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Q&A: How To Avoid Using Your Teeth During A Blowjob

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Oral sex is amazing for a guy – some men even favor oral sex over traditional vaginal intercourse, believe it or not! Fact is, a blowjob is an incredible gift that you can give your guy – unless your pearly whites get caught on his member! Then, you’ve caused more pain than pleasure and it’s not really a gift at all! If you’re experienced at giving head, you probably know how to keep your teeth to yourself but then again, many women think they know how to go down on a guy, when really all they’re doing is causing him pain and discomfort with their teeth! Are you really blowing his mind, or is he humoring you because he doesn’t want to tell you you’re actually hurting him? Here’s how NOT to scrape your teeth against his penis during a blowjob.

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You REALLY Don’t Want To Use Your Teeth

No matter how kinky you think your guy is, or how kinky you are, it’s not the time to nibble or bite when giving a blowjob. Teeth can put an amazing amount of pressure on a man’s penis, and that’s just scary – not to mention all the horror stories guys have heard about men getting their penises bit off during oral sex (most of them aren’t true, but these are horror stories that circulate the locker room nonetheless). Fact is, guys are just terrified of your pearly whites, plain and simple. So no, you really don’t want to use them during a blowjob – on purpose, on accident or otherwise.

Use Your Hands Instead

The most common time that the teeth scrape against the penis during oral sex is when a woman tries to put the whole thing in her mouth. Sure, deep throating is great and all if you know how to do it, but most of the time, women accidentally drag their teeth against their lover’s member on the way up. You can avoid this by not going down so far on his penis and using your hand to stimulate the shaft instead. Using your hand as an extension of your mouth gives him pressure and stimulation at the base of his penis (which is necessary for him to reach orgasm) and leaves your mouth free to stimulate the sensitive nerves on the head.

Use Your Tongue And Lips More

A lot of women think that if they just simply suck on a man’s penis, that they’re giving fellatio the right way. Nothing could be further from the truth! A great blowjob doesn’t happen by just sticking a penis in your mouth. You have to have some skill in this area, and use your tongue and lips to stimulate the many different sensitive areas of a man’s genitals.

Licking the head of his penis can be extremely pleasurable for him, especially if you’re using your hands at the base of his shaft to give him a handjob. You can do this more easily if you use a nice, flavored lube that you don’t mind the taste of. Your lips are soft and wet too, so don’t forget how amazing those can feel when you’re kissing all the way up and down his member!

Wrap Your Lips Around His Teeth

As your lover gets closer and closer to orgasm, he’s going to need less licking and sucking and faster, more rhythmic stimulation. You can do this with your hand, but if your lover prefers you using your mouth only, wrap your lips over your teeth as you move your mouth up and down his shaft. This may be a little uncomfortable because in essence, you’re squishing your lips over your teeth and then putting pressure on them, but it’s totally worth it not to drag your teeth over your lover’s shaft as you’re giving him head.

There’s something in it for you too though ladies – ever notice how incredibly soft your lips are after doing this? That’s because you’ve exfoliated all the dead skin off your lips – and there’s also more blood flow to your lips, so they’re nice and plump. So why not give your guy an incredible blowjob before heading out for a date, and then just swipe some clear lip gloss on? People will swear you’ve had work done!

Use Your Hands To Control The Speed

If your partner starts getting really into what you’re doing, he may start thrusting his hips faster and faster as he gets closer to climax. This may end up doing more harm than good, because if he’s going too fast, you’re going to have a lot less control over what is going on and your teeth may slip out from behind your lips and scrape him – which can be worse and do more damage if you’re going fast! If he starts thrusting too fast, use your hands to control his hips and slow him down. He’ll still most likely reach orgasm if you’re going a little slower, and you can avoid any painful accidents.

Hot Licks – The Ultimate 5 Step Program For Mastering The Art Of Giving Her Exquisitely Orgasmic Oral Sex Review

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Hot Licks will teach you how to be an oral sex master in just five easy steps. You’ll be giving your lover orgasms orally in no time!

If you want to know how to be a master at oral sex from the foreplay stage all the way through climax to the very end, the Hot Licks Program is just what you’re looking for. It’s well put together into digestible modules and it’s very easy to read, so even guys with very short attention spans will be able to process this information and put it to good use.

The Good

There is so much information here! The Hot Licks Program goes over almost everything, from female anatomy to oral sex and fingering techniques, to foreplay and female arousal to safe sex and much, much more. The best thing about this complete guide is that you can start out totally green, without knowing a single thing about giving a woman oral sex.

When you’re done reading, it’s very likely you’ll be able to give a woman an orgasm through oral sex without ever having practiced before – of course, this isn’t guaranteed, however, if a guy really studies and puts to use the techniques learned in the Hot Licks Program, he’s going to be a force to be reckoned with.

