Sex Tips & Advice

4 Sex Positions That Are Perfect For Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day should involve great sex – and many guys think that involves trying all kinds of new things. But should you use new, crazy weird sex positions to rev things up? No! Not at all! In all seriousness, feeling like a pretzel on Valentine’s Day is more likely to turn your girl off than to catapult her to orgasm. Instead, use these four tried but true sex positions (with an interesting twist!)

1. The Lotus Position

Even though this is considered to be a pretty basic sex position by most seasoned sex gurus, many couples haven’t tried it. If you and your partner haven’t, consider yourself all set for Valentine’s Day! You’ll get to try a “new” sex position with your girl, but it’s one that won’t leave her feeling cheap and used.

If you have used it before, that’s okay. It’s still great for Valentine’s Day because it involves lots of cuddling and face to face intimacy. Yep – Valentine’s Day is all about the romance. That doesn’t mean it stops as soon as the sex starts. Your job is to carry it over and make getting it on with your lover as romantic as the rest of your gifts.

2. Reverse Cowgirl

Okay, you’ve done the lotus, you’ve had lots of cuddle time and have romanced your girl until you’re blue in the face. You’re both ready for some action! Throw caution to the wind and put your lover in the reverse cowgirl position. This is an excellent sex position to use because not only do you get an incredible show, she gets friction on her clitoris from your scrotum, bringing her closer to orgasm than with other sex positions.

Why This Will Work On Valentine’s Day

She knows she’s going to be having sex on the 14th. She’s had it in her mind for weeks. She’s likely bought special panties or a lingerie set already. There’s not a snowball’s chance in hell that she’s gone “au natural” on the big day. You can bet your bottom dollar that she’s clean, trimmed and prepped so as to be “ready” for anything on Valentine’s Day. Use this to your advantage.

Reverse cowgirl is one of the sex positions that women will engage in only if they’re comfortable enough with their bodies and only if they’re super clean and trimmed or shaved down there. A woman is not going to put herself on display for you like that unless she’s totally confident that she looks good.

3. Spooning

Again, while this is a widely used sex position, it is an excellent choice for February 14th because it involves lots of romance and intimacy. You can kiss and caress your partner’s ears, neck and shoulders while you slowly penetrate her from behind, while running your hands all over her breasts, hips and finally resting on her clitoris.

Not only will this sex position make her feel super loved and cherished (which is a total turn on for women), you can also help her reach orgasm faster by fingering her clitoris – just make sure you use lube!

4. Yep…Missionary!

Believe it or not, missionary is probably still one of the best Valentine’s Day sex positions out there. Yes, it’s completely played out. It’s been done and done again, and it’s become the running joke of sex positions couples who have really boring sex lives use. But that’s definitely become the stereotype of the missionary position – that doesn’t mean it actually is boring.

The truth about the missionary position is that it is what you make it. If you think it’s going to be boring, it’s going to be boring. If you instead allow yourself to live “in the moment” and savor each and every sensation you experience – from the sights to the smells to the tastes – then you’re going to have fantastic sex, and it won’t even matter what position you use!

Make missionary sex incredible this Valentine’s Day by making it sweet and romantic. Engage in lots of foreplay first. Give her oral sex so good, she’ll think you’re in love with going down on her and aren’t ever going to stop. By the time you get to actually doing it in the missionary position, she should have had at least one orgasm, if not more. Then, penetrate her slowly and let her excitement build again. Have sex life a masterful, skillful lover and she won’t even care that you used the missionary position! In fact, she’ll be glad she didn’t have to re-enact yoga positions while naked on Valentine’s Day!

3 Sex Tips To Give A Woman An Orgasm Without Using Your Hands!

By vindicarlo

Ever had sex with a woman? If so, you know how badly you want her to have an orgasm before you do. So she’s happy, she’s satisfied and she wants to have sex with you more. That’s why, in this article, you’ll discover three of the easiest way to make her have a violently powerful orgasm without ever once using your hands! Or touching her body!

The trick is, most women are controlled by their emotions, and by their minds. When you want to have sex with her, what do you do? Not grope her all over, but turn her on, starting in her MIND! You bring her roses, wine and dine her, tell her how beautiful she looks, until she’s overcome with desire, and must have you.

