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6 Sex Misconceptions – Rules That Were Meant To Be Broken

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Sex includes many unspoken guidelines that supposedly dictate what can or can’t be done in or outside the bedroom. However, sex can get boring fast that way. There are many myths about sex – in fact, some of these “guidelines” for sex can definitely go to the wayside. Break these so-called guidelines and spice up your sex life tonight!

Myth #1 – Men Don’t Like Giving Oral Sex

It’s a common myth that men enjoy getting a blowjob, but they don’t exactly like to return the favor. This myth originates from the “I don’t feel so fresh” ads from long ago, where women got a bad rap for having a smell – of any kind – down there. The truth is, some guys don’t like going down on a girl – but most of them actually do. Women are terrified they don’t smell right, even if it’s just the natural scent of their bodies. Don’t worry about it and let your man blow your mind with his tongue.

Myth #2 – You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date

Sex on the first date has long been a “faux pas.” You’re supposed to wait until at least the third date, right? This is an old rule that should definitely be broken – that is, if you have the opportunity to be on a date with someone who so totally rocks your world that you can’t wait to get your hands on his clothes and rip them off. In that case, why not? If you and your date are both consenting adults and have discussed safe sex, seriously – why not?

Myth #3 – Sex Should Be Serious

Yes, all the sex scenes in the movies make us feel as though our sex lives are nowhere near as enthralling, but come on – who hasn’t passed gas on accident while getting it on after burritos and margaritas for dinner? Come on! Sex is fun, and it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. If you accidentally make an idiot out of yourself, get stuck in a not-so-flattering sex position, or get interrupted by a call from the in-laws, laugh it off and go back to doing whatever you were doing before. Your mate will love your good sense of humor and the ability to roll with the punches.

Myth #4 – You Have To Have An Orgasm Every Time

Pretty much every woman has been in the situation where she’s not in the mood, but he can’t keep his hands off her. Many women will give in and give their guy some lovin’, but they’ll end up faking their orgasm so he thinks she’s satisfied. Hold up – it’s totally okay not to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your man. It’s okay to put out just for him, because he’ll get yours next time. What isn’t okay is letting your guy believe that whatever he did to give you the big “O” is what he needs to do every time…and the only person that suffers in that situation is you.

Myth #5 – If You’re Great In Bed, You’re Great With Everyone

A lot of people believe that if you’re really great in bed, you can rock anyone’s world. But everyone has a different idea of what great sex is and what it isn’t. Everyone likes something different between the sheets, and you can’t please everyone. Truth is, you can be really great at sex with one person and give them multiple orgasms in a single sex session, and the next person you sleep with, you can totally bomb out and wonder what the hell happened to your mad skills. If you’re in a relationship, focus on being the best for that person. If you’re single, just have fun!

Myth #6 – If He Cheated, He Doesn’t Care About You

Men have gotten a bad rap for being notorious cheaters. In fact, rumor has it that most men who cheat on their partners do it because they just don’t love them anymore. Right? Wrong! If your man cheats on you, chances are, he didn’t mean to. Ask him. He may have been drunk and in a compromising situation, where a woman was all over him and wouldn’t leave him alone. Or he may have thought he wanted something and then realized it was a very, very big mistake. Cheating is not the end of the road ladies, unless you’re absolutely sure that’s what you want. He may still love you and want to be with you – talk it through and ask him why. You might be surprised at what you hear.

Crazy Things Women Do For Adult Films

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Porn actresses have great bodies and have squeaky clean anal sex – but how do they get it? Are their vaginas just naturally the perfect shade of pink, with tiny, delicate looking labia? Truth is, women in the porn industry do a lot to their bodies to get them looking just right, especially for close ups. Check out the intense things porn stars do to get ready for the camera.

Anal Bleaching

Yes, you heard that right. Many adult film actresses have been known to have their anuses bleached, particularly right before a big anal sex or analingus scene. This is so the puckered skin around the anus appears lighter and less “brown,” making the anus look cleaner and more appealing on camera. Women can have this done at salons who offer this service, or a special cream can be purchased and applied in the privacy of the home. Anal bleaching is relatively safe, however, creams and bleaches should not be used if the anal area is inflamed or irritated in any way.

Brazilian Waxing

Women that you see in porn flicks are almost always perfectly smooth and hairless down there. If you’ve ever shaved your pubic region before, you know that you rarely – if ever – get a shave that close. The truth is, most porn stars get their privates waxed. This is called a Brazilian wax and usually involves taking off all the hair in the groin area, in between and around the labia and around the anus. This gives a silky smooth appearance, but can be quite painful.

