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Auto Cunnilingus – Can Women Lick Their Own Clitoris?

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Auto cunnilingus is where women bend forward enough to give themselves oral sex – but can they really do this? You’ve seen contortionists on television and in movies bend ways you didn’t even imagine they could, but can flexible women actually go down on themselves? Is it even possible?

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What Is Auto Cunnilingus?

Auto cunnilingus is the act of a woman bending forward far enough to reach their tongue to their clitoris and licking it as a form of female masturbation. It sounds difficult to do – and it is! Very few women are able to do this! Some men can give themselves oral sex too – this is called auto fellatio. With auto fellatio, a man will bend forward far enough to suck on his own penis. Very rarely if ever is a man who can do this able to actually give himself a full on blowjob. What usually happens is the man sucks on the head of his penis while he masturbates the shaft with his hand.

It is much harder for women to give themselves oral sex, simply because they have to bend down a lot farther to reach their own clitoris. While you won’t see many people engaging in self oral sex, you’ll see that there are far less women who are able to do it than men who can.

Can A Woman Really Stretch That Far?

While it is possible for a woman to be flexible enough to bend far enough forward that she can reach her vagina with her mouth, it is very rare indeed. Very few women can actually do this and if they can, it’s usually because they’ve had some sort of gymnastics training and have had lots of practice with flexibility or are a contortionist, who bend their bodies to extreme angles for entertainment.

Women who can give themselves auto cunnilingus can usually only go down on themselves for a few seconds, possibly up to a minute or two. Certainly not long enough to give themselves an orgasm without additional masturbation with their fingers or a sex toy.

The most common sex position for auto cunnilingus is lying on the back with the hands under the buttocks. The woman can lean her neck and head forward, while using her arms to push her bottom towards her head. Also, a woman may find it easier if she has someone to help her with bending. It may be easier for her to relax her body and focus on reaching the clitoris while a partner sits behind her and gently pushes her bottom forward.

Can Women Learn To Be That Flexible?

It’s possible for women who aren’t able to lick their own clitoris to learn how to do it, but it requires some real motivation. Generally, it’s not something that you can try once or twice and be able to do – it takes years of practice to be able to train your body to be that flexible. It’s not easy, and it’s not going to happen quickly. You generally have to be fit to begin with, and training your body to stretch that much takes time and patience. Even contortionists and trained gymnasts have to work very hard to be able to stretch that much.

If you’d like to learn how to stretch like that, take it slow. Start with small stretches and work your way up. Don’t push yourself too hard – you could really end up hurting yourself! Take your time – since this isn’t something that is going to happen right away, it’s important that it’s something you really want to be able to do.

A Word Of Caution

Bending the body to such extreme angles like with auto cunnilingus can be dangerous. Most people’s bodies are not designed to stretch that much or contort into those types of extreme positions. While trained gymnasts, extremely flexible people and contortionists may be able to get into these types of positions without hurting themselves, it’s likely that your average gal trying to do this may end up with a sprain or a stretched or torn ligament.

Before you attempt to try giving yourself oral sex, make sure that you are well aware that you can do some serious damage to your muscles, joints and tendons if you’re not careful. Make sure you’re fit and healthy enough to try and if it hurts a lot, stop!

3 Blowjob Moves You’ve NEVER Heard Of!

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A blowjob can be simple – or it can be incredible. Good fellatio is any kind of fellatio – even if the girl doesn’t know what she’s doing, it still feels pretty good. On the other hand, amazing oral sex comes when a woman really has the skills to make a man turn weak at the knees and knows when to throw the old tricks away and bring in some new maneuvers. Quit doing the same old things and try something fresh that you and your partner have never done before!

The Bounce Technique

Have your partner lay flat on the bed with you in between his legs. Give him head like you normally would, getting his penis really hard. When you sense that he’s super turned on, raise your head, shoulders and tummy off of him. Place your hands on either side of your partner’s hips, like you’re getting ready to do a push up. At this point, the only thing that should be touching him is your mouth. You also want to make sure there’s lots of saliva or you’re using flavored lube – this move is much better when it’s wetter.

Use your arms to push the bed down, moving his body away from you. When you let up a little, his penis is going to slide further into your mouth. You can start slowly to get control over what you’re doing (because you definitely want to have complete control over the movement here), but you want to start pushing the bed up and down faster and faster. What you’re doing is using the bed springs to bounce his pelvis back and forth into your mouth.

Why This Is So Amazing

You can only move your head and neck so fast when you’re giving a blowjob without any help. However, when you’re using the bed springs to bounce his penis in and out of your mouth, you can actually get going pretty fast – almost guaranteed faster than he’s ever experienced before. It does take a fair amount of upper arm strength to keep this going, but it’s well worth it.

