s no movement at all.

Taking A Break

If she’s willing, this is an excellent time to take a short break while you focus on other parts of her anatomy. While using the Come Here stroke with your index finger inside of her, move up so that you can pivot yourself around her body, without losing contact internally. Kiss her, touch her, nibble her, whisper in her ear, all while playfully tickling her along the G-Spot.

Just be sure to ask her before kissing her, as some woman (like some men) are squeamish when it comes to mouth-to-mouth contact after oral sex. If this is an issue, grab one of the towels that you have handy to dab at your face, and maybe her inner legs too if things are really getting hot and heavy down below.