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Oral Sex and STD’s – What You Need To Know

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While contracting an STD from unprotected oral sex (whether giving or receiving) is less likely than contracting an STD from unprotected intercourse, it’s still entirely possible. Chlamydia in your throat, anyone? It’s important to be as cautious and safe with oral sex as you would be with intercourse – and there’s lots of ways you can do that!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

Can you get STDs from oral sex? Is it a moot point to wear a condom for intercourse after that, if you’ve already had unprotected oral sex? What about girl on girl oral sex?

 

–Mike, FL

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Less Likely? How Less Likely?

Sure, it’s less likely to contract or pass STD’s through oral sex, but how less likely? Do you even want to fool with “less likely?” Although the chances of getting sexually transmitted diseases from unprotected oral sex than those of having unprotected intercourse, you can still contract STD’s such as chlamydia, ghonnorhea, syphilis, herpes and even HIV and AIDS from unprotected oral sex. Don’t chance it! If you’re not in a monogomous relationship in which both partners have been thoroughly tested for STD’s, protect yourself during intercourse and oral sex. You can use dental dams, flavored condoms or even plastic wrap in a pinch! Don’t like the way it feels? Try using a little bit of lube on the inside of the condom/dental dam/plastic wrap to create a more natural feeling.

Using A Condom During Intercourse After Having Unprotected Oral Sex

Is it a moot point to use a condom during intercourse if you’ve already had unprotected oral sex? Not at all! Even if the person you were having unprotected oral sex with has an STD, it’s entirely possible that you did not contract it during oral sex. It’s possible you did, but it’s also possible you didn’t. It’s much more likely that you’ll contract the disease through unprotected intercourse, so why set yourself up? Wrap it up instead! Again, if you’re not in a monogomous relationship with a partner you know for a fact is STD free, protect yourself as much as possible. Even if you didn’t use protection during oral sex, it’s still worth it to use a condom during intercourse.

Get Some Information!

The Internet is jam-packed full of information about sexually transmitted diseases, how each one is spread and how you can give or contract them through sex and oral sex. With a simple Google search, you can find out the specifics – such as how a particular disease can be spread through a particular sex act, as well as the best way to protect yourself. Don’t believe the old wives tales – you know, the ones like you can prevent pregnancy by douching afterwards (which by the way can actually improve your chances of getting pregnant). Read the information on legitimate websites, such as WebMD or the CDC website instead of checking out websites that don’t have credible information.

It’s all about being safe, smart and well informed. While any type of sex – oral, vaginal or anal – puts you at risk for giving or contracting sexually transmitted diseases (protected or unprotected) you can significantly reduce your risk by practicing safer sex and using condoms and dental dams. Protect yourself – you’re worth it!

The Female Libido Exposed

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The female libido is a touchy subject – just what exactly is the female libido? Is it the same as a sex drive? How does it function, and what happens if someone has a high libido or a low one? Here are the answer’s to the questions you’re asking about the female libido, and answers to the questions you didn’t think to ask! Everything you want to know and more about the female libido and more is here – so read on!

What Is The Female Libido?

Libido refers to a person’s sex drive, and both men and women have a libido. Not surprisingly, a male libido is quite different from a female libido! (What isn’t different about men and women?) The one thing that is similar about a female libido and the male libido is that people can have high, moderate or low libidos, or sex drives, regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman. Typically, a man’s libido is highest when he’s in his late teens and early twenties, while a woman’s libido is highest when she gets a little older, typically early 30’s to 40’s. If you don’t fit inside this box though, don’t worry. Everyone is different!

Is My Libido Too Low?

Lots of things can affect a female libido – everything from outside factors such as stress, emotional issues and even childhood issues to medication and exercise. A change in your libido can be surprising – you may not have necessarily had much sexual desire before, only to suddenly find yourself interested in sex at every turn, or you may experience a lowering in your libido where you used to crave sex a fair amount of the time and now it seems uninteresting to you. If you feel your libido is low, take a look at the factors in your life that could have an effect on it. Are you on any medications that could lower your sex drive? Are you eating, sleeping and exercising enough? Are you going through tough emotional times? All of these things can lower your libido, and you might find that a combination of them are wreaking havoc on your sex life.

