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Jack’s Blowjob Lessons Review

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Did you know that attitude is 80% of a blowjob?

That’s just one of the amazing – but true – facts that you’ll learn when you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons. This comprehensive guide includes just about everything there is to know about giving head, from both a guy who has gotten plenty of blowjobs (both good and bad) and a seasoned porn star that has given more blowjobs than the majority of girls out there. If you want a real book about giving guys head from real people who know what they’re talking about, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are exactly what you’re looking for.

The Good

The best part about Jack’s Blowjob Lessons is that there is no shortage of techniques to use. After some sage advice on how to get a man warmed up and how to give an enthusiastic blowjob (which really is the key here), Jack jumps right into the techniques you’re looking for that will make your man explode! This definitely isn’t one of those books that has a super long introduction with a couple of techniques thrown in at the end – the majority of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons contains actual useful, usable information!

You’ll be able to combine techniques to create your own personal signature blowjob – one tailored specifically to your skills and your lover’s preferences! The step by step instructions for each technique in Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are well thought out and easy to follow. You definitely won’t be left guessing what to do next or where to put your lips and tongue!

The Bad

There are definitely some issues with Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, however, they are somewhat minimal. The book is a little profane, giving it a slightly less professional feeling than some of the similar products on the market. There is a penis anatomy section which is definitely important for those who are relatively new to giving head, however, it is short and does not include any diagrams to show you where each sensitive spot is. The book is fairly long, as much of it is filled with the author’s musings on oral sex and women – but since Jack has sufficient experience in getting both good and bad head, his musings are worth listening to. Perhaps the most grievous error in the book is the suggestion that swallowing actually reduces the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease from oral sex, not to mention that the “safe oral sex” section is short and leaves much to be desired. The resource behind this suggestion does not appear to be a very credible website, and perhaps this is due to the author’s obvious preferences towards swallowing. In fact, Jack suggests that not swallowing significantly reduces the quality of a blowjob – however, neither of these assumptions are true.

Swallowing does not reduce the risk of getting an STD while giving oral sex, however, it does not increase the risk either. If you’re having unprotected oral sex, you’re at risk, period. Nothing will reduce the risk of contracting an STD during fellatio other than using a condom. Also, it is perfectly possible (and common) to give an excellent blowjob – one that makes your lover completely weak in the knees – without swallowing. Despite these issues, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons is actually an invaluable resource when it comes to learning how to give a guy head. The majority of the advice within the guide is simply spot on.

The Bottom Line

All in all, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are a great way to learn how to give your guy head so good, he’ll be begging you to do it again and again! Despite the few caveats that the guide has, the information contained within is nothing less than valuable, useful and real. Forget boring “sex ed” books that talk about “intercourse” or “the penis.” Jack’s Blowjob Lessons were written by a guy who has had enough blowjobs to determine the good from the bad, with a section on deep throating from an experienced porn star! If you want to learn how to give the ultimate head, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are for you.

The Full Jack’s Blowjob Lessons Review

What You’ll Learn:

  • How to LOVE giving a blowjob by changing your attitude towards it
  • How to give head with your entire body
  • Why you should never, ever forget about his balls
  • How to get him relaxed and erect
  • How to make your man feel like a KING!
  • How to give road head & other great places for oral sex
  • Swallowing techniques

Different Styles Of Blowjobs

A great blowjob isn’t always the same – in fact, you want to match the style of blowjob you give to the mood you’re trying to create. Want it to be a sweet, romantic and intimate blowjob? Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will show you how to be slow and sensual! Want to devour your man like he’s the most delicious thing on the planet? Jack will show you how to be aggressive and excited. By learning how to give different styles of blowjobs, you’re going to convince your guy that you know how to give amazing head anytime and anywhere!

Stacking

Once you’ve learned the blowjob basics, it’s time to learn how to “stack” your man’s orgasm. “Stacking” is an incredible technique that allows your lover’s pleasure to build, subside and build again. This can be a little tricky though, because it’s easy to get your guy frustrated with the fact that you haven’t made him ejaculate yet. Pay attention to Jack’s suggestions here, because he will teach you how to stack your man’s orgasm in such a way that doesn’t make him frustrated but gives him the most amazing orgasm he’s ever had when you finally DO finish him off!

