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Oral Sex: How To Handle Semen During A Blowjob

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Oral sex for a guy will hopefully end in ejaculation – but when it does, what the heck are you supposed to do with his semen?

Communicate With Your Partner

This may single-handedly be THE biggest reason for communication! We all know that men ejaculate when they experience an orgasm and if they experience an orgasm during fellatio, then it is likely that the ejaculate will end up in your mouth. Depending on your preferences, this may or may not be a turn on for you, you may be indifferent to it, or the very idea may repulse you and send you running for the porcelain throne.

Swallowing

The easiest way to dispose of semen during oral sex is to swallow it. But if the idea just doesn’t do anything for you (or if it makes your stomach turn) read on for some different ways to handle his semen – and still make it sexy.

Spitting In A Towel

So you’re okay with it in your mouth, but actually getting it down? Not happening. Keep a towel nearby and when he’s done, discreetly spit his semen in it. You can also keep a glass of water or another drink nearby to swish out your mouth. This also works well if he likes to kiss you afterwards but doesn’t like the taste of his own spunk.

Finish Him Off With A Handjob Instead

This technique may sound less passionate or devoting than swallowing your partner’s ejaculate, but it doesn’t have to be. Enthusiasm makes all the difference in the world and as long as you continue to let him know that you are enjoying his orgasm (even though his orgasm is being finished with a hand instead of a mouth) and he may very well be so wrapped up in the pleasure that he doesn’t notice the difference.

Sound making or some dirty talk is of utmost importance here! You don’t have to get loud or wild but making some noises lets him know that you are getting off on him getting off and that will definitely enhance his orgasm! Verbally telling him how much it turns you on to see him cum might be just what he needs to hear to get him to finish strong as you watch.

Bad First Experiences With Oral Sex

A large number of women have had “BAD” first experiences with the first blowjob they ever gave, because they were either young and didn’t know what to expect, or some guy decided to not tell them when they were going to orgasm and they found themselves unexpectedly with a surprise mouth full of semen and that unpleasant first experience left them unwilling to ever try again.

Again, this is why communication and assurance are key factors to getting over an objectionable first experience and not letting it keep you from a very special and wonderful experience with your trusted partner.

Let Him Go “In” You

Guess where “else” is outside of your mouth?” You guessed it! Your warm, wet and waiting vagina. You can give your man the most wonderful blowjob (up to the climactic eruption) and when he says “NOW,” quickly remove your mouth and stick his penis deep into you, while letting your vagina provide that last few pumps to finish him off and capture every drop of his semen.

In the end, it really doesn’t matter where the semen goes during oral sex as long as both partners communicate before the fellatio session and are in agreement and as long as both partners stick to that agreement!

Dirty Talk Basics – What You Need To Know!

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Dirty talk is an exceptional way to bring the heat back into the bedroom. Just don’t get started without reading these essentials first!

What Is Dirty Talk?

The purpose behind dirty talk is to show you a new way of communicating with your spouse.

Some call it pillow talk, sexy talk, erotic talk or bedroom’s mother tongue, but regardless of what dirty talk is referred to, it is simply honest and open communication with your partner while enjoying sex with one another. It is something that both men and women can use to bring more excitement and pleasure to their sex life.

Open lines of communication are expected for successful marriages when it comes to finances, children and other areas, yet communication in the bedroom still often remains an “off limits” area to many couples.

Why is it that a wife can tell her husband every single detail about an incident involving one of their children or a story involving one of her best friends, but when it comes down to talking with each other, one on one, about what they feel and yearn for in the bedroom they clam up?

Why Use Dirty Talk?

The most important thing to remember is that YOU control the amount of excitement, eroticism and passion that occurs in your bedroom (or elsewhere, for that matter). By using this form of expression together, you can choose to NOT settle for the ordinary!! After all, do you want to have an “off the charts” exciting sex life, or an all too common, sleepwalk through the motions, predictable routine?

Consider dirty talk as a new “spice” in a recipe you have been preparing for years. Maybe you have made the same homemade salsa for decades but you have recently heard about a new way of making it, so you decided to add in some black beans and fresh cilantro just to see if it would really give It a ‘kick’. The results? NOTHING SHORT OF FANTASTIC! You’re not sure why you never thought of adding something to the recipe before. Same basic ingredients (you, your mate and some incredible sex) – but adding in a brand new spice and voila!

Dirty Talk Isn’t Dirty

The main purpose of dirty talk, or as I prefer to refer to it: a ‘very sexy verbal exchange’ between you and your spouse, is to enhance the level of excitement and to help build the intensity between you and your mate.

It is simply an erotic use of the English language (or any language you use) and is an easy way to take your love making to an even more intimate level.

