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How To Give Your Girl The SQUIRTING Orgasm Of Her Life!

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Squirting can be extremely hot and surprising if it has never done it before. If she has never squirted before, you could be the greatest lover she has ever been with by employing a few simple techniques. Making your girlfriend or wife squirt is not all that difficult when you understand the physiology of how it is actually performed.

A common misconception is that women who have never squirted before are unable to. This is simply not true. Unless there is an anatomical problem or sexual dysfunction, all women can squirt. Here is a quick guide to squirting so your wife or girlfriend can experience the orgasm of her life.

What Is It?

When most men think about squirting, they think that the girl is urinating. This is not true. Although squirting is a clear liquid, it is not urine.  It does come out of the urethra and not the G-spot, but the liquid has no affiliation with pee. Before you try to make your girl squirt, there are a few things that you need to be comfortable with.

When a girl is squirting, there is a slight chance that she could pee. Being comfortable with this is essential. Don’t freak out on her if she does pee a little bit. This is fairly normal for girls who have never ejaculated before. Make sure that she knows you are okay with her peeing if this occurs. If she is nervous she will not be able to relax and she will not be able to squirt.

Getting Her Ready

Before you ever try to make your girl squirt, you need to make sure that she is warmed up. In order to put your girl at ease and get her in the mood, you must start off with a lot of foreplay. Shoving your fingers into your girl without getting her ready is never recommended.

Use a lot of kissing and teasing to get your girl wet enough to start fingering her. Suck on her breasts and nipples while running your fingertips up and down her inner thigh. When she starts to breathe harder you will be able to tell that she’s ready for you to start touching her vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the inside of her vagina. Play with her clitoris a little bit and brush the outer lips with your fingers to get her ready.

The G-Spot

The G-spot is going to be the primary way of getting your girl to start squirting. There are a lot of women out there that are so in tune with their bodies that they can ejaculate by just touching their breasts or their clitoris. However, most women will not be able to ejaculate unless they are being stimulated manually through their G-spot.

If you have problems finding the G-spot, there is a simple guide you can follow. Insert your fingers into your woman’s vagina palm-face up. The G-spot is located on the upper-most portion of the vagina about three inches in. The G-spot is a very fleshy textured patch and you should be able to feel it with your fingers. As soon as you touch it you should see your girlfriend squirm a bit.

Making Her Squirt

Now that you successfully found her G-spot it’s time to start making her squirt. Start to curl your fingers as if you are saying “come here.” She should moan in delight. If you start to feel the G-spot fill up and get solid, you’re doing it right. Increase the pressure to her G-spot and start going a little faster.

Take your other hand and press down on the area around her stomach and pubic bone. This will give more pressure to the area and add to her arousal. Take direction from her. If she says go faster, then go faster. If says that she feels like she’s going to pee, tell her that it’s okay and to let go. Within a couple of minutes she should start to ejaculate. You might see a small gush of liquid from her vagina or a stream of liquid.

5 More Female Orgasm Myths You Think Are TRUE

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A female orgasm is associated with a lot of myths. Here are 5 of the most common myths that men think are true.

1. Women Can Only Reach Orgasm Through Vaginal Intercourse

This is a myth that has caused many men and women over the years to take the sexual needs of a woman for granted. This myth was actually started by Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis. Through his research, he discovered that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

But Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile, as he believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms. The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis.

As a result of Freud’s determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods and devices were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure, many of which failed.

2. Only Women Fake Orgasms

It’s important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. As a result, women aren’t the only ones faking things. Studies show that about one-fifth of men admit to having a fake orgasm with a partner at one time or another.

Their reasons were the same as women’s: they didn’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings, they were tired and wanted to get it over with, etc. Orgasms don’t always come easily in a partnership. Even though masturbation often results in an orgasm every time, it’s important to remember that it’s simply because you’re already feeling aroused (which is the reason you’re masturbating in the first place) and you also know your body and what gets you off.