Oral Sex Positions

Finding a comfortable position for oral sex can be one of the biggest challenges for a woman. You want to find a position that is not only comfortable for you, but also allows your partner to watch every move you make – because enjoying the show is almost what it’s all about! The section on oral sex positions will give you enough positions to try so you and your partner can experiment to find your favorite one! Jack suggests finding three or four that really work for you and simply rotating between them.

Blowjob FAQ

Since Jack is pretty much an expert when it comes to getting head, it makes perfect sense for him to include a lengthy “frequently asked questions” section at the end of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons. The questions asked here are real questions from real women – and nothing is off limits here. Questions about swallowing, anal play and more are covered here, and the candidness of both the questions and answers is a refreshing change from your typical “dry” blowjob instruction.

Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will change your life for the better – after reading this comprehensive guide, you’ll know just about everything there is to know about giving a guy head. Your lover will be so enamored with your new found blowjob skills that he’ll want you to suck him off every chance you get!

How To Give A Blowjob To An Uncircumcised Man

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Oral sex is the same from guy to guy, right? Wrong! If he’s uncircumcised, you need to have a few more tricks up your sleeve. It’s not that different (if you’ve never done it before, you’re still likely to rock the guy’s world, even if you don’t know what you’re doing). However, if you want to really be a pro at giving head, here’s what to do if he’s uncut.

Have A Shower First

Of course, having your man shower before oral sex is a pretty good idea whether he’s circumcised or not. However, if he’s uncut, you’re really going to want him to wash up first. The reason for this is that in between the head of his penis (called the glans) and the foreskin, there can be build up called “smegma.” Yeah, awesome name for it, right? This smegma is a white, cheesy like substance that has an odor (again, awesome!). It’s not harmful to you or your partner if you give him a blowjob before he’s cleaned himself up, but unless you’re pretty kinky, you’re not going to like it a bit.

What you don’t want to do is go down on him and tell him his penis stinks and to go wash it before you continue. That’s a mood killer if there ever was one. Work a shower into your foreplay. Tell him you want to see him wet and naked, and that you want to soap his body all up. Wash his penis for him. Make sure you do it lovingly and erotically – this is still part of the foreplay. If you’re scrubbing like you’ve got to get a stain out, you’re going to turn him off and washing that hard really isn’t necessary. Slide his foreskin back gently and wash his glans and his shaft. If his foreskin is slid back and stretched out, you should be able to clean it easily.

Be Gentle!

A circumcised man has about 10-20,000 less nerve endings than an uncircumcised male in the head of the penis. In a circumcised male, the glans (which is supposed to be wet, soft and tender like a clitoris) rubs up against underwear and clothing. It develops a tough outer skin, but has become very desensitized. Women who give head to circumcised men likely have to work a lot harder, because once a man is cut, those sensitive, orgasmic nerve endings are GONE!

So if your guy is lucky enough to still have those, you’re going to want to be very gentle. Something that might really get a cut guy off might hurt like hell for a sensitive uncircumcised fella! If in doubt, always ask. Don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, does this feel good? Are you enjoying this? What would you like better?”

Insert The Tip Of Your Tongue Underneath The Foreskin

Take your tongue and form it into a somewhat soft point. Stick it underneath the foreskin, against the head of his penis. Run it around in a circle, swishing your tongue over his entire glans, still while keeping it under the foreskin. This oral sex technique is incredible for him because not only does he get to feel your tongue on his sensitive glans, he also gets to feel it on the underside of his foreskin, where there are many more pleasurable nerve endings.

Use Lube!

An uncircumcised male isn’t used to having any “dryness” down there. You may think that because you’re giving him a blowjob, it’s really not going to be “dry” at all – which is true if you can produce enough saliva. When going down on an uncut guy, think “wetter is better.” If you can’t produce enough spit, consider using a flavored lube to keep things wet enough and going smoothly.

When Using A Condom

If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, or just want to have safer oral sex, consider using a condom. Condoms can reduce the sensitivity a man feels during oral sex, so you need to be careful when you go to put it on. Make sure that he’s erect first (duh – a condom won’t go on if he’s not!) and that his foreskin is slid completely back, exposing the head of his glans. Hold the foreskin down at the base of his penis with one hand while you put on the condom with the other.

This ensures that the condom covers the actual sensitive part of his penis instead of covering the foreskin. If the condom is covering the foreskin and the foreskin is covering the head of his penis, how is he supposed to feel anything?