Increasing Female Libido

If your libido is low, female libido enhancers can help you to experience a more natural and healthy sex life that is enjoyable for both you and your partner. Even if you are experiencing issues that are lowering your sex drive, female libido enhancers can help counteract those issues and increase female libido and give you your sex drive – and your life – back! Some libido enhancers are herbal formulas and other formulas in pill form, and can change the levels of hormones in your body, increasing your sex drive. Other libido enhancers are put directly on the vagina, helping to alleviate vaginal dryness that women with low libidos experience, as well as dilating the blood vessels in the area to make the area more sensitive and responsive to touch. Some of the best female libido enhancing formulas are a combination of both pills and external creams or gels, and can help increase your sex drive in a way you never thought possible.

Female libidos differ from person to person and can change throughout your life, especially if you have circumstances around you that are affecting your sex drive. If you have a low female libido, you don’t have to live that way – there are many female libido enhancers on the market that can help you to experience a better, more fulfilling and satisfying sex life and help you feel like yourself again!

Herbal Viagra – Can These Cheaper Erection Pills Actually Be Better?

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Viagra – you’ve probably heard the term before and if you’re a smart enough cookie, you probably know what that little blue pill is for. Lots of men have trouble with erectile dysfunction and impotency, and Viagra can help them get their sexual desires and performance back for a better and more satisfying sex life.

However, Viagra has some side effects that are safe for most people and other side effects that might be unpleasant for others, or make traditional Viagra impossible for them to use. Do these men have an alternative, or do they have to say goodbye to their sex lives forever?

All-Natural, All You

Sure, there are a multitude of different erection pills on the market, but none are as well known as Viagra. Pharmaceutical Viagra isn’t for everyone though – so if you’ve talked to your doctor about Viagra and it’s not for you, herbal Viagra can be a great alternative. What exactly is herbal Viagra and what does it do?

Herbal Viagra is often considered cheap Viagra and is basically any herbal pill that suggests its ingredients aid erectile dysfunction and impotency. Herbal Viagra can contain anything considered “all natural,” even including extracts from the larvae of silkworms. Often, herbal Viagra contains a variety of naturally extracted substances to give the user more energy and stamina, in addition to an erection.

Herbal remedies have worked for centuries for a variety of ailments, including high blood pressure, obesity, cardiac problems, insomnia and more. It’s only natural that an herbal Viagra supplement could aid erectile dysfunction and impotency issues with the natural extracts from plants and herbs – and well, maybe insects.

All-Natural, But Is It All-Safe?

Any supplement or medication should be discussed with your doctor before you take it. Even though cheap Viagra is available without a prescription online doesn’t mean it’s totally safe for anyone who wants to take it. There are side effects from even herbal supplements, and herbal Viagra can sometimes cause low blood pressure or seriously prevent blood flow to vital organs such as your heart, liver, lungs and digestive system. While natural Viagra in some cases can be safer than the little blue pill, it’s still important to discuss with your doctor the potential benefits and risks from taking this type of supplement. One of the more serious side effects from any type of erection pill is a prolonged erection lasting more than four hours. If this happens to you, seek medical attention immediately.

The Bottom Line on Herbal Viagra

If you or your partner are suffering from erectile dysfunction or impotency problems, you’re most likely desperate for some kind of relief. It’s time to reclaim your sexuality and erection pills are certainly one great option to do that.

With your doctor’s okay, either pharmaceutical Viagra or herbal Viagra can help you to once again gain an erection and have a fantastic, fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Depending on you and your healthy / medical condition, herbal Viagra, however, might pose less risk to you than traditional Viagra and may make you feel better and have more energy and sexual confidence in yourself – so it’s time to get your life back!

The Long And Short Of Penis Size

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There’s no doubt about it – men are absolutely obsessed with their penises. It’s a fact of life! Men who feel they have small penises wish they had bigger ones and men with large penises. . .well, they wish they had bigger ones too. You’ve probably read some of our articles on penis size, but we’re going to go at this from a different angle – when does the penis start growing and when does it stop?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

 

I’d like to know when I can expect my penis to start growing and when it’s going to stop. Also, how big is a normal penis? Thanks for your help!

 

-Jonathan, MO

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When Does The Penis Start Growing?

Penis growth starts when a boy hits puberty. When you first start to grow pubic hair, your penis will start to grow as well. The testes will drop down further into the scrotum and you’ll notice the penis becoming longer when it is erect as well as when it is not. Of course, as you go through puberty, you’ll notice more changes than just size – it may change slightly in color or the texture of the skin. The rest of your body will change as well, and you’ll notice your voice deepen and your overall body will go through several growth spurts. It can be pretty disorienting at first, especially considering that as your penis grows, you’ll begin to have sexual desires that you might not have had before.

