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How Turn On Her Mind!

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Sex for a woman doesn’t just involve what’s in her pants – it involves the brain too. Here’s how to get her thinker aroused so her orgasm will be explosive!

Turning on a woman emotionally is almost equivalent to turning you on physically. If a woman is in the right state of thinking she can have much more enjoyable foreplay and, hence, equally terrific sex.

While arousing her body may seem like an easier, straightforward task (read more in the next chapter), stimulating her thinking takes patience and creativity (and a little bit of corniness).

Making Eye Contact

Don’t forget: an unexpected “look” can build the anticipation for later. Eye contact and a wink can be a boyish, coy way to captivate her. So can capturing her stare and giving her a genuine smile, stealing a look while she’s doing a chore or some other mundane task that wouldn’t usually warrant a sneak peek, or holding her gaze for longer than a split-second.

The Lost Art Of Kissing

What happened to kissing? Does it die out after you hear the minister say, “You may kiss your bride”? I have listened to so many of my married friends say, “I miss making out.” We yearn for no-strings-attached fooling around where we can make out without the immediate expectation of sex. There’s something thrilling about going at it like school kids on the couch or in the car (or, better yet, in a secret public place).

A few tips for reviving your kissing techniques and bringing the fun back to old-school make-out sessions:

  • Kiss her and let your tongue touch the very edge of her lips. The soft sensations will drive her absolutely wild.
  • Use your lips to “nibble” her bottom lip or, if you’re very careful, you can even use your teeth for a gentle bite. Just proceed with caution.
  • Kiss her with an open mouth and then pull away ever so slightly, allowing your tongues to continue dancing. Guys seem to really like this form of kissing.

Communicating Freely With Each Other

After years of marriage, talking openly and freely about your sexual needs can be an incredibly daunting exercise, especially if you’ve never done it. But if you want your wife to don a French maid costume or get a little forceful with a leather whip, she’s never going to do it unless you just ask her. The same goes for her.

In other words, one discussion about innermost desires can snowball and affect your general outlook on your entire relationship!

Dirty Talk

The art of dirty talk is different from the aforementioned intimate talk – dirty talk is, well, more risqué.

A common misconception is that dirty talk has to be raunchy and vulgar, but it can take on a wide range of forms. It’s really about the type of couple you are and the terminology that will get you the best reaction (you don’t want to insult her if she’s embarrassed about you using words she considers foul).

Q&A: MILF Fantasy – I Want To Have Sex With My Step-Mom!

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A MILF fantasy is actually quite common – there are many guys out there that either have or had a really hot step-mother who they couldn’t help but be attracted to! Of course it’s inappropriate, but lots of guys experience it. Most of the time, it passes and nothing more is ever said about it. But just what do you do when all you can think about is getting it on with your stepmother?

Question: I have a fantasy of having sex with my step mom. Almost every day she wears these pants that when she bends over you can see her ass perfectly, and my urges keep getting more and more frequent! I’ve gone to many other people, all with no help. She is also about to get breast implants, so that makes it all the worse! Your videos have helped me out a lot, so please help me on this one!

–YouTube Viewer

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A MILF Fantasy Is Perfectly Normal

Boys, especially those going through puberty, are going to be attracted to random hot women, possibly all hot women. If your stepmother is hot, it’s not out of the ordinary that you would have a sexual fantasy about her! Lots of guys have gone through or are going through the same thing. You’re just attracted to a hot woman who just happens to be your step-mother. You don’t have to make it any more complicated than that.

Acting On Your Fantasy

While a MILF fantasy is actually very common, it’s not one that you can act on. Even if you’re over the age of eighteen and you and your step-mother are both consenting, you’re still going to hurt a lot of people if you make that decision. Your family would likely be very hurt and feel very betrayed if you and your step-mother got it on.

If you’re under age, that’s a whole different ball game – things could be much worse if you did anything about your fantasy. Also, it’s likely that your step-mother most absolutely does not share this fantasy, and you could damage your relationship with her and the rest of your family if you tell her that you think about her sexually.

You can’t help that you’re having this fantasy, so what do you do? If you end up masturbating every day while thinking about your step-mother, you’re not going to be the first guy that has ever done that. Masturbation is an excellent relief for fantasies that you just can’t be a part of in real life. However, if you actually act on your fantasy, you could be crossing a line that you can never un-cross.

Consider Counseling

If your MILF fantasy really bothers you and you just can’t get away from it (and you really want to) consider counseling. There’s nothing wrong with seeing an unbiased counselor or third party that can help you talk through your feelings and problems. People put so much stigma on going to a therapist – especially for sex related issues – but if you want to get to the root of the problem, therapy is about as good as it gets.

