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10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Women)

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Oral sex is something every guy craves, but a lot of girls aren’t good at it. They try to imitate what they see porn stars do in adult films, but that’s actually not the best way to give a guy a blowjob. It’s all for the cameras – but here’s the REAL way to be great at oral sex. If you follow these ten easy tips, you’ll have him begging you for more!

Go Slow At First

Yes, guys like a lot of sucking and they like it fast, but not always when you’re first starting to give him head. Instead of licking your partner’s penis like there’s no tomorrow to get his erection going, start slow and let his erection build in your mouth. Slowly suck him and roll his soft penis around in your mouth as he’s getting hard. He’ll love the feeling of having his entire penis in your mouth as he’s becoming aroused!

Learn To Deep Throat

Guys love a deep throat blowjob, but girls often don’t like to give them because taking a penis so deep into their throats make them gag or vomit. If you gag now while deep throating, you can learn to do it well with practice. Learn to breathe through your nose while you’re performing oral sex and relax your throat. Take a little bit more each time until you can deep throat your partner with ease.

Give Him A Handjob

If you can’t take him really deep into your throat, it’s not the end of the world. You can still give a great blowjob to your guy by giving him a handjob with it! Use your hand as an extension of your mouth and grasp the base of his penis while you suck on the head of it. Move your hand up and down as you move your mouth up and down, and don’t be afraid to let your saliva drip a little and function as a lube to make things go more smoothly. Gently tug on his scrotum or hold it gently to give your man even more pleasurable sensations.

Don’t Use Your Teeth

Teeth hurt during a blowjob and that’s all there is too it! Every once in awhile, a guy will enjoy teeth gently scraping against his penis, but odds are your man doesn’t want your chompers anywhere near his shaft. Keep your teeth out of his way by wrapping your lips over them while giving oral sex, so you don’t accidentally scrape or bite him during the blowjob.

Try Different Sex Positions

As opposed to letting him lie there and receive oral sex, try using some different sex positions to spice it up. Let him stand while you kneel on a pillow to give him head, or let him stand over you and lower his penis into your mouth as you’re lying down. Be creative and try all kinds of different sex positions – he’ll love how adventurous you are with just oral sex so much that he’ll be begging you for sex all the time!

Surprise Him With It

Give your man oral sex the next time he least expects it. Next time you are driving a long distance, surprise him with a blowjob in the car (which will probably lead to some amazing car sex!) or sneak off to the bathroom at a party to give him an impromptu blowjob. He will absolutely go wild over oral sex that happens anytime, anywhere!

Give Just A Blowjob

Instead of expecting sex after giving your man head, or expecting him to return the favor, give him a blowjob just for the sake of giving him a blowjob. Make sure he has an orgasm, and leave it at that! Let him know that you just wanted to go down on him – because you enjoy it so much. He’ll be thrilled that you like to give him head just because. Don’t be surprised if he asks for a blowjob next time “just because” he wants one!

Be Enthusiastic And Make Noise

No guy wants quiet oral sex, nor does he want to feel like giving him head is a chore for you and that you don’t enjoy it. Instead, show some enthusiasm while you’re giving him fellatio and let him know how much you enjoy it by giving him a moan or groan here and there. He’ll also love hearing the wet sucking noises, so make sure there are plenty of those too!

Give Him A Show

Men are essentially visual creatures and even though a blowjob will feel great if he can’t see what is going on, he’ll like it much better if he can. If you’re lying in the bed, prop his head up on a few pillows so he can look down and see what you’re doing. Better yet, have him sit on the couch or in a chair and kneel while you do it, giving him a full visual. Make sure to make eye contact with him every now and then while you’re sucking on him – it will drive him absolutely insane!

Let Him Grab Your Head

Most women don’t like it when a man grabs their head during oral sex, and for good reason. It can be uncomfortable, especially if he grabs your hair, and it can make you gag or vomit if he pushes your head too far down on his penis. However, men really enjoy this so if you have a partner you trust completely, try this the next time you give your partner head. He will love the way it feels to be in control like that, but make sure you both communicate about a sound or gesture that means “stop.” If this is going to work, he’s going to need to stop immediately if you give him the signal.

10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Men)

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Oral sex is something she loves, but isn’t going to always ask for. She may be too shy to tell you how much she craves oral sex from you, but no matter how much she wants it, she’s not likely to let you know just how hot it makes her to have your mouth down here. Instead of making her beg for it, learn to be the best at it and give it to her without her ever having to ask! Here’s how to give your lover amazing oral sex and be the best she’s ever had!

Lick Slowly

Most guys lick fast when performing oral sex, assuming that a woman likes it that way because that’s what he likes when he’s getting a blowjob. Women are different though and many of them enjoy slow licking, especially at the beginning when she’s just starting to get warmed up. Lick her clitoris and labia slowly, as though you are savoring her taste and the way she feels in your mouth.

