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Is It Safe For A Pregnant Woman To Have Sex?

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Sex during pregnancy is something lots of men and women wonder about after they have found out they’re going to have a baby. Is intercourse during pregnancy always safe, never safe or sometimes safe? Here’s what you need to know about sex for pregnant women and how to cope if your doctor has instructed you to abstain from sex until the baby is born.

I’d like to say once again that I love your channel and what you guys are trying to do. Well, my friend has gotten his girlfriend pregnant and he feels awkward asking for sex from her. He asked me because I was always that go-to guy for advice, but now I’m stumped. So is it safe for pregnant women to have sex?

–YouTube Viewer

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During The First Trimester

The first trimester of pregnancy – that is, the first three months – the baby is very, very small. In fact, it’s too small to be harmed by even the most wild, vigorous sex. The first month or two, the baby is microscopic and even in the third month, it is only an inch or two long. Sex during this stage of pregnancy is almost always safe, unless your doctor has said otherwise.

However, this is the stage you should be more worried about what goes into the pregnant woman’s body – such as drugs and alcohol. Consuming drugs or alcohol (even smoking cigarettes) during the first trimester can do a lot of damage. Even not getting the proper nutrients during this stage of development can hinder growth and cause problems such as spinal bifida and other malformations.

Too Tired For Sex?

During the first trimester, a lot of women aren’t interested in having sex. The hormones being produced by their bodies make them feel tired and stressed, not to mention that morning sickness usually occurs during this time. And don’t assume that morning sickness happens only in the morning – some women don’t have nausea at all and some feel queasy all day. Don’t pressure your partner if she’s not feeling like having sex – there are plenty of good reasons why.

The Second Trimester

After the first trimester of pregnancy, the nausea begins to subside and a woman may feel like she’s got her “second wind.” She’s probably feeling more like having sex, and may even initiate it with foreplay. This is the part of the pregnancy that you find out the gender of the baby and when she starts to show. But is it still safe even though the baby is getting bigger?

Unless a doctor has told you otherwise, it is perfectly safe to have sex during the second trimester. She may even find it more enjoyable during this time in her life than she ever has before – after all, her genitals are becoming very sensitive now. However, the sex positions that you always use might be more difficult now that the baby is starting to get bigger.

Even though the baby is starting to show, penetration still won’t hurt it because it is surrounded by protective amniotic fluid, the uterus and muscles.

The Third Trimester

This is the trimester in which the baby really starts to put on weight. You’ll notice that your partner is getting bigger and bigger each week, and finding comfortable sex positions is becoming even more difficult. Doggy style is a popular sex position during this stage of pregnancy because it allows the belly to stay out of the way.

As a woman progresses into pregnancy and her body gets ready to give birth, getting busy may actually speed the process along. Once a baby has become “full term,” usually around the 40th week of pregnancy, the hormones in a man’s semen (and the vigorous motion created during penetration) can actually induce labor. It’s also not uncommon for this to happen during the 38th or 39th week of pregnancy.

When Sex During Pregnancy Isn’t Safe

There are going to be times when engaging in sexual activity during pregnancy isn’t safe for the woman or the baby. Usually, this is in the case of very high risk pregnancies. Ask a doctor whether the pregnancy is considered high risk and if it is okay to have sex. Don’t be afraid to get specific and ask which activities and sex positions are safe and which aren’t.

If intercourse becomes painful for a woman during the pregnancy, let the doctor know immediately. Intercourse during pregnancy may be uncomfortable at times, but it shouldn’t be painful. Many guys (and girls) are embarrassed to talk to their doctors about things of a sexual nature, but her obstetrician is going to have the best answers for you on what is safe and what isn’t.

What To Do If You Can’t Have Sex

If your girl is up to it, consider being intimate with each other in ways that don’t include penetration if your doctor has suggested you abstain from intercourse. Many guys are afraid they’re going to be left out if their pregnant partners can’t have sex, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Oral sex is a great way to satisfy her sexually and vice versa. Very rarely, if ever, is oral sex dangerous to a developing fetus.

