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The Incredible, Brand-New Sex Move You Have To Try – Tonight!

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Sex tips can help improve your bedroom routine, but many of them are still “run of the mill” stuff that gets boring after awhile. Even new things can seem old after some time, if you’ve been doing them regularly during sex. However, there are SOME sex tips are so hot they can only be used every now & then. These are the things you want to save for those nights where you really want to get crazy. They are the sex tips that are so awesome, you don’t want to use them every night for fear of burning them out. Do THIS brand new move – it’s so scorching you’ll only want to bring it out when you’re feeling SUPER sexy!

What It Is

When having sex with your partner, assume the “girl on top” sex position. This really is the best sex position for this maneuver. As you are riding your partner and things are getting really intense (you should have had plenty of foreplay before this so you both are super turned on), have him reach around one of your legs and tickle your clitoris and vaginal entrance.

As you both get more into it, have him work his fingers inside your vagina, while he is still thrusting his penis into you. This may take a few tries, and make sure you are either so turned on you’re dripping wet or you’re using plenty of lube – or it can get uncomfortable.

Have him move his fingers around in your vagina and finger you as you have sex. He can even stroke his own penis this way!

Remember, spending a good amount of time engaging in foreplay before doing this will make it MUCH better. In fact, this move can be pretty lackluster if you and your partner aren’t so turned on you’re about to explode.

Why It’s Awesome

There are many reasons that this particular sex move is so incredibly amazing. First, it’s a surefire orgasm giver for both you and your partner! As your partner pushes his fingers into your vagina, you’ll have both his fingers and his penis inside of you, causing you to feel very full and engaging all the sensitive pleasure nerves that line the walls of your vagina. Also, the extra “fullness” will help push his penis on your g-spot, giving you the extra stimulation you need to either have a g-spot orgasm or a blended one.

This move is also great for him, because you’ll feel extra tight to him. This will help stimulate him, especially if you have trouble with his thickness and the width of your vagina working well together. He’ll also be able to feel your wetness with his hand and feel his own penis penetrating you. This is super hot for him mentally! He will LOVE feeling you this way. He’ll also be able to stimulate himself as he stimulates you by moving his fingers around. It’s almost like him masturbating and having sex with you at the same time!

Fun Variations

If his fingers aren’t working well for you in the girl on top sex position, use different sex positions. while girl on top is the best one for this maneuver, it can also be done in the doggy style sex position and even the spooning sex position. Experiment with them all and see which ones work the best for you and your lover! Skip him on top though, because it’s way too difficult for him to get his fingers in your vagina in this sex position. It will just be awkward and possibly very uncomfortable.

If his fingers aren’t doing it for you but you still like the concept of his penis and something else being in your vagina at the same time, there are also several sex toys designed to be worn during intercourse that slip inside the vagina. They can create the same sensation of fullness and the vibrations can be fun, but they’re not as good at pushing the penis up against the g-spot or stroking his penis the way fingers can. Fingers can move spontaneously and independently of each other, giving you and him both some really intense sensations.

This move is all about being creative and doing what feels good in the moment. That’s what really makes it so hot – if you’re both turned on enough and just experiencing the here and now, almost any sex tips are going to be on FIRE!

6 Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Dripping Wet!

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Dirty talk is a great way to engage her mind in sex – learn these six sayings that will have her so wet, you’ll have to change the sheets afterwards!

“You Look Stunning….”

The word “stunning” will work, as will the words “gorgeous” and “beautiful.” The word “sexy” or “hot” won’t – it will just make her feel like a sex object. Tell her how gorgeous, beautiful or stunning she looks when she takes off all her clothes and you see her naked, whether it’s the first time or the thousandth time.

Women are naturally insecure about our bodies, no thanks to modern media. When she gets undressed in front of you, she’s automatically wondering if you’ll think she’s flawed, even if you don’t say anything. She’ll wonder if you think her breasts are too small, or if you’re paying attention to her cellulite instead of her lacy black panties. Put her fears to rest as soon as she gets naked and let her know that you find her absolutely, positively beautiful.

“You Taste So Good….”

This is one you’ll want to use during oral sex. If your girl lets you perform oral sex on her, she’s likely a little nervous about it, even if you’ve done it before. Women are conditioned from a young age to make sure they’re “fresh” down there, and you’ve surely heard the jokes made about vaginal odor (so has she). Even if what you’re doing feels great, she’s likely going to be wondering if you think she tastes or smells bad.