An important note: never let his penis come all the way out of your mouth. You want to let up just as your lips are around the head of the penis. If you pull out completely, his penis may miss your mouth on the next time in, which can be pretty painful when giving fellatio at that speed!

The Cock Ring Technique

You may have used a cock ring during a blowjob before, but it isn’t required for this maneuver. Instead, you’re actually going to be using your thumb and your forefinger as a cock ring. It actually is very common for women to do this, but the trouble is, they aren’t timing their sucking with the pressure of their fingers – so it doesn’t do a whole lot of good.

Start by getting your partner’s penis erect, and then place your thumb and your forefinger around his shaft like a cock ring. Don’t tighten your fingers just yet! When your man is super turned on, start by sucking on the head and upper shaft of his penis pretty firmly. This isn’t just a light suck or a lick – you actually want to move the blood farther into the head of the penis. Before you stop sucking firmly, tighten your grip on the base of his penis.

Why This Is So Amazing

What you’re actually doing here is acting like a penis pump – you’re moving the blood into the head of the penis and creating a rock hard erection. By tightening your fingers at just the right time, you keep the blood in the head of the penis instead of allowing it to drain right back down the shaft. When this is done correctly, you should feel his penis becoming harder and more engorged, especially at the head. When the head is swollen, stop sucking so firmly and flick the head with your tongue. It will feel ten times more powerful than if you did it without getting him that hard first!

The Deep Throat Technique

Almost all men love it when a woman deep throats. However, not every woman can. If you can, here’s a great technique to try to mix it up a little bit. When your man is good and ready, take him all in. When your mouth reaches the base of his penis, move your head back and forth quickly, like you’re shaking your head “no.” You may only be able to do this for a few seconds at a time, but that’s all it takes for this move to drive your man utterly insane with pleasure!

Why This Is So Amazing

You typically see “head shaking” in porn when oral sex is being performed on a woman. Once the giver’s mouth is completely covering the vulva, the giver will shake their head back and forth quickly. This feels intense for a woman for two reasons – the back and forth motion stimulates the clitoris and it makes the giver look like they’re really enjoying it. Why does a man have to miss out?

When you have him deep in your throat and you shake your head back and forth, it sends the signal to your partner that you’re really into it and you just can’t get enough. It’s like a pie eating contest – it’s so good, you just want to shove your face in it and eat it all up! He also gets to feel every inch of him in your warm, wet mouth and when you shake your head back and forth, the head of his penis will bounce against the sides of your throat, giving him even more stimulation.

Oral Fixation: Why She Hates Giving You Head & How To Get Her To Love It Review

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Oral Fixation can help you make girls who hate giving head WANT it! Check out these awesome oral sex tips to make your girl BEG to give YOU blowjobs!

A lot of girls don’t like giving a guy head – that’s a given. But the question remains – why? Why does a woman avoid going down on her man at all costs and how can you get her to love it so much she wants to do it all the time? In Michael Fiore’s Oral Fixation, you’ll learn the psychology behind why women hate giving a guy a blowjob and how you can reverse her thinking so that she’ll actually LOVE going down on you!

The Good

Very few sex guides actually help a man understand a woman’s way of thinking – at least, in a way that a guy can understand (and in a way that will keep his interest). Micheal’s guide does just that though! It will teach you, step by step, how to approach all the reasons a woman doesn’t like giving a blowjob so that you can make each reason obsolete, one by one. Once you’re done, there aren’t any more reasons she doesn’t like it – and plenty of reasons she WILL.

The Bad

Oral Fixation is not a technique guide – in fact, you won’t find a blowjob technique in here at all. This is a guide that will help you GET head from your girlfriend or wife. As in, you’ll learn all about the psychology behind why women hate giving head and how you can turn that around so she actually WANTS to give you head as often as you want her to! So if you’re looking for specific techniques, you’re not going to find them here. Also, you’re not going to be able to convince every girl that you come into contact with to give you a blowjob. Some girls just don’t like it and aren’t going to – ever. But with perseverance, you can change most girls’ minds.

The Bottom Line

If you’re in “Blowjob Siberia” as Michael puts it, and want your girlfriend or wife to give you head more often, Oral Fixation will help you learn how to make your woman WANT to give you head – instead of being grossed out by it. There’s no “one special trick” that you can use to get her to want to suck you off, but with some time and effort, she’ll start to think that giving you a blowjob isn’t such a bad idea. Keep at it and she’ll start to think that giving you head is HOT and she’ll want to do it often!

The Full Oral Fixation Review

In Oral Fixation, Michael Fiore gives tons of oral sex tips and addresses the question on every guy’s mind. “How do I get her to want to give me more blowjobs?” The answer isn’t a one step, simple trick that will turn even the most grossed-out girls into blowjob loving fiends, but you can with time and effort.

