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5 Ways To Discover Your Kinky Alter Ego

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Kinky sex can be a great way to spice up a boring sex life, but just how do you get there? Check out these five tips to reveal your darker side.

Finding your kinky alter ego doesn’t have to be a difficult task. So many couples go through vanilla sex and don’t address it. If you and your girlfriend have had “the talk” about a bland sex life then you are a step ahead of the game. Sex is an important part of the relationship and it can be a very frustration endeavor to keep things spicy.

If you’re looking for a way to bring out the inner-freak, there are a few things that you can do. You don’t have to head out and get a latex suit or become a certified dom. You can find out what turns you on very quickly with minimal hassle and little effort.

1. Ask Her What Turns Her On

Most of the time a guy will simply get turned on by having a girl turned on. When women find themselves so hot that they can’t contain it anymore, guys are instantly in the mood. Most of the guys that you talk to will tell you the same thing. They are much more concerned with getting their girlfriend or wife off than actually getting off themselves. Take this into consideration when you are trying to spice up your bedroom activities.

2. Do You Get Embarrassed?

There are a lot of guys that are easily embarrassed when it comes to sex and sexual fantasies. Maybe you want your girlfriend dress up like a Catholic schoolgirl or maybe you want her to dominate you. These are both fairly common sexual fantasies. However, there are a lot of guys they get so embarrassed when they talk about their fantasies that they can’t actually act upon them. Talk to your partner in an open and honest, nonjudgmental way about what would really turn you on.

Try to come up with a way that you won’t get embarrassed halfway through and have her reassure you that you are not strange or weird because of your sexual fantasies. A girlfriend that is confident in her own sexuality and willing to play a part of your sexual fantasy will help the relationship immensely.

3. Watch Some Pornography

Say what you want about pornography, but it is one of the best tools to get men and women going. One of the easiest ways to use pornography is to help you discover what your sexual fantasies are. Whether you are into straight sex, domination, lesbian porn or all of the above, pornography can help you get there.

Take your girlfriend or wife to an adult store and search through the porno section. Decide on a movie that you will both enjoy and then take it home and watch it. Relationships are about compromise. If you are trying to find common ground in spicing up your sex life, deciding on a porno for the both of you is a great first step. If you can’t decide on one movie, find two or three and take them home for a whole weekend of fun and exploration.

4. Sex Toys

Sex toys can be a great way to find out exactly how kinky you are comfortable being. But if you get the wrong sex toys, you might put yourself and your partner in an awkward position. Have you ever had the fantasy of using a vibrator on a girl? How about a butt plug? Before you do any of this you’re going to need to talk to your partner.

It is her body that you’re going to be experimenting with after all. Sit her down and talk to her honestly. Tell her about how hot you think it will be and tell her that you believe it could bring the two of your closer in your sex life. You will probably be surprised on how open she will be to your honesty.

5. Be In The Moment

Most women love a guy that can be in the moment. If you have talked about getting more kink in your sex life, go ahead and do it. You girl is going to be much more open to things in the height of her arousal than talking about it afterward or before. If you want to try a new sex position, tell her in the middle of sex. Sometimes putting her in that position without asking can be a huge turn on for women. If she doesn’t feel comfortable with something, she will tell you. Don’t try something crazy on a whim, but you shouldn’t be afraid of trying something new on a whim.

5 Simple Things To Help You Get In The Mood For Sex

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Getting in the mood is can be a challenge for a lot of women. If you have trouble getting into the mood or you experience low libido, it can be a constant challenge to put yourself into that frame of mind.

No matter what your situation is, it’s important for you to realize that there are a lot of women that have trouble getting into the mood. This can cause problems in the relationship and even lead to cheating in extreme cases.

Here are a few very simple things that can help you get in the mood for sex.

#1 Take A Bath To Get In The Mood

It is common knowledge that women feel much more comfortable and sexy after they have bathed. Taking a hot bath is one of the best ways to put yourself in the mood. Lower the lighting and put on some soft music while you take a bath. One of the biggest factors of low libido is the outside world. Stress and work can easily put a damper on your sex life.

When you take a bath you will be relaxed and the soft music will take all of your problems away. Make sure that the water is just above what you would like it to be. This way you can stay in longer without having to run more hot water into the bath. Wash yourself so that you feel clean and sexy. You should also tell your partner not to disturb you. Having alone time will do wonders for getting yourself into the mood.

#2 Have A Date To Get In The Mood

With busy lives, work schedules and kids it hard to get in the mood. Having a date night with your partner is an excellent way to bring the spark back into the relationship.