You can also experiment with sex toys for her that don’t involve penetration, such as vibrators for the clitoris. Anal play can also be an option if she’s into it and her doctor has given the green light on it. Be creative and explore different ways to please each other sexually without engaging in actual intercourse.

If She Doesn’t Want – Or Can’t Do – Anything

If intercourse is out and she just doesn’t want to (or can’t for some reason) try oral sex or any other type of sexual activity, you’re just going to have to bite the bullet on this one. A masturbation sleeve can be your best friend during this time, because you might just have to resort to it more often than you actually get to do it with your partner.

Don’t pressure her for intercourse if she can’t or doesn’t want to. Her body is going through many changes and there’s lots of good reasons that she might not want to engage in any kind of sexual activity at all. Just grab a bottle of lube and take a few minutes to take care of things yourself. Your partner will appreciate not being hounded about having sex when she just doesn’t feel like it.

Top 10 Best Places To Have Public Sex

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Sex in public is a fantasy that a lot of people have, including both men and women. The thrill of doing it where people might see you, or the fear of getting caught is a huge aphrodisiac for many. Here are some outstanding places to get busy in public and satisfy your urge for voyeurism. Use these ideas to turn the heat up on your sex life, tonight!

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Public Sex Disclaimer

In most places in America (and around the world), having sex in public is illegal. If you get caught, you could get fined or even go to jail. In some countries, the punishment for engaging in sexual acts is much more severe. Be mindful of the laws in your area and act accordingly. Also, be respectful of the people around you. Getting caught by kids is not cool! Explore your sexual fantasies but remember to do so in a responsible way.

In A Wave Pool At A Water Park

Even the most daring couples will have fun in a wave pool at a water park because it’s actually very public. At most water parks, there are a ton of people in the wave pool at any given time. You’ll definitely be in the close proximity of others, but it is possible to have sex in a wave pool without getting caught. Be creative with your timing and go later in the evening, when there is less chance that there will be lots of parents and children around.

On A Virtual Roller Coaster Ride At An Amusement Park

You can’t safely have sex on a real roller coaster, but doing it on a virtual roller coaster ride can be a lot of fun too. You have the small, cozy enclosed space and the up and down motion of the ride to assist in your partner’s penetration and thrusting. It’s also pretty much impossible to get caught if you and your partner have snagged a ride by yourselves, unless there are cameras that monitor the activity inside the ride.

At A Dog Park

Shed your inhibitions and do it doggy style in a dog park like the real dogs do! Pick a bush or tree to hide behind as you and your lover get it on, but beware of getting caught by people and furry friends alike. Also, beware of dog poop. Most people in a dog park are respectful and clean up their pet’s feces with a bag and dispose of it properly, but some don’t and getting dog poop on your body will ruin your sexy fun instantly.

Skinny Dipping At The Lake

Instead having sex with your lover in your tent or car, cool off by stripping your clothes off and going skinny dipping in the lake. Pretty much everyone has sex in the lake, so getting caught is almost a non-issue here. Make sure you’re out of the way of any boats or anyone else and enjoy the weightless feeling the water gives you. This is a great time to try standing sex positions because the water will help hold your partner up!

In A Bed At The Emergency Room

Long wait times will ensure privacy here and if you’ve ever been to the emergency room, you know it could be hours before the doctor comes to see you or sends a nurse for testing and blood work. Take advantage of this time and get busy on the emergency room bed. Just make sure not to try this during a real emergency!

In A Public Park On A Swing Set

A great way to try different sex positions with ease is by using the swing set at a public park. Imagine using the swing to swing your partner in and out of you or swinging together and only using the motion of the equipment to aid your thrusting rather than thrusting with your muscles. This can be an incredible turn on, but try it late at night when there aren’t any kids around. Also, don’t strip down completely – it can be much harder to hide what you’re doing if you do get caught if you and your lover are completely naked.

Also, consider just using the swings for foreplay and head home for the main event. The great feeling of having sex in public will still be there even when you head home, and it’s a lot easier to hide what you’re doing and avoid getting caught if you’re just giving a handjob.

