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G-Spot Amplification: What Everybody Ought to Know About The “G-Shot”

By leejenkins

Do you know how to find the G-Spot?  Despite the tales of mind-blowing, bone-jarring sexual escapades, millions of women have never experienced a G-spot orgasm through intercourse. It remains a frustration in spite of our bodies’ seemingly-perfect design to tap into that well of pleasure.

In fact, many people doubt that the G-spot exists (it does). Our instinctive tendency is to find a “quick fix.”

As our collective sexual frustration and our natural penchant for the speedy solution converge, a potential remedy has surfaced. Known as the “G-Shot”, this remedy promises to transform the “hard to hit” G-spot into a “can’t miss” target. Below, we’ll take a closer look at the controversial G-Shot.

We’ll describe how it works, the risks involved and whether it truly offers access to the mythical G-spot orgasm.

Understanding How The G-Shot Works

In its simplest form, the G-Shot makes a woman’s G-spot larger. In fact, the procedure is often called G-Spot Amplification®. It involves injecting a small amount of collagen into the area of the vaginal wall where the G-spot is located.

The collagen enlarges the G-spot, making it easier for men to stimulate the area. Ultimately, the increased stimulation can lead to stronger, longer-lasting orgasms.

The G-Shot is administered by a doctor and requires local anesthesia. Women who have undergone the procedure claim the entire process takes less than 30 minutes. However, even though the procedure is convenient, it’s important to note that there are risks involved.

Risks Associated With The G-Shot

While many women who have had the G-spot collagen injection claim that it makes achieving orgasms easier, the G-Shot is not without potential unpleasant side effects. For example, some have experienced bladder discomfort. Others have noticed blood present in their urine.

Still others report experiencing a feeling of constant sexual arousal. Other side effects that are associated with the G-Shot procedure include allergic reactions, urinary tract infections, off-putting vaginal discharges and pain during intercourse.

Though the G-Shot is routinely advertised as a “quick fix” solution for an inability to have dependable G-spot orgasms, there are significant risks. In fact, because the number of potential side effects is extensive, a woman is typically required to sign a consent form prior to having the procedure performed.

Doubt From The Medical Community

Adding to the controversy is the fact that many in the medical establishment scoff at the G-Shot’s effectiveness. Their misgivings are largely based upon the lack of clinical evidence supporting the procedure’s efficacy. While many women who have received the collagen injection contend that the shot has a positive effect on their ability to reach a G-spot orgasm, data is limited.

Lack of Clinical Evidence

First, the sample size of those surveyed lacks the breadth to have any significant implications. Second, there is no evidence that a double-blind study (an experiment in which some participants receive the collagen while other participants receive a placebo injection) was performed. Many doctors claim that the G-Shot’s effectiveness remains unproven.

Other Potential Drawbacks Of The G-Shot

There are other criticisms of the procedure. First, it’s expensive. Receiving the collagen injection into the vaginal wall costs approximately $1,800. Many people may initially consider $1,800 to be a small price to pay for sexual satisfaction. But, the inclination to pay that amount of money for what constitutes a natural, healthy sexual result implies a deeper problem:

Lack of sufficient sexual skills.

Another problem with the G-Shot is the need for ongoing treatments. The collagen injection enlarges the G-spot for approximately 4 months. After that time has passed, the collagen deposit is absorbed into the body. To experience the benefit of the G-Shot perpetually, a woman is required to have the procedure performed every 4 months. At $1,800 per injection, the price of sexual fulfillment (which arguably can be easily achieved by developing fundamental sexual skills) can be substantial.

Alternatives To The G-Shot

Many women (and their partners) are stunned to discover the high cost of the G-Shot injections. The need for ongoing treatments makes the procedure even less attractive. However, there are alternatives. Most sex therapists agree that enlarging the G-spot artificially by injecting the area with collagen is not only unnecessary for sexual ecstasy; it’s also unhealthy.

They argue that the body is meant to function sexually without the use of such injections. By developing sufficient sexual skills, most women can achieve powerful G-spot orgasms naturally.

Rather than relying upon a costly invasive procedure, men and women should instead devote time to improving their lovemaking abilities. Men should talk with their partners and identify where the G-spot is located. They should also know which sexual positions are most likely to stimulate a woman’s G-spot. Improving their dexterity and endurance should also be priorities.

Women should take the time to refine their own sexual performance in the bedroom. That includes learning to move their bodies in a way that allows men to hit their G-spot easily.