10 Red-Hot Oral Sex Positions (For Him)

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Oral sex positions can make a world of difference during a fellatio session – it can make fellatio exciting, relaxing or even uncomfortable. It is important to find a few that both you and your partner are comfortable with and utilize those (and mix them up) on a regular basis. You can also try new ones to spice up your normal fellatio routine. Here, we’ll list several that you and your partner can try!

On Your Knees

This is perhaps the most versatile fellatio position that there is, and probably the most widely used. You can do this with him standing and you kneeling, or with him in a chair (or on the edge of the bed) and you on your knees in front of him accordingly. This is probably the one that you will want to use if you’re performing fellatio on your partner in different places, such as in the car or in the laundry mat, etc. He may enjoy the feeling of dominance he has over you.

The Captain Morgan

Have your lover stand and lift one leg, placing his foot on either a stool, or the edge of the bed. This slight change in the traditional position allows you access to his testicles and also opens the “breezes” so that when you lick and get him wet, he’s more exposed.

Upside Down

Any oral sex positions in which your head is facing your partner’s feet is ideal for deep throating. This one is most comfortable while lying on a bed or other flat surface and can be incorporated into mutual oral sex (69) or just oral sex for him.

Lying Down

This is much like the above; however, your head will be facing your partner’s head instead of his feet. This is a great one in which your partner can put his legs on your shoulders, spread his legs wide, and raise his knees to his chest or any combination of the above. This type of variation can bring him more pleasure and you greater access to his penis.

The Koala Bear

Remember photos of a Koala Bear hanging on to a tree? When you’re lying down, just shift to the side. He will have a great view of your mouth pleasuring him and you can throw one your legs around him and stimulate yourself against his lower leg. He’ll feel how wet and turned on you are!

Sideways

Or a sideways sixty-nine position – this one is exactly how it sounds. You both will lie on your sides facing each other, with your head facing your partner’s feet. You can use this for mutual oral sex or for pleasing only him. It’s also a good for deep throating!

Sitting (On Your Face)

In this position, your partner will sit mainly on your chest, bringing his penis downwards and into your mouth. Generally, his knees will be resting on either side of you on the bed to avoid putting too much pressure on your body. To do this, however, you and your partner will need some kind of signal that you can use to let him know if he is penetrating your mouth too deeply or if you are gagging or finding it difficult to breathe. This frees up both of your hands because he is controlling the speed from this angle. It gives you time to use your hands to stroke his buttocks and the backs of his thighs and to run your hands up his stomach and onto his chest.

Doggy Style Isn’t Just For Intercourse

Yyou can perform fellatio in a doggy style position too! You can lick your partner’s penis and testicles from behind, if both you and your partner are comfortable having your face so close to his anus and back end, or you can put him on his hands and knees and you work your body up under him and place your mouth where that your vagina would normally be. I call this one a “double decker doggy” since you are both on your hands and knees – but you are up under him facing the opposite direction. Most of the work is on the woman, but it makes for a ‘different’ blow job experience for the man. It is less visual than some of the other oral sex positions but ranked up there with the men surveyed who have tried it!

Him Sitting With His Knees Up

As he is sitting in the middle of the bed with his legs bent – your head is between his legs and your backside is up in the air. Place a large mirror off the bed so that he has a full view of you naked and can look down to see your head between his legs and so that he can see the visual of your naked backside. Arch your back and move as you are giving him a blowjob so that he enjoys the visual stimulation of watching your body move in front of him and in the mirror.

Lying On Your Back

This one is a little tricky, but if situated well, you are at a prime angle for deep throating. Lie on a bed with your head at the edge of the bed (this is important – other flat surfaces won’t do because you’ll need to be raised up a couple feet). Your partner will get on his feet or knees (depending on how far off the ground your bed is) and guide his penis into your mouth.

To successfully do this, you will need to hang your head off the edge of the bed just enough so that your mouth is level with your partner’s penis. In this position though, you will need to utilize that signal in case your partner begins thrusting too hard and you cannot breathe. If done properly, however, this one can be a lot of fun!

This also gives him free reign with his hands so that he can play with your breasts as well.

A great trick is if you are willing to swallow, it to have a glass of warm water on the nightstand. When he is close to ejaculating, have him tap your shoulder, quickly fill your mouth with the warm water and lie back down – the sensation of him ejaculating into your mouth filled with warm fluid and you swallowing it down is something he won’t forget.

First Time Oral Sex: What You Need To Know

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Oral sex can be nerve wracking, especially if you haven’t tried it before. Here’s how to get started if you’ve never gone “down there” before.