Don’t think that seeing a therapist automatically makes you a weaker guy. What counseling can do is help you talk through your issues and learn the tools you need to become a better person and live a happier, more fulfilled life. On a side note, talking to your step-mother about this fantasy of yours is probably not a good idea.

Redirect That Energy Elsewhere

If counseling isn’t something you can or want to do, think about ways you can redirect this energy. Think about what it is about your step-mother that turns you on so much. Is it her physique? Perhaps she has a nice butt or legs that just won’t quit. If you can isolate just what it is about her that turns you on, you can redirect that energy to adult films and magazines that feature women with large butts, long legs, or whatever it is that you think turns you on the most.

Even if you can’t find something in particular, there is surely going to be another girl you find attractive. Exploring magazines, websites, films and art can help you find other women to look at that also turn you on. If you’re old enough and dating is an option, get more social and talk to girls.

You may be attracted to your step-mother’s personality, simply because you haven’t been close or conversed much to other women. Dating can help you redirect your energy into finding a girl that you’re attracted to that you can get to know without the repercussions that getting involved with your step-mother would bring.

How To Have Sex Like A Teenager

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Sex when you’re young is unlike anything else out there – it’s incredible! Here’s how to bring those feelings back and have sex like you used to.

You remember your adolescent self, and I’m sure you wouldn’t want to go back to being him for anything. Walking around with a hard-on twenty four hours a day, surrounded by girls in mini-skirts who won’t even let you touch them under their bras, so you spend most of your time beating off as much as possible without your mom catching on to all the time you spend in the bathroom.

Trying Something New

Fast forward twenty five years. You have fumbled your way through losing your virginity, making a few mistakes, and getting married. You now have a beautiful wife that you still find sexy as ever, but between work and family duties, the time you have to spend making mad, passionate love has dwindled. You want to try something new, but all the stuff you find on the internet requires serious contortions, and you’re not sure your bum knee can take it.

Maybe it’s not something new you need. Maybe it’s something from before you learned how to unhook a bra without help. Being a walking hard on was horribly frustrating, but it wasn’t boring. There are a couple of things you may have forgotten about since girls started letting you put your penis in them.

The Make-Out Session

I’m sure you remember your first girlfriend. The two of you used to make out for hours on end – you trying to touch her breast, her slapping your hand away. The hours and hours of kissing had you in such a frenzy, you didn’t even notice when her dad walked in. However, ever since you’ve been allowed to have sex with women, this adolescent passion probably hasn’t been equaled. To add some passion, go back to this old stand by.

Make out, and make out for a really long time. But how do manage to keep from taking the prize if you’re already allowed? Trying making it a bet, and make sure the wager is worth it. For example, whoever touches below the belt first gets to pick TV on Monday. If you go there first, you’ll be watching Jon & Kate Plus 8 during Monday Night Football.

Mutual Masturbation

I’m sure you cringed at this term when your health teacher presented it as an alternative to sex (unless you were in high school in the last eight years and received abstinence-only education), but the grown up version of this can be fun. Whether you’re fully clothed on the couch or naked in your bed, mutual masturbation bring some playfulness back into sex.

You can get reacquainted with each other’s genitals – rediscover those spots that really make her lose her mind. If you orgasm, you don’t have to have intercourse. Penetration is not a necessity every time you have sex. You’re a grown up now, so you can forget all those silly rules you used to make about what defines sex (“It was just a handjob! We didn’t even do anything!”). You can go ahead and make your own.

Erotic Massage For Better Sex Review

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Erotic Massage For Better Sex is a guide that is designed to help a man learn how to give a woman an incredibly arousing, relaxing sexual massage. If you’ve ever “massaged” your partner before sex, you already know the power that just a few simple strokes have to relax both her mind and body. Foreplay and relaxation is essential for a woman to be able to reach orgasm, so prepping her before you get it on is well worth it.

If you want to take your massage skills to the next level and really learn how to turn her on – or if you’ve never tried it before and want to bring something new to the bedroom – Erotic Massage For Better Sex is right up your alley. There are tips, tricks and techniques that both the novice and the advanced masseuse can use.

The Good

Erotic Massage For Better Sex is hands down the most complete, information packed guide on sexual massage out there. It starts off by teaching you how to perform a basic relaxing massage, then walks you through how to make it erotic once your partner is totally and completely relaxed. There are sections on setting the scene, warm up, technique and more, so you’re really learning how to give an incredible massage from point A to the very end.

If you truly want to become a master at sexual massage, this guide will help you learn step by step what to do, where to touch and how to touch to make your partner more relaxed and turned on than they ever have before.