Here’s exactly how you can “overwhelm” her emotions while you’re in the middle of the moment – and how you can make a female orgasm with your words and your words, alone.

Here are three phrases that you can use to get your girl off during sex.

Tip #1: Telling Her To Orgasm

“Now be a good a good girl and come for me….”

Telling a woman to come is one of the most powerful ways to get her to orgasm when having sex. This primal urge goes all the way back to our caveman days – she gets off on you being in control of her body.

So here’s how you send her over the edge during sex:

1) Use her favorite sex technique to bring her to the brink of orgasm

2) Wait until you hear her breathing speed up, and see her start to “lose control” of her body

3) Tell her you’re going to make her come. And tell her to come for you. Don’t ask her – just tell her!

Most of the time, this is exactly what she needs to hear to send her right over the edge. Pair this with some constant, unbreaking eye contact and deep thrusting during sex, and your woman will feel dominated in all the ways she fantasizes about.

Tip #2: Dominating Her

“I love you, my baby girl…”

Women have come very far, when it comes to equal rights in both the job and the home. Women can achieve anything men can achieve in our modern world. However, when it comes to sex, most women still have primal instincts that need to be satisfied. And these instincts tell her she NEEDS to be “owned” by a dominant man.

That’s the only way she can orgasm.

So here’s how to do it:

1) Again, bring her right to the edge. This time, use a slower pace.

2) Whisper a few words about how much you love her, right into her ear.

3) Then, call her your baby, your girl, or whatever comes to mind.

4) Some women will orgasm on this alone. If she doesn’t, just add in the technique above. She’s guaranteed to get off when you pair eye contact, deep thrusting, and these two techniques.

Every single woman I’ve ever had sex with has needed little more than these two techniques to have an orgasm. Contrary to popular belief, getting her to orgasm is relatively easy. Most men just jackhammer away like they see in porn, while the best way to make her climax is to stimulate her MIND!

Tip #3: Setting The Mood

How can you make her have a wild, crazy, screaming orgasm? By setting the scene before sex, of course! This sex tip tells you exactly what you need to do:

1) Before you meet up with her, take a few minutes to make wherever you hook up as clean and serene as possible.

2) Light a scented candle – something with a soft scent like vanilla.

3) When she gets home, tell her to take a second with you to get rid of the stress of the day. Take a few breaths together, in and out, as deep as you both can. (This helps you both relax and synchronizes your breathing just a bit, so your sex “rhythm” is even better later.)

4) Start your evening with an erotic massage and see where it goes.

Why this advice? What’s the core of this technique? It’s simple: Most men just rush to sex. And by far the easiest way to make a female orgasm, is to take more time with foreplay. It’s really a no brainier. Enough build up and foreplay and she will orgasm on the very first stroke you take. This is great to know if your stamina is still building, or you’ve been in kind of a rut.

From this relaxed place of increased foreplay, you can start adding in fantasies, role-playing and other sexual elements. But for now, you’re miles and MILES ahead of every other man she’s ever had sex with because you know how to make her orgasm during sex, without using your hands!

7 Blowjob Tips That Will Leave Him Reeling

By loveandsex

Oral sex is one of the greatest sexual gifts you can give a guy, because they absolutely love it. Some men even prefer oral sex to any other type of sex, including anal sex and vaginal intercourse! If you’re going to give your man head, you’re definitely going to want to make it special. Here’s how to give your man a blowjob that he’ll never forget.

Go Super Slow

A lot of women try to rush through a blowjob, or just go fast because they think that the faster they suck on their partner’s penis, the quicker he’s going to reach orgasm. This is actually quite far from the truth – lots of men actually enjoy slower blowjobs. They love the feeling of your mouth on their member, and they want to feel every movement. Suck on your partner’s member slowly, while covering your teeth with your lips. Swirl your tongue over the head of his member and don’t think that you can go too slow. If you’re really showing your lover that you’re savoring the blowjob, he’ll never want you to stop.