An Invasive Procedure Is Not The Answer

If a woman is not able to achieve a G-spot orgasm, she should communicate with her partner. Often, the issue lies in her partner’s lack of sexual prowess. That’s also where the solution should be found. That is, her partner can easily learn the ability to stimulate her G-spot.

An invasive procedure like the G-Shot isn’t necessary. Formidable sexual skills can be developed by any man. Once those skills are developed, he can help a woman achieve orgasms on demand.

G-Shot Versus Better Love Making Skills

Many people argue that receiving the G-Shot injection precludes either partner from having to spend time learning the necessary sexual skills. Specifically, a man doesn’t need to learn anything to satisfy the woman. But, that perspective poses 3 problems.

First, using the G-Shot as a means of achieving sexual fulfillment is inconsistent with our bodies’ natural ability to function sexually. In truth, every man and woman should develop sexual proficiency.

Second, relying upon the G-Shot injection could mean spending $1,800 every 4 months (that’s $5400 per year) into the foreseeable future. While that may seem like a workable solution at first, it may be prohibitively costly after a few treatments.

Third, if a couple decides to go their separate ways, neither will have developed the necessary sexual skills for future partners’ satisfaction.

Knowing The Risks And Costs

Making an informed decision requires having enough information. Unfortunately, much is unknown about the G-Shot. There has been no apparent double blind study conducted. Plus, the long-term side effects of undergoing repeated collagen treatments in the vaginal wall has not yet been determined.

The G-Shot injection is a “quick fix” solution to a problem that involves deeper symptoms. Some may liken it to a costly band-aid that forever needs to be replaced.

In the end, the choice is yours. Many people will continue to choose the G-Shot as a “quick fix” solution to their lack of sexual fulfillment (despite the ongoing expense and lack of information about long-term health impacts).

That said, developing the sexual skills you need to please every partner would make the G-Shot irrelevant. In truth, being able to find and hit your partner’s G-spot every time is a simple skill to develop. And it can pay off for the rest of your life.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, g spot, g spot orgasm, love, orgasm, sex tips

Frustrated Girl Still Can’t Orgasm!

By loveandsex

For some women, it is extremely hard to have an orgasm. Many of the things that work for most women just don’t seem to cut it with others. If you’re one of the women who can’t seem to climax, it can be extremely frustrating.

The cause could be from having too much stress and tension to having an emotional block that just won’t let you go over the edge. It is important to really try and find the source of these issues and if need be, seek help from a sex therapist.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

For years I have been trying to have and orgasm, but nothing ever happens. No matter how much I try, I don’t seem to be able to do it!

Can you please help me what should I do? I have tried so many things. Please help.

–Jemma, Australia

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Taking care of the problem on your own

Before you go packing your bags to see the therapist, try doing a few things on your own to see if you can solve the dilemma. Try relaxing before sexual activity by doing stretching, yoga, or even meditating as this can help calm the mind and may make your body more receptive to climax. Masturbation with or without toys is often the key for a woman to learn how she likes to be touched to reach an orgasm, so it’s important to try masturbation if you haven’t yet.

Both masturbation and oral sex can actually be a very useful way of stimulating the clitoris, which can result in a very satisfying orgasm. Various lotions and lubricants can also be used to help reduce friction and some lotions can actually enhance sexual arousal and sensations to help you orgasm. There are also a number of herbal supplements that can help stimulate blood flow to improve feeling and sensitivity in the sexual organs to better help you reach your climax.

Getting professional help

If you have tried everything you can think of and still can’t reach an orgasm, you should seek help from a professional. A sex therapist is a better bet than your regular physician, although your physician can check you physically to make sure there’s not a problem that is keeping you from having an orgasm. Sex therapists have undergone training in the field of sexual complications and are better equipped to help you with an inability to climax.

Build trust with your sex therapist

If it is an emotional issue, make sure you build trust with your sex therapist so you can feel more at ease about disclosing intimate details. Your sex therapist can help you work through your emotional problems and help you learn to relieve tension so you can be more open to receiving an orgasm.

Relaxation is key

Relaxation is one of the prime keys to achieving orgasm.  You have to be comfortable with yourself and your partner and you have to be comfortable with your partner enough to explore many different methods of reaching orgasm.

Foreplay is another important keystone because it helps to “warm up” the body in preparation for sexual activity. Try having extended foreplay to see if that helps to entice your body into opening up enough to reach climax.