The Bad

Even with the quick start guide, there’s not a magic formula contained inside that will instantly make you awesome at giving girls head even if you’re not really into it. The trick is, you have to be into it. The Hot Licks Program is overflowing with excellent tips and techniques that will make your woman shiver with delight, but only if you’re committed to mastering this art.

There is a lot of information here and many guys may get discouraged (read the Quick Start Guide first before you give up – it will get you giving great oral sex tonight!) before getting through it all. However, it’s broken down into easy to digest modules and each module is broken down further into an easy to navigate table of contents.

The Hot Licks Program is exceptionally well put together, so you can find what you need to find fairly quickly. Keep in mind that although there’s a great deal of information to read (yeah, you’re going to be busy for the next several days), it is all going to contribute to your giving your partner wild, sheet soaking orgasms.

The Bottom Line

The Hot Licks Program is an amazingly intense, information packed course that will take you from being completely knowledgeable about oral sex to becoming an oral sex master! Even if you’ve never gone down on a girl before, after reading this guide, you’re going to know just about everything there is to know about giving a girl the big O.

You’ll be able to take a woman straight from a completely unaroused phase all the way through to an earth shattering orgasm with oral sex before she can even register what happened. This truly will take her breath away! Even if you only work a few of the techniques in this guide at a time into your cunnilingus repertoire, your skill will improve ten fold. If you buy only one oral sex instruction program, Hot Licks is the one you want to get.

The Full Hot Licks Program Review

Oral sex is absolutely divine for a woman – but a lot of guys just don’t know how to do it well. There are too many guys out there that assume going down on a woman is a lot like how they like to get oral sex, but the that’s just not the case. It takes a lot of skill to give a girl a leg shaking orgasm through cunnilingus alone. With the Hot Licks Program, you’ll learn how to be an oral sex master in just five easy steps.

The Hot Licks Program consists of two indispensable manuals – the Quick Start Guide and the main course. Although the main course is broken down into modules that are easy to read and understand, there is still a lot of information and it’s difficult to absorb it all at once. This is where the Quick Start Guide comes in handy. It helps men get a “jump start” on their oral sex technique, so they can start seeing a difference right away. Once they give a girl an orgasm through oral sex for the first time, they’re going to be hooked! That’s when they will delve into the main course to learn as many different tricks and techniques as possible.

The Quick Start Guide

This manual is absolutely man’s best friend! It’s the “what you need to know now” to give your girlfriend or wife an incredible orgasm using your tongue TONIGHT. It will give you a taste of the great information contained within the main guide, and get you going on your journey to give that special lady in your life the best oral sex she’s ever had, hands down.

A quick introduction to the female anatomy is all you need to get started here, and the Quick Start Guide glosses over the anatomy section quickly enough to get you on to the good stuff but it’s still thorough enough to educate you so you at least know where you’re licking and sucking.

The Quick Start Guide also goes over lubes and which ones are suitable for cunnilingus, and it also goes over (and shows!) the proper way to use a dental dam to ensure safety for both partners involved. You’ll also learn the best oral sex positions for both you and your partner to be in so you can give her the maximum amount of pleasure.

The real value here comes with the complete walkthrough of a woman’s arousal from the beginning stages through climax to the very end when she’s exhausted and satisfied. Learning how a woman’s body works during arousal is key to figuring out what to do next and how to give her the best orgasm of her life. You’re also going to get a couple of complete technique walkthroughs as well, that will show you what to do and how long to do it for from beginning to end. Now that’s something that most other oral sex guides don’t offer!

1st Module

The first module includes lots of prep work and beginner’s info. Don’t assume that if you’ve given a girl head before that you can skip this module – there is lots of information here that even so-called advanced players would be interested to know. Not only will you learn the “hows” and “whys” of what to do during cunnilingus, you’ll also learn lots of new facts that you’ve probably never heard of before!

2nd Module

Foreplay is so important, the Hot Licks Program dedicated an entire module to it. Learn how to get your lover aroused, where her erogenous zones and hot spots are, how to relax her with a sensual massage and how to incorporate showering into your foreplay routine so you both are fresh and clean for cunnilingus.

3rd Module

The third module in the Hot Licks Program also contains information about the female anatomy, but in a much more detailed way than the Quick Start guide did. You’ll learn more about the specific hot spots to pay attention to when using your tongue during oral sex! This module also contains information on how to get into a rhythm and remedies for jaw tiredness as well as specific and advanced techniques.

4th Module

This is probably going to be the module you go to often in the Hot Licks Program, even after you’re finished with the first read through. This module includes great ideas for cunnilingus positions, as well as a complete troubleshooting guide for many of the obstacles you run into when going down on a girl.