Flick Your Tongue Over His Urethra

As you’re licking the head of your lover’s penis, slowly flick your tongue over the tip of the penis on the urethra. If your guy seems really into the blowjob, you can also try lightly poking your tongue down into his urethra. There are tons of sensitive nerve endings around the opening of his member, so slowly licking and sucking in that area will definitely send shivers down his spine.

Hold The Base Of His Penis Tightly

Once you’ve given him an erection, take your thumb and your forefinger and tightly grasp the base of his penis. This acts like a cock ring and keeps the blood in the shaft during oral sex. This will help keep him rock hard and feeling every single thing you’re doing, even the lightest sweeps of your tongue. It will also help you steady his shaft and help you give a more coordinated blowjob. You’re also going to

Rub His Penis Underneath A Sheet

Before you get started, you may want to tease him a little bit first and get him hard and ready for what is to come. You can really get him turned on by having him lie naked on the bed underneath a sheet. Make sure your sheets are nice and soft, with either a high thread count or made from soft t-shirt material. Lightly stroke his member with your hand over the fabric and his genitals underneath it.

He’ll love the naughty feel of your hand over the sheet and you’ll really enjoy feeling his shaft get harder and harder under the fabric. Switch between soft and hard strokes, and don’t forget to let your hand wander over his thighs and scrotum too. You can also switch from rubbing him with your hand over the sheet to slipping your hand underneath and touching the skin of his genitals. Make this foreplay last until he can’t stand it anymore, and then slip the sheet back to give your man head.

Learn To Deep Throat

Men love deep throating – there’s just no doubt about it. They absolutely adore the feeling of their penis in your hot, wet mouth and when you deep throat, your man gets to feel your whole mouth and throat tightly enclosing his member. If you have trouble gagging while deep throating, practice a little each time you give your guy oral sex. Even if you can only deep throat one thrust before bringing his member out of your throat, you can make progress. Remember to breathe through your nose and relax your throat muscles. Focus on thinking about not gagging and know that practice makes perfect!

Switch Between A Blowjob And A Handjob

You can tease and titillate your partner by switching between giving him oral sex and a handjob. This requires your hands to be wet also, so either make sure you’re producing lots of saliva or use a flavored lube to make sure things are smooth and slick. When switching, bring your hand up and make it an extension of your mouth.

Then, as you move your hand up and down, slowly take your mouth off the head of your partner’s penis and just keep moving your hand. This gives you a break too (and allows you to go down on him longer without getting as tired) and when you’re ready to switch back to giving him a blowjob, just move your hand and go for it!

Suck The Head Of His Penis

When you sense that your lover is really into what you’re doing, stop and suck the head of his penis firmly. This is usually a good move to do right before you start giving him a handjob, after you’ve brought your hand up and are stroking his shaft or holding the base of his shaft tightly. You can also flick the tip of your tongue firmly over the head of his member and after all the teasing you’ve already been doing, this sultry move is likely to make his legs start shaking!

What He REALLY Thinks About During Sex With You

By dicksinthecity

Is there any woman who doesn’t want to know what goes on inside the male mind? If you’re like most (okay probably all) women, you’ve thought about what your man is thinking about during sex. You’ve probably been especially curious to think about what he thinks about during sex with you.

Here’s What She Said About “What He Thinks About During Sex”

Baseball, Star Trek, His fantasy football league, What he had for dinner, Math equations, How to change a tire, WWII. And anything else that is  the complete opposite of what is happening to his body right now! When guys have sex they will think of anything to make sure they do not come  to quickly.

Now with that being said, after a while and after he has some experience he may be able to think sexier thoughts. Those thoughts might  include, your hot sister, your hot roommate, your hot co worker. His hot coworker, his high school teacher, the girl who makes his coffee, the girl that  gave him his first hand job, a girl he saw walking on the street….get the picture?

Guys are super horny and their thoughts can go everywhere during sex.   Also guys think a lot about boobs and your naked body! But do not feel shy about this! They are thinking about how to unhook your bra so they can get to your boobs and when you are going to get on top so they can see your boobs in action. And what they can do with their hands to get them on your  boobs.

Other thoughts that enter a guy’s mind are: “I should have done more sit ups”. Just like women, guys worry about their bodies and wish they would have  gone to the gym or done some more push ups/sit ups before they got all naked with you.