Take Her All In

Instead of focusing on just one area – such as her clitoris – when you’re going down on her, let your mouth wander all over her vagina. Don’t leave a single fold unexplored by your tongue. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman is sensitive only in that one area, when in reality, she has sensitive nerve endings all over her vagina. Her inner and outer labia are very sensitive, as well as the skin around the entrance to her vaginal canal.

Show Enthusiasm

Just like you don’t enjoy getting oral sex from a girl who is bummed out about having to give it, a woman isn’t going to enjoy receiving it from you if she feels like you think it’s a chore. Show your woman some enthusiasm when going down on her and let her know that you really enjoy giving her pleasure this way. Don’t lean your head on one thigh and lick lazily as though you’d rather be doing something else – because she won’t be fooled for one minute.

Use Your Fingers

A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris alone, but you can give your partner an even more powerful orgasm by stimulating her g-spot with your fingers at the same time you’re giving her oral sex. This will either help her to have a g-spot orgasm or it will help her to have a blended orgasm – which is a clitoral and g-spot climax at the same time.

Penetrate Her With Your Tongue

Most men don’t bother using their tongue around the entrance to a woman’s vagina because why bother if he can’t stick his tongue all the way up there, but the truth is, there are hundreds of sensitive nerve endings just around the opening to her vagina. Even just slowly licking all around the entrance will have your woman grabbing the sheets with desperation, but if you slip your tongue inside, it’s likely to send her into a complete frenzy.

Lick Her Anus

Lots of women don’t like anal sex, but they may enjoy the idea of analingus in conjunction with oral sex. Often, anal sex is painful, but analingus is not and can actually be very pleasurable for a woman. If your girl is clean and you don’t have a problem with it, lightly lick her anus a few times while you’re going down on her. You don’t have to stay down there for long to have the desired effect – just a few licks will send her out of this world with pleasure!

Don’t Rush It

A huge mistake that men make during cunnilingus is rushing through it so that they can get to the main event faster. They’re more concerned with their own pleasure than hers, and a woman will be able to tell right away if you’re rushing through oral sex so you can get to your own climax. Instead, take your time and let your partner reach orgasm naturally, without feeling rushed or pressured to do so. This will make her climax much, much more powerful and keep her coming back for more!

Make Noise

Don’t lick her in such a way that you produce hardly any noise. Get sloppy! Allow your partner to hear your sucking and licking sounds, and don’t be afraid to let a moan of pleasure escape from your own lips as well. Give her the idea that you absolutely love everything about giving her oral sex by letting her hear every bit of what you’re doing to her – and how much you’re enjoying it.

Use Different Sex Positions

Don’t just stick to letting her lay on the bed while you go down on her. Try different sex positions for oral sex, such as licking her from behind or letting her sit on your face. This will add an element of variety to giving your lover a climax orally, making her want more and more. She’ll always be ready for sex if you make sure she not only gets a great orgasm from you, but also that she feels like your sex life is really wild and amazing.

Go Different Places

Break out of the bedroom and give your partner oral sex anywhere else. Move from the couch to the kitchen, then to the car and out of the house. Next time you go on a road trip, pull over and lick her clitoris right then and there. Or, next time you have dinner out together, slip underneath the long tablecloth and perform cunnilingus on her while everyone goes about their business, having no idea what is really going on. Even if you have great oral sex technique, going down on her in different places is all you need to make her think you’re the best on the planet.

How To Increase Sexual Endurance Dramatically

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Premature ejaculation can happen to anyone. PE is a real problem that affects 25 to 40 percent of men, which typically means they ejaculate in under 2 minutes during sexual intercourse. For many men, the real issue is the inability to handle the intense arousal that comes with sexual stimulation.

So what can you do to get a grip on your arousal and massively increase your sexual stamina? Check out these easy tips to increase your endurance and last longer in bed.

Make Sex A “Connected Experience”

When it comes to lovemaking, women – even if they do not say it – prefer an intimate emotional connection, and not just physical intimacy. Your ability to warm her up with foreplay before starting intercourse will go a long way in satisfying her properly, as well as giving you the confidence needed to last longer.

To do this, you will need to focus on HER needs first. Make sure that you know where her hot spots are – the areas where she wants the most attention and likes to be touched. By learning all about her body and giving her lots of attention, she will not only find lovemaking more pleasurable, she will be able to achieve orgasm faster as well.

When you have the confidence in knowing her body and what she likes, it will make a big impact on your sex life. You will find that you have renewed confidence in yourself as a lover if you start by pleasing her BEFORE penetration.