3. Men Only Care About Their Own Pleasure

This myth was probably true at some point in the past, but today more and more men worry about their role as lovers. Many strive to give their partners a sexual experience that’s just as pleasurable (if not more) as what they hope to experience themselves.

The only reason this myth continues to persist is a lack of understanding of female climax and how to help women achieve them. This isn’t something men and women are taught in sex education classes. And even if you asked your father, you’d probably still be left in the dark.

Every woman’s body is different, so even if you figured out how to give one partner mind-blowing orgasms, those same techniques might not work with another.

The key to knowing what’s sexually stimulating to your partner is communication. In an honest, caring relationship, the easier it is to share your thoughts and feelings, the easier it will be to experience a pleasurable sex life.

4. Most Couples Have Great Sex Every Time

Why does everyone else’s sex life appear to be better than yours? It could be because you’re at different stages of your relationships. You can’t compare sex from a six-month relationship to a six-year-been-there-done-that relationship. Our nervous system is designed to become desensitized to things that we routinely receive stimulation from. That’s not to say that long-term sex can’t be as pleasing—it’s just different.

If you and your lady know all the right buttons to push with each other (and you should after all that practice!), orgasm is often guaranteed and sex can still be very loving and passionate. My guess is that you wouldn’t be able to hold down a job with the amount of energy it would take you to sustain such a sex life.

5. Sex Is The Most Important Part Of A Relationship

Couples can only spend so much time in a relationship having sex. So if you love someone for more than just sex, you have no choice but to relate to each other on other levels. Sex is, indeed, a very important part of a relationship. However, most people (including men) have other needs, usually divided equally.

When you look at it this way, although sex tends to be a man’s number one need, it still accounts for only 25% of what he needs in life to be happy. Based on a variety of surveys and studies on long term relationships, approximately 20% of men believe that mind-blowing sex is “crucial,” whereas the other 80% look at it as “the icing on the cake” of a healthy relationship.

Female Orgasm TRUTH! How Age Affects Her Climax

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The female orgasm is extremely elusive. It may be easy to assume that because you have an orgasm most or all of the times you have sex, your wife is having a smashing time as well, but statistics also show that only about 44% of adults are happy with their sex life. While you are more likely to be concerned with frequency – 41% of men are – your wife and I are more concerned with our feelings. Only 29% of women want more sex, which means the chances are that your wife is not entirely satisfied with the quality of your sex life, rather than the quantity

How She Comes

The most frequent sex act reported by couples is by far coitus, yet only 6% of women report being able to orgasm from penile stimulation alone. Even with clitoral stimulation or vibration, only 29% of women are able to orgasm every time they have sex. Your hands may not be the most obvious sex organ, but the science is clear – 34% of women say that masturbation with their hands or rubbing up against something is their preferred way to reach orgasm.

In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means. Tradition says that variety is the spice of life. Switching to your brand new “swirly whirl” technique just as she’s about to come will probably stop her dead in her tracks.

Trying new sex positions and different stimulation keeps things interesting, but when it comes to making her come, all the tricks in the book can’t replace the dexterity and strength required for the consistent movement that will bring her over the edge. She has had decades of practice at this subtle movement. If you don’t learn to mimics her own masturbation, she’ll be left wanting. In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means.

One Way or Another

Do you have a defeatist all-or-nothing attitude when it comes to sex? Do you pass up the chance to get down and dirty for the sake of scheduling, or do you take the time to play when the opportunity arises? When I used to wake up in the morning and try to cuddle with my husband, he would always push me away.

We were so busy that he didn’t think we had time for all the hard work he would have to put in to getting an erection and having an orgasm, so he didn’t even want to bother touching me. Making love is supposed to be an emotional, shared experience and shouldn’t be relegated to goal-oriented time slots when you can run the full routine.