Nipple Tinting

While photo and video editing software can be used to give the nipples that “rosy pink flush” that looks so great on film after the fact, many actresses in porn still use lip and cheek tints to give their nipples a more pink appearance in the flesh. This makes it look as though the woman is much more aroused than she really is. For this same reason, ice is often used on the nipples in between takes to make them pucker up and stand erect.

Labia Tinting

Lip and cheek tints can also be used on the labia area to make them look more pink and flushed, as though the woman is incredibly turned on and her genitals are swollen with arousal. Special tints for the vaginal area also exist, but are generally more expensive. If you’ve ever wondered why a porn star’s labia are so pink and fresh looking, it’s most likely because they’ve applied some kind of labia tint before the camera started rolling.

Enemas And Laxatives

Those anal sex scenes can be tough, because unless it’s a fetish video, fecal matter is a “no-no” on set. Most porn actresses will give themselves an enema beforehand, rinsing their colons completely clear of any matter whatsoever. Others will use laxatives to clean themselves out so they don’t have any accidents on screen. This gives couples engaging in anal sex on their own think that it’s going to be a perfectly clean activity – when in reality, if the woman hasn’t prepared herself beforehand, it can actually get pretty messy.

Extreme Dieting

Many girls in the adult film industry will end up dieting to the extreme just to make their bodies appear thinner on screen, but extreme dieting is also used when an anal sex scene is to be filmed, in conjunction with enemas or laxatives. Women in porn have been known to starve themselves up to twenty four hours to prepare for a scene, just to make sure that the anal play ends up squeaky clean. On the other hand, women in “golden shower” fetish videos will take in an excess of liquids to make sure she has enough urine for the many different takes that will be filmed.

Labiaplasty And Breast Augmentation

It’s pretty obvious that a large number of women in the adult film industry have gotten a boob job. You can tell by the way their breasts barely move as they’re getting pounded on screen, and the way the skin of their breasts look stretched tight over their too large implants. However, you might not be able to tell that many women in the industry have also gotten labiaplasties.

These surgeries involve shortening the labia so they look smaller and more dainty, giving the vagina an overall tinier and tighter appearance. This gives the illusion and creates the misconception that vaginas should look perfect to be considered attractive, when in reality, vaginas are all shapes, sizes and colors!

Porn: How To Make Your Own (And Make It Great)

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Making a porn flick with your lover sounds really hot, but it can lack a lot of luster when you play it back after the fact. You may not look the way you want to, the angle of the camera may not flatter you or things that you thought would translate well on screen don’t. If you want to do a porn with your partner, there are a few technical things to keep in mind when you’re making the movie. Here’s how you can be sure your amateur porn looks as hot as it was doing it!

Watch A Few Porn Videos Together

Sit down with your partner and watch a few adult movies together. Figure out what you like and what you don’t like. Decide what looks hot and looks like you might want to try, and decide what you want to keep off screen. For example, don’t videotape your first time engaging in anal sex. That just won’t go well. Figure out what you want to do first, next and then how you want to finish up. Don’t be afraid to write it down. Professionals have a script and a storyboard, why can’t you?

Consider Hiring A Trusted Friend

One of the best things about real porn is that the camera goes in and out, focusing on different aspects of what the couple on screen is doing and grabbing those awesome close ups. You just aren’t going to achieve that with a standing tripod. If you want one camera angle, or don’t have anyone that you feel close enough with to ask this favor, a tripod will be fine.

However, if you want a film that turns out really great, consider hiring a close friend that you trust (perhaps even one with some knowledge of video cameras and filming techniques) to film you and your lover getting down. The finished product will most likely turn out much, much better and you’ll get views of you and your partner that you’ve never had before.

Invest In A Good Camera

No, the video camera on your cell phone isn’t going to work this time. If you don’t already have a good video camera, it may be time to invest in one before you start filming an amateur porn. It may be a pricey investment, however, you’ll be very glad you spent the money when you view the end result. Poor quality video cameras tend to be grainy or pixelated, making it difficult for you to see what’s really going on in the movie. When detail is important, a good camera is essential. Why would you want to tape a homemade porn when you’re not going to be able to see saliva on your partner’s penis as you give him a blowjob or vice versa when he’s giving you oral sex?

Make Sure You Have The Right Lighting

Lighting plays a very important part in any movie, and porn is no exception. Porn lighting can be tricky though, because you want enough light to make sure the camera picks up on everything, but you don’t want the fluorescent kind that highlights your every flaw. You can rent some lighting setups from your local rental agency, or you can purchase a few cheap floodlights from a hardware or home building store.

Buy An Outfit (Or Two)

Don’t wear your old, ratty pajamas when you shoot a homemade porn. Instead, spend a few extra bucks and get something nice for both you and your partner to wear. Lingerie, of course, looks great on camera, but it’s very important that you find something that flatters your body type. If you can fit into a garter belt and a pair of stockings without a muffin top hanging out, good for you. Go for it! However, if you’re a little bigger, you’ll want to buy something that flatters you.