Not only that, but by prolonging the prelude to intercourse and focusing on satisfying your partner’s needs first, you also slow down your own path to arousal and significantly increase your sexual endurance.

“Capricious Maneuvering”

This has worked very well for most men and is one of the simplest ways to delay an impending orgasm. Most men tend to orgasm early due to their inability to control their sexual arousal, and this technique will help you in that respect.

When you become too excited during sex and realize an orgasm is approaching, simply withdraw your penis and change to a position that is less stimulating for you.

For instance, switch to one where both of you are sitting down and you’re not getting as much friction on your penis. This helps to reduce the speed of penetration and gives you better control. Another great sex position is to simply lie down on your sides facing each either.

If you still find it hard to delay an ejaculation, withdraw your penis and stop penetration completely. This is the perfect time to continue pleasing her with your fingers or give her oral sex. Just make sure you do this a few minutes before you’re actually ready to climax. If you wait just until the brink of orgasm to withdraw, you will likely still have an orgasm – only it won’t be very good at all.

Most women find it much easier to achieve an orgasm through oral sex, so if you can give her one before resuming intercourse, it will satisfy her a lot better. Not only that, it will make it easier for her to achieve successive climaxes during intercourse, and also gives you that much needed confidence to keep going until the finishing line!

Relax And Have Fun

As you practice controlling your orgasm, you will feel more and more confident with your ability to last longer in bed. Even if you still have trouble controlling when you climax, if you’ve learned to please your partner sexually before penetration, she will still be satisfied even though you haven’t lasted very long during intercourse. The most important thing is to relax and remember that sex is all about having fun. If you put too much pressure on yourself not to ejaculate too early, it is likely going to backfire.

What Is Double Penetration?

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Anal sex can be even more fun when you involve insertion of an object in the vagina in addition to the anus. It can increase the frequency and intensity of orgasms during sex and it can be just the boost you need if your sex life is in a rut. It can also help you add a whole new level of pleasure to masturbation. But what exactly is double penetration, how do you do it and how do you keep it safe and clean?

What Is Double Penetration?

Usually during sex or masturbation, a man’s penis or a sex toy penetrates the vagina only. During anal sex, a penis or sex toy will penetrate the anus only. With this sex activity, a penis or toy will penetrate the vagina and the anus at the same time. This can be very pleasurable for a woman who enjoys feeling very “full” during sex, and it can increase the amount and intensity of a woman’s orgasms significantly.

For women who have trouble having a g-spot orgasm, double penetration can be the key. The object inserted into the anus actually rubs up against back side of the g-spot, stimulating it from the other side. It also helps push the g-spot forward into the object that is inserted into the vagina, so that it receives more stimulation from the front side as well. Combine stimulation of the clitoris with insertion of an object into the vagina and rectum for a really wild orgasm!

How To Get Started

As with anal sex, it’s important to start small and work your way up. Giant sex toys aren’t the best choice for the first time you try it. Remember that the anus doesn’t stretch like the vagina does and objects that you think are pretty small are actually going to feel very big once you insert them into your rectum. Consider trying a tiny butt plug to begin with, and then work your way up to larger and larger objects as you become more accustomed to bigger sizes.

It’s also important to use a very generous amount of lube during double penetration. The anus does not self lubricate like a vagina does and even small objects will cause pain and may tear the delicate anal tissues if there’s not enough lubricant down there. Lube is inexpensive and available almost anywhere, so there’s really no reason not to use it! Anal sex of any kind is much more pleasurable when everything is going smoothly.

Tools Of The Trade

Unless you’re with two guys, you’re going to have to use a sex toy of some kind in addition to your partner if you want to achieve double penetration. During masturbation, you’re going to need even more equipment. Here’s a breakdown of the different tools of the trade.

During Sex With A Partner

If he’s going to be entering your vagina, you’ll want to have a small butt plug on hand to insert into your rectum. If you’re more advanced with this sex technique, you can try using a larger sex toy for anal sex.

If he’s going to be entering your anus, you’ll want to have a larger sex toy on hand that will provide stimulation of the vagina. This can be as simple as a torpedo vibrator or as complicated as a Rabbit vibrator that stimulates the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time.

During Masturbation

Double penetration is a little different with masturbation since you’ll be doing all the work yourself. The most important thing during masturbation is to find a comfortable position to lie in that allows you full access to both your vagina and anus without restricting the movement of your hands or arms. You may want to have a few pillows on hand to help you do this.

As far as sex toys go, you really can use whatever you want here! Again, if you’re a beginner, choose a smaller sex toy for your anus. If you use a butt plug, both of your hands will be free to operate the sex toy you’re using on your vagina. Some sex toys have components for the anus, the vagina and the clitoris to provide stimulation of all three areas at once.