5th Module

The fifth and last module in the Hot Licks Program will teach you specific routines to use that will take you from beginning to end. You’ll also get cheat sheets to use and you’ll learn advanced techniques and how to customize your very own cunnilingus routine. After this module, assuming that you’ve really taken the information here to heart, you’ll be an oral sex master!

Oral Sex: How To Push All Her Hot Buttons!

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There’s no denying that couples of all ages love to engage in oral sex practices. In fact, married couples are likely to have more sex, and more varied sex, than single people and, according to stats, even oral sex is more common in married couples rather than single couples.

So here’s some advice to help you hone your oral dexterity.

Oral Sex Prepwork

One of the biggest turn-offs when performing oral sex on someone is not being clean, trimmed and proper. And assume that if you’re giving oral sex to her, she’s going to give it to you.

The clean side: Wash. Everywhere. For longer than three seconds. There are a lot of tiny hidden crevices in and around a man’s penis, and after a long day tucked into underwear and pants, naturally you’re going to sweat (and start to possibly smell – I’m not going to sugar-coat it). Proper regular hygiene creates a much more inviting environment for her face (and all of her senses). Even a quick washcloth wipe-down will be an improvement.

The trimmed side: Maybe you just missed the manscaping train, but it’s time to hop on because, well, hair is icky. Not all hair – just long, thick hair. It’s a trap for bacteria, it’s not the most attractive accessory, and it’s another deterrent when it comes to creating an appealing atmosphere.

Best Oral Sex Positions

Just as there are a countless number of techniques to satisfy your mate there are just as many varying positions you can use when engaging in oral sex, each with its own perks.

Need a few? OK, here goes:

She stands and you kneel in front of her. This is perfect for urgent sex plus it appeals to alpha females who like seeing you shamelessly submissive in front of him. And besides, if you want to see her in that position next, then you’d better get on your knees (put a pillow underneath your knees so she can see you’re not in any rush).

If you want to impress, lie on your back on the bed with your head hanging over the edge and get her to straddle your mouth. You may not be able to stay in this position for long, but she’ll definitely appreciate the effort.

Techniques That Will Drive Her Wild

All of the positions mentioned above can be effective but only if you use the right techniques. That means – you use all those tools, from your fingers and hands to your mouth and tongue, to manoeuvre your way around and get her off.

While a repetitive motion can be the perfect way to finish things off and help your wife to climax, a slow melange of kissing, licking, sucking, and even gentle blowing is the best technique to get her to the sheet-clenching stage. Mix long broad strokes with more delicate ones. Breathe lightly on her clitoris (never into her vagina) between licks.

How To Introduce Cunnilingus Into Your Relationship

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Oral sex is something that almost every girl loves once she’s tried it, but a lot of women haven’t been brave enough to let their partners put their heads down there. Is your woman a cunnilingus virgin? Lucky you, it’s your sexual duty to initiate her in the erotic joys of cunnilingus!

This may come as a surprise to you but not all women come with full knowledge and acceptance of cunnilingus or ‘being eaten out’. From a woman’s point of view, oral sex is often a matter of trust, i.e., opening up her most ‘scared place’ for ‘close scrutiny’ to you. In fact, believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there who are more open to sexual intercourse than cunnilingus. They claim that the latter is a more ‘private affair’. I know, go figure.

If your partner is a oral sex virgin, don’t lose hope end assume she’s deadest against it. For all you know, she’s simply waiting for the right guy to show her the high sexual pleasure that it brings.

Discuss, Don’t Dictate

The wrong approach to take is to STATE that she ‘needs’ to experience cunnilingus. For one, you probably don’t even know why she’s not into being muff dived yet so don’t assume anything. Instead, communicate with her about it. Ask if she has any negative impressions or bad experiences regarding oral sex so that you’re better able to address whatever it is that’s eating her up (pun intended).

Also, showing that you’re willing to discuss and understand her shows your caring side, which in turn makes her trust you more, which in turn makes her more open to the thought of you going down on her.

Try, Don’t Force

As a cunnilingus virgin, it’s understandable that she may be a bit squeamish about the whole affair the first time. Don’t expect compete and wild abandon here. And don’t force her to feel great about it either by ramming your tongue deeper into her or propelling it like helicopter blades. You might hurt her, making her think oral sex is not pleasurable at all!

Also, don’t be offended by immediate reaction she has. For example, here’s a story from one of my clients, let’s just call him Jack.

So Jack was eating his lady out. Since she was new to cunnilingus, her emotions about all the new sexual feelings where everywhere. Her physical response to this was to bring her thighs tightly together – that’s right, squeezing Jack’s head between her legs! Anyway, Jack understood this so he GENTLY pried her legs apart and licked her clitoris more gently to make her relax.