Go to a restaurant that you have never been to before and order for each other. Make it a point not to talk about work or the kids. Anything that puts a strain on your libido or your sex life should not be brought up during your date. Escapism is used for a lot of different types of stress and this exercise can really benefit you.

Getting into the mood is about letting go and being comfortable with your partner. So make sure that you are allowing yourself to have fun on your date.

#3 Watch A Porno To Get In The Mood

Porn is one of the most common ways for women to put themselves in the mood. The digital age that we live in has made it even easier to get porn. If you’re not offended by porn, go ahead and queue up your computer. Find a video that turns you on.

Some women are turned on by lesbian porn while others like to live out their fantasies in the BDSM world. All women are different so you need to find something that you like. Experiment a little. Watching a few different short videos can really put you in the mood. Variety is the spice of life so treat yourself. This is also something that you can do with your partner to get in the mood.

#4 Get A Makeover To Get In The Mood

Once of the most common things that women do after they have a bad break up is get a makeover. A makeover can be an excellent way to boost your self-confidence and make you feel more sexy. There are a lot of women that suffer from low libido because they have little to no confidence.

Knowing that you look great is directly correlated to feeling great. When you upgrade your perception of how you look will be able to get into the mood much faster much more often. Consider changing your hair, buying some new clothing or getting real advice on how to apply your make up.

If you really want to shake things up, buy some new lingerie for your boyfriend or husband. Watching their jaw drop when you appear in your new lingerie can be enough to put you in the mood.

#5 Sext Each Other

Sexting is a very common practice with couples these days. The best thing about sexting is that it can be done virtually anywhere. Before you go home, sext your boyfriend or husband. Ask him to tell you about all of the dirty things he wants to do to you. The fact that you can’t do those things right then and there will be enough to get you in the mood, but the anticipation of him doing them could be more than you can handle.

Ladies: How To Reach Orgasm During Intercourse In Just 5 Minutes (Or Less)

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Could it really be THIS easy to reach orgasm during intercourse in just 5 minutes or less with the man you’ve been with for years.

The answer is “Yes”, and if you want to eliminate all the frustration, exhaustion, and heartache that can come from failing to reach the orgasm you really want and start experiencing fast, easy, and consistent orgasms every time you make love… regardless of your past attempts… AND… regardless of his “lovemaking skills”, then you’ll want to read the rest of this article.

Surprising Facts About Female Orgasms

  • It takes most women less than 4 minutes to reach orgasm when masturbating
  • A huge number of women fake their orgasms, because they know they just can’t keep up with their man
  • Faking orgasms can be utterly detrimental to the health of your relationship
  • Stressing out over sex and orgasms can actually make you lose vaginal lubrication, making an orgasm even more elusive
  • It IS possible to have an orgasm during sex in less than 5 minutes, even if you never have before
  • It IS possible to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your partner.

Click here to take a very short quiz to see if this is possible for you!

You’re Not Alone – Most Women Have Difficulty Reaching Orgasm Through Sex….

Nearly all women have had the experience of trying to reach orgasm through intercourse… trying out many tips and techniques with their partners… failing time and time again… with no orgasm in sight… only to feel like giving up and accepting that “that’s how women are”.

And what’s worse… because sex is not exciting or pleasurable to you, and your orgasms takes too much work… sex becomes a chore and you don’t feel like “doing it” anymore… however, your partner still feels like having sex… and sometimes – out of sexual frustration – he has to resort to pressure you to give him release… and maybe make you feel guilty for not wanting sex as much as he does… and you can feel its STRAINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

You may or may not know this already, but your inability to achieving orgasm during can ruin your relationship and your self-esteem.

This type of situation makes it easy to feel pessimistic towards having a sex life in general… and can definitely lead you to believe that ALL MEN are sexually selfish… and there’s some problem with you because you can’t reach orgasm consistently during sex… if at all.

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women and Men Make During Sex That Kill Their Chances of Ever Reaching An Orgasm

Mistake #1: Focusing on Long Penetrative Sex To Achieve An Orgasm

Long, drawn out lovemaking sessions can be great in any relationship, but more often than not, it’s impractical, takes too much time and too much damn work. He has to try to “last” all night and hold himself back from ejaculating during sex. He’ll try to distract himself until you’re at the point where you’re ready to orgasm. After all the preparation and hours of pumping – you finally climax.

