Orgasm – Page 9

4 Ways To Prime Her For POWERFUL Orgasms

The female orgasm is often considered the holy grail of sex – you want to give her a female orgasm that leaves her legs shaking. Here’s how to get her ready.

Many men fantasize about their women calling out their names during their private moments in bed. However, most guys are not aware of how to give women the ultimate sexual excitement and make them quiver in orgasmic ecstasy. Below I have 4 definite ways that will turn her on sexually and earn you the sound of her begging for (yet) another gratifying climax in bed. Let’s read on!

1. Touch Her Hands

Let your fingers run along her hands and wrists. A woman’s hands and wrists are very sensitive to touch. You may do an experiment by letting your fingertips cross the area of the skin of her palms, to her wrists, then towards her elbow. You will be surprised at how ecstatic she will be. You may expect this to create a sensual atmosphere for another wild moment in bed.

2. Whisper In Her Ear

It is a fact that the ears are more than just an organ for hearing because it is also one of many erogenous zones on a woman’s body. The ear is also the main bridge towards the body’s organ that is most sensitive to sexual stimulation – the brain. Now you can try speaking softly against her ears and let your breath tenderly touch her sensitive skin. This will allow her to feel a momentary sense of pleasure that will be heightened once you engage in a little dirty talk.

3. Don’t Forget The Neck

The most sensitive part of a woman’s neck is the contour where it meets the shoulder and the back. What you can do to excite her is to simultaneously give gentle touches along the surface of her neck while whispering into her ear all the pleasurable things that you will do only for her. Afterwards, you may allow your lips to work wonders on her neck.

4. Touch Your Lover’s Hair

The scalp of a woman is also highly-sensitive and each strand of her hair has a corresponding nerve ending attached to it. It means that once you touch her hair, you are already giving her thousands of sexual stimulation. Women enjoy the feeling when they touch and fix their hair. As a man, you love the way your woman’s hair smell after bath and the feel of her tresses draped all over the skin of your chest during or after a mind-blowing sex. And yes, she will truly appreciate it if you gently brush her hair with your fingertips. This will set her erotic passions on fire very quickly.

How To REALLY Please Her In Bed

By lloydlester

Orgasm is something every guy wants to give a girl. But is that all she wants? Find out how to go beyond a female orgasm and give it all to her.

There is more to becoming a better lover than just the mechanics of sex. A man needs to be both the bad boy as well as a sensitive man in order to please most women. There are techniques that will work in various circumstances that any man can use and will turn any guy into a Don Juan. If you are ready to be the type of man who can please any woman in bed and prime her for wild screaming orgasms, then read on!

“Seductive Orator”

Tell her you want her. Sounds simple enough, right? But so many men just jump right into sex without even saying these words. Women need to connect at an emotional level before they can truly get sexually aroused. Tune her in, get her into the mood. Words have an extremely powerful effect on women.

Tell her how much she turns you on, that you were thinking of her all day and how much you want to give her an amazing time in bed. Get into the head of a woman FIRST and you will be the lover she has always dreamed about!

“Sensual Kisser”

Most men do not kiss long enough. And many women complain that they receive too little kissing from their lovers. In order to be the man of her fantasies, make sure you do not neglect her in this department. Her lips and tongue have millions of sensitive endings waiting to be stimulated, so light up her erotic passions through these areas. Put your tongue to good use and give her long, lingering kisses!

Don’t just focus on her mouth. Kiss, lick and nibble on her neck and shoulders too. Kissing is a great prelude to sensational sex and can turn on the “orgasmic furnace” in a woman like nothing else can.

“Whimsical Lover”

Lovemaking can get mundane for both you and her after a while, especially when you are in a long term relationship. That is the last thing you want in bed. In order to keep sex exciting, you need to be a bit unpredictable in the bedroom. One way to do this is to break out of your routine and do something new.

A new position, a new place to have sex – anything to get out of the rut! No one wants the same old, same old when it comes to sex. And an unpredictable move on your part is bound to light her passions and orgasmic fire!

The REAL Truth About The G-Spot (And How To Find It!)

By loveandsex

The g-spot is often considered the holy grail of sex – if you can find her g-spot and get her to orgasm with it, you’re in for a wild ride! Here’s how.

Who Invented The G-Spot?

Nobody! It has always been there, silently awaiting discovery.

In the 1950’s, Dr. Grafenberg (hence the term “G”-spot) discovered the zone. Of course, he was ecstatic to write about it, but like most great finds, his work has to undergo the painful process of gathering dust in the bookshelves. For the next 30 years, nobody paid it much attention. Then came 1982. Dr.’s Whipple, Perry and Ladas did more extensive study on the area, and it was with the publishing of their work on the G-spot that consciousness really caught on.