Can you imagine if, feeling a bit of pain, Jack drastically pulled his head away? That would rudely abruptly her sexual pleasure and might even make her think he doesn’t like eating her out after all.

Explore, Don’t Just Apply

Although she may be a oral sex virgin, it doesn’t mean that techniques that worked for your previous partners will work on her. For one, some women, like it rough, others don’t. Some women like their g-spot massaged while being licked, others don’t. And so on.

So for her first time, just be gentle and go with the flow. Be attuned with her body and its reactions instead of trying to apply – what you think – is a great cunnilingus formula.

Encourage Trust, Not Misgivings

Again, since this is her first time with oral sex, it’s important to start gently so that you earn her trust. If you go down there like Rambo, and chances are she’s not ready for that at all, she will instinctively assume that she’ll experience some sort of pain or discomfort. As a result, she will not be completely open to the whole thing anymore.

Also, at the very least, she may not feel much sexual pleasure at all, enabling her to incorrectly assume that oral sex is no big deal.

Make It All About HER Pleasure

Try not to be the great Casanova as you go down on her or revel in the fact that you’re her sexual teacher, and she your helpless sex student who wants nothing more than to accept your moves.

Sometimes, men can get so full in their heads about how they’re such great lovers that the focus is all wrong. So this time, make it all about her. Her body, her reactions, her sexual pleasure. If she achieves an orgasm during cunnilingus, GREAT but it’s not your goal.

Your goal is to simply let her know how sexually enriching cunnilingus is and that it’s another way you can enrich your relationship – sexually and otherwise. Good luck!

The 3 Phases Of Oral Sex You MUST Know!

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Oral sex isn’t just going down there and getting your lick/suck on however you like. You can’t just head south and expect her to be able to have an orgasm just from you putting your mouth down there and moving it around for awhile. There’s some technique involved and if you REALLY want to rock her world and give her sheet soaking, earth shattering orgasms, you need to learn these three phases of oral sex TONIGHT!

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What Are The Three Phases Of Great Oral Sex?

While a man may think that he can just jump in and give a girl oral sex and get her off just by moving his mouth around down there, it’s just not true. Sure, girls love it, but there’s a certain way to do it if you really want to make it incredible for her. The best way to bring her to a knee weakening orgasm through oral sex is to move through the different phases of it:

Teasing

Teasing is very important to get a woman warmed up. Even though oral sex is considered foreplay, you need to lead up to it too with a little teasing before fully going down on her. Start slowly and softly. Instead of rushing in to lick her clitoris, start by slowly kissing the insides of her thighs. As you get closer and closer to her vagina, breathe softly on it. Brush your lips against her clitoris lightly enough to tickle her.

When she’s fully aroused and ready for you to get down to business, her clitoris is going to be erect. You may also notice her breathing get a little heavier or that she’s bucking her hips against you, begging for more stimulation. When you sense that she is ready, it’s time to move on to the next step.

Variety

The variety phase is an essential component to great oral sex, because women need variety. Even if you’re using a particular technique that she seems to like really well, it can get tiring after a little while and she may become desensitized to it. Doing different things and experimenting with different techniques is important to get her to climb closer and closer to orgasm.

As you try different things, watch her reactions to them. Gauge her body language to see what she really enjoys and responds best too, as well as other techniques that she seems to like okay, but they don’t really push her hot buttons. Here are some great examples of different moves to try to find out which ones she craves:

  • Thrust your tongue inside her vagina.
  • Use different tongue strokes on the clitoris.
  • Suck gently on her clitoris.
  • Insert your finger in her vagina while licking her clitoris.

Orgasm

When her breathing becomes even heavier and it feels like she’s about to lose control, she’s heading into the orgasm phase of oral sex. When you sense that she is getting close, presumably because you found an oral sex technique that she really responds to, the most important thing is to keep doing what you’re doing. This is not the time that you want to switch up and try a new technique to see if she likes it even better – you may actually ruin her orgasm if you do that. Whatever you find that she likes, that’s what you want to do as she goes through the orgasm phase.

You can start going a little faster and a little harder as she gets closer and closer to climax, so long as you continue to do the same thing. Communicate with her though, and make sure she’s liking what you’re doing. She may not want you to go faster or harder – she may like what you’re doing exactly the way you’re doing it. Encourage her to communicate with you and if you do something that she likes and she knows will make her orgasm, have her say, “Don’t stop!”

Ladies, it’s not up to your guy to read your mind. If you like what he’s doing, be sure and tell him not to do anything else! Or you may end up being disappointed if he misreads your signals and tries to use a different technique just as you’re about to climax.

Have Fun With It

One of the most important aspects of oral sex – for a girl or a guy – is enthusiasm. When you go down on someone and you’re not really into it, they can tell – immediately. So above all, have fun with it! Show your partner you enjoy it and you like pleasing them!