Let her know that she doesn’t – in fact, let her know that she tastes divine! Don’t just say it either – show her by giving her the best oral sex she’s ever had. Don’t just lick her clitoris and call it done. Taste every inch of her and let her know you love it.

“You’re So Good At That….”

Your girl wants to be the best sex you’ve ever had. She wants to be better than all the other girls you’ve ever done it with, and she wants no one to ever be able to make you feel the way she does. So make her believe this by working it into your dirty talk.

This phrase is best use when she’s giving you a great blowjob. Giving good head requires some skill, and if she’s any good at all, it’s likely that she takes at least a little bit of pride in her oral sex skills. Stroke her ego and let her know that she’s incredible at giving a blowjob. She’ll respond with more enthusiasm, better maneuvers and she’ll feel like you enjoy her and her alone.

“You Make Me Rock Hard….”

Part of what turns a woman on is knowing that her partner is turned on by her. Let your lover know that she turns you on and sets you on fire! Tell her that she makes your knees weak, that she makes your erection rock hard and that you can’t wait to get inside of her. She will love hearing about how bad you want her!

“I Want To Make This Last….”

A lot of girls have been burned by one minute guys, who get busy without first engaging in foreplay and who don’t last very long at all. Assure her that you’re not one of “those” guys by incorporating it in your dirty talk. Let your lover know how much you’re enjoying having sex with her, and let her know that you want to make it last.

If you struggle with premature ejaculation or just don’t have the stamina for a hot sex marathon, go slow. If you’re close to orgasm, stop and kiss her softly or give her oral sex while you take a time out. This would actually be a perfect time to use the phrase, “I want to make this last….”

“You Fit Me Perfectly….”

This goes along the line of thought that women want to hear that they’re the only woman who could ever satisfy their guy sexually – or they at least want to know that they’re hands down better than the rest. So tell her that her vagina fits you perfectly. You can do this vaguely by saying “you fit me perfectly,” or you can take this to the next level.

Be wary of going too far with this if you’ve just met someone, but if you’re going pretty strong or are in a committed relationship, you could go on to say that it’s almost as though her body was designed just for you. This will make her melt emotionally and get her so hot physically, she may just set the house on fire!

Married Sex: 9 Ways To Break Out Of Your Sex Rut

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Married sex is well known for its lack of heat behind closed doors, but does that mean you should resign yourself to a sex rut just because you’re wearing a ring on your finger? Not hardly. There are lots of ways you can bring the fire back into your sexual relationship – it just takes a little effort and some imagination. Check out these 10 titillating tips to break out of a sex rut and make married sex super steamy again!

Get A Make Over

A woman’s self esteem in a marriage plays a big role in how sexy she feels – and as a result, how often her husband ends up getting laid. If you’re feeling less than super hot, it’s time to get a little make over. If you can’t afford the full meal deal when it comes to getting primped, opt for a mani/pedi or a relaxing massage instead. Doing something ultra-girly just for yourself will make you feel better and put you in a “let’s-do-it-tonight” mood.

Share A Sex Fantasy With Your Partner

Married sex ends up getting boring because it’s often the same thing over and over. Sure, it’s great to be comfortable with your guy and know what to expect when you hit the sheets, but the best way to get out of the sex rut is to throw your partner a curveball now and again. Try sharing a sex fantasy with your lover, whether it’s something tame like light bondage, or something a little racier. (Diapers, anyone?)

Sext Him

Sending racy texts to your lover is a great way to get him thinking about you all day. By the time he gets home from work, he’ll be dying to get your clothes off! The same applies to you. Let him know how much it turns you on at work when you get sweet and sexy text from him at lunch.

Try Dirty Talk

One great way to break out of your sex rut is to try dirty talk together. Trying dirty talk will take married sex to a whole new level, making it feel new, fun and exciting all over again. Start out slow, with just a few vocal sounds – especially if you’ve been the quiet, shy type in the past. You can then move on to describing how great something feels or what you’re going to do to your partner next.

Take A Vacay

The daily grind is usually the biggest contributor towards a boring sex rut after the “I do’s.” Spice it up by breaking up the monotony and going on a romantic vacation. Feel free to plan a big vacation to your favorite romantic spot if you’ve got the funds, but if not, a simple weekend (or even night) away at a local hotel will do the trick. Simply changing up the scenery will do your love life wonders!