Basically, this guide offers up what exactly turns a woman off about giving a blowjob and what you can do to erase your lover’s fears and apprehensions about it so that your partner will learn to LOVE it. It’s not a technique guide, so you’re not going to find any specific oral sex techniques inside. However, guys who want to get more blowjobs aren’t really looking for techniques – they’re looking for ways they can get their girls to go down on them and on that, Michael definitely delivers.

First, Michael outlines the reasons that women hate giving guys a blowjob, from bad experiences in the past to guys who just don’t look and smell clean. Oh, and that pesky gag reflex. Understanding the reasons why a lot of women just don’t like going down on a guy is key to getting your lover to actually want to do it – because what you’re going to do is eliminate each of these things one by one.

That’s actually what the majority of the oral sex tips that Oral Fixation covers – after outlining the reasons why women don’t enjoy doing it, the book goes into detail on how you can make each of these reasons obsolete. For example, if a huge thing for her is digging through your smelly bush to find your penis, you’re going to trim, shave and wash with scented soap so everything is nice and fresh down there. If it’s the idea of swallowing your semen, take swallowing off the table completely and don’t even go there. Also, a huge reason girls don’t do it is because guys don’t ever do it to them – so Michael suggests giving her cunnilingus and acting like you LOVE it.

Of course, once you get her to actually put her face down there, you need to follow it up with support and positive reinforcement. There are plenty of oral sex tips here for you to make her feel like a queen when your partner finally does go down on you.

Bonus Items

The main Oral Fixation guide includes an audio version that you can listen to in the car or while working out, or at home if you just prefer listening to things rather than reading them.

The Blowjob Interviews

Michael takes his oral sex tips one step further and offers you the Blowjob Interviews. Here, he interviews several women to find out exactly what they’re thinking about when they’re giving a guy head. They talk about what they like about giving a blowjob and what they don’t like. Never before has there been a look inside the minds of REAL women, exposing how they REALLY feel about going down on a guy. If you don’t like listening to the interviews, there’s also a written transcript.

How To Get Your Wife To Lose Weight (And Feel Great About It)

Although this bonus audio file seems a little out of place here, it can be helpful for guys that want their partners to get healthy without seeming like a jerk by suggesting that they lose weight. If you have a partner that could use to lose a few pounds, give it a listen.

Overall, this Oral Fixation is a great guide for men that want to enhance their sex lives with more oral sex – it will help you learn how to change how you think about getting a blowjob and how your partner thinks about giving one.

How To Give A Signature Blowjob

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A blowjob can be run of the mill, or it can be amazing. Here’s how to make the blowjob you give one to remember by developing your own signature style.

I love to give head: but it’s amazing when you can drop to your knees to perform a blowjob on a guy and truly rock his world. And I don’t mean in the ‘hooray my girlfriend is giving me head’ way; I mean in a way that will have him screaming, “Wow! That was AMAZING!” Well good news, this is what we’re going for!

Now whilst giving head to girls is often seen as a bit more of an art form; sometimes we can be a bit lazy when going down on guys. You may think that they’re happy with the same old in-out motion: but try these tricks and you’ll have them begging for more.

So listen up ladies (or men), and I’ll tell you how you can make your guy squirm with some advanced added extras to a basic oral sex position.

Choosing The Right Oral Sex Position

Get your guy to lie on his back (preferably erect) and kneel between his legs. Kneeling is better than lying, as if you spread your knees wide apart on the bed, and lean down to give him head, he’ll get a great view of your back and pert ass. Perfect for giving him a taster of what’s coming later.

Tips For Developing Your Own Blowjob Style

  1. Make sure your hands are sufficiently lubricated with saliva (a lot of guys will like the sound of you spitting) or a good dose of lubricant. Silicone based lube is a particular favorite of mine, as it is deliciously viscous, and will make you sliding your hands up and down his shaft even easier.
  2. Begin to massage, using your lead hand, up and down his shaft using a firm grip (the more lubricated he is the harder you can hold) and then lean over to take his penis in your mouth.
  3. As you move up and down keep your mouth and lead hand at a rhythm. Try varying the pace: faster when you want to get him worked up to orgasm, mixed with slowing things down to help him keep going for longer.
  4. As you get warmed up you’ll be able to take him deeper and deeper. Make sure to keep your mouth open wide: lots of guys will like you to be able to take them to the entrance to your throat. With a little practice this maneuver will help you to practice deep throat.
  5. Now this is where most people would stop; instead go beyond the vanilla blow job and get bonus points for incorporating your other hand. As a first step you can use it to add extra pressure to the penis by holding one hand over the other.
  6. Once you’ve got your balance, begin to move your hands independently. One hand can continue the up-down motion, whilst the other holds the base of his penis in a tight grip. Alternatively, you can use it to pleasure yourself, and give him a seductive side show. There are few things sexier than him watching you getting off whilst giving him head.
  7. Feeling adventurous? Then insert the palm of your hand underneath his ball sack on the sensitive perineum (lots of lovely nerve endings there) and apply gently pressure by cupping the area of skin at the base of the penis. From here you can gently massage his balls with your hand… Yes at the same time as the other hand/ mouth perform fellatio!
  8. Feeling really naughty (as I usually am)? Then swap to giving him a double handed jerk-off whilst you lick his balls. Start at his anus (I told you this was rude) and work up to his balls; sliding your tongue up the shaft of his penis, eventually returning to your original position.
  9. Work out what really turns your guy on. Men have different preferences just like women. Get to know whether he enjoys saliva, sounds, licking (or even sniffing!) his balls and then combine his favorite moves to make him go wild.