During A Threesome

This can also be achieved during a threesome if you’re having sex with two men. A lot of women really enjoy the thrill of being penetrated by a man in both the vagina and the anus and this is actually a sexual fantasy that a lot of women have but don’t often get to really act out.

Staying Safe

Because double penetration involves anal sex, there are some things you need to do to make sure everything stays clean and safe.

Use condoms on your sex toys. Do not insert a sex toy into the anus and then into the vagina without first taking the condom used in the anus off and putting a new one on. This prevents serious bacterial infections.

Do not use sex toys in the anus that aren’t designed for anal sex. If it doesn’t have a wide base or a ring on the end of it that prevents the toy from slipping inside the rectum in its entirety, it’s not something you want to use for anal stimulation. If it’s not designed for anal sex, it can slip up inside and get lost, requiring expensive urgent medical care.

If you’re having sex with two men, use condoms. STD’s can be transmitted easily this way, especially if the men swap between the anus and the vagina. As with sex toys, do not allow anal to vagina activity without a fresh condom being put on in between.

Go slow and use lube. The anal tissues can tear and bleed if you’re not using lube, go too fast or are using something that is too large.

If it hurts, stop. Never use desensitizing lube during anal sex because you definitely want to feel it if it hurts, because if it does, you need to stop! Never continue with penetration if there’s pain of any kind.

How To Have An Orgasm In 60 Seconds

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Orgasms can sometimes come quickly, when you least expect them, and they can also take forever to achieve if you’re not 100% in the game. If having an orgasm consistently takes you awhile, you’re probably wondering how to speed your body up and reach climax faster. Here are some great tips on how to have an orgasm – sometimes in less than a minute!

Relax

The first step to getting your body ready to have a fast orgasm is to relax. Most women (and some men) tense themselves up completely during sex, and when your muscles and body are tensed up, you’re actually going to have a harder time reaching climax than if you were relaxed. This also applies if you’re trying to have sex after work, or when you’re stressed out about something. Day to day life such as work, bills and kids can definitely wreak havoc on your sex life and make it take much, much longer for you to have an orgasm.

Take just a few minutes before you get started to relax. Breathe in and out deeply, and concentrate on relaxing your body from head to toe. Relax your mind as well and imagine all the stresses of the day just melting away. Have a glass of wine to help you along if you’re of age, or take a hot bubble bath with a scented candle. Anything that you do to relax before you start masturbating or having sex will help you to reach orgasm faster.

Foreplay

Foreplay is a huge precursor to having a quick orgasm. If you’re not completely, 100% aroused before you get started, you’re either not going to climax at all or it’s going to take you a long time to finally reach your peak. To make sure you have an orgasm faster than ever before, start with foreplay. Whether before masturbation or before sex, give yourself some time for foreplay and allow yourself to get aroused.

Have your partner stroke your clitoris (or you can do this yourself) slowly, while imagining things that really, really turn you on. A woman’s imagination is one of the most powerful tools at her disposal to help her reach orgasm quickly and easily. If you’re sitting there thinking about the bills while you’re partner is performing oral sex on you, he’s going to be down there for a long time before you’re even halfway to the finish line.

Instead, imagine whatever turns you on most – whether it’s something naughty you haven’t shared with your partner or even another person. This works especially well during masturbation, since you have the freedom to imagine whatever you want without feeling guilty like you might if you were imagining questionable things when you’re with your partner!

Sex Toys

Don’t be afraid to bring sex toys into the bedroom for yourself and for you and your partner. Most women can’t reach orgasm in less than a minute by just using their fingers, but it can happen easily for you if you use a vibrator. Sex toys are easy to use during masturbation, but a lot of women (and men as well) feel that sex toys are for solo play only and not for use by couples. This couldn’t be farther from the truth!

When you’re having sex with your partner, bring out your clitoris vibrator and let your lover use it on you during foreplay. This will help stimulate you and may even cause you to have a fast orgasm before you and your partner even get started having sex! You can also use g-spot vibrators or dildos to help you achieve climax faster during sex if you prefer deeper penetration.

Change The Time Of Day You Get Busy

Whether you’re flying solo or you’re with your partner, having sex at the wrong time of day can significantly impact your ability to orgasm quickly and easily. For example, if you’ve worked all day, come home and cooked dinner and then put the kids to bed, you’re completely exhausted before you and your partner ever get to look at each other and think about sex. If you try to have sex then, it’s going to take you a very long time to reach orgasm and you may find that you’re unable to reach climax at all.

Instead, wake up several minutes early before you have to get ready for the day. Your mind and body will be relaxed, well rested and refreshed, so you will be more ready for sex at this point than if you wait until later in the day!