Most of all, don’t be embarrassed to try new things that you might think are different. If you close yourself off from these options then you simply narrow your list of available methods of reaching an orgasm. If nothing seems to be working, then try something you might normally try.

Of course, if the issue is emotional then there might not be any method that works other than taking time to work through the issue with a sex therapist.  If you are truly unsure of what to do, it’s time to consult the professionals.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

Is It Wrong to be Jealous Of My Partner Watching Porn?

By loveandsex

When a man watches porn, it is normal to feel jealous or insecure. This is actually a common issue among many women. It’s hard for a woman to get over the fact that her man is looking and perhaps thinking of another woman. It is hard for a woman to accept a man watching porn because traditionally, women are more emotional than visual.

Men prefer visual pornography while women find romance novels appealing, because it sets up a journey of love with rising passion and suspense. In short, a romance novel feeds that emotional desire that women have.  Men prefer pornography because it satisfies their need for visual stimulation.

Unfortunately, it’s difficult for a woman to understand a man’s perspective and that leads to jealousy and insecure feelings when it comes to pornography.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Do you have any advice on how to get over my jealousy? When I see my bf watching porn, I hate it! I figure it’s cheating ‘cause you’re imagining doing the other person. It’s so frustrating!

–(YouTube)

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Why men like porn

Men are action oriented, that is, they like to see what is happening. Men enjoy seeing nudity and sexual acts visually, and that’s perfectly natural for them. It’s how they’re built. It is nothing more than a man’s fantasy and in isn’t quite the same as cheating.

If he were sleeping with the woman he was watching then it would be, but just for a man to envision a woman long enough to get his jollies isn’t the same. He isn’t thinking about running off with the woman that he’s watching, or thinking about how much better they are than the woman they’re actually with. It is just a momentary fantasy and it’s his way of releasing tension and relaxing. It doesn’t mean he is cheating because in the end he’s with you and he chose to be with you.

Getting over the jealousy of a man watching porn is as simple or as complex you want to make it.  The best thing is to just try and accept that men are visual creatures and watching porn is natural to them.  It’s not that he doesn’t love you, it’s just that it’s natural for him to want to see sexual acts and nudity visually because it helps to satisfy him.

It’s perfectly natural

Many times, a man will use porn to satisfy his immediate sexual desires when you are not around or when you’re asleep. This is perfectly normal and shouldn’t be considered cheating. If your partner chooses to use porn frequently to the point where your sex life as a couple is diminishing, it might be time to get some help from an unbiased counselor or sex therapist.

If your partner uses porn as a means to satisfy his sexual desires but your sex life is still healthy and strong, don’t worry about it! Relax and let it go. It can be difficult to do, but it’s possible and will help keep your relationship healthy and strong as well.

If your partner watches porn, it’s not considered cheating. It’s perfectly normal and natural, as it is for a woman to fantasize emotionally using romance novels or her own imagination. If your partner’s porn habits are bothering you, talk to him open and honestly about why it bothers you and what you both can do to reach a compromise.

You certainly can’t give him an ultimatum. That will only serve to anger him and cause him to watch porn without telling you. Perhaps you can watch porn together or find other ways to satisfy each other sexually while using porn. Work together to find a compromise that satisfies both you and your partner.

Filed Under: Porn & Adult Movies Tagged With: adult movies, erotica, porn, porn addiction, Relationship Advice

Does Liking Anal Sex With a Strap On Make Me Gay?

By loveandsex

Many people like different forms of sex. New and exciting sexual encounters help spice up the sex life, and if you’re into trying new things you might find a few that really turn you on and help make your orgasms explosive!

Both women and men can enjoy anal sex and if you’re a man who has a female partner but enjoys her using a strap on to have anal sex with you, you could be wondering if it makes you gay. It doesn’t!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I really like it when my wife does me with a strap-on (she likes it too). It feels really good – intense orgasms. I don’t think I am gay. I think I would rather kiss a monkey than kiss another guy.

1) I don’t feel gay, or bi, but I really like getting boned in the booty by my wife – does this make me a little girly man?

2) Am I really gay but somehow just don’t realize it? Is that even possible?

3) Any suggestions on how to make it feel even better?

–Stuart, Georgia

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5IiMqDwS_o[/youtube]

Being gay involves more than anal sex

Being homosexual involves a number of different hormonal and emotional issues – not just enjoying anal sex. Homosexual men might fantasize about having sex with other men, or may be physically and emotionally attracted to men more than women.