Question: I’ve yet to go down on my girlfriend, and I’m really not sure where to start. I’m a bit nervous, but not scared just eager to get started. What do you suggest for a first-timer like me?

His First Time

  • Check to make sure that she’s really excited before oral sex starts.
  • If you think you’re going too fast, you probably are. Remind yourself often to slow things down a bit, and take your time. There’s no rush.
  • Focus on being gentle and creating rhythmic pressure. Ignore whatever your friends have told you, or anything pornography-related that you’ve watched or read. Having said that, being gentle doesn’t mean not engaged or floppy; you still want to be firm and focused, just not so aggressive and eager that you hurt your partner.
  • Ignore her clitoris for the first little bit. There will be lots of time to get there, but for now explore the rest of her while she’s getting excited.
  • Follow a set series of licks to see what she likes and what she responds too. Feel free to ask her what feels good, but don’t ask her so many questions that she can’t get lost in the moment either.
  • Share with her how much you’re enjoying going down on her!
  • Don’t worry about the g-spot or any fancy handwork in the beginning.
  • Feel what works and what doesn’t for both of you. Let yourself find a rhythm and get lost in it. Let your body do what feels right, and don’t over think it.
  • Make her pleasure your first priority, not her orgasm. Focus on the fun, not just the end result. If you’re enjoying yourself, she will too.

The first few times she may not have an orgasm when you go down on her and that’s okay. Just enjoy the process, learn more about each other sexually, and as time progresses it’ll happen eventually.

Her First Time

Question: My guy wants to go down on me, and I don’t really know what to think. No one has ever given me an orgasm before, although I have faked it a few times. I am able to orgasm during masturbation, just not with a partner. He says that he’ll make me orgasm when he goes down on me, and I like the idea of that. Still, I’m nervous and scared that he might not like how I taste or smell, and that I won’t be able to orgasm with him either no matter how hard he tries. What should I do?

Your boyfriend sounds like he’s got the right mindset, and he’s already figured out that he’s more likely to give you an orgasm using his tongue than with sexual intercourse. Your clitoris is where the action is at, and why you’re able to consistently give yourself an orgasm via masturbation too. Sex in and of itself rarely gives a woman an orgasm, unless she’s found a great angle that stimulates her clitoris from the outside and/or inside. Obviously you already know what rhythm and pressure works for you to reach climax, so it’s just a matter of time before your boyfriend finds the same thing.

As well, you’re eager and interested, even if you have some residual trepidations and that’s okay. You can orgasm with masturbation, so that means there’s a good chance you can with oral sex too. Here’s what I recommend for your first few forays with your boyfriend:

  • Try and make your focus about having fun and the pleasure your boyfriend wants to give you. Ignore whether or not you orgasm; it’s not the end result you’re looking for the first few times out.
  • Let your boyfriend get excited about giving you oral sex, and share with him about your focus too that you want it to be fun and pleasurable, and that you want to just learn how to enjoy the experience rather than try to climax right away. You both need to be on the same page for this to work.
  • Take lots of time for foreplay before you start receiving oral sex. Spend more time than normal getting prepped, excited and in the mood. What gets you aroused when you masturbate? Feel free to use those things too.
  • If when you masturbate a dildo or other toy is used, ask your boyfriend if he’d be willing to use it on you too.
  • Show your boyfriend what feels good and what doesn’t. Let him see how you masturbate, what rhythm you enjoy, what types of pressure work for you, and when. Now isn’t the time to be shy, but rather, share what works.
  • If your boyfriend does something you like tell him! Give him lots of positive reinforcement, and give him ideas when something doesn’t feel quite right. It might be that you aren’t quite excited enough for whatever it was he tried, so he can try it again later. Whatever you do, be sure to tell him he’s doing great and appreciate him for his efforts.
  • Baths, candles, sensual massages, lubrication and creating a romantic atmosphere will all help you relax and feel clean, sexy and ready for action.
  • Do whatever you need to get in the same head space as when you masturbate. How do you relax then and let go? What distracts you? Keep an eye on it all the next time you play with yourself, and then use those same techniques when your boyfriend is around too.

16 Oral Sex (And Other) Facts You Didn’t Know!

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Oral sex isn’t always just what meets the eye (or mouth) – did you know these surprising oral – and other sex facts?