During sex, guys also think:”Is she coming? She’s moaning so that’s a good sign”.”Please condom do not break”, “Damn she is hot, how did i get so  lucky”, “I hope my deodorant is working”, “I shouldnt have had that last beer”, “Where should I come?”

When guys are having sex they also think about how long its taking and if its been too long or too short.   As you can see, men are just as worried and insecure as women when it comes to sex. They want to please you like you want to please them. And their thoughts can go everywhere.

As women, you should not feel the need to worry about what is going on in his head though especially if you are concerned with what  you look like or if you are doing something right. When it comes to sex, it is a hell of a lot more fun when both parties just enjoy each other and have fun!

Here’s What He Said About “What He Thinks About During Sex”

He’s probably focusing on doing a good job. Men want to get you off more than you want to get off, so that’s probably crossing his mind a lot during sex with you.

He’s also probably going through his sexual checklist during sex with you as well. If you’re a guy, and you give too much attention to her left boob and less to the right boob, she will get weird about it (Yes, we know you keep track of this stuff.) So we try to make a point to make sure we give everything equal attention, even if we don’t like doing it, or we’re dying to just fuck you already.

He’s thinking about being inside you while he’s inside with you. He’s trying to read your reactions: moans, groans, words (if you can get them out). He’s also trying to focus on fucking as opposed to cumming during sex with you. He is easier to get off than you are, in general, so he’s probably trying to be in the moment while not actually being too in the moment.

He may be wishing he did more cardio or worked out harder during sex. Great cardio or great workout equals great stamina during sex. So he may or may not have it, and suddenly, not working out today doesn’t seem like such a bright idea.

He’s definitely thinking about how much he likes fucking you while he’s fucking you. Your boobs, your pussy, your ass, he loves all of these things. You’d probably be surprised at the deeper level of affection he has for these things. He loves the way your pussy tastes. He could stare at your ass for hours, and plunging deep inside you is the tastiest treat he can fathom. He’s thinking about all of this while inside of you

Sex Tips: The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make In Bed

By shawnalenee

Sex tips will guide you in the right direction, but you also want to make sure you’re not actively ruining your own sex life as well. Are you ruining your sex life? Even the best lovers are often guilty of flubbing up in the bedroom, often WITHOUT ever knowing it.

It’s just a fact of life.

But that doesn’t mean that YOU have to be! Discover the most common issues men have in the bedroom – and what to do INSTEAD to drive your woman WILD with pleasure. Avoid these 10 sex life ruiners and you’ll have better sex the very NEXT time you make love, guaranteed!

Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn’t

You may think that your lover is having “multiples” (or even ONE you-know-what) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises and even TELL YOU it’s happening. But is she really?

Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments on “faking it.” I’m not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking it EVERY TIME but chances are there have been a few episodes of lovemaking where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.

When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to finish. It doesn’t mean you are awful in the bedroom; just that being a mind-blowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.

If you are giving your girl the “Big O” (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You’re one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing a woman REALLY WELL. But if you’re not, it is crucial that you learn how!

Not Giving Her A Variety Of Sexual Experiences

A lot of guys who are new to lovemaking – or are used to doing it with the same woman – tend to forget that women want different KINDS of sensual EXPERIENCES. You might think that changing sex positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting IS a mixing it up. But it is not.

Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes they want to be taken, sometimes they want it hard, and sometimes they want to make love. If you are NOT talking during lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she CAN’T be totally fulfilled. Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in the bedroom.

Let’s look at an example. Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them. This is why that when a women cheats, it is often with a “bad boy.”

However, you don’t need to be bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in the bedroom. Just be a bad boy yourself by giving her a light spanking, talking dirty, and giving it to her good! Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy paperback romance novels they read with Fabio on the cover. This is not a myth – women REALLY read this stuff!

Now, I’m not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse, but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.

Get it?

You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences – and YOU are capable of giving her each kind – but you have to mix it up!

Forgetting To Be A MAN

Ask any 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL. That’s right, we want YOU to call the shots! As long as you are respectful, your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and switch positions without asking, and to do what YOU want!

Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate. Sure, it’s okay to ask her if she is enjoying something, but keep it simple. Save the talk about actual positions she liked for AFTER you are done.