Foreplay, intercourse and orgasm are a great combination, but each activity is also enjoyable on its own. Sometimes my husband and I have time to kiss and fondle, sometimes there’s only a few minutes for a rushed quickie, and other days we may have a long, luxurious afternoon to tease and please each other.

Don’t push away the chance to make your wife feel good because you’re worried you won’t get off in the process!

The Dirty Thirties

While people in their thirties tend to be a bit more adventurous, they are also on average much busier than their younger (or older!) counterparts. Young children are incredibly demanding of both time and energy, and according the sexpert Tracey Cox, the average parenting couple have sex around once a month and if that frequency rises as the child ages, it does not start to for several years.

This kind of physical rift in a relationship can cause long term emotional and physical problems that permeate the later years of a marriage, especially if cuddling, kissing and foreplay disappear with the all-or-nothing approach. Paradoxically, a woman’s capacity for orgasm rises dramatically during this time period as well.

While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent climax, mostly during masturbation.

The Fighting Forties

As a result of the sexual dysfunction of an earlier decade, both men and women in their forties begin a downward swoop on the roller coaster that is sex and marriage. While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent orgasms, mostly during masturbation.

More than half of all men develop erectile dysfunction and this number only rises steadily from age 40 on up. People in their forties also drop way off on their rate of sexual activity – 69 times a year compared to 86 times the decade earlier.

The numbers regarding fidelity are not much more encouraging. In fact, it doesn’t take much for someone to cheat – somewhere between 25% and 40% of people have been unfaithful to their partner, and not all those people were unhappy in their marriage. Those who were “pretty happy” were twice as likely to cheat as those who were “very happy,” and those who were “not too happy” were three times as likely as their very happy peers.

How To EASILY Give Her An Earth Shattering Orgasm During Intercourse

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A female orgasm is completely dependent on a solid understanding of your partner’s body, climactic response, and what makes her feel good both physically and emotionally. You feel confident about your knowledge and skills, what to look for when you’re in the heat of the moment, and can tell when your partner is aroused or not.

Even if you’ve ticked all the boxes, maybe making her come with your hands and your mouth just aren’t enough! When you both are eager to experience intercourse orgasms, it’s during these situations that you can try nudging your partner in the right direction using natural rhythms and biology. Now, not all of these options will work for everyone. Let your woman be the judge as to what works and what doesn’t, but here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Ask Your Partner To Tense Up

When your partner is already aroused, ask her to tense up different parts of her body. Things like pointing her toes, making a fist, or clenching her legs together creates tension in her body – something that is crucial for her to achieve orgasm. Try stroking different parts of her body while you are inside of her, suggesting she tighten those muscles as much as possible before moving onto the next erogenous zone. Spend extra time around her inner thighs and pelvis and feel them quiver under your gentle touch.

Ask Her To Use Kegel Exercises

Ask her to clench her vagina around your penis during intercourse. The squeezing and releasing in a rhythmic manner, called a Kegel exercise, often excites a woman and allows her to feel more of you inside of her, helping her to focus her attention and yours directly on her genitalia.

Choose Your Sex Positions Carefully

Choose positions that are more challenging than normal for your partner to hold, angled so that her head lies below her torso.  These sex positions work great because extra blood flow to the head creates tension in the body and quickens breathing. For positions that aren’t already primed for this technique, scoot her to the side of the bed or couch and get her to lie her head back over the edge with her shoulders still flat and supported.

Make Sure That She Is Comfortable

Encourage your partner to really let go of her anxieties and inhibitions. If she’s comfortable, get her to use sexy language to encourage her own orgasm – for example, ask her to tell you how close she is to climax, how badly she wants to come with you inside of her. Why not try role-playing with her? Suggest she move her hips as if she were a belly dancer, stripper, or another sexual creature that she feels kinship with.

When she shows signs of arousal, move away from stimulating her directly and start teasing different parts of her body instead. Why? You’re building more tension in her body indirectly, allowing her climax to sneak up instead of focusing on it entirely.

