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5 Mistakes That Will Make Him Never Want To Have Sex With You Again

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Sex can be really fun, and it can also be really lame. If you’re a bad lay, he may not want to get in your pants ever again. Are you making these mistakes?

We live in a society where stereotypically men always want sex, will do anything for sex and will never say no to sex. But, that is not always the case. Many factors can affect why a guy isn’t in the mood at a certain time. But, if you guys have sex once and then he doesn’t want it again, then girl you messed up.

The old saying goes, no sex is bad sex. True, and guys will more then likely have a roll with you but if that first sexual encounter with you was so bad, the chances of him ever wanting more are slim. Below are a few examples that might explain why he wants nothing to do with you.

What She Said

1. You Are Terrible In Bed

As a women its super difficult for us to be horrible in bed, but it can happen when we go to bed with a guy and do nothing. Did you just lay there and let him do all the work? Did you let him make all the moves and just go along with it? Did you refuse to give him a blowjob or get on top? Mostly importantly were you enthusiastic?

Guys love it when girls make moves and show interested and get excited about having sex. So if you just sort of laid there and took it with out so much of a peep, blowie or smile then you are a pretty bad lay.

2. You Are A Drill Seargeant

There is nothing wrong with a woman who knows what she likes in bed but there are times (like the first time you sleep with a guy) where you should let him figure things out. Do not shout directions at him nor make him feel like he is doing something wrong. Let him play and give him time to show you the moves he has brought to the table. Now if he does start doing something you like a lot, let him know you liked it! Its also ok to politely tell him in a whisper voices what you want him to do with his hands. Just don’t yell at him.

3. You Refuse To Try New Things During Sex

No one likes a party pooper. It’s like the age old saying goes, “Open your legs, Open your mind.” Ok, so I just made that up but its still relevant.

4. You Have Super High Expectations

This is the “50 Shades of Grey” phenomenon. Just because you are reading about fantastic sex from a sexy dominating billionaire, doesn’t mean that a guy is going to have all the moves and toys to bring you to orgasm just by shacking you to a bed and electro shocking you. And WHY would you want that?

5. You Remind Him Of His Mother

Enough said.

What He Said:

1. Making Him Do All The Work

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been with a woman who simply got naked and said “Okay! Time for you to begin dispensing the orgasms.” Great sex is not solely the responsibility of one party. It’s a team sport. If your partner isn’t up to your level, you don’t worry about it, you just bring them up to your level.

Kobe Bryant demands excellence of anyone he plays basketball with. You should do the same of your lovers, but keep in mind Kobe just doesn’t demand excellence of his teammates, he facilitates it. He gives them points, spends extra time in practice with them, goes over game footage with them. He heavily invests in his teammates success. You’ll need to do the same with your lovers if you want results. Making him do the work and just expecting him to rock your world is a recipe for disaster.

2. Giving Him Bad Feedback

It’s totally fine to tell a guy to not do something. But the feedback has to be properly formatted. Simply put it should be “do this, not that.” But ideally it would be “what you did was great, you know what would be even better? Is if you tried doing this instead.” A huge mistake is if you’re always tell him what he’s doing is bad or wrong and then never telling him what you want him to do instead.

3. Attaching Emotion Too Soon

Sometimes sex is just sex. Other times it’s lovemaking. Sometimes booty calls can turn into love affairs. Sometimes not. Forcing it to be more than it is or forcing it to change from one or the other is no bueno.

Sexting: Why “Dirty Texts” Turn Women On Like Crazy

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Sexting your partner is one of the most powerful ways you can get her hot and ready for sex. Sexting is an easy way to speak the language of a woman, and it’s convenient because you can do it anywhere and anytime. Sending your lover a racy text takes very little effort on your part, but the results are absolutely astounding! Check out how you can send your girl a “racy text” and have her all over you by the time you walk through the front door after work.

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Women Are Wired Differently Than Men

It’s pretty obvious that women are wired differently than men, especially when it comes to what turns them on. Men are visual creatures and respond sexually to visual stimuli, including porn videos and pictures of naked women. However, a woman usually can’t look at a picture of a naked man with muscled arms and six pack abs. While looking great is always going to be a check in the plus column for you, it’s not going to be something that immediately turns your woman on. What will get a girl hot though is language. To effectively get a woman thinking about sex and nothing but sex, you’ve got to engage her brain. This is why sexting is so effective for women – it gets their imagination going. It’s like if she wore sexy lingerie for you – when you sext her, you speak her language. In the old days, to get a girl interested in him, guys had to write love letters and poetry for women. Now, we have technology that helps streamline communication between one person and another.