Some women will need to be persuaded that it’s okay and SAFE to have a vocabulary they maybe have deemed ‘trashy’ or felt like mimicked the ‘mouth of a sailor’ when they, in public, are sweet and demure. For most men, there isn’t much sexier, than that lovely, prim and proper, soccer mom wife of his, who chairs the PTA and sings in the choir, but is still his – all his – and VERY vocal about how he makes her feel when it’s just the two of them.

How To Be The KING Of Foreplay!

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Foreplay is crucial, because great sex starts before penetration. Women need foreplay to become fully aroused, because they simply just don’t “turn on” instantly like a lot of guys do. But many men tend to overlook foreplay, because they think that if they pound away harder, his partner will orgasm faster and harder. Hey, it holds true for him, why not for her?

Unfortunately, this is completely untrue, and can actually guarantee that your partner will not get to orgasm at all. Most women don’t climax during actual intercourse and if they do, it’s because there was some heavy foreplay first. In fact, some of the most intense orgasms a woman can have are through foreplay alone. If you don’t engage in foreplay first, it’s likely that your partner isn’t going to want to have sex with you very often! Instead, here are the things you need to know to be the best of the best when it comes to giving your lover the right kind of foreplay.

Learn To Use Your Fingers

After some deep kissing and heavy petting, you want to move on to her vulva. Get her nice and warmed up first, by lightly touching all around the area and kissing it and maybe even licking around a little.

Once she’s warmed up enough, make sure to focus your attention on her clitoris and G -Spot – these should be your first priority. Of course, if she’s not fully aroused first and isn’t craving your touch, you’re not going to get very far. This is part of why foreplay is so important – if you head straight for the clitoris or G-spot and your partner isn’t fully aroused, it could be very uncomfortable for them.

Also, it is very important for you to remember to keep your fingernails clean and trimmed smoothly. Although a workin’ man with very “manly,” callused hands can be a turn on to some women, no girl wants you to start putting your hands down there when they are filthy and grimy.

Talk Dirty To Her

Dirty talk is a great way to get a woman so hot and bothered, that it will become much easier for her to let her body go, and have loads of very powerful orgasms, without even thinking about it. Next time you’re in the sack, whisper a few sexy things in her ear about how much you love what is happening, how good it feels, what you want her to do or what you’re going to do to her next. This works wonders in getting a woman incredibly turned on!

Get Your Grope On

Remember when you were younger, and simply fondling a girl was the most exciting thing to happen all week? Well, don’t be afraid to bring that back! And don’t just grab her breasts and butt! Gently scratch your nails down her back, tug her hair a little, and massage her inner-thighs.

The next time you see your girl minding her own business, don’t be afraid to get your grope on! Just because you’re older now and you’ve had sex, it doesn’t mean that sex should be the primary goal every time you start fooling around. Think back to the old days when it was fun, exciting and a little scary to grope around without knowing what will happen next!

When you can combine groping, dirty talk, and amazing skills with your fingers, thee is no doubt that your lover will go nuts every time you are in the room. So now it’s your duty to go out there, and please her booty!

Oral Sex: Common Objections And How To Conquer Them

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Oral sex is an incredible gift to give to a woman, but if she has some reservations about it, it’s not going to be enjoyable. Here’s how to get over those obstacles.

Sixty-Nine Is Uncomfortable And Awkward

You aren’t alone. Depending on the angle that you two choose to 69 in, it can be pleasurable or a pain. The easiest way to get around this dilemma is to lie down next to each other on your sides, which will help to minimize any issues with height differences or who holds the other person’s weight. But sixty-nine really isn’t the optimal position for oral sex for either partner. Use it as an introduction or during foreplay, but not the main event. It’s just too hard for most women to focus on giving you pleasure and having enough in-their-head time to get to orgasm themselves.

She Says She’s Not in the Mood

It’s pretty common for a woman to feel like she’s being held back from really enjoying herself, especially if she’s being given oral sex by a guy for the first time. To reduce some of the pressure, try turning off the lights or using really low lights (such as candles) to help her feel more sexy and able to let go.

It Takes Her a Long Time To Orgasm So She Chafes

If you know that you’re going to be down there for a long while, avoid the chafing issues (both of her bits and yours) by using some lube. Make it even more pleasurable by trying out different kinds of flavored lubes, but make sure to ask her a few days after if she liked it, because some flavored lubes use so much sugar in them for flavoring that it can affect the delicate balance of her nether regions negatively (meaning: they can give her a yeast infection).

She Won’t Let Me Make Her Orgasm and I’m Getting Frustrated

You want to see this as your partner’s problem, but really, it’s not. This is a communication issue, not one of her not wanting to orgasm under your tender loving care. Think back to what she’s said regarding her orgasms in the past. Does she prefer a certain position, or does she have problems getting to climax with just your tongue? Does she use a vibrator while masturbating on her own? Has anyone ever made her orgasm?