Not so fond of your stomach? Try a baby doll top with sheer, filmy organza that flutters over your stomach and rests on your hips. Don’t like your arms but think your legs are bangin? Splurge on a minidress with tight long sleeves that rests just below where your butt and your legs meet. High heels or stilettos are a must for women, simply because no matter what you’re wearing, they’ll make your legs look fantastic.

Grooming

Grooming before shooting a porn is important, because you want to look your best. Of course, hair and makeup is a must but what about body makeup? Find a color of concealer or foundation that matches your body’s skin tone and use it to cover up blemishes on your legs and arms. You’d be surprised at how a bruise that you didn’t even know you had shows up on film after the fact.

You’ll also want to trim or shave your pubic hair, legs and armpits. Men may want to trim or shave their chest hair, depending on what you want to look like on film.

Use Editing Software

So your video is filmed and you’re ready to make the finished product. Consider purchasing or downloading video editing software to help you in the process. With editing software, you really can turn something mediocre into something fabulous. Just being able to cut out the scenes that you’re not happy with is well worth it right there, not counting the countless other cool features that can give your video that “wow” factor.

Above all, make sure that you’re filming a porn with someone that you trust and don’t allow copies to be made that aren’t expressly agreed upon by both of you. Remember to have fun and if you and your partner split, make sure the tape and any copies (digital or otherwise) are destroyed. Next time you and your lover want to heat things up, throw in your homemade porn and watch you and your lover get it on!

7 Blowjob Tips That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A blowjob is heavenly for a guy – even if you suck at it (pun intended). If you’re feeling like your oral sex skills are sub-par, spicing up your routine a bit isn’t difficult. These seven tips will show you how to step up your game when it comes to giving your partner fellatio and you’ll learn how to give him a blowjob so good, he’ll go weak at the knees.

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Sex Positions For A Blowjob

You may think that sex positions are only good for intercourse, but finding the right one for a blowjob is key for his pleasure – and your comfort. Lots of girls absolutely hate giving their guy head simply because they can’t find a position that doesn’t put an instant cramp in their neck! The other thing to think about when finding the right position to give your man a blowjob is his viewpoint. You definitely want him to be able to see you do your thing – this is what is going to make him melt!

Try kneeling on a pillow while your partner sits in a chair, on the couch or on the edge of a bed. This will keep you from holding your head at an odd angle, making your neck sore.

Sloppy Wet

Don’t try to suck in all your spit when giving head – in fact, let the drool dribble out of your mouth, down your partner’s shaft and onto his legs. The sloppier the blowjob, the better. Keep a towel nearby for easy clean up afterwards, but while you’re going down on him, don’t worry about keeping it dry. It feels much, much better for him the wetter it is.

Use A Cock Ring

Sure, you can use a vibrator or a g-spot stimulator on a girl while you give her oral sex, but most people don’t know what sex toys can be used when going down on a guy. While most male sex toys are made for manual stimulation, a cock ring can be used during a blowjob to enhance the pleasurable sensations you’re giving your man.

Slip the cock ring over the head of his penis after he’s hard and slide it all the way down to the bottom of the shaft. This will help keep blood in the head of his penis, allowing him to stay rock hard during the blowjob and feel every little thing you’re doing. Don’t have a cock ring? Simply wrap your thumb and your forefinger around the base of the penis until the tips of your fingers are touching, forming a tight ring around his shaft.

Learn To Deep Throat

If you’ve never tried to deep throat your partner, you don’t know just how challenging this can be for a woman to do for her fella. The gag reflex is a powerful reflex and when it’s stimulated, it can be difficult not to gag or vomit. Every girl has a secret fear of trying to deep throat and ending up puking on her man’s lap. However, surprising your man with a deep throat maneuver during a blowjob will rock his world. Learning how to do it (without puking) will definitely up the “wow” factor when you give your guy head, so it’s well worth it to try.

In this case, practice makes perfect. Practice on a banana and breathe through your nose until you get the hang of it. Go slow and give yourself plenty of time to learn this difficult but worthwhile skill.

Let Him Come Where He Pleases

A lot of guys have a secret ejaculation fantasy – he may get really turned on by the idea by ejaculating on your face (also known as a “facial”) or on your breasts when he’s reached orgasm after a blowjob. So ask him what he’d like to do and let him do it! It might seem gross to you to let him ejaculate all over your face, but if you let him and act like you’re enjoying it (make it believable!) he’ll melt at the fact that you’ve let him try his secret oral sex fantasy.