Where Is It?

The G-spot is located between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. That means you’re dealing here with the TOP WALL of her vagina.

Unlike the clitoris, the g-spot is stimulated INTERNALLY. Hunting for it is best done when a woman lies on her back, bringing her knees to her chest. Here’s what you do: Palms up, slowly and teasingly insert your middle and index fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina. Then point your fingers up, remember the area is behind the pubic bone. Now, imagine you’re beckoning somebody to come to you. Simulate that “Come Here” finger motion by curling your fingers back towards the wrist.

You’ll know you’ve hit the spot because the texture there is different from the adjacent areas. It feels rough and you may find a raised spot or ridge. On average, it’s the size of a pea. You’ll feel it become firm & engorged when the lady is aroused. She’ll know when you’re there because she’ll feel something different.

While performing all this hunting inside, position your other palm a few inches below her belly button. Gently but firmly press towards your fingers inside. This bearing down helps isolate the G zone and results in more intense sensations.

How To Find & Stimulate The G-Spot

Do not consider the it as merely a pea-sized locale – it’s better to think of it as a zone or region. Begin by fingering her and let your fingers play around and stimulate areas adjacent to the rough spot itself. This indirectly stimulates the g-spot and animates your partner as you go nearer and nearer the post.

You may utilize 1-3 fingers, but more than that, when it comes to curling, you could execute simultaneously or serially. Again, these will seem trivial to you, but these simple variations have profound effects on the woman whose core you’re invading. A woman notices the tiny details men couldn’t care less of.

Do vertical and horizontal firm sweeps of the area. Run circles around the spot. You may also execute a 2-finger squeeze using the forefinger and the middle finger.

But I Still Can’t Find It!

Let’s make this clear, the G-spot is not found inside the vagina, it is accessed through the vagina. And if you would have any chance of finding it, you need to apply FIRMER, DEEPER PRESSURE. Firmer than the ones you use for the clit – do not baby the G-spot.

Simply rubbing the area won’t work, as pressure is needed to get THROUGH the vaginal walls. No matter how many thousand curls you administer, doing it with insufficient pressure won’t result in any heavenly experience. Men who have been stirring the same zone without result suddenly struck gold just by making the wonderful mistake of increasing pressure. They were dead-on all this time, but the pressure just wasn’t enough.

You don’t want weak, tentative fingers curling back and forth. You want well-trained marines to get in and get the job done, troops that are confident and know exactly what they’re doing.

It’s not a cavity exam, but be firm with it.

Unfortunately, for women with very thick vaginal linings, access to the G-spot may not even be possible.

I Swear Man, My Girl Doesn’t Have One!

She has one, they all have one. You just expected her reaction to be “Oh Danny that feels so good. Don’t stop. Please don’t stop!”

All eyes may be for seeing, and ears for hearing, but stimulating the G-spot has DIFFERENT EFFECTS for DIFFERENT WOMEN. Some love it and orgasm only through it, some don’t. Some are very sensitive, others couldn’t care less.

When a guy plays with a woman’s G, she will typically feel the need to pee. Why? Because the area you’re dealing with runs alongside her bladder, that’s why. (Just to be sure, make her pee before proceedings begin). When you continue with the stimulation, that need to urinate will gradually turn into a feeling of pleasure. And that pleasure, nurtured will soon result into a raging, wet and possibly squirting orgasm.

OR, stimulation may get you nothing. A woman may simply feel NOTHING. That’s right, NOTHING. In that case, you stop and watch “Friends” reruns instead.

But that doesn’t mean you’ll go nowhere with her every time. Her sensitivity and your skill will improve as you clock in several sessions. For all you know, she may feel zilch that evening, but on a different night, it’ll be gold. She can have different reactions on different occasions, so don’t give up so easily.

OR, a woman will hate every irritating minute of it. That’s right, it can have a negative effect on her. In that case, stop stimulation, turn on the TV and watch “Seinfeld” reruns instead.

Women can have different G-Spot reactions. When people expect it to work in the same manner, for all women, every time, that’s when the debate on its existence and purpose really heats up.

People have been conditioned to think that G-Spot stimulation will always shoot her through the stratosphere. Truth is, sometimes it’ll work, sometimes it will work against you. Sometimes she’s crazy about it, sometimes not so much. There will even be times when you’ll think her spot has disappeared or will doubt if you’ve actually found the real deal when she’s not as responsive as before!