Check Out Each Other’s Scent

Pheromones are an incredibly powerful aphrodisiac – way better than any scented candle or massage oil. Inhale your partner’s scent by wearing an old t-shirt of his to bed or showering with his soap. You’ll be thinking about him non-stop until you get your hands on him! Alternatively, spritz a bit of your favorite perfume (ideally something that has the same scent as your shampoo since this is what he inhales every time he hugs you) in his car before he heads to work.

Try New Sex Positions

While trying new sex positions may seem like a cliche way to spice up married sex, it’s a tried and true way to get out of the sex rut. Even just flipping over and doing it doggy style once or twice can make doing it with your partner feel new all over again.

Have Sex In New Places

Instead of always heading to the bedroom to get busy with your partner, try some different sex places. The excitement of doing it somewhere new and different (as well as the fear of getting busted) will thrill you and your man to no end. Try doing it on the couch first, and then graduating to the dressing rooms at your local department store or even a show car in the middle of the mall!

Foreplay

Many married couples don’t spend enough time on foreplay. After a busy day at work and tending to the kids, most couples just don’t have the energy to do anything but a quickie, causing them to fall into a huge sex rut. Plan a night where you can spend some extra time on foreplay so both you and your partner get completely satisfied.

Why A Woman Fakes Her Orgasm

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The female orgasm can be elusive, and as a result, many girls end up faking in bed. Here’s the reason behind why not every female orgasm is the real deal.

Sadly, many women fake their orgasms. You might think you’ve given her the most powerful orgasm of her life, when in reality, her screaming, moaning and thrashing was an act that would give Jenna Jameson a run for her money. If you’ve ever found out that a girl has been faking with you, you probably felt let down, cheated and lied to.

Which is true – you were let down, cheated and lied to when she made you believe what you were doing made her come, when in reality, she was probably as far from an orgasm as she could possibly be. However, something you need to think about is why some women fake reaching climax.

They almost never do it for fun – because frankly, making it really believable isn’t that easy. And unless the guy she’s with is a total dolt or never watches porn, if she doesn’t do a good job at faking it, he’ll likely be able to tell right away. It’s harder to fake an orgasm than it is to have a real one, so why would she?

She Can’t Have An Orgasm

Think of all the reasons she might not be able to come – take any one of these and apply it to a faking situtation. If she can’t have an orgasm, for whatever reason, she’s going to be tempted to fake it. While some women are empowered enough to think, “You know what? He didn’t make me come and he should know that.” They know they have no obligation to you to cover up the fact that they didn’t reach climax, and they’re not going to hide that fact. Good for them. Other women, however, might be embarrassed about it.

She might not want to admit to you that she couldn’t have an orgasm – so she fakes it instead. For women who have never had an orgasm or don’t know how to “get there,” faking is even more common. For these girls, screaming in “ecstasy” at the right time may be all she knows how to do, or what she thinks she is supposed to do. No matter what the reason behind her inability to have an orgasm is, if she can’t do it, she might rather fake it than admit that she just can’t have one.

She Doesn’t Want You To Feel Bad

Women are sensitive creatures, especially to the feelings of others. She may believe that you knowing she isn’t going to come would make you feel inadequate or bad about yourself, and she may very well be right. She doesn’t want this for you, so she’d rather fake it than see you get hurt. If she fakes it, you’ll feel good about “making her climax” and she won’t have to watch your insecurity climb.

However, this is actually a huge problem – how are you supposed to know what pleases her and what doesn’t during sex if you constantly think everything you’re doing results in a killer orgasm for her? She’s actually hurting you and hurting herself in the long run, because she’s not teaching you how to pleasure her – something that can only be done when you see your techniques pay off with a real orgasm.

The truth is, most guys are smart enough to figure out if they do something that results in her climax that it needs to be done again. So if her man is doing the wrong thing and she fakes it, she’s only teaching him bad habits. But her motivations may be in the right place – she doesn’t want you to be upset that either she can’t climax or you can’t help her get there.

She Knows She Won’t And She’s Ready For It To Be Over

Women who are experienced in having an orgasm can usually tell if they’re just not going to get there this time. Again, this can be due to a variety of reasons, but if she knows she’s not going to reach climax, she’s probably right. This of course can be self fulfilling prophecy too, but whatever. Let’s just assume for the moment that for whatever reason, she’s not going to get off and she knows it.

You’re doing your thing and she’s just not getting anything out of it. She’s patient, she’s happy you’re getting your groove on and she’s going to hang out underneath you until you get yours. The clock ticks by and you’re still thrusting away. The lube is drying out and things are getting kind of uncomfortable for her. You’re going faster, slowing down, changing sex positions – and still not ejaculating. Then she realizes the truth – you’re waiting for her.