Mistake #2 : Relying On A Man To Give YOU An Orgasm

Society has the common view that a man should GIVE a woman an orgasm. It’s no surprise that this is a standard belief. Men are supposed be the “gentleman” and pay for dinners, open doors, “take care” of their woman while a woman is…well, left in a more passive role. Even our anatomy hints that men should be “giving” it to women. The man is the “giver” because he has a penis, and the woman is the “receiver” because she has a vagina. And to top it off, there are many books (good and bad), magazine articles, and other forms of media instructing men on how to become better lovers, and GIVE their woman an orgasm. While there is nothing wrong with being a man who is “great” at sex, it takes a man who is dedicated to improving his skills in bed and become a better lover for you. However, this is simply not the case with most couples.

Mistake #3 : Thinking That Something MIGHT Be Wrong With You If You Can’t Orgasm

This is the big mistake a lot of women make. Listen, I know it’s easy to think this way. It’s easy to feel down and depressed if you try something and it doesn’t work, like orgasming through sex. And it’s not your fault. We as women aren’t taught how to climax during sex, but in reality, we SHOULD be able to reach climax just as fast, if not, FASTER than men!

The good news is that reaching orgasm quickly and consistently is easy if you know how to do it.

Experience Faster, Quicker & More Consistent Female Orgasms Each & Every Time You Make Love!

Our good friend Jessica Perez has an amazing guide that will help you reach orgasm during intercourse quickly and easily every time!

It’s called “Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed“.

Here are some great things you’ll find out in Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed:

  • Detailed descriptions of female anatomy so a woman can understand how her body really works
  • Directions for direct and indirect clitoral stimulation, as well as what NOT to do when touching your clitoris
  • Directions for G-Spot stimulation during sex
  • How masturbation can treat sexual dysfunction
  • How to masturbate properly so you can begin to climax during sex
  • Exactly which techniques to apply during sex so you can orgasm harder and faster
  • Why you need to TURN OFF YOUR VIBRATOR
  • How to have blended orgasms, simultaneous orgasms and multiple orgasms
  • Detailed descriptions of sexual positions to use to set yourself up for orgasm success from the start
  • How fantasizing and involving your brain during sex can help you climax
  • How to train your man to do what you like during sex, not what he thinks you like
  • How to love yourself and become a sexual woman

The information in this eBook will save you years of time, heartaches and wasted energy. Most women go through their entire lives never learning how to reach orgasm during sex… and… getting what they truly want from their relationships. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

You at least owe it to yourself to check it out… Get more info here: Faster Female Orgasm

Will it work for everybody? Of course not.

But let me ask you this… What if this knowledge helps you reach just ONE orgasm during sex with your boyfriend or husband? Just ONE.

Or what if it helped you turn around a boring, painful or non-existent sex life with the man you’ve been with for years?

What would that be worth to you?

Now ask yourself… What if there’s even a chance that this book can actually teach you how to orgasm during sex, make you want sex more often… and… make him want to be with you forever? What if you really can learn how to orgasm at the same time as your lover… achieve a mutual orgasm you’ve always wanted and finally experience that loving, passionate relationship you deserve?

How much would that be worth to you? A thousand dollars? Ten thousand? More? For most people I know, it would be priceless.

Just the POSSIBILITY of having this kind of special once-in-a-lifetime sex would be worth at least checking out the material.

I know that when that time comes for you, you’ll look back on this moment and be glad you made this investment in yourself.

This much is for sure… Sometime in your life you’ll feel like you’re just about to climax while making love to your man. Maybe you’ve already felt this and he already can tell you’re just about to scream.

The question is, do you know exactly what to do to push your feelings and emotions over the top and finally orgasm? Or are you going to ride this pleasure-plateau never hitting the climax and never know how you will feel and how he will feel.

Do you want to even consider the chance that you’ll be sexually frustrated and heartbroken again and again and never get the help and answers you need. Or do you want to get this area of your life IN CONTROL and learn what works – so you can make the most of your time, energy, and your heart

Get your copy of Faster Female Orgasm and get ready to start loving sex again!?

Still not sure, Read our Review of Faster Female Orgasm.

8 Handjob Techniques That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A handjob can be even more satisfying than a blowjob for a guy if you do it the right way. Check out these handjob moves that will leave your lover breathless!

1. Involve His Balls

Use any stroke that involves just one hand in combination with strokes that involve pulling, tugging, holding, cupping and lightly massaging your partner’s scrotum.

2. Start The Fire

Start at the base and pull gently upward while twisting (but not too hard) as if you were trying to start a fire with a stick of wood.

3. Thumb Massage

Hold your partner’s penis firmly in both hands and use your thumbs only to massage your partner’s shaft and head. You can do this in strokes or circles, depending on what your partner likes best.