In Santa’s Big Chair At The Mall

This is a great place for a Christmas time romp in public. Malls usually stay open late, and the “Christmas Wonderland” scenes are usually shut down and roped off – meaning no people and no kids. Definitely don’t try this when there are kids around! Hop up in Santa’s chair and have some sensual but risqué sex. And don’t forget to tell Santa what you want for Christmas – and what your naughty fantasies are.

At A Public Gym In The Locker Room

After a great workout when you’re adrenaline is pumping and you’re hot and sweaty, get a little frisky with your lover in the locker room. You can easily get caught here without some planning, so make sure you’re at the gym when there aren’t very many people there. Most locker rooms have private showers in them, and you can sneak your partner in there and close the curtain for some private (yet still public) fun.

In A Phone Booth

This is also a great way to dabble with public sex in a private way. Phone booths are pretty tiny though, so make sure you and your partner can both fit in there to begin with. Also, consider bringing lube with you just to make things go more smoothly. In fact, lube is probably an essential component of public sex period – a little stage fright can definitely affect a woman’s ability to produce adequate sexual lubrication.

In The VIP Area Of A Swank Nightclub

If you can get into the VIP area of a nightclub, their swank sofas and sensual atmosphere is perfect for sex. A blowjob under the table probably won’t get you caught, but full on sex will. If you want to get really wild, consider finding a swinger nightclub that allows that kind of thing. Check out the rules before you go and feel it out before the pants come off.

10 Best Places To Have Sex And Feel One With Nature

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Sex can sometimes get boring when you’re doing it in the bedroom every time you and your lover want to get busy. Sure, you can do it on the couch or in the shower, but why not take it totally outside the house? Connect with your outdoor surroundings by having sex with your lover in these amazing places.

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In An Outdoor Hot Tub Overlooking The Ski Slopes

Having sex with your lover in a hot tub is incredible – but imagine doing it in a hot tub surrounded by mountains of beautiful, crisp snow. Not only is this a super hot place to have sex with your partner, but it’s also one of the best places if you’re looking for romance. If your hot tub isn’t private, you may have other couples joining you (which may or may not be a bad thing depending on how you look at it), but if you want some privacy, find a hotel with a Jacuzzi on the balcony.

On A Nude Beach (Or Any Beach) At Night

Sex on the beach is amazing – there’s a reason they named a drink after it. It’s a wonderful experience being intimate with your partner while being surrounded by frothy ocean waves and the sea salt in the air. The only downside to this? Sand! And of course, getting caught which is why choosing a nude beach may work in your favor. If your lover isn’t bothered by sand, choose sex positions where they are on the bottom, or try doggy style where only your knees are in the sand. Or, bring a blanket!

Inside A Butterfly House

This is a very romantic place to have sex and connect with nature. You’re surrounded by flowers and thousands of butterflies – girls love this! Aside from being careful not to get caught, you also want to be very mindful of what is around you. You don’t want to go destroying the habitat of the butterflies! Find a spot where you’re not likely to disturb anything and get it on. If you think you have time for foreplay before anyone heads your way, go for it! In fact, this may be a place where foreplay is better than actually doing it.

In A Canoe In The Middle Of The Lake Under The Stars At Night

Everyone has sex at the lake – that’s just what happens! But you can put a new spin on this by actually doing it in a canoe in the middle of the lake. The experience of the water rocking underneath you is wonderful! Finding different sex positions to use in a canoe can be a little difficult, so try using an air mattress instead if the canoe just isn’t your thing. Don’t tip it over and fall off, and remember to hug the shore so you don’t end up in the path of a large boat or jet ski.

In An Underground Cave

This place provides you with a private, dark and cozy place to connect with the Earth and your lover. One of the great things about an underground cave is that while it is outdoors, it is also very private and the risk of getting caught here is minimal at best. Avoid caverns that are known to have bears and make sure to dress warm or bring a nice, thick blanket because underground caves and caverns can get downright chilly!

In A Field Of Pure, White Snow

Find a large field of pure, white snow that has been undisturbed. You can usually find one just after it snows, in the early hours of the morning before anyone has bothered the area. Being in a field of snow really dampens the sound around you, so it’s a great place if you’re looking to have sex somewhere amazingly peaceful. Oral sex can be great here, because the experience of the cold snow in conjunction with your partner’s hot mouth is incredible.