Think about the answers to those questions. If you don’t know, it’s time to ask. Then, it’s time to invest some serious energy into figuring out what the issue is, without pressuring her so much that she’s not interested in being with you anymore.

She Says She’s Never Had an Orgasm With Oral Sex

This is entirely possible. Either she hasn’t been comfortable enough with her other partner(s) to really let go and feel the pleasure they’ve given her, or maybe they just didn’t have the necessary skills to make her climax. Either way, there’s nothing wrong with her. If anything, you want to take her admission as a challenge! Plus, after reading through this entire series and working through all of the steps one by one with your partner, if you really listen to her and her body language, it’s unlikely she’ll ever be able to say again that oral sex doesn’t make her orgasm.

She Doesn’t Want To Wake the Neighbors

There are some women who definitely get loud when they have an orgasm, especially one with g-spot stimulation. If she’s louder than your average gal, or if the walls are especially thin, you have a couple of options:

  • Put some music on. Not only will it create a bit of ambiance, but it’ll mask some of the louder sounds your gal might make
  • If your bed is the culprit (i.e. squeaky bedsprings) try another position or location to see if it helps with the sound issue;
  • Soundproof your room a bit, by either covering the walls with heavy blankets (think of them as mood enhancers), or using old egg cartons covered up by fabric. Both will trap another layer of air and thus, sound leaving you to be louder than normal without too many worries.
  • Give your partner something to put her in mouth to muffle her screaming, although make sure that you do this when her arms are free so she can remove it if it happens to cover her nose or mouth in the throes of passion.
  • Change locations. Sometimes, there’s no other way than to find somewhere secluded and out of the way to avoid any issues with noise. Just make sure that you won’t be interrupted, and won’t be upsetting anyone nearby before going for it.

She’s Worried She Doesn’t Taste or Smell Right

There are women who normally have a unique smell or taste to them perhaps because of their diet or medications and then there are women who smell, er, not quite right because they have some sort of infection. If your partner is worried that something’s off about her nether regions, take note. She’s aware of her sexual health more than anyone, so she may be telling you that there’s something wrong without actually coming out and saying it.

Then again, many women are worried about how they smell or taste because someone has put it into their head that there’s something wrong with their body, when really they were merely seeing the normal fluctuations in their body chemistry throughout the month. Or, the person giving them oral sex wasn’t familiar with their natural aroma, and made a not-so-positive comment that stuck with her. As an aside, if you remember from earlier in today’s reading, I fell into the latter category because of my first sexual experience, and it took me many years to get over it. Eventually, I learned that how I smelled was normal great even! – but I was self-conscious about oral sex because of that comment for way too long.

So your first task is to find out, gently, which category your gal falls into. Is she worried about infection, had a bad experience, or is merely cautious? The easiest way to find out is to ask, but if that’s too difficult, then try starting your oral sex escapades with a bath or shower. If she’s still smelling or tasting ‘off’, it may be that her cycle is near, or she may have an infection. If you suspect an infection, suggest the two of you go in, together, to get tested for STD’s. That way, if the doctor finds out it’s just a yeast infection, you can both get treated so that you don’t pass it back and forth without killing it altogether.

If she smells amazing to you however, then you can safely assume she’s being self-conscious. So what can you do in this situation?

Tell your partner how much you love the way they smell, taste, feel even when you aren’t in the bedroom. If it makes her feel better, start oral sex off with a bath or shower, or use a flavored or scented dental dam to alleviate her fears. Slowly, she’ll learn that her body is amazing, self-cleaning, and will regulate itself on its own. And hopefully, she’ll learn to love her taste and smell as much as you do so much so that she doesn’t mind kissing you after you’ve gone down on her. If however after a few months of regular input, and trying out some of the suggestions made in the next section, if she’s still worried about her freshness and you aren’t noticing any issues, there may be deeper seated issues that might be better served by the help of a therapist or doctor to work through.

She’s Lonely When I’m Going Down On Her

There’s an inherent disconnect when giving someone oral sex; it’s challenging to make eye contact while buried deep between her legs, and you really need to concentrate on what you’re doing and how she’s reacting to make it all come together. So although it’s intense by definition, some women find that cunnilingus creates an emotional wedge.

When this is a concern, the easiest way to rectify it is to touch her more. Instead of placing yourself right in between her legs, straddle one instead and use it to rub your penis on she’ll quickly feel just how aroused you going down on her makes you. Touch her with your free hand whenever you can. Make eye contact every few licks to see how she’s doing, or take a tiny breather to tell her how amazing she looks.

Jack’s Blowjob Lessons Review

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Did you know that attitude is 80% of a blowjob?

That’s just one of the amazing – but true – facts that you’ll learn when you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons. This comprehensive guide includes just about everything there is to know about giving head, from both a guy who has gotten plenty of blowjobs (both good and bad) and a seasoned porn star that has given more blowjobs than the majority of girls out there. If you want a real book about giving guys head from real people who know what they’re talking about, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are exactly what you’re looking for.