Now don’t get me wrong – you are not making her a slave here, but rather leading with authority and masculine strength.

Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think a woman is just uptight if she doesn’t want to do something, when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with strength and confidence. You’ll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Thinking Sex Isn’t That Important To Her

If you want to know how much women LOVE sex, just think about how loudly we scream during lovemaking! You won’t ever hear a guy screaming like that! You might THINK that your drive is much higher than your woman’s because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But as hard as it is to accept, recognize that if your girl doesn’t want to make love, it is NOT always because she doesn’t want to.

Unfortunately, it’s probably because you just aren’t getting her off. Fortunately this can be an easy fix.

Being Silent/Emotionless During Sex

You may think that it is “cheesy” or “creepy” to talk romantically during sex. (you may think its weird to talk at all in the bedroom) However, women HATE silent, mechanical lovemaking.

Why?

I’ll say it again: We women THRIVE on emotion. Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT ways to give your girl STRONG EMOTIONS during sex. And strong emotions = strong orgasms. Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that give your girl the most pleasure. The most POWERFUL “BIG O” will always be triggered by our MINDS, not by our physical bodies.

Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having making love, and she will experience the most intense pleasure of her life!

Trading Dinners/Flowers/Etc. To Get Sex From Her

Many men mistakenly think that we women aren’t interested in making love (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking), and that they have to “trade something” with her to get her to want intimacy. This is why you see so many guys trying to “get there” with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts.

While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SOME. When you have to trade something to get intimacy from your girl, realize that this is PROOF you are just not truly satisfying her in the bedroom.

When you are intimately satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for it, but she will often spontaneously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating lovemaking constantly. Just wait and see!

Not Giving Her Enough “Foreplay”

If you still think of “foreplay” as the activity before lovemaking, well then you are thinking of it WRONG! Here’s a hint: Women consider foreplay as PART of the lovemaking. NOT as a separate thing!

Here’s why:

While a man is not always capable of having a “Big O” during foreplay AND then another “Big O” during the actual lovemaking, WOMEN CAN! Imagine if YOU could have one during foreplay AND not lose any firmness and keep having them well into lovemaking. You’d want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?

Well, your girl CAN have foreplay “O’s” AND penetration “O’s” so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!

As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as lovemaking and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the lovemaking better when you are finally inside of her.

Not Lasting Long Enough

This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of problems in the bedroom would be complete without it. But while all guys know they need to last long, they don’t necessarily know HOW LONG that is!

Well, after talking to dozens of my girlfriends about the subject, I’ve discovered that we all think pretty much alike. If you can last at least 20 minutes, most women will be SUPER happy with that!

Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior

It’s no secret that we women can be a LOT moodier than you men. But if you’re in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time, this is often because she isn’t getting what she needs in the bedroom. FACT.

As we talked about before, while women aren’t usually as sexually aggressive as men, we do love and NEED to make love just as much! But here’s the thing – if you’re not giving her the “Big O” – then lovemaking does her no good!

Can you imagine if when you were masturbating you could NEVER “get there”? You’d begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you’d get so frustrated by the inability to “finish” that it would just be easier to avoid it COMPLETELY! So if you can’t give her the “Big O” why WOULD she want to make love with you?

The answer:

She won’t.

If your girl is not wanting to make love with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her. In the beginning, she may have tolerated it because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and lovemaking isn’t satisfying for her, it is more fulfilling for her to take care of HERSELF when you’re not around. This leads to only being with you on special occasions, or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)

If you recognize any of these signs, it’s time to step up your game NOW before the drought gets even worse.

And when you do, you’ll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in the bedroom, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis, but SHE’LL start initiating making love with YOU! If you are giving her the best of her life, she won’t care if you are homeless and living in a cardboard box – as long as you can make love in it!

If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting intimacy, or acting “distant” in some way, it’s time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your ability because the real culprit is inadequate lovemaking pleasure.

Not Getting Help

Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey, not a destination. Top athletes don’t all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. CEO’s don’t suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep growing. And guess what lovemaking is no different.

To be an amazing lover you can’t ever be blinded by arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new sex tips or tricks to get you to the next level.