In A Field Of Daisies

This is a very sweet, romantic place to have sex with your partner. Girls love flowers, so having sex in a field full of them is an experience she will never forget. However, if you or your partner have bad allergies or are allergic to daisies or bees, this probably isn’t the best place to go for really great sex. Who wants to sneeze ten times during a blowjob?

At The Top Of The Grand Canyon

While this isn’t as cozy as having sex at the bottom of the Grand Canyon, it does provide for some amazing views. This is even better at sunset, when the golden rays of the sun are caressing you and your lover’s sweat kissed skin as you enjoy making love in a place that is absolutely breathtaking.

In A Fragrant Flower Garden

Instead of giving your partner a bouquet of flowers, up the romance by taking her to a huge flower garden and laying her naked body across the soft, sweet smelling flower petals. She will never want it to end! Not only will the sex be amazing, you’ll also get big brownie points for the romance factor. Be careful of thorns though – don’t have sex in the rosebushes.

If you really like the idea of having sex on a bed of flower petals, prep the area first by laying out hundreds of petals in place that doesn’t have any thorns – or just do this in your bedroom. You can almost always get flower petals at a discount from florists – they bag up the ones that fall off the flowers and sell them for much less than they sell the actual flowers. Just use lots of petals – the effect is lost if there’s only a few.

Under A Natural Waterfall

This is a super sexy place to get it on with your lover because the sound and feel of the rushing water creates a feeling of power and lust that is unmatched by any other place. Since you pretty much won’t be able to hear anything besides the water, you’re going on feeling alone and that can be incredibly sensual.

How To Sustain Sex Longer And Give Women Amazing Orgasms

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Giving an orgasm is at the top of the list for most guys, but many guys don’t know how. Here is a simple, powerful way to give an orgasm and sensational sex!

Emotional distress. Lower self-image. Relationship breakdown. Marriage on the rocks. Sexual infidelity. These are REAL problems that many men have to go through when they persistently suffer from premature ejaculation. And you know that if you can’t last long enough, you’re sure as heck not going to give her a great orgasm. While PE is twice as common as its other “cousin” – erectile dysfunction – it is FAR less understood by the majority of men. If you are keen to get a handle on your early ejaculation problem, you will want to read keep reading and learn one powerful way to delay YOUR orgasm so she can get hers.

The Preeminence Of Sexual Endurance

Many men equate sexual endurance as the prerequisite for giving women sensational sex. That is true to a large extent. In fact, many women complain that their partners aren’t lasting long enough to sexually fulfill them. And we probably know too well of relationships that have been torn apart because the man persistently ejaculates too early.

The Illusion Of The Magic Number

Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates earlier then desired. For 25 to 40 percent of men worldwide, this typically means a male orgasm occurs within 2 minutes during vaginal penetration. That said, many men focus too much on the specific duration they should last. They fret over the fact that they cannot last like porn actors do. The simple truth is, sex that lasts too long can be painful and uncomfortable for the woman! The lubrication in the vagina typically dries up from prolonged thrusting.

So what’s the magic number, you asked? Simple! In most cases, intercourse just needs to last as long as a You Tube clip to be satisfactory. That means 3-5 minutes on average, not including the amount of foreplay time. And studies have consistently shown that lovemaking that lasts 7 to 13 minutes is the most desirable.

“Endurance Superiority” vs. “Female Orgasms”

Women are biologically wired to respond VERY slowly to physical sexual stimulation. That is why in general, your wife, girlfriend or partner needs at least 7 to 15 minutes of consistent stimulation during penetration to get aroused to the point of vaginal orgasm. Compare that with the short one to two minutes that bring most men from arousal to orgasm!

So, if you want to desirable sex, you should be lasting at least 7 minutes during sex… and this poses a REAL challenge for the vast majority of men.

The Trick To Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Triggering Faster Female Orgasms

Stop relying on your penis to stimulate and bring your woman to a climax. In fact, a man’s most prized member is the lousiest tool to help women achieve the big “O”! Besides thrusting in and out, what else can your penis do?

