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Erotic Massage – Why Women Love It (And Why You Need To Do It)

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Erotic massage takes your sex life from lackluster to hot, heavy and passionate. If you’re not giving your partner erotic massage often, here’s why you should.

Erotic Massage Touches A Woman’s Emotions

Every great experience we have in life contains a powerful emotional association. And in contrast, every boring experience has very little. The powerful experiences are the ones you can easily remember because they contained so much “charge” when they were created and so as a result, they stuck in your head as permanent memories.

The same holds true with any great sensual, sexual, and erotic experience. The more we can feel the emotional energy of it, the greater the electrical current will be and the greater the sense of satisfaction we will get from it.

Women are powerhouses when it comes to expressing and feeling emotions—it’s no secret. Their ability to so easily express emotions also allows them to have mind blowing multiple orgasms that have them going out of body with delight. And this can all be achieved through erotic massage and its power of sensual touch.

She Wants A Strong – But Caring – Partner

Women want a man who can be a protector. A man who can keep them safe and out of harms way. It’s hardwired in them. She also wants a man who can protect her from herself – emotionally that is. When you are able to do this for her, she will feel more strongly to surrendering her heart, body and soul to you.

Women love, need, and crave intimacy and affection from their partners. The more they feel and sense it from you, the more sexually open they will become, and the more they will surrender their hearts, bodies, and souls to you. Taking the time to connect with your partner and meet her needs builds trust and safety; two very crucial things that women need to be able to say, “I can relax because I trust that my man is going to keep me safe and take care of me.” When a woman feels this way about her partner, she is free to let go of her inhibitions and explore new things with her lover.

Establishing An Emotional Connection Through Erotic Massage

Massage in itself is a great way of establishing emotional connection. It gets us focused on bodily sensations and at the same time gets us out of the busyness of our minds. Also, when we touch each other in a loving way, our bodies release powerful hormones that further encourage our desire for intimacy and physical touch. One such hormone is oxytocin.

This mysterious hormone is known as the hormone of love and bonding and is most popularly recognized as “the cuddle hormone.” It is directly related to the bonding that occurs between mother and infant during the early stages of life after childbirth. It’s also responsible for creating strong and deep connections between men and women during the early stages of their relationships.

As mentioned earlier, this same hormone is released during massage. So in giving a massage, the more meaningful your touch, the better the entire experience will be for both you and your lover. The key to giving your partner a sensual and erotic massage is to really feel the joy and pleasure you are giving to your lover while massaging her.

Get A Massage Yourself!

A great way to thoroughly understand this concept is to go out and get a relaxing massage yourself before you give one to your woman. This will get you in touch with your own feelings of pleasure, joy, and satisfaction from which you will more easily be able to relate to with your woman. Another benefit of getting a massage is that you can take notes on various moves, techniques, and strokes, as well as what feels the best to you. Doing so will help you to recreate the same pleasurable experiences with your lover.

Massage is an excellent way of establishing the bonds of trust and safety women look for in their relationships with men. Women tend to feel emotionally safe when a man is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy and authentic in his being. These are ways in which she wants her man to be with her and express his love.

It’s all up to you, now. So may you go forth and discover the many pleasures of erotic massage with that special someone in your life and restore the intimacy back into your relationship!

4 Ways To Drive Your Girl CRAZY!

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Foreplay can get your woman so turned on, she’s ready to orgasm at a single touch. Check out these four foreplay tips that will make your partner wild!

I’m sure you love to touch your woman. Scratch that, you love to grope your woman. She is so soft and malleable and has these amazing thing called breasts! If it were up to you, you would grab and squeeze her breasts all day long. Settle down, hoss, it’s not as cool for her when you man handle her soft tissues.

That’s not to say that she doesn’t like it when you touch her. In fact, she loves it when you touch her. She’s just wants it a bit gentler most of the time, not to mention more variety. Below are some ideas for how to touch her that are slightly classier than the breast grab.

Feather Light Touch

Touch her as lightly as possible. This is also referred to as tickling, but I don’t want to give the impression that you should actually tickle her. Slowly run your finger tips all over her body. Barely touch her as you stroke her, and it will have all her nerve endings standing on end. You’re not limited to just your finger tips, you can use your lips, or even the head of your penis, for some added intimacy.

Touch Her With Different Objects

Find household objects you can use to stroke her with. Feathers and silk are the obvious choice, but feel free to be creative. It’s less about what you use, than it is how you use it. It could be a cork from the bottle of wine you just opened, or a pen, or even a credit card. Playing with temperatures is fun too. Rub her down with an ice cube ala 9 ½ Weeks. Whatever it is you use, if you oh-so-gently run it over her body, it becomes an erotic tool.