Practice Makes Perfect

I’m not going to lie: putting these sexy twists on the classic blow job does require practice, determination and a good dose of enthusiasm for the job.

If you find giving a blowjob anything but thrilling, then getting him to thoroughly wash, shave and using flavoured lubricant will help to make your task more pleasurable. Personally, though I think there’s a lot of pleasure you can have knowing how much you can turn someone else on. Do this right and he’ll be so in awe of your multi-tasking womanly powers that he’ll claim it will feel like there are two women giving him oral sex at once, and not just one.

The result? A very happy man, and a whole lot of ‘I owe you’s!

Auto Fellatio – Can Men Give Themselves A Blowjob?

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Auto fellatio may be something you’ve heard of – but then again, it’s fairly rare. Most often, auto fellatio crops up in fetish porn, but the term refers to the act of a man giving himself oral sex. Guys who are able to do this may enjoy giving themselves oral sex during masturbation. It seems impossible that a man can lick his own penis – but can guys really give a blowjob to THEMSELVES?

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What Is Auto Fellatio?

Auto fellatio is defined as the act of a man giving himself oral sex and licking his own penis as a form of masturbation. This may include manual masturbation or may just involve the mouth only. It may sound impossible for a man to do this, and the truth is, most guys can’t. However, if a man has a particularly large penis size or is very flexible, it is possible that it can be done.

Similarly, auto cunnilingus is where a woman bends forward and gives herself oral sex. However, it is much more difficult for a woman to give herself oral sex than it is for a man to give himself a blowjob. This is because women have a little farther to go to get their mouths in contact with their genitals. Although it is very rare to see either gender give themselves oral sex, it is far less common among women simply because it’s physically more difficult to do so.

Can Guys Really Stretch That Much?

The far majority of guys cannot stretch far enough down to actually get their mouth on the head of their penis. You have to be extremely flexible and fit to be able to do it! It is very difficult to actually stretch that much, and it is often painful or uncomfortable. It can cause muscles to pull and tear, because the body has to be in such an extreme position for auto fellatio to take place. Usually, guys who are able to perform auto fellatio have experience in gymnastics or have some type of gymnastics training. Another way this can be achieved is by having someone help push the body and head forward towards the penis.

The truth is, however, that even guys who are able to perform auto fellatio cannot go all the way down on their penises. Most of the time, the mouth can only reach the head of the penis or the top of the shaft. It is very rare for a man to be able to stretch enough to get his entire penis in his mouth. For this reason, it is common for men to masturbate  with their hand and stroke the shaft of their penis while performing auto fellatio. This is because they can only lick and suck the head of their penis, so they complement it with the movement of their hand on the shaft.

Can Auto Fellatio Be Learned?

While having a background in gymnastics or having exceptional flexibility is helpful when it comes to being able to perform oral sex on yourself, this activity can be learned. Even if you’ve never been very flexible before, you can learn to stretch your body into a position that makes it possible for you to connect your mouth with your genitals. It will definitely take time and patience to learn, and it’s not something that you’re going to be able to do overnight. You will need to practice stretching daily, going a little further each time.

You can also do this up against the wall for better stability. The wall allows you to lean your lower back against it and angle your penis closer to your mouth. Be aware that auto fellatio is not something that the body was naturally built to do – go slow and if you experience any pain, stop immediately! It’s easy to pull or tear muscles when stretching your body to such an extreme.

Is Ingesting Semen Harmful?

Many guys wonder what their own semen tastes like – and if ingesting it is harmful in any way. It’s not – in fact, women do it all the time! However, if the idea of tasting your own semen (or ejaculating in your own face) turns you off, auto fellatio is probably not something you want to try. It’s unlikely you’d be able to get out of the awkward position you put yourself in quickly enough to avoid ejaculating in your mouth or on your face. While the ability to “suck yourself off” sounds neat, it’s more of a novelty than anything else. You’re going to get much more pleasure from masturbation or a blowjob from your partner.