Instead, what you should do is to focus on giving your woman enough stimulation to her clitoris. It is difficult to do this with your penis, so use your fingers/thumb or your tongue instead. Pound for pound, the tongue has the strongest muscle on the human body, and is extremely powerful and flexible in stimulating the clitoris. Plus, since you are not using your penis, it helps you manage your arousal better and gives you more endurance in bed.

Proper clitoral stimulation will quicken her ability to enjoy an orgasm sooner. So give her one before you start having intercourse with her. The great thing is, when you’ve made her climax BEFORE penetrative sex, it becomes ten times easier for her to achieve a vaginal orgasm during intercourse… and in her eyes, you become the man with superior stamina that she has been dreaming of!

I’m A Teenage Macrophile – What If It Gets Out?

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BDSM and sexual fetishes are things you might not want some people in your life (or anyone) knowing about you. This can be difficult if your fetish often involves using websites for art and interaction with other people – like with Macrophilia. Posting on BDSM and fetish forums can be fun, but protecting your identity is important. Here’s how to do that – and how to handle it if your secret gets out.

I am scared because I have been a macrophile all my young life. And I submit cute Macrophile pictures on a public art website. But more of my peers are joining the site and they know my user name. My close friends know and are fine with it, but some people I don’t trust also know! the teens at my school are evil in general and would go crazy if they found out! what should I do!?

–YouTube Viewer

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What Is Macrophilia?

Macrophilia is a sexual fetish involving big, giant things. Most often, this is in the form of giant women, however, macrophilia can also involve giant breasts or penises. This fetish is most often expressed through art and anime. While some people may consider this type of sexual interest “weird” or “strange,” there’s really nothing wrong with it as long as it involves consenting adults only and doesn’t hurt anyone.

Sharing Your Interests Makes You Vulnerable To Outside Judgement

While sharing your sexual interests with others who like the same things you do automatically makes you vulnerable to outside judgement. That’s the risk you take by opening yourself up to other people when it involves your fetishes. It doesn’t matter how old you are – whether you’re a young teenager or an older adult – if you put yourself out there like that, you risk getting judged by other people who are uncomfortable with your fetish. It also doesn’t matter what you like – even if it’s just enjoying sex toys – there is bound to be someone or somewhere that will disagree with your interests.

This means that it is often easier to be very discreet about who you share your personal interests with, especially interests of a sexual nature. Instead of subjecting yourself to public ridicule and judgement from other people who likely have interests of their own that other people would also call strange, being discreet and private in the online community will benefit you much, much more. If you stay anonymous, you are able to enjoy your fantasies rather than being worried someone you know will find you and make fun of you publicly.

Keeping your private life private doesn’t suggest what you’re doing is wrong. It just means that you’re aware that people aren’t always accepting of others and may not be understanding about what you like and find erotic. You’re simply just making things easier on yourself.

How To Be Discreet

In the online community – especially with BDSM and fetish forums – it is easy to be anonymous. Your username can be something totally unrelated to you and you can choose not to share your email address with others in the forum. This makes sure that no one from your real life persona can tie you to your online persona.

Be careful not to make references in your posts or anything that you do online to your real persona or your real life. Don’t talk about people you really know or things that happened to you. Keep your real life and your online personality completely, 100% separate. When you have a completely private profile, you can freely express your opinions and talk about what is important to you without fearing the backlash you would get if someone you know in real life found out.

What To Do If The Cat Gets Out Of The Bag

If someone you know in real life does find out about your secret fetish, it can get pretty complicated. Your first thought might be that you’re embarrassed and if you’re a teenager, you may be worried that someone in your school will start making fun of you publicly in front of your peers.

Talk to someone neutral, that has the ability to be objective about the situation and what your interests are, such as a guidance counselor, a therapist or a very trusted friend. If you’re in school, a guidance counselor or a teacher may be able to help keep you safe from bullying.

Remember that there’s nothing wrong with having sexual likes that are different from everyone else’s. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s nothing wrong with it at all. You may have to learn to let the fact that others aren’t going to accept your fetish or fantasy and just get on with your life!