You may have to awaken and train her G-spot in the first place – over a period of several sessions. Such is the nature of the Grafenberg Spot. So when dealing with it, better check your ego at the counter.

How To Give Her Great Sex And Make Her Orgasm

By lloydlester

An orgasm is sometimes elusive, leaving many men frustrated. Find out how to give her incredible sex and the best female orgasm of her life!

If you want to give your woman the most powerful orgasms that she has ever had, you have to understand how to seduce her to the point where she cannot take it any longer and begs you to take her. Many men never learn the art of teasing which is necessary in order to please a woman to the point where she quivers in anticipation and reaches an explosive climax.

Here are 3 hot and teasing moves that will enable you to get into a woman’s sexual psyche and help her reach the ultimate in female sexual ecstasy!

1. Tease Her Verbally

Drop hints on what you plan to do with her and start early, even during the day. This can be through a quick phone call or you can just brush up against her body during breakfast and tell her what you have in store for her that night. Women are “emotional beings,” so getting into her head is the KEY to getting her sexual temperatures soaring through the roof.

Women are also very much turned on by words – much more so than men. So start early by telling her a few naughty things and see where that gets you. Chances are, she will be hot before nightfall!

2. Tease Her With Caresses And Kisses

Instead of falling all over her with kissing and caressing, give her some of this necessary foreplay and then hold back. Continue to do this, going ever so close to her most erogenous zones such as her nipples and her clitoris before pulling back. This form of “strategic holding back” is extremely powerful, and creates a sense of heightened sexual anticipation that will make a woman hunger for more. Eventually, you will want to follow through what you are doing but not until you have teased her into begging you for more.

3. Tease Her With Your Manhood

Instead of plunging right into her during intercourse, take your time. By delaying your own gratification, you will reap greater rewards later on. Try teasing her by entering with just the head of your penis and then pulling out. Then do it again to build up the sexual anticipation within her. Shallow penetration will hit all the sensitive nerve endings located near the entrance of the vagina. Build up the anticipation and momentum. And pretty soon she will be arching her back towards you, beckoning you to finish what you started and priming her for the big “O”!

Why A Woman Can Have More Difficulty Reaching Orgasm Than A Man

By loveandsex

Female orgasm isn’t always easy to achieve. There are many things that can stand in a girl’s way! Here’s why the female orgasm is more elusive than the man’s.

The truth is, it can be more difficult for a woman to reach orgasm than a man because of the way her body and brain work. Her body is wired differently from his and goes through the stages of sexual pleasure, orgasm and release in a different way. Her brain is also wired differently – sexual pleasure doesn’t just automatically shut off all thinking like it does for a guy. In fact, if she’s thinking too much, she won’t be able to climax. Here are some reasons she might have difficulty reaching orgasm.

She’s Stressed & Tense

A woman’s brain going 10,000 miles an hour will completely and utterly make it impossible for her to reach climax, while she’s having sex or masturbating. Doesn’t matter whether she’s using sex toys, you’re going down on her like it’s your last meal, whatever. It just won’t happen if she can’t get her brain to shut up. This is partly why women require so much warm up time before sex. She’s got to be able to stop thinking about everything that happened today, everything that could have happened, everything that will happen tomorrow as well as everything she should have done, could have done and didn’t do before she can start thinking about sex. This is a process.

The to-do list begins to fade as the sexual thoughts start to creep in, but at any time, the to-do list can rear its ugly head and make a reappearance. She’s got to be in full throttle sex mode to quash the stressful thoughts completely, and this takes some time and lots and lots of warm up. If she can’t banish these thoughts, she’s not going to orgasm.

You can try all you like, but she’ll be thinking about what she’s going to tell her boss tomorrow about the report that was due that isn’t finished while you’re thinking about how hot her breasts look naked and wondering why the hell you’ve been going down on her for twenty minutes and still, nothing. Fortunately, with time, patience, foreplay and some romance, you can slay the to-do list dragon and get her thinking about how good everything you’re doing feels until she’s coming like there’s no report due tomorrow and there is no tomorrow.

She’s Too Focused On Having An Orgasm

Another thing that will keep her from having an orgasm is being too focused on it. Yeah, it seems kind of backwards from a man’s standpoint, but it’s true for the gals. She’s worried about taking too long to come, what will happen if she doesn’t come, wondering if she’ll ever come, what she or you must be doing wrong to make her unable to come – oh hell, there’s those stressful thoughts again and she can forget about coming completely.