The Bad

This is a complete guide to mastering the art of erotic massage. It’s not a quick read – it’s chock full of information you can use to not only give your partner a relaxing massage but to also move into a sexual massage and on to lovemaking. While this is generally where most men are headed when they get this guide, the amount of information contained within is often daunting at first. You can pick up a few quick tips if you skim through, but not near as much as if you sit down and really commit to learning the information.

Erotic Massage For Better Sex does include some pictures that help guide your hand placement and let you know exactly where you need to be and what you need to be doing, but not for every single technique. The descriptions for the techniques are found within the text, so you’ll need to really read through each section to learn hand placement as well as stroke direction and pressure. If you’re looking for a guide that will tell you how to relax and seduce a woman with an erotic massage, this is the one you want. Just don’t be surprised when you actually have to read!

The Bottom Line

If you want to know how to learn how to give an erotic massage and have your partner melt beneath your hands, Erotic Massage For Better Sex is definitely the guide you want to get. It includes extensive information about why massage is so essential to a woman’s relaxation and arousal, how to get started, specific techniques to use and how to use erotic massage to lead into sex.

It’s a pretty comprehensive guide, so it may take some time and commitment to soak up all the information within. With some practice and dedication to learning all of the tips and tricks in Erotic Massage For Better Sex, you’ll be an absolute master at the art of massage and your partner will be putty in your hands!

The Full Erotic Massage For Better Sex Review

Erotic Massage For Better Sex will teach you the ins and outs of sexual massage, so by the time you’re done reading it (really reading it), you’re going to be an absolute master at sensual touch!

What You’ll Learn Inside This Incredible Guide:

  • Why erotic massage is so powerful
  • How it helps you connect physically and emotionally to your lover
  • Why foreplay is like the game Monopoly – and how to use it to your advantage
  • The importance of approaching a massage without expectations
  • How to turn a relaxing massage into an erotic one once your partner is putty in your hands
  • Things to avoid that will turn her OFF automatically
  • Why being motivated to massage your lover (and being enthusiastic about doing it) is paramount to her pleasure

How To Prepare The Massage Environment

The section on how to prepare the environment ahead of time is probably one of the most useful sections in the entire guide. Erotic Massage For Better Sex will teach you how to set the stage for a romantic evening, including how to use lighting, scent, music and more to start seducing your lover as soon as she walks in the room. You’ll also learn about many different types of massage oils (and sexual lubes) so you can choose the right one for what you’re trying to accomplish.

Tips & Tricks

There is no shortage of tips & tricks in Erotic Massage For Better Sex. Here’s a sample of the different kinds of techniques you’ll learn when you read this guide, although the author encourages men to learn these techniques and then use them to develop their own custom strokes.

  • Specific hand movements to use to release tension and seduce
  • Exactly how to massage specific areas of your lover’s body including the back, neck, arms, breasts, legs, butt and inner thighs
  • How to work the face and scalp for maximum tension release
  • Stretching techniques to relax the body
  • Specifically how to massage the breasts and nipples to begin arousal
  • How to massage the vagina and clitoris to bring a woman to orgasm

Bonus Video: “The Ecstatic Touch – Sensual Relaxation Techniques To Get Her In the Mood For Sex”

Included with Erotic Massage For Better Sex is a great bonus video that will teach you more about massage and relaxation, so you will have even more tricks up your sleeve to get your lover in a randy mood. While the written guide is absolutely indispensable, seeing and hearing the information really takes it to the next level.

Hot Licks – The Ultimate 5 Step Program For Mastering The Art Of Giving Her Exquisitely Orgasmic Oral Sex Review

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Hot Licks will teach you how to be an oral sex master in just five easy steps. You’ll be giving your lover orgasms orally in no time!

If you want to know how to be a master at oral sex from the foreplay stage all the way through climax to the very end, the Hot Licks Program is just what you’re looking for. It’s well put together into digestible modules and it’s very easy to read, so even guys with very short attention spans will be able to process this information and put it to good use.

The Good

There is so much information here! The Hot Licks Program goes over almost everything, from female anatomy to oral sex and fingering techniques, to foreplay and female arousal to safe sex and much, much more. The best thing about this complete guide is that you can start out totally green, without knowing a single thing about giving a woman oral sex.

When you’re done reading, it’s very likely you’ll be able to give a woman an orgasm through oral sex without ever having practiced before – of course, this isn’t guaranteed, however, if a guy really studies and puts to use the techniques learned in the Hot Licks Program, he’s going to be a force to be reckoned with.

The Bad

Even with the quick start guide, there’s not a magic formula contained inside that will instantly make you awesome at giving girls head even if you’re not really into it. The trick is, you have to be into it. The Hot Licks Program is overflowing with excellent tips and techniques that will make your woman shiver with delight, but only if you’re committed to mastering this art.