Using Sensual Language

When sexting your partner, you can use sensual language to get your partner horny with just the push of a few buttons – no matter where you are or what you’re doing! This is exactly what makes sexting so powerful. You can have your girl clawing at your clothes as soon as you walk in the door, all from the sensual sexts you sent her on her lunch break. Depending on how racy you want to be, you can send her texts that are sweet, sensual and full of romance or you can send her texts that tell her what exactly – word for word – you’re going to do to her when you get home. You can start sweet and gradually increase the raciness of your texts to sweep her off her feet and then get her so hot she won’t know what to do with herself.

She’ll Never Leave Home Without It

Think about it – a woman will rarely ever leave the house without two things – her lipgloss and her cell phone. These days, just about every girl uses a cell phone! Her cell phone is precious to her, because she keeps her most personal and private information in there including her friends, her family, her contacts and her pictures. By sexting her, you’re connecting with your partner in one of the most private ways. It creates a type of “secret” sexual connection that only you and her share. It blows through all of your lover’s defenses, hitting her right at the center. The majority of ladies really enjoy the idea of getting to be secretly naughty in public, especially when they’re supposed to be “proper” and “professional.” Sexting is also a great way to break the ice when getting into dirty talk in the bedroom. If you’ve never tried it before, sexting is a great way to introduce yourself!

Stop Texting And Start Sexting

To effectively create this “secret” sensual channel between you and your lover, you need to stop texting her completely and send only racy texts when you want to. Don’t text “to do” lists or what time the dog has an appointment at the vet’s the next day. This will actually ruin the whole stigma you’re trying to create with sexting. When you do this and she feels her phone vibrate for a message, she’ll already be expecting something exciting and titillating. She’ll know before she opens her phone that it’s from you and it’s something secretly kinky! She’ll start looking forward to it and start wondering when it’s going to happen and what the texts are going to say. She’ll also get better at sending you sexy texts back, telling you what she wants to do to you! This is such a super hot way to think about each other during a boring, monotonous work day. Try sexting your partner tonight and watch as the sparks fly!

4 Things Most Men Don’t Know About Giving Women Jaw-Dropping Orgasms!

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An orgasm is something guys want to give to their lovers, but don’t know how. Are you missing out on these things that will give her an incredible orgasm?

Who wants to know about scintillating secrets to please your woman in bed? If you are anything like the hot-blooded, testosterone-driven men reading this, you probably have your hand raised up high, don’t you? When it comes to understanding female sexuality, most men are woefully clueless. But all you need to know are these 4 facts about the female sexual arousal, and you are on the way to sexually fulfilling your woman like you have never done before!

1. Know The Different Stages Of Sexual Arousal

Men and women both need to go through 4 different stages of sexual arousal before they reach an orgasm – excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. The difference is the stage at which they are ready to engage in intercourse. For guys, we are ready right at the onset at stage one when we become erect. Women are only ready for sex when they reach the end of stage two.

2. Foreplay Is Essential For An Orgasm

Women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of foreplay before they are ready for sex and orgasms. Contrary to what most men believe, touching and caressing her private parts and engaging in oral sex are not really considered proper foreplay. These are really sexual acts on their own, and not the sexual prelude that woman generally needs. Foreplay should involve mental activities that will heighten her arousal (such as talking dirty) as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual erogenous areas (e.g. massaging her back).

3. Always, Always Use Lube. Even When You Think You Don’t Need It

Just because her genitals are lubricated does not signify that she is sufficiently aroused to have intercourse. When she is not mentally and physically ready for sex, she will not derive as much sexual pleasure as she deserves to, and an orgasm is far more difficult for her to achieve. Use lube every time.

4. Last Longer To Give Her An Orgasm Every Time

Most men last only 2 to 4 minutes in bed while women need at least 15 minutes on average to reach an orgasm. The key to lasting longer and giving her multiple orgasms is to delay your own ejaculation. This can be achieved by strengthening the muscles in your pelvic area.

Pay heed to these four essential facts and you will emerge a far better lover than most men will ever be. And your woman will certainly relish every moment that you are in bed with her!

Mutual Masturbation For Beginners

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Mutual masturbation is a great way to connect with your partner and learn what she likes sexually so you can give her better, more intense orgasms!

We tend to think of masturbation as a solitary event, but it can also be a great addition to any couple’s list of erotic options. Simultaneous masturbation is an all-fun/no-danger way to share enjoyment and get to know each other’s preferences. This involves you two masturbating in each other’s presence.

When Should You Engage In Mutual Masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is definitely a thing to be taken into consideration if you want to create that special bond between you and your girlfriend or wife that will allow you to take pleasure in sex. If you are in the room while she is touching and fingering herself, you can understand better what she needs and what you’re supposed to do when you’re in charge.

What Does She Like?

Does she like short strokes or long strokes? Does she rub her clitoris clockwise or counterclockwise? Does she like her genitals be touched gently or does she like it rougher? Pulling or stretching? Fondling or fingering?

All these little secrets bring you closer and help you facilitate each other’s enjoyment of sex.

In order for her to feel comfortable enough to do it while you are watching, is only fair that you do it too. She will love watching you masturbate as much as you like watching her.

