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How To Find The G-Spot And Techniques To Drive Your Partner Wild

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G-spot orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of all the female orgasms, although women are capable of having clitoral orgasms as well. But finding the G-spot and knowing how to pleasure it is the hard part! Here’s an A-to-Z on everything you need to know about the G-spot!

How To Find The G-Spot

First of all, the G-spot is actually a zone, rather than an actual ‘spot.’ The G-spot is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) You’ll know when you’ve found it because it feels like a ribbed bump, like the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth.

Stimulating The G-Spot

While most men would love to satisfy their ladies with penetration, it’s not always the best idea. Why? Because it depends on factors like the position, her level of arousal, and penis and vaginal shape and size. In short: using fingers is the easiest way to reach orgasm with the most chance of success.

Warming Her Up First

In most cases, women need to have their clitoris stimulated before stimulating the G-spot. But once it’s fully stimulated, the clitoris is often too sensitive for direct contact. Ask your lady. Otherwise, the G-spot may feel dry and uncomfortable. After this point, you can move onto the G-spot.

The Best Sex Position To Use

To really stimulate the G-spot, you’ll need to be in sex positions that give you great easy access to work your magic. Here are two suggestions:

  • Your lady lies on her back while you lie next to her, using your stronger arm.
  • She sits in doggie-style position, while you sit and pleasure her from behind. Actually, if you want even more passion and excitement, try changing from one position to another over the course of your stimulation.

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

The motion you want to use is the “come over here” gesture, using your fingers. Keep in mind that the G-spot is different from the clitoris, which means, in most cases, you’ll stroke it slightly harder than the clitoris. Start by massaging it lightly and work your way up to a point she finds incredibly satisfying.

How To Tell If She’s Enjoying It

First of all, remember that the best feeling will vary for every woman. Alternate between two very slight movements or spots to find what she likes best. You’ll know what she likes by her breathing or when she firmly grips you. Having said all that, there is a way to make this experience even MORE pleasurable.

The Missing Piece To A Powerful Orgasm

Did you know that prolonged foreplay is said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. However, men often focus so much on “performing” that they forget about spicing up their lovemaking with new and exciting things. Let’s face it; most of us are guilty of this. You take your clothes off. Away you go, and, within a few seconds or minutes, the routine is over. But as the bedroom magic fades, it becomes harder and harder to make woman achieve orgasms.

Why? Because women long for variety in their sexual experience. The very best way to please women long-term is to have an entire ‘bag of ideas’ ready to pull out whenever they’re needed. I cannot stress the need to keep your lovemaking fresh and exciting in every way. That’s the secret to fulfilled lovemaking.

The Best Sex Advice In The World!

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Amazing sex is one of the best gifts a woman can get.

In this article I am going to let you in on what is possibly the best sex advice in the world. It is without a doubt the single most powerful way to drive any woman completely wild in bed.

But first, why would you want to be amazing in bed? Is it to flame your own ego? Is it to impress your partner with the most incredible romp she’s ever had? Or are you concerned about your lover straying away if you don’t perform to par in bed? It’s none of these.

The ability to give the woman you love the best sex of her life will make you feel just incredible. It will bond the both of you in a very deep and profound manner.

The most effective sex tip in the world will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy you might be mentally unprepared for. There is a certain level of responsibility that comes along with it.

Are you ready for this one little secret that will totally change your sex life? Here it is…

Make It All About Her

Pay attention to HER.

This technique is incredibly powerful, because:

  1. Every Woman Is Different. What works on one woman may utterly fail on another. Some women may prefer clitoris stimulation while others may prefer penetrative sex. One may like things fast and furious while another is into slow and anticipatory lovemaking. One may love lots of foreplay, yet another may want to make love right out of the bolt. There is no universal lovemaking technique that works for all women. That is why paying attention to what your woman wants in bed is critically important.
  2. You Convey Sexual Confidence. A sexually confident man is a huge turn-on for any woman. Women simply adore men who know what exactly they want in bed and who feel assured about their own sexuality. And paying attention to your woman conveys exactly that image of you! When she feels complete involvement from you during sex, she can feel the total sexual confidence in you. And for you, because you are so focused on your partner, you will naturally forget about all your own insecurities and inadequacies in bed!
  3. It Builds An Emotional Bond And Intimacy. The reason is simple. A woman’s ultimate sex organ is not in the genitals (sorry, guys!). Your partner’s head and beating heart are. You see, when a woman is completely connected and comfortable with you, she will allow herself to totally surrender to you. All the inhibitions will melt away. Know what this means? When she achieves an orgasm with you, it will be far more powerful and intense than anything she has ever experienced. It will create a very powerful emotional bond that will endear your partner to you, and only you!

This is the stuff that women’s sexual fantasies are made of. This is the stuff that the best sex tip is made of. You will create an amazing bond, trust, intimacy and delirious sexual pleasure. Use it well, and use it responsibly!

Q&A: Cyber Sex And Sexting – Is It OK?