4. Stimulate The P-Spot

Utilize the above technique (one-handed stroke combined with the other hand massaging another area) on the perineum. This will create delightful sensations between his “G-spot” and his penis. This move will bring your partner to orgasm quickly and it is a great move to use while he finishes off. If your partner enjoys this move, you can use it as the core of your genital massage.

5. Squeeze The Lemon

With a well lubed hand, cup your hand on top of his penis head and twist like you were squeezing a lemon on an old fashioned juicer.

6. Play With His Foreskin If He’s Uncircumcised

If your partner is uncircumcised, have fun with his foreskin. Massage it, pull it gently and twist it around to create a variety of sensations. Ask him to play with it in front of you so you can see what he likes to do with it.

7. Side To Side

While sitting in front of him on the bed – put both of your hands out as if you are going to “clap” and place one on each side of his penis – this side to side flat palmed action will be a different sensation and allows you both full view of his rock hard penis. It’s different for him from the way he would normally pleasure himself with his own hand.

8. Dry Massage

For a different approach, try a dry massage. Your partner may find this uncomfortable, however, especially if the skin around his penis is very tight and does not allow for much movement. This only works with light touches. When stroking his penis in a dry massage, just hold the skin tight enough so when you move your hand up and down the skin does not move but rather the inside of the penis moves. Men don’t always have the luxury of having lube on hand when they masturbate and they do just fine with a dry jerk off. It just takes a gentler touch.

How Your Girl Acts When You’re Amazing In Bed

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Most sex tips tell you the “how” – few sex tips actually tell you how your partner responds when you’re actually doing it right! Are you on the money?

I’ve talked to thousands of women about their intimate lives and I have seen it all – the great, the mediocre, and unfortunately the most common – the unfulfilled and unsatisfied. But the most surprising thing is that most guys are completely unaware of how they stack up in the bedroom.

So how big of a deal is it anyway? And how do you know where you stack up?

Let me tell you something – it is a HUGE deal! Women crave sex FAR more than men. If you don’t believe me, then you are not giving her good nookie. PERIOD.

Women Want GOOD Sex!

The difference is that women only want it GOOD.

As a guy, you can have pretty mediocre nookie and still ejaculate. And even if it is phenomenal, most of the time you are still only going to finish once. Women on the other hand, usually don’t finish AT ALL from mediocre sex.

And no matter how “close” she tells you she was, or how good she tells you it was, if she’s not “getting there”, she is disappointed. And if it happens regularly we actually start to resent it, and even start to resent you for not learning how to do it right.

But from GREAT nookie, a woman can easily finish 3, 5, or even 10 times. The difference between amazing and just OK sex is not nearly as significant for guys as it is for girls.

Fellas That Can Do That Are Few

Guys that can give us AMAZING sex are few and far between. So if YOU are the guy giving a woman incredible nookie, it changes everything about how she’ll feel about you and how she treats you. In fact, guys who I have coached into bedroom rock stars often describe it as “eye-opening” and even “life-changing.” These are the sex tips that a lot of guides leave out.

There are a lot of signs – both in and out of the bedroom – that you are NOT satisfying your woman. Here’s just a few signs your girl is not satisfied.

Signs In The Bedroom

  • Your girl doesn’t always have an orgasm, and often doesn’t finish during intercourse
  • You frequently have to initiate intimacy
  • She is reluctant to go down on you, to have to do it in certain positions, to try anything adventurous

Signs Outside The Bedroom

  • You feel like you have to “earn” it, by taking her out or buying her things, or by being on your “best” behavior.
  • You think your girl just doesn’t like it as much as you do. She has to be in the right mood and not tired or stressed from work.
  • She nags you about household responsibilities, how you dress, how you act.
  • You and your girl aren’t having sex as much as you used to, and not as much as you would like to

If these sound like you, you aren’t alone.

How Does Your Girl Act When You Are Giving Her Amazing Sex?

Make no mistake about it, once you start giving your girl amazing nookie, everything, and I do mean everything about the relationship changes.

Inside The Bedroom

  • She wants to get it on more often than you do
  • She is eager to please you, enthusiastic to go down on you and try anything you suggest
  • She regularly comes from intercourse and has multiple orgasms

Outside The Bedroom

  • All nagging will end almost immediately
  • She buys you gifts, pays for dinners, is eager to please
  • She is eager to do you favors

Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with buying that special lady a present now and then, and you certainly should – but it shouldn’t be as a way to earn something from her. That’s what these sex tips are all about – they show you that by giving a woman intense orgasms and satisfying her completely, you will get the same in return.

Remember These Two Things

  1. Women crave GOOD sex more than men crave it
  2. If you are giving your woman amazing sex, she will do everything she can to please and keep you – both in and out of the bedroom!