Once you both get worked up, you can switch and do each other (this is called mutual masturbation). There are numerous ways you can do this, just use your imagination, your hands and your tongues. The amount of pleasure that you can both get out of this is immense. Moreover, after such an intense bonding experience, she will feel more prepared and more comfortable about sex with you.

Solo masturbation orgasms can be extremely intense, because there’s no outside pressure or presence, but they can also be, I guess, lonely, for a lack of a better word. Partner masturbation orgasms feel different, there’s more of an energy exchange going on, a wavelike exchange of energy that makes the orgasm feel bigger and more satiating.

What It Can Do For Your Relationship & Sex Life

Ultimately, shared masturbation can and must build trust. When you expose yourself to another, you must know that your sharing is welcome, that you won’t be ridiculed. Truman Capote used to say: “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” This should remain valid when it comes to simultaneous masturbation as well.

She doesn’t have to feel pressured to look or act in one way or another, but do it like nobody else was in the room. It can be difficult to convince your girlfriend or wife to agree to it, but not impossible. If she has doubts, check out the lists bellow (masturbation must have and masturbation must not) and find out what you have to do in order to assure her you’re not going to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.

5 Sex Games For Scorching Hot Foreplay

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Foreplay doesn’t have to be the same every time. Check out these sizzling sex games for a new twist on before sex fun!

Everyone loves scorching hot foreplay. Everyone loves sex games. What is the connection between the two? Does scorching hot foreplay and kinky fun sex games really have to be separate? Not by a long shot. Playing sex games is a great way to have amazingly hot and naughty foreplay that will burn your house down! Here are some really naughty sex games that will guarantee you’ll have all the amazing foreplay you can possibly handle!

1. Time Dash

Get yourself a timer and set it for say 10 minutes. You can play it several different ways after you set the timer. You can, for example say: for ten minutes, we’re only going to make out, or you have to let me give you oral sex for ten minutes nonstop. Or you can just say, we’re going to do everything but have intercourse for ten minutes and stick to that time dash, no matter what.

You’ll have to be firm on that, no pun intended. When that timer goes off, you’ll more than likely go straight to hard core intercourse, anal sex or whatever it is you’re into from that point on, but it’s super important to stick to the time limit no matter what.

2. Foreplay Truth Or Dare

Cliché, yes. Effective? You bet your ass. Sometimes times the classics still work. Truth or dare is pretty simple. You know the game, basically, without me telling you. The main thing to keep in mind is to set up some ground rules. You want to push the erotic envelope and get partners out of their sexual comfort zones, but you don’t want to force them to do something they aren’t down with for one reason or another. Finding the balance between the two is key to having ample amounts of scorching hot foreplay.

3. Naked Twister

I have never finished a game of naked twister. Come to think of it, I don’t know how you actually finish a game of naked twister, but you get the idea. Just a matter of minutes into naked twister, you’re going straight into oral sex, if not outright intercourse. Oh, if I had a nickel for every time I had a 69 on a twister mat, I’d be rich.

4. Slave For A Day

It’s not exactly a board game, but it’s hard to go wrong with “slave for a day” or night. It’s pretty simple: you are your lovers sex slave for a day, or if you don’t want to do the whole day, or you can’t do the whole day, just do it for an evening. Start by stripping naked and getting them naked. Then do whatever your master wants you to, no questions asked (it’s always good to have a safe word as well).

Being submissive to their dominant “master” is usually pretty hot for both people, especially if you are usually in the opposite role in the relationship. The permission and trust it takes to be master or slave creates erotic energy you can cut with a knife. That’s a recipe for scorching hot foreplay if ever there was one.

5. Naked Yoga

Maybe not a game per se, but you should totally do it. You can’t go to a studio to due naked yoga, but you can totally do it in you living room. There are plenty of yoga DVD’s out there and there are now many websites that are offering on demand, streaming yoga classes.

This is awesome, and multitasking at it’s finest. You both get a work out in, and you’re gong to get hot, sweaty, horny and loosened up, all of which will be a great primer for sex.

Seeing each other naked, is hot. Everyone male or female who has gone to a yoga class undoubtedly has fantasized about seeing the person doing downward dog in front of them doing it butt ass naked. Why not give your lover the gift of making that a reality?

It’s super important to finish the entire 90 minute class. Why? The anticipation will send you out of your mind, which you probably saw coming. But regular yoga practice makes men last longer and helps women have orgasms more easily and intensely. And it preps you for sex by loosening up your muscles, tendons and ligaments.

You won’t have any tight spots, no aches and pains at least for a while after you do yoga and that will help you have better sex for longer and all of this is nothing more than scorching hot foreplay. You finish that yoga DVD and you’ll be ready to go straight to the intercourse, no more foreplay needed, but if you wanted to do some foreplay, it’ll be the hottest foreplay action you’ve had in a while.