The Good

The best part about Jack’s Blowjob Lessons is that there is no shortage of techniques to use. After some sage advice on how to get a man warmed up and how to give an enthusiastic blowjob (which really is the key here), Jack jumps right into the techniques you’re looking for that will make your man explode! This definitely isn’t one of those books that has a super long introduction with a couple of techniques thrown in at the end – the majority of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons contains actual useful, usable information!

You’ll be able to combine techniques to create your own personal signature blowjob – one tailored specifically to your skills and your lover’s preferences! The step by step instructions for each technique in Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are well thought out and easy to follow. You definitely won’t be left guessing what to do next or where to put your lips and tongue!

The Bad

There are definitely some issues with Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, however, they are somewhat minimal. The book is a little profane, giving it a slightly less professional feeling than some of the similar products on the market. There is a penis anatomy section which is definitely important for those who are relatively new to giving head, however, it is short and does not include any diagrams to show you where each sensitive spot is. The book is fairly long, as much of it is filled with the author’s musings on oral sex and women – but since Jack has sufficient experience in getting both good and bad head, his musings are worth listening to. Perhaps the most grievous error in the book is the suggestion that swallowing actually reduces the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease from oral sex, not to mention that the “safe oral sex” section is short and leaves much to be desired. The resource behind this suggestion does not appear to be a very credible website, and perhaps this is due to the author’s obvious preferences towards swallowing. In fact, Jack suggests that not swallowing significantly reduces the quality of a blowjob – however, neither of these assumptions are true.

Swallowing does not reduce the risk of getting an STD while giving oral sex, however, it does not increase the risk either. If you’re having unprotected oral sex, you’re at risk, period. Nothing will reduce the risk of contracting an STD during fellatio other than using a condom. Also, it is perfectly possible (and common) to give an excellent blowjob – one that makes your lover completely weak in the knees – without swallowing. Despite these issues, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons is actually an invaluable resource when it comes to learning how to give a guy head. The majority of the advice within the guide is simply spot on.

The Bottom Line

All in all, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are a great way to learn how to give your guy head so good, he’ll be begging you to do it again and again! Despite the few caveats that the guide has, the information contained within is nothing less than valuable, useful and real. Forget boring “sex ed” books that talk about “intercourse” or “the penis.” Jack’s Blowjob Lessons were written by a guy who has had enough blowjobs to determine the good from the bad, with a section on deep throating from an experienced porn star! If you want to learn how to give the ultimate head, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons are for you.

The Full Jack’s Blowjob Lessons Review

What You’ll Learn:

  • How to LOVE giving a blowjob by changing your attitude towards it
  • How to give head with your entire body
  • Why you should never, ever forget about his balls
  • How to get him relaxed and erect
  • How to make your man feel like a KING!
  • How to give road head & other great places for oral sex
  • Swallowing techniques

Different Styles Of Blowjobs

A great blowjob isn’t always the same – in fact, you want to match the style of blowjob you give to the mood you’re trying to create. Want it to be a sweet, romantic and intimate blowjob? Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will show you how to be slow and sensual! Want to devour your man like he’s the most delicious thing on the planet? Jack will show you how to be aggressive and excited. By learning how to give different styles of blowjobs, you’re going to convince your guy that you know how to give amazing head anytime and anywhere!

Stacking

Once you’ve learned the blowjob basics, it’s time to learn how to “stack” your man’s orgasm. “Stacking” is an incredible technique that allows your lover’s pleasure to build, subside and build again. This can be a little tricky though, because it’s easy to get your guy frustrated with the fact that you haven’t made him ejaculate yet. Pay attention to Jack’s suggestions here, because he will teach you how to stack your man’s orgasm in such a way that doesn’t make him frustrated but gives him the most amazing orgasm he’s ever had when you finally DO finish him off!

Oral Sex Positions

Finding a comfortable position for oral sex can be one of the biggest challenges for a woman. You want to find a position that is not only comfortable for you, but also allows your partner to watch every move you make – because enjoying the show is almost what it’s all about! The section on oral sex positions will give you enough positions to try so you and your partner can experiment to find your favorite one! Jack suggests finding three or four that really work for you and simply rotating between them.

Blowjob FAQ

Since Jack is pretty much an expert when it comes to getting head, it makes perfect sense for him to include a lengthy “frequently asked questions” section at the end of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons. The questions asked here are real questions from real women – and nothing is off limits here. Questions about swallowing, anal play and more are covered here, and the candidness of both the questions and answers is a refreshing change from your typical “dry” blowjob instruction.

Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will change your life for the better – after reading this comprehensive guide, you’ll know just about everything there is to know about giving a guy head. Your lover will be so enamored with your new found blowjob skills that he’ll want you to suck him off every chance you get!