When Does The Penis Stop Growing?

During puberty, you can expect your penis to continue to grow, just like the rest of your body. As you get taller, your penis will grow as well. It might not be changes that you notice on a daily basis, but the changes are small and they are there. The penis typically stops growing when you stop growing, or rather as you stop gaining height. When you stop growing taller, generally in the early twenty’s, your penis will stop growing as well. It will have reached its maximum length and girth and generally will stay the same throughout your adult life.

How Large Is A Normal Penis?

That’s a question that many men ask, especially in conjunction with questions about penis growth, but it’s a difficult question to answer. What is “normal” isn’t necessarily classified – meaning, we are all different and we all have different anatomies. No two penises will ever be exactly the same! Generally speaking, the typical penis ranges between 2-3 inches long when it is flax and between 5-6 inches when it is erect. Many men, however, fall outside these categories and that doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything wrong with you! Whether you are extremely well endowed, or have a smaller penis, your anatomy is yours. That’s all there is to it!

Learning to be comfortable with your body and in your own skin takes time. Even adult men aren’t comfortable with their penis size, whether they’re large or small and still more younger men who are going through puberty are insecure about themselves and their changing bodies. Let nature take it’s course and learn to be comfortable with not only who you are, but how your body looks and feels as well. Confidence in yourself is worth much, much more than a penis of any size!

What Is The REAL Truth About Anal Sex?

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Anal sex is definitely a touchy subject – is it safe or is it dangerous? If you enjoy having anal sex, how can you make it as safe as possible? Just like any type of sex, there is so much information about related sexually transmitted diseases, anatomy and tips and techniques that it truly can be mind boggling. Here’s what you want to know about anal sex – and more!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Is anal sex really safe? Is it okay to have anal sex? What precautions can you take so you can still enjoy anal sex but do so safely?

–Tom, NJ

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No Sex Is Safe

You might be surprised to learn that no sex – oral, anal or vaginal – is technically considered safe. There is always the risk of pregnancy with vaginal sex no matter how much protection you use (although the proper protection such as condoms and birth control greatly reduce that risk) and there’s always the risk of contracting sexually transmitted with any type of sex, no matter how small. So it makes sense that anal sex is never considered “safe” either, and anal sex even has its own risks associated with it. With that in mind, if you choose to have anal sex, definitely take care to make it as safe as you possibly can!

Cleanliness

One risk associated with anal sex that generally isn’t true of other types of sex is the abundance of bacteria in the anal cavity that can spread. If you’re using toys, make sure your toys are clean before and after use, and never, ever use a toy or even a real penis for vaginal sex after anal sex if it hasn’t been cleaned properly first. There are a lot of great toy cleansers on the market today, and if you’re short on cash, hot water and soap work just as well. As an added note, having a bowel movement or even taking a gentle laxative before having anal sex will ensure that while bacteria still remain, solid matter is at a minimum.

Be Reasonable!

Remember that the anal cavity is not self lubricating like the vagina. Use plenty of water based lubricant (oil based lubricants break down latex and if you’re using a condom during anal sex – which is highly recommended whether you’re with a monogamous partner or not – oil based lube will reduce the condom’s effectiveness or even cause it to break) and add more lubricant as needed. Be reasonable with size as well – if you’re partner’s penis is unusually well endowed, you might want to try using a smaller toy or fingers for anal sex play. If you only use toys for anal sex, keep your toys at a reasonable size and opt for ones that have a wide base at the bottom to keep it from slipping in your anal cavity and getting lost – because yes, that can happen!

The Anal Cavity Is Not The Place For Rough Sex

Remember that the anal cavity and anus is not designed for sex the way a vagina is. That doesn’t mean that it’s not possible, just that sex is not this area’s primary purpose. If you like rough sex, the anus is not the place for it. Anal tissues are very delicate and can tear, and overly stretching your anus and anal cavity can lead to the necessity for adult diapers later on. If you choose to have anal sex, be safe, smart and educated and take care of yourself and your partner. It may give you great pleasure, but tearing or stretching your anal cavity can make you unable to have any type of anal sex in the future, in addition to the other problems that come along with that.