Use Body Tracing

Body tracing is a good way to get to know your partner’s hot spots. With this it doesn’t matter what stroke her with or how much pressure you use. The only rule is that you never lose contact. If you are tracing her collar bones, and you want to move down to her knees, you get their by running whatever you’re using to touch her with down the length of her body. She will be completely attuned to your touch, and you’re bound to find ticklish spots you never knew about before.

Communication Is Essential

How ever you go about stimulating your partner through touch, communicating with her is key. Whether it’s paying attention to her body language or asking her outright, she is the only one who can let you know what she likes. Don’t be afraid to seek her guidance, the only consequence is pleasuring her!

Are Your Friends Ruining Your Sex Life?

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Sex tips from your friends can actually be wreaking havoc on your sex life. Watch out for these three bogus sex tips – they’re likely not true.

Where did you learn about sex? Health class? Your dad? But where did you learn about having sex? A lot of your early knowledge of intercourse probably came from your buddies, especially the ones who claimed to be getting some. Bad news, friend, they were just as clueless as you were.

They too were relying on information from dudes who claimed to be having a bunch of sex and weren’t. Unfortunately for women everywhere, a lot of this locker room talk has no merit, yet sticks in the sexual psyche of the American male. Here are some things your buddies have bragged about, and shouldn’t have.

They Equate Penis Size With Sexual Prowess

Men seem to think that the bigger the penis the better. Guess what guys, size doesn’t matter – much. There are so many ways to pleasure a woman, and penetration is actually the least effective. Only 25% of women orgasm during intercourse. That doesn’t mean that 75% of men have tiny, unsatisfying penises, it just means that it’s difficult for women to cum during sex. So most of a woman’s climaxing happens during what you consider “foreplay,” which happens before your penis even touches her.

They Went Down On A Girl For Like, “Two Hours”

This one even he may actually believe. When a man realizes a woman is going to let him stick his penis in her, every second leading up to that desirous act feels like an hour. It’s not. Most men also think that performing oral sex on a woman is just something you do to get her wet enough to handle your impressive member. Not true.

What you consider foreplay is, to her, part of the sexual experience as a whole. Instead of rushing through it so you can get to the “actual sex part,” keep yourself tuned into her responses. Pleasing her can be pleasing yourself. And remember, women aren’t one-hit-and-quit like men when it comes to orgasms. So if you start the orgasm train early, she will definitely be impressed.

They Brag About How Long They Can Last

Let’s put this to bed once and for all. Gentlemen, women do not want a man who can penetrate her continuously over the course of several hours. The genital area is home to some extremely delicate tissue, and the body can only produce so much lubrication. This is not to say that women don’t like sexual acts that last over the course of several hours.

For a woman, sex begins the minute the decision is made to have the sex. This kissing, the caressing, and the dirty talk are as important to her as the penetration itself. If you allow yourself to be a part of that, you may be surprised at how intense the sexual experience can be for the both of you!

4 Oral Sex Rules You MUST Follow!

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Oral sex isn’t just something you can “stick your face down there and do.” As with most things, there are a few things you need to follow when it comes to oral sex. If you don’t, you will most likely not be successful at pleasing your woman!

Cultivate A Sense Of Humor

Sex is one of the funniest things out there, and not just because of the weird sounds and strange interests we cultivate. Think about it: both gender’s genitalia are forged from the same embryonic tissue, yet how those bits and pieces become aroused and ready for sex are incredibly different. As you’ll learn later in this series, it normally takes men a considerably shorter amount of time to go from arousal to climax than a woman, leaving her, literally, hanging at the end of an encounter.

Plus, after orgasm both men and women have something called oxytocin floating around in their system. Known as the ‘cuddle hormone’, it makes many men unable to do much more than sleep after a lively bout of sex, whereas women want to bond, cuddle and coo with their partners. Sure, it may lead to a lot of heartache between partners, but you can’t deny that how it all works is really quite humorous.

Understand Where The Action Is

If you want to make your partner orgasm, focus on her clitoris. With more than double the amount of nerve endings as compared to the penis, the ability to give a woman multiple orgasms, and a purpose of nothing more than to please, the clitoris offers more than the vagina ever can.

The clitoris is a fantastic feat of divine engineering. With more than eighteen visible and tucked away parts, it’s the main event when it comes to pleasing a woman sexually. (Don’t worry, we’ll detail all of its aspects throughout this eBook). All in all, the clitoris is less like a ‘button’ and more like a complex network of interconnected circuits, all waiting to be stroked and explored properly for the ultimate of satisfaction.

Tongue Trumps Penis

Most men are familiar with Ron Jeremy, the bearded porn star known for his large penis and even bigger personality. The guy is paid to do it, and does it well, so it’s no surprise that he’s been quoted as saying, “More women have gotten off with my tongue than with my penis.” Even noted sex researchers such as Shere Hite of the Hite Report On Sexuality have commented that penetrative intercourse doesn’t seem to offer women the opportunity to orgasm all of the time. Which makes sense when you think about it, as a woman’s clitoris is positioned just a little bit too high for it to be rubbed the right way during most sex acts.