For a woman to reach orgasm, she’s got to be relaxed and she’s got to be able to go with the flow. Sadly, this is not something you can make her do or tell her to do – it’s something she’s got to learn how to do on her own. It’s kind of like finding your car keys – as soon as you stop looking, there they will be. As soon as she stops being so focused on having an orgasm and gives up the notion that she has to climax, the orgasm will find her. Until then, she can count on ending every sex session frustrated and this time, it’s not your fault.

She Feels Pressured To Have An Orgasm

This one may be your fault. She could be pressuring herself to have an orgasm (see above), but men often unknowingly pressure their partners without realizing that doing so will make it impossible for her to have one. How many times has this sentence killed your orgasm? “Are you close yet?” Yeah, that one. The sentence that pretty much says, “I’m tired of doing this, you’re taking too long, is this almost over?”

Unfortunately for women, that attitude can be conveyed fairly easily without her partner every having to say anything. (The same can happen for men, but men see things at face value so much that a woman pretty much has to say it for him to understand that’s what she’s getting at). A sigh here, complete silence there – there are a great deal of body language signs that you can give without thinking about it that will make her feel like you want her to hurry up or that you think she’s taking too long. Which will make her take longer or not climax at all.

If you want her to orgasm easily, be wary of conveying that you’re pressuring her to reach the finish line. Act like there’s no where else you’d rather be and that she can take as long as she needs or wants. “Wow, honey, I didn’t even realize I was giving you oral sex for forty minutes – it tasted so good and I love giving you pleasure so much that it felt like five!”

She Can’t Let Go

Many women have problems letting go right before orgasm, which can be very frustrating for her. Her brain is usually the culprit here, but there are likely some deeper psychological issues at play that you really can’t do anything about. She’s unknowingly and unconsciously preventing herself from crossing the finish line – even if she’s only a few steps away from it. To her, this feels like every time she has sex she’s “almost there” and right before orgasm, her body stops the action and goes back to square one. If this is the case for your girl, she may have trouble allowing herself to let go.

She may be afraid of silly things like losing control and passing gas (who cares, right?) or even squirting – like you wouldn’t think that was incredibly hot or something. Or, the issue may go deeper than that – a history of sexual abuse might be at play, or she may have had past lovers that didn’t care to give her an orgasm or thought she shouldn’t have one. She may have been raised to believe that women aren’t supposed to get sexual pleasure, or that if a girl orgasms, she’s “dirty” or doing something “wrong.”

Any of these things could be causing her to be unable to let go when she’s on the brink of climax, or it could be something else. This is where being sensitive to her feelings and being able to communicate with your lover about what she is thinking and feeling will come in handy.

She Doesn’t Know How

Even though during sex you are primarily responsible for doing the physical work to get her to reach orgasm, there’s a lot that she’s still got to do as well. If she’s never had an orgasm before or hasn’t had them very often, she may not know how to get up and over the orgasm hump. While orgasms can just happen, more often than not, it takes a certain degree of recognition and body response for her to go along with it and propel herself over the edge.

Women who rely solely on a man to make them come are usually disappointed. Women learn this skill during masturbation – which is why female masturbation is so gosh darn important if a girl ever wants to climax, either by herself or with her lover. If she refuses to masturbate or thinks is dirty or wrong, well, she can kiss her orgasm goodbye forever and that’s not your fault – not even a little bit.

She’s got to learn what an orgasm feels like and how to move her body and what to do to be able to orgasm consistently during different types of stimulation. If your girl has trouble reaching orgasm no matter what you do for her, she may very well not know how.

You Didn’t Spend Enough Time Warming Her Up

This is another one that unfortunately, is usually a man’s fault. You already know that women require a great deal of foreplay if they’re actually going to get into it, and many men fail at giving their partners as much foreplay as they need. Unfortunately, many women expect their lovers to automatically know what to do and how long to spend doing it without communicating what they want and need, but this is a different problem entirely.

Men and women are wired differently – men are like a blowtorch while women are like ovens. Men heat up fast and hard, and when they’re done, they’re off. No more fire. Women, however, take a while to preheat and they stay warm longer. It also takes them time to cool off and while the oven is hot, she can bake 10 batches of cookies without breaking a sweat. Allow your partner plenty of time to “preheat.” She’s doing lots of things during this time – allowing her body to relax, as well as killing those nasty stressful thoughts that take so much effort to get rid of.

Don’t put a time limit on her and make sure to pay attention to her body language. If you pay close attention to her, she’ll let you know when she’s ready to move on. If she seems disinterested in sex after foreplay, seems like she’s been let down or stops caring as soon as you switch to intercourse, it’s likely you didn’t spend enough time getting her warmed up. This, of course, makes it very difficult for her to have an orgasm.