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Cyber sex and sexting is something that can easily come between you and your partner if you let it. With the advances in technology and how much time people spend on the Internet, it’s nothing for guys or girls to get online and start chatting with friends that are both new and old. However, when does it cross the line? When does it go from being okay to going too far? Here’s how to decide where to draw the line in your relationship.

I was just wondering your take on cyber sex and ‘texting’? I have received lots of different advice on the subject and what people think of it and so far everyone has a different take. The reason I ask is that I have recently discovered that my boyfriend of over 2 years has had a regular habit of jumping online and exploring.

Normally I would be open minded about these types of things, I know it’s considered by some just a form of masturbation, but I have discovered that some of these women are not anonymous and are actual acquaintances of his and mine. I know nothing physical has occurred. I have confronted him, we went through a very rough patch but have essentially worked out our relationship and he has (to my knowledge) halted his habits and seems more devoted to me than ever.

However, the images and messages I came across are still haunting me. What should I do?

–YouTube Viewer

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Establish Boundaries In Your Relationship

The first step to making sure cyber sex doesn’t throw a curveball to your relationship is to establish boundaries within that relationship. First, decide for yourself what you’re okay with and what you’re not okay with. Be really clear in your own mind about what makes you uncomfortable so that going forward, you can express to your partner what you feel is fine and what isn’t going to work. Figure out what your own personal jealousy triggers are.

When communicating with your partner about cyber sex, don’t approach them and say, “You can’t do this.” It will only serve to set them off and make them feel like you’re smothering or controlling them. But it is acceptable to say, “This makes me uncomfortable and I would appreciate it if you would stop. This is what I need to continue being in this relationship.” Don’t be afraid to be specific and say, “I’m comfortable with harmless flirting, but after that is where I draw the line.” If your partner truly cares about you and your feelings, they’re going to honor your request to avoid cyber sex.

When It Becomes Cheating

Before you established boundaries in your relationship when it comes to cyber sex and what is okay and what isn’t, it’s likely that your partner didn’t know what upset you or made you uncomfortable and didn’t even know he was doing anything wrong. He may have thought that talking about sex was okay, as long as he didn’t mention having sex with her or describing specific actions like giving her oral sex, etc. If certain things are off limits, it’s important to be specific about what exactly is and isn’t acceptable to you.

If he fails to operate within the boundaries that you’ve established for the relationship, that’s when it crosses the line and becomes cheating. If he’s aware of what you are comfortable with and what you aren’t, but continues to have cyber sex in a way that you’ve already communicated to him is not okay, he’s cheating.

Is It A Deal Breaker?

If he’s crossed the line when it comes to cyber sex, it’s up to you to decide whether what he’s done is a deal breaker or not. If you’re not okay with him having cyber sex and he continues to do it (even after you’ve expressed how uncomfortable it makes you and how much it hurts you), it’s time to decide whether the relationship is something that you want to continue to be in. If he continues to have cyber sex after you’ve discussed it with him, it’s unlikely he will ever change no matter how much time you give him.

If it’s not a deal breaker, that’s okay too. Don’t let anyone tell you that it is or isn’t a big deal, because only you can make that decision yourself. He may try to tell you that it isn’t a big deal, but if it is to you, that’s what is important. If it’s not a big deal, your friends may try to convince you that it is. However you feel about the cyber sex situation is what is important and no one else can decide how you feel and what you want to do about it except for you.

Sex Tips For Your First Time Having Sex

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Sex for the first time is a nerve wracking experience. You’re afraid of getting everything wrong or not being able to give your partner an orgasm. You’re worried about your inexperience, what to do and when to do it. It can be hard to relax and go with the flow when you’re having sex for the first time, but here are some excellent suggestions to help you make it fun and memorable.

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Inexperience Is Okay

Doing it for the first time means that you’re inexperienced – and that’s okay. You don’t have to know everything there is to know on how to please the opposite gender before you ever have sex, and no one expects you to. You’re going to fumble around a little bit and be a little unsure of exactly what you’re doing. This is perfectly normal! The most important thing is to laugh it off and move on.

What makes someone great in bed and able to give their partner an orgasm again and again is time, practice and trial and error. No guy or girl ever got it completely right the first time, but learn from your mistakes and let them help you get better at making love. Repeating the same mistakes over and over isn’t a good thing – but making a mistake and learning from it and using it to help make you a better lover is!

Relax and remember to have fun. Your first time may be awkward, but it’s your first time and that’s okay. You’re never going to have another chance at doing it for the first time, so enjoy it for what it is. Enjoy the discovery process!

Get A Sex Buddy

Your first time is meant to be special, and saving it for that special someone is a great way to make sure that it’s memorable and fun. However, as the second, third and fourth times roll around, you may want to consider finding yourself a “sex buddy,” or a friend that you can be intimate with so you can learn the ropes. Make sure you choose a friend that you’re completely comfortable with!