Need more proof? A study quoted in the book Sex: A Man’s Guide, found that women in long term, monogamous relationships found intercourse satisfying only sixty-eight percent of the time, whereas cunnilingus pleased them eight-two percent of the time. As well, sex only gave them an orgasm during a quarter of their sexual escapades with their partners, but oral sex brought them to climax almost every time (81%).

Learn What Works, Fix What Doesn’t (The Most Important One)

Think you know all there is to know already about oral sex? Many women have time and time again said that their male partners were too harsh, eager, slow, not open to suggestion, or lost focus at critical times.

So most men, in their efforts to please their partner, go looking for information from the most available of sources: pornography, magazines, friends and/or books. But the issue is that most of these sources have the information wrong – not that they are trying to mislead you, but rather, they just don’t know the mechanics of a woman’s orgasm well enough to say, “Oral sex is best!” and “Do it this way to ensure an orgasm!” Most information sources will only give you tidbits, part of the picture, or don’t explain why you’re doing what you’re doing.

That’s why this is one of the few rules that shouldn’t be broken when it comes to oral sex: learn what works for your gal, take note of it, use if often, and play around to see if there’s something new that you may have missed. Discard what doesn’t work, or what doesn’t get her revving, and you’ll be that much closer to a routine that guarantees success.

Q&A: I Don’t Like Giving A Blowjob – Do I Have To?

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A blowjob is an amazing gift that you can give to a man – it’s not only an act of pure submission to your partner’s pleasure, but it’s also something that feels totally incredible to him if you do it right. But not every girl likes giving head – some girls absolutely HATE doing it! Is a blowjob something you have to do for a guy to please him, or can you keep him sexually satisfied without oral sex?

When I was still dating my ex, every time we had sex he always tried to pressure me into giving him a blowjob. The first time I tried it, I almost gagged because of the taste. He kept begging me to do it and I would keep telling him no. I know for a fact that I won’t be able to avoid it if I become sexually involved in my next relationship. So my question is, how can I still give my future partner the pleasure he deserves without having to do what I don’t like?

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You Never Have To Do Anything You Don’t Want To Do

When it comes to sex, even if you’re in a relationship, know that you don’t ever have to do anything you don’t want to do. Don’t ever let someone pressure or force you into doing something that you’re not on board with – because frankly, that’s rape. If you don’t like something sexually, simply be honest with your partner and don’t do it. Don’t let them use the “If you love me, you’ll do it” line on you because if they love and care about you, they’ll be willing to compromise with you to find something else that feels good to them but that you don’t absolutely despise.

Do Most Women Enjoy Giving A Blowjob?

Sexual preferences are so diverse between people that it’s really unfair for you to try to compare yourself to other women and what they like or don’t like. The truth is, there are a lot of girls that LOVE giving their partners a blowjob. For them, sex just isn’t complete without giving their partner oral sex first. Then again, there are also lots of other girls who – like you – can’t stand it. It doesn’t turn them on and in many cases, it actually grosses them out. The same goes for guys – some guys are into oral sex and others aren’t. There’s no set rule on whether you have to enjoy giving your lover a blowjob to be “normal” or “like other women.”

Why Do Some Girls Not Like Performing Fellatio?

There are a number of reasons why some women don’t like performing fellatio on their partners, all of which are very valid reasons for not wanting to give a blowjob:

  • Some women have a stronger gag reflex than others. For these women, it’s not even about deep throating – they’ll gag before their partner’s penis even touches the back of their throat.
  • They’re afraid of having to swallow their partner’s semen.
  • The taste or texture of semen can make a woman gag or vomit.

How To Make Giving Oral Sex Better

If you don’t like giving a blowjob but want to try to make it better for yourself so that you can give the gift of oral sex to the person you care about, there are several things you can do to make giving head a little easier:

  • Use a condom to keep the semen from getting in your mouth when your lover ejaculates. A flavored condom is an even better choice if you have issues with the taste of your partner’s penis in general.
  • Don’t try to deep throat – this WILL set off your gag reflex. Instead, use your hand at the base of your partner’s penis to stroke his shaft, and keep only the head of his penis in your mouth.
  • If not using a condom, ask for a fair warning before he ejaculates. There should be plenty of time for him to pull out of your mouth and ejaculate into a towel or a tissue.
  • Finish your lover off with a great handjob if you don’t want to swallow.
  • If you want to try swallowing but the taste grosses you out, there are many things you can do to improve the taste of his semen. Eliminate smoking, drinking and eating pungent foods like garlic and onions. Instead, substitute sweeter foods like pineapple (which can work wonders), strawberries and supplement with lots of water. This won’t improve the texture of his semen, but it will make it taste sweeter to you and a lot less bitter.