For those of you who find quick tips appealing without the need to read over in detail a large amount of information, peek through these interesting leaps in science and society for some useable suggestions and facts about oral sex.

Flossing And Brushing Increases Risk

Risk of what, you ask? The risk of contracting a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD), unfortunately. Brushing and flossing if done right may open miniscule cuts, expose more surfaces, and increase the chances of bleeding. So instead of doing your nightly hygiene routine before going down, just swish some mouthwash and leave the full cleaning until a few hours after you’re finished.

Saliva May Protect Against Some STD’s

Swedish researchers discovered after following several dozen HIV-positive patients and their lovers, that thirteen of the study’s participants developed antibodies in their saliva that protected them against their partner’s disease. Now, that doesn’t mean that HIV cannot be contracted through oral sex, but it does show promise with determining what does protect people from the disease, and how to lower one’s risks to contracting it.

Women Just As Hot To Trot As Men

There is a myth circulating that states women take approximately twenty minutes to get aroused. Interestingly, a study performed at McGill University found that women are aroused just as fast as men are (on average) in about 11 to 12 minutes.

Don’t Dismiss Playing With Her Breasts

Masters and Johnson discovered that one percent of the women they tested were able to orgasm just from having their breasts and nipples played with.

Surgery Might Be Moot

In North America, there’s a new surgery sold to women who feel that their Labia are too big, long, or droopy. The procedure, called a labiaplasty, is mainly used with women who feel that the size of their labia prevents them from achieving a positive sex life. Yet in Uganda, women take a mixture of herbs and apply them to their Labia to make them plumper and longer, believing that their male partners find this attractive.

The Feet Have It

The next time you want to get your partner in the mood, try an old reflexology tactic that is sure to get her lower half raring to go: find the soft bit right under the ankle bone on her heel, and stroke it with a firm grasp in small circles.

Day Fifteen Is the Sweet Spot

Depending on the woman, some find that the middle of their cycle is the hottest and most conducive to some really exciting action. The next time she tells you it’s that time of the month, make a note on your calendar for two weeks after. Within a day or two of that mark, her body might be specially primed for sensual touch. Yet it’s the few days just before menstruation and during that women are most likely to orgasm, as the increase in blood flow in the genital region allows for better lubrication and sensitivity, thus increasing their pleasure quotient.

Coffee As a Sexual Motivator

A recent study found that a jolt of caffeine helped rats become more sexually motivated. One more reason to make sure you and your partner get your daily dose, especially if you’re a fan of the wake up romp.

Sexual Desire Drops After Four Years

Not surprisingly, a team of German biologists found that women desire sex less once they are in a committed, long term relationship. The longer they were together it seemed, the more their libido dropped; after four years, half of the women questioned wanted sex less than their partners did.

Fantasy Helps Satisfy

The more a woman fantasizes say researchers, the more satisfied she is with her sex life. Increase her pleasure by asking her to tell you about her favorite sexual fantasies while you’re going down on her, and see what happens.

The Pill As A Pill

The Journal of Sexual Medicine reported that women who come off the Pill may experience lower levels of arousal for up to a year after stopping the medication. Researchers think that it may have to do with a protein called SHBG, which stops testosterone from forming a building block to sexual arousal for both men and women. If you suspect coming off the Pill as the reason why your lady isn’t as excited as normal, try feeding her bananas, avocados, figs and/or pine nuts, all which have shown to (safely) increase testosterone without any of nasty side effects that testosterone in a bottle might harbor.

How Long Does It Last?

If it takes you and your partner about ten minutes to move from foreplay to sex, you aren’t alone. The Journal of Sex Research found that the average amount of time couples spend on foreplay is 11 to 13 minutes per session.

She’s Filled With Nerves

The tip of a woman’s clitoris holds around eight thousand nerve endings more than any other part of the human body. In contrast, the head of a man’s penis only has about four thousand.

She Comes Last

During sex, more than seventy-five percent of men have an orgasm during sex, whereas women climax all of the time closer to thirty percent. That’s why giving your partner oral helps to increase those odds, because you know she’s been taken care of, first.

The Smells That Arouse

Women are most attracted to men whose breath smells like peppermint, whereas men find the combination of pumpkin and lavender on a woman to be the most arousing.

Oral Sex As A Medical Prescription

In 1926, via Theodore van de Velde’s book, Ideal Marriage, cunnilingus was prescribed as the first ‘legitimate’ method to ensure a woman’s adequate lubrication prior to intercourse.