The benefits of having a “sex buddy” is that you can practice things like oral sex or giving a blowjob without having to worry about someone judging your skills in the sack or embarrassing yourself in front of someone you want to have a relationship with (or at least want to have really hot relations with). Having a friend like this will allow you to practice and practice some more until you really get the hang of things. That way, when you meet someone super special, you’ll have had at least a little experience in that department and you can be more confident in the bedroom.

Safe Sex

Of course, with any partner, safe sex is of the utmost importance. Using a condom will not only help protect against unwanted pregnancy, it will also help protect against most sexually transmitted diseases. You may think that getting busy for the first time (especially if you and your partner are both virgins) means that you don’t have to worry about protection, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Unless you and your partner have had a clear STD test and haven’t had any new partners since the test (and are monogamous with each other), a condom is necessary to protect yourself and your partner. It’s also a great way to keep from getting pregnant without the side effects of some birth controls. Remember that safe sex is always in style!

Being Emotionally Mature Enough For Sex

Before hopping in the sack for the first time, make sure that you’re emotionally and physically mature enough to do it. Rushing into it because you think you’re ready or because someone is pressuring you to do it are the wrong reasons for losing your virginity. Make sure you’re with someone you’re comfortable with and not someone who you will regret your first time being with later. Don’t be afraid to take it slow and really make sure it’s something you’re ready for before you actually do it.

Remember that you can’t re-do losing your virginity and if you rush through it just to get it over with, you may end up regretting it. If you’re not ready, that’s okay too! Never let anyone tell you when you’re ready or when you’re not, because only you can make that decision for yourself. If you want to wait, that’s okay and if you’re ready, that’s okay too!

Sexting: How Women Think About Sex And How To Give Them What They Crave

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Sexting is an extremely powerful flirting and seduction tool when you use it the right way and with the right attitude. With any girl, your attitude is either a huge turn on or turn off, and when you apply that concept to sexting, you can literally have your partner wishing she could tear your clothes off before you even walk in the door from work. Here’s how your attitude – and how sexting – can give your partner what she secretly desires!

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A Woman’s Biggest Erogenous Zone Is Her Mind

Have you ever seen a really hot girl with a pretty average or below average guy and wondered how he got her on his arm? You figure it’s because he’s great in bed, but that’s rarely the case. It’s more likely because he found a way to stimulate her mind and emotions! Sure, a woman values looks in a man, but definitely not more than his smarts or his sense of humor. A woman greatly values being intellectually stimulated, even more so than having a guy that looks fabulous. If a guy can make a woman feel great mentally and emotionally, he’s a shoe in even if his physical attributes aren’t the greatest.

Women Are Attracted To Non-Creepy Dominance

Women are almost always attracted to non-creepy dominance, with “non-creepy” being the operative word. Contrary to what some men may think, it is possible for men to assert confidence and dominance without being superior, condescending or hateful. Girls are attracted to men who appear confident and in control without acting cocky or degrading towards the ladies.

For example, a great way to exert confidence and dominance on a date without being creepy is to have a “date plan” in mind, such as picking the restaurant. Tell your girl, “I’d love to take you here, they have the best ‘pasta e olio’ I’ve ever had.” However, picking the restaurant doesn’t mean being a jerk about it and insisting that you go there. If she’s not into Italian, have a back up. But more likely than not, your girl will appreciate you taking the lead and showing that you’re a strong, confident man.

You definitely want to AVOID saying, “I don’t care, whatever you want to do” when planning a date, because it shows weakness and lack of leadership qualities – and this is something most women aren’t attracted to. Get used to showing your girl what your preferences are and never apologize for what you desire!

How Does All This Apply To Sexting?

Take the strong, confident attitude that you use when you’re going on a date with your lover and apply it to sexting her. Sexting is powerful because it takes sex and puts it into a woman’s language – the language of words. Most women keep their cell phones with them at all times, so sexting will allow you to communicate with her sexually in a way that is important to her. It’s like blowing past all her defenses and stimulating her right at her very core!

In your sexy text messages, you’re going to tell her what you’re going to do to her behind closed doors (and how badly you want to do it) in a dominant, leading manner. Make sure you use descriptive, sensual language that hooks into her imagination and stimulates her mind. Use your creativity to come up with sexy situations such as oral sex or a new sex position and describe it to her over text.

You can even tell her how she’ll respond to your actions to create a titillating fantasy. Talking about foreplay with your partner throughout the day will get both you and her so turned on that it will be all you can do to keep your head straight while you finish the work day! Here are some great examples of sexting that you can use to turn her on:

  • “When I get home, I’m going to nibble may way down your neck and….”
  • “I want to lick your clitoris while I fondle your nipples….”
  • “I can’t wait to get home and kiss you all over your body….”
  • “You’ll love it when I slip my fingers inside….”

Coming up with something to say over text to get your partner turned on isn’t difficult if you use your imagination and learn to let go a little. If you’re apprehensive about what to say and when to say it, just remember that whatever you’re thinking of doing to her in your head is something you can say in a text!