You’re not going to let go until she gets hers – which is sweet, but when she knows it’s not going to happen, what does she do? Many women won’t have the guts to look you dead in the eye and say, “Honey, I’m just not going to orgasm tonight. Go ahead and do your thing.” She might be afraid you’ll be upset. She might be embarrassed. Whatever – she’s just going to fake it because the sex has to end sometime. She might as well be the one to end it. She’s not doing it to hurt you – she’s doing it because she’s too chicken not to.

You Suck In Bed

And lastly, a woman who has plenty of experience with good orgasms, mediocre ones and no orgasms at all will be able to determine whether your sexual techniques are any good or not. And unfortunately for you, you might suck in bed. Now, this doesn’t mean you suck with every woman (although this may also be true), but you’re just not doing it for the girl you’re with at the moment.

Now rewind a bit and remember that her faking it means she’s too scared to do anything else. If a woman fakes it because you’re bad in bed, it’s because she doesn’t have enough balls to either tell you what she likes, direct you in the right direction or flat out tell you that it’s not working for her. She also doesn’t have enough balls to just masturbate while you watch. So she fakes it.

There are many reasons why a woman will fake her orgasm, but it’s almost never because she wants to hurt you or make you angry. It’s usually because she either wants to protect you from hurt feelings that she’s not coming, or because she’s too chicken to actually communicate with you about what she likes or what you need to be doing differently.

If she can’t communicate with you, that’s a whole other ball game – she’s either just scared by nature (in which case you’re better off with another woman who’s not a pansy) or she doesn’t feel safe talking about her sexual feelings with you (in which case you’re doing something in the relationship that’s causing her to feel closed off – or she’s going some serious emotional baggage.

Women are hard to figure out, but you knew that already). If she’s faking and you find out, give her a break. Don’t automatically get pissed and walk away. She’s not being malicious. Consider the why and try to talk to her about it.

Rough, Hard Sex – Is It A Fetish, Or Something More?

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There are as many ways to have sex as there are people in the world – whether you enjoy slow, sensual intimacy with your partner or a little raunchy fun, sex is an incredible experience between two people. Many people enjoy rough, hard sex – is it just a fetish or something more?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I love rough, hard sex.  I like to have it all the time!  Is this just a fetish or is there something wrong with me?

–Alyssa, New Jersey

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What Goes On Behind Closed Doors?

What goes on in your bedroom – or living room or kitchen, for that matter – is your business as long as it is between two consenting adults and isn’t harming anyone. Most of the time sex – even the rough, hard kind – falls into this category but occasionally it doesn’t.

Make a mental checklist of what is going on between you and your partner when you have rough sex. Are both parties consenting adults? Is either party being hurt in some way? Usually, this is where some types of rough, hard sex cross the line.

Some people enjoy being hurt, but it’s important to look at the extent of it to decide how much is too much. Strangulation and asphyxiation are especially dangerous, as are things that would require either partner to seek a doctor’s attention afterwards.

If you like rough, hard sex, just make sure you’re being safe.

Is It A Fetish?

Typically, a fetish is an obsession with a single thing – such as shoes or bondage – but that doesn’t mean a liking for rough, hard sex is excluded. If you enjoy rough sex all the time, so much so that you avoid having any other type of sex, you might have a bit of a fetish.

That’s okay – as long as you’re not truly hurting someone or involving someone that doesn’t want to be involved. If your partner really enjoys rough sex and you do too, it can be a great way to connect in the bedroom.

If your partner enjoys rough, hard sex and you typically do not, that’s when it may cross the line.

Open Communication

If your partner likes hard sex and you don’t, make sure your partner knows this right away! You don’t have to submit yourself to sex that isn’t enjoyable to you and may be hurting you.

Chances are, your partner will be open to finding new ways of pleasing you and themselves without rough sex.

If feel that your partner might have a serious issue with rough sex, especially if they refuse to stop even after you’ve asked them to, it’s definitely going too far. If this is the case, consider the fact that you and your partner might not be a good match for each other.

Whether you enjoy rough, hard sex with your partner or prefer a softer side of your partner in the bedroom, just keep the lines of communication as open as you can.

Whether it’s coming up with a safety word that lets you both know it’s time to stop or simply letting your partner know you’re not really into the hard sex fetish, communication is the key to a healthy and happy sexual relationship.