Lick Around A Little First

Many women simply dive right in when they give a blowjob and start sucking fervently right away. While this isn’t necessarily a “no-no” (the guy’s still getting head, right?) but your man would definitely appreciate it if you slowed it down a bit when you’re just getting started. Men need foreplay to warm up too!

Tease him a little by nibbling on his lower stomach and his cut lines, before lightly running your tongue up and down his shaft while he watches. You can also rub your nipples and breasts over his shaft as you lick and kiss his tummy. He’ll be begging you to put his member in your mouth before you’re done.

Get Vocal

Don’t give him a quiet blowjob. Nothing is worse for a guy when his lady makes him feel like giving him head is a chore. Instead, get a little vocal and act like you’re enjoying it too. You don’t have to go all out and sound like a porn star giving a stellar performance, but you definitely don’t want to be entirely quiet. In between the lascivious sounds of you sucking him off, give him a deep moan or two that will make him feel like you’re getting off too. Better yet, rub your clitoris a little while going down on him to make him think that you’re so turned on by giving him a blowjob that you just couldn’t handle it anymore.

Top Erogenous Zones For Men And Women

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Most sex tips cover instructions on how to stimulate areas on both men and women that are well known to create pleasure, but there are actually lots of pleasure points that many sex tips and advice manuals don’t cover. Here’s a list of spots on a woman’s body (and a man’s) that when touched, licked or tickled will drive them absolutely wild!

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Best Pleasure Points For Women

Lips, Neck And Ears

Women love the soft, sensual feeling of kissing, so their lips are a huge pleasure point. Her neck and ears also contain lots of pleasure receptors, and you can use them to your advantage when kissing your girl. Kiss her softly on the lips, letting your tongue slide ever so slightly across her mouth. Then, kiss and lick softly down her chin, up her neck and behind her ears. Draw her earlobe into your mouth for a light suck and she’ll melt.

Breasts And Nipples

The breasts and nipples are obvious pleasure points on a woman (they’re mentioned in almost every sex tips manual), but few mean really know how to use them to get a girl warmed up before sex. A lot of men will tweak or pinch a woman’s nipples expecting her to become turned on, when in reality, she craves a soft and gentle touch at first. Spend time caressing your lover’s breasts with your hands and kissing softly and rubbing your lips across her nipples. Use your breath to blow warm or cool air on your partner’s wet nipples to send shivers down her spine.

Inner Thighs, Behind The Knees, Crease Of The Elbow

These pleasure spots aren’t ones that you normally hear about, but they’re powerful ones nonetheless. When you’re kissing and licking up and down your partner’s body during foreplay, don’t skip her inner thighs, the back of her knees and the crease of her elbow. These spots are packed with nerve endings and pleasure receptors and when these spots are caressed, it will drive her wild.

Clitoris And G-Spot

These are obvious hot points and you definitely don’t want to skip over them when getting your partner turned on! When licking her inner thighs, let your tongue brush lightly over her clitoris to tease her and bring her closer to orgasm. When you’ve had enough foreplay and are ready to get the main event started, start giving her oral sex. Slip one or two fingers gently inside her vagina (make sure that she’s either wet enough or you have a generous amount of lube on hand) and find her g-spot.

Best Pleasure Points For Men

Neck And Ears

Both men and women enjoy having their neck and ears stimulated. When making out with your lover, kiss him softly on the lips and then move your way to his neck and right behind his ear. When licking and sucking this sensitive skin, breathe heavily and make sure he can hear the delicious sounds you’re making as you savor his skin.

The “Happy Trail” And His “Cut Lines”

The “happy trail” is the area between the navel and the start of a man’s groin. The “cut lines” are areas on either side of the groin where the legs come meet the abdomen. Both of these areas are very sensitive and you can use them to your advantage as you’re licking and sucking all over your partner’s body.

The Head Of The Penis

When you feel like you’ve had plenty of foreplay and are ready to take things to the next level, begin giving your lover a blowjob – but don’t put your lips all the way down his shaft! Instead, you’re going to focus all of your licking and sucking on the head of your partner’s penis while you hold his shaft in place with your hand. This area is extremely sensitive (the most sensitive part of his penis) and he may not be able to tolerate a lot right away, so start slow. This is definitely one of those sex tips that will get him squirming!

Perineum And Prostate Gland

A man’s “g-spot” is considered to be his prostate gland and when stimulating it, you can give him some of the most amazing orgasms he’s ever had. If your man is anal shy, try rubbing firmly or pressing a vibrator against his perineum (the area between his scrotum and anus). This creates indirect stimulation to the prostate gland. If your guy digs anal play, lube up and slip your fingers (or a prostate massager) in about two inches and make the “come hither” motion. He’ll love it!