There is a lot of information here and many guys may get discouraged (read the Quick Start Guide first before you give up – it will get you giving great oral sex tonight!) before getting through it all. However, it’s broken down into easy to digest modules and each module is broken down further into an easy to navigate table of contents.

The Hot Licks Program is exceptionally well put together, so you can find what you need to find fairly quickly. Keep in mind that although there’s a great deal of information to read (yeah, you’re going to be busy for the next several days), it is all going to contribute to your giving your partner wild, sheet soaking orgasms.

The Bottom Line

The Hot Licks Program is an amazingly intense, information packed course that will take you from being completely knowledgeable about oral sex to becoming an oral sex master! Even if you’ve never gone down on a girl before, after reading this guide, you’re going to know just about everything there is to know about giving a girl the big O.

You’ll be able to take a woman straight from a completely unaroused phase all the way through to an earth shattering orgasm with oral sex before she can even register what happened. This truly will take her breath away! Even if you only work a few of the techniques in this guide at a time into your cunnilingus repertoire, your skill will improve ten fold. If you buy only one oral sex instruction program, Hot Licks is the one you want to get.

The Full Hot Licks Program Review

Oral sex is absolutely divine for a woman – but a lot of guys just don’t know how to do it well. There are too many guys out there that assume going down on a woman is a lot like how they like to get oral sex, but the that’s just not the case. It takes a lot of skill to give a girl a leg shaking orgasm through cunnilingus alone. With the Hot Licks Program, you’ll learn how to be an oral sex master in just five easy steps.

The Hot Licks Program consists of two indispensable manuals – the Quick Start Guide and the main course. Although the main course is broken down into modules that are easy to read and understand, there is still a lot of information and it’s difficult to absorb it all at once. This is where the Quick Start Guide comes in handy. It helps men get a “jump start” on their oral sex technique, so they can start seeing a difference right away. Once they give a girl an orgasm through oral sex for the first time, they’re going to be hooked! That’s when they will delve into the main course to learn as many different tricks and techniques as possible.

The Quick Start Guide

This manual is absolutely man’s best friend! It’s the “what you need to know now” to give your girlfriend or wife an incredible orgasm using your tongue TONIGHT. It will give you a taste of the great information contained within the main guide, and get you going on your journey to give that special lady in your life the best oral sex she’s ever had, hands down.

A quick introduction to the female anatomy is all you need to get started here, and the Quick Start Guide glosses over the anatomy section quickly enough to get you on to the good stuff but it’s still thorough enough to educate you so you at least know where you’re licking and sucking.

The Quick Start Guide also goes over lubes and which ones are suitable for cunnilingus, and it also goes over (and shows!) the proper way to use a dental dam to ensure safety for both partners involved. You’ll also learn the best oral sex positions for both you and your partner to be in so you can give her the maximum amount of pleasure.

The real value here comes with the complete walkthrough of a woman’s arousal from the beginning stages through climax to the very end when she’s exhausted and satisfied. Learning how a woman’s body works during arousal is key to figuring out what to do next and how to give her the best orgasm of her life. You’re also going to get a couple of complete technique walkthroughs as well, that will show you what to do and how long to do it for from beginning to end. Now that’s something that most other oral sex guides don’t offer!

1st Module

The first module includes lots of prep work and beginner’s info. Don’t assume that if you’ve given a girl head before that you can skip this module – there is lots of information here that even so-called advanced players would be interested to know. Not only will you learn the “hows” and “whys” of what to do during cunnilingus, you’ll also learn lots of new facts that you’ve probably never heard of before!

2nd Module

Foreplay is so important, the Hot Licks Program dedicated an entire module to it. Learn how to get your lover aroused, where her erogenous zones and hot spots are, how to relax her with a sensual massage and how to incorporate showering into your foreplay routine so you both are fresh and clean for cunnilingus.

3rd Module

The third module in the Hot Licks Program also contains information about the female anatomy, but in a much more detailed way than the Quick Start guide did. You’ll learn more about the specific hot spots to pay attention to when using your tongue during oral sex! This module also contains information on how to get into a rhythm and remedies for jaw tiredness as well as specific and advanced techniques.

4th Module

This is probably going to be the module you go to often in the Hot Licks Program, even after you’re finished with the first read through. This module includes great ideas for cunnilingus positions, as well as a complete troubleshooting guide for many of the obstacles you run into when going down on a girl.

5th Module

The fifth and last module in the Hot Licks Program will teach you specific routines to use that will take you from beginning to end. You’ll also get cheat sheets to use and you’ll learn advanced techniques and how to customize your very own cunnilingus routine. After this module, assuming that you’ve really taken the information here to heart, you’ll be an oral sex master!