Simply enjoying having anal sex does not make you a homosexual! Similarly, not all homosexual men enjoy anal sex. It is simply a matter of personal preference that is not at all grouped by age, race, sexual orientation or gender.

If you enjoy having your female partner perform anal sex on you with a strap on, and she enjoys it too, you are welcome to thoroughly enjoy your new sexual experiences together! Don’t let anyone judge you based on what you and your partner enjoy in the bedroom. What you and her like is up to you and no one else has a say in it. As long as you’re both being safe, you’re both willing and no one is getting hurt, feel free to take part in your sexual pleasure and enjoy!

As a heterosexual man, you might be a little unfamiliar with the ins and outs of anal sex, so to speak. You might have tried it a few times and liked it, but haven’t taken it any further than that. There are a number of things you can do to make sure anal sex is safe and even more enjoyable for both you and your partner!

Things to remember

First of all, remember that the rectum is one of bacteria’s favorite places to be. If your partner uses a strap on to have anal sex with you, thoroughly wash the strap on or other toy with soap and hot water before using it anywhere else, especially in her vagina! Remember to wash your hands before continuing to have any contact with your partner or really, anything or anyone else!

Keeping bacteria contamination to a minimum during anal sex is one of the most important ways to ensure anal sex success. You should also take care to use lots and lots of lubricant to prevent tearing, and always tell your partner if something is uncomfortable or painful.

She’s using a fake penis, so it may be difficult for her to tell if there is a great deal of resistance or if she is thrusting too hard. You might consider coming up with a code word that is completely unrelated to sex, such as “banana” so that if you say the code word, the anal sex immediately stops.

To make anal sex more enjoyable for you and your partner, you can use flavored or scented lubrication or even lubrication that warms or cools upon touch. Experiment with different sizes and textures of strap ons, or even consider using plugs or anal beads for added enjoyment. Just use your imagination!

Filed Under: Anal Sex Tagged With: anal sex, male orgasm, male sex toys, prostate massage, strap on

I’m A Virgin – Will My Big Penis Hurt My Partner?

By loveandsex

This isn’t a common question because usually it’s the other way around with a man asking if his penis is too small. Though the questions are opposites, the answers share a common thread.

It’s really not the size of your penis, but how you use it.  A lot of guys see this as a copout response, but it is the honest answer.  It also depends on the woman and the size of her vagina. If you think your penis is to large for your woman then you should take it slow and see how she responds.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My penis is 7.5″ long. I’m a virgin and I don’t want my first time to hurt whoever I intend to share my virginity with. Am I too big?

–Concerned, Florida

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Penis size really isn’t that important

What is more important than length of your penis is the width of it. If your penis is long and thick then your partner might be in for a little bit of trouble.  There is no “correct” length, because we are all made differently but what really matters is if you and your partner enjoy sexual intercourse and that you’re not causing her discomfort. If it is your first time, then you should take it slow and see how she reacts.

You’ll find there are a lot of women out there who enjoy a large penis, so don’t worry too much if you think you’re too large. There are also plenty of lubricants to help ease the process of insertion to make it much gentler on the woman. Sex is to be enjoyable to both parties, but some men who have larger penises don’t stop to think if it might be uncomfortable for a woman.

You’ll find you will have a much better sex life if you do stop to consider your partner’s enjoyment as much as your own. You won’t hear as much praise from your partner if you are a “stick it in and hope for the best” kind of guy.  Sex is as much about pleasing your partner as it is pleasing yourself.

A large penis is intimidating

Having a large penis can be intimidating to both the man and woman.  Most men prize a larger penis, but seldom stop to find out if their partner is comfortable with it. By stopping to ask if your partner is comfortable with the size of your penis and if intercourse is enjoyable for her, you have made an effort towards being a good lover to your partner.

You have to remember that usually for a woman, the first time can be painful, but a woman’s vagina is amazingly accommodating. After a few times of having sex, the vagina will make room for a larger penis and sex will become more enjoyable. Some women are afraid a large penis will hurt , which it might if your penis is very wide or extraordinarily long.

Most of this discomfort will pass as the vagina becomes accustomed to more girth. It is possible for the vagina to tear, which can be painful for a woman, but this will usually heal in time. You might need to take it easy for a few days while it does though.

All in all, it’s not very likely that your penis will hurt your partner. Vaginas almost always accommodate, even if the first few times are painful. If you’re forceful, however, you can hurt your partner regardless of your size. Just take it slow and make sure both you and your partner are comfortable!

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: big penis, painful sex, penis size, sex tips, virgin

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