Maybe she’d like to watch the two of you while having sex. Ask if it’s okay to grab a mirror, or have sex in the bathroom, so you can both get a better look at the incredibly hot positions you’re about to try. If she really likes the view, maybe she’ll let you hook up the video camera to the TV and get it on to your very own homemade porno!

Find Out Her Favorite Sexual Fantasy

Ask her what her favorite sexual fantasy is, and suggest you act it out. If she can’t think of anything, grab one of her favorite books of erotica and read through it together. When you find something that turns her on, try acting out whatever it is that appeals to her most.

Or if she’s still to shy to talk, try reading some erotica out loud to her during foreplay, then tell her to close her eyes and think about her fantasy while you’re having sex. Hearing you use words she might still be too nervous to say out loud might help encourage her to blurt something out in the heat of the moment!

How To Please A Man From Head To Toe!

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A male orgasm is easy and it doesn’t take much to make it happen. However, some women don’t know all that there is to know about the male orgasm and how ejaculation isn’t the telltale sign that your man just enjoyed what you did to him. Yes, it is typically the sign that of a “job well done”, but did you know that there is way more behind the male orgasm?

For example, sometimes a man can have a male multiple orgasm, meaning that he feels that release sensation at the beginning of climax and then feels a sudden burst of pleasure at the end. Sometimes, a man can have an orgasm and not ejaculate at all while other times, he can ejaculate and not feel a thing. Now that you are aware that you might not have all of the signals down pat, how do you know if you have given him amazing pleasure?

Know His Body

There is one way to guarantee that you are giving your man satisfaction and showing him that you know your way around the male body and that is to give him total body sex. This means that you just aren’t going to go for the gold and head straight to his penis to make him orgasm. No, you are better than that. Instead, you are going to learn how to please a man from head to toe and to really give him an all over amazing sensation that he won’t soon forget.

Start At The Top

There are many spot on a man’s head that can really get him going in the bedroom. Obviously you have his eyes to attract by wearing something sexy, his nose by wearing some delicious scent and his lips to give him passionate kisses to send chills all throughout his body but there is so much more. For example, kissing on his ears, his neck, scratching his scalp, digging your nails into the back of his neck and so on are all things that contribute to pleasure.

Work Your Way Down And Avoid The Typical

The obvious hot spots on a man’s torso are his nipples but stay away from that. Those are the typical spots that he is used to having stimulated by you and are you a typical lover? Of course not! You want to kick this up a notch and truly show him that you know how to give him total body sex all the way from his head and down to his itty bitty toes.

Instead of going for the nipples, try stimulating his back and stomach. Kissing on his back or stomach and even using your nails to scratch all the way down will give him some amazing satisfaction. Remember that men love that rough stimulation so the rougher it is, the better. Also, don’t forget about his arms.

Use Your Fingers The RIGHT Way

Using your fingers and nails to trace along his forearms will give him a sensation he probably never knew he had. The skin is extra thin on his forearms so feeling your nails digging deep will definitely drive him wild. Use dirty talk throughout to get him really turned on.

Don’t forget about his fingers either. A super sexy tip to try is to suck on his fingers as a prelude to sex. Feeling those warm and wet lips of yours tracing along his fingers will make him desperately want to feel that warm mouth on another part of his body.

We all know how amazing it feels to have a man kiss our inner thighs and before giving him a blowjob. This move may be a bit too sensitive for your man to handle but that doesn’t mean that you can’t give him stimulation there in a different way. Again, your fingers and nails are capable of so much pleasure it is insane.

Remember That There Are No Rules!

The best part about giving your man total body sex is that there are no rules. You don’t necessarily have to start from head to toe. You can always mix and match these tips to suit whatever your man’s needs might be in that moment. You can do a lot to him or a little; it is up to you.

You are in the driver’s seat when you are pleasing him and it is all up to you how close to the edge you want to take him tonight.