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Dirty Talk For Guys – What They REALLY Want To Hear

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Dirty talk will turn a man on like you wouldn’t believe! Here’s what to say to rev his engines and really get him going.

What She Said

Guys are visual creatures so it’s understood that once a lady is naked, he’s not listening to a word you are saying. Then again, even when women are fully clothed, guys have a hard time listening. All jokes aside, there are things women can say that men love to hear. A good place to start is with his best friend (and hopefully yours) his penis.

Praise him for how big it is and how it makes you feel. Regardless of the size, you should tell him it’s the biggest you have ever seen and even letting out a squeal of delight when you first lay eyes on it is a plus. While having sex you can exaggerate your moans and heavy breathing but be careful, there is a fine line between expressing your enjoyment and sounding like a porn star. Saying his name is also a super hot thing to do, as long as you remember what his name is.

Also throwing in some dirty talk is great! You don’t have to know that to say when it comes to dirty talk, you can just describe to him how amazing he is making you feel or even graphically tell him how bad or hard you want it. Words like “hot, wet, throbbing” are also good. Guys love to have their ego stroked and are competitive creatures and they want to know they can get you off and please you.

Basically the right things to say are anything that inflates his ego! Telling him he feels huge, or is the best you have ever had is a major win. Make your man feel like a superhero. If you really want to turn up the heat, saying, “Oh God, I am going to come,” will send him through the roof! So only, use that phrase when you have gotten what you want and are ready for your big strong stud of a man to come too.

What He Said

It be one part porn star, one part weather reporter. It should be hot and nasty (if you think you’re going to dirty or blue, you aren’t going far enough. This is where you tell him how amazing he and his baby maker are, in great, great detail. It’s almost too much to handle, feels so great, you may be sore tomorrow, you might walk funny tomorrow, it’s hitting your g-spot, etc.

Also, you should be like the weather channel: constant updates. If he’s doing it right, tell him. If he needs to touch your clitoris, be sure to let him know. He wants to rock your world more than you want him to, so give him the verbal cues he needs. Hell, draw him a map if you have to. Engraved invitations are good too. Remember to be careful how you phrase this. Don’t tell him he’s doing anything wrong, even if he is. Tell him it would be really hot if he did (fill in the blank).

Basically, your job is to make him feel like the most amazing stud lover on the planet, one that every woman wants but only you have (unless you’re in an open relationship or into swinging, and that’s another column). If you do a good job of it, you’ll be rewarded, day and night. Every man loves to feel like God’s gift to the vagina (gay men not so much) and I would encourage you to go into great detail about how he rocks your world like no other.

You don’t have to lie, that may not be the best idea either. Focus on what he’s legitimately good at and work from there. He’s really eager to learn to do you better. Focus on not just doing it during naked time but giving clues on how to improve in terms of comments you make during boom boom time. He’ll probably pick up quicker than you think and if he doesn’t, just keep dropping hints, and be less and less subtle.

Make him feel like the king of your castle. That’s really what all this boils down to. Men love to feel strong just as much as women love to feel safe and secure. You should do that, and use language that would make Prince blush.

The Truth About How Long You REALLY Need To Last In Bed!

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Premature ejaculation is surrounded by many myths. Most guys think that they need to have marathon sex to be any good – but is it really true? Find out now!

For many men, sexual endurance and self-confidence go hand in hand in the bedroom. If you are not lasting long enough, your sense of self worth and confidence are likely to plummet.

But first – exactly how long is long enough?

How Long Should Sex Really Last?

There is something about adult movies that gives men the misconception that sex should last for an hour or more. But the simple truth is, you only need to last as long as a YouTube clip!

While the debate about ideal sexual stamina has been ongoing for as long as mankind, sexual therapists have in recent years suggest that intercourse that lasts from 3 to 7 minutes is satisfactory. Anything from 7 to 13 minutes is considered desirable – not including the time reserved for foreplay.

Sounds surprising? Well it shouldn’t be. Considering that most women need about 7 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm, the suggested duration for “desirable” sex sounds logical.

Here’s the simple truth – great sex does NOT involve a stopwatch. Many men are so preoccupied about not wanting to climax too soon, that they ended up doing exactly what they fear most! Sexual anxiety will almost always impair your performance in bed!

Don’t Focus On The “Magic” Number

For a woman, great sex involves a slow, titillating build-up that envelopes both her mind and body. Use this to your advantage. Don’t view sex in terms of duration. View it in terms of quality. Such a mindset will do a whole lot of good to your confidence in bed.

You see, of all the “instruments” you can use to stimulate and arouse a woman sexually – your fingers, tongue and penis – the last one is ironically the one you have the least amount of control over.

Accelerate Her Sexual Anticipation

So, use your fingers and tongue to heighten her anticipation and arousal FIRST. Give her sensual hot spots some tender, loving attention. And I don’t just mean the obvious places. A woman is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas on her body. The nape of her neck, her ear lobes, the underside of her arms are all great places to start with.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused before penetration, it actually lowers her threshold for orgasm, reducing the turnaround time for her to reach a climax during intercourse. And when that happens, your confidence will soar, performance anxiety will take a backseat, and you will naturally last longer too!

How To Look Really Good Without Your Clothes

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Sex tips aren’t always what to do during sex. Here are some excellent sex tips that show you how to look AH-mazing in your birthday suit before getting it on!

When you look good without your clothes you feel sexy, but the actual process of looking good butt ass naked is anything but. That’s the number one reason people fail on their quest to look good naked. Everyone wants to be rich, but who really is willing to spend less than they make, and invest or save the rest? Not that many.

You Must Pay The Cost To Be The Boss

I myself used to be quite heavy, and I’ve lost a lot of weight. How much weight? Like two or three of those starving kids in Africa. People used to ask me how I did it, many of them looking to look great naked themselves. I would always ask them “are you prepared to go to the gym at 10:30 PM on a Friday night?” Every one of them would say no.

That told me they didn’t want to pay the price. I’ve been to the gym at 11PM on a Friday and Saturday because those were the only times I could fit the gym in and I refused to be derailed from my goals. If you want to get a sexy body that stops traffic you must have that level of dedication, even though I wouldn’t recommend actually doing that.

Have you ever wanted to look like a bodybuilder, fitness model, yoga instructor or your favorite celebrity? Can you imagine how good they look without their clothes? You probably have wanted that body and you can imagine them naked if you haven’t seen them that way in TV and film already.

Do a little research. It’s not hard to find out their fitness programs. Often they will discuss them in an interview or magazine article. Read the article. Then pick your jaw up off the floor. Still sure you want this?

Funny how things work.

There Are No Short Cuts Or Secrets

How do you look good without your clothes? Simple. If you want a great ass, you need to work the one you have off. Literally. You won’t get the ass you want by sitting on the one you have, someone once said. It’s true. If you want to look amazing naked, there is no way around hard, hard work. And most importantly, it must be consistent. There’s no point in going super hardcore in the gym once a month. Or training like a bodybuilder but eating like a sumo wrestler. You don’t have to be perfect, but you’d better be like clock work.

Most people never even make it this far, so if you’re still with me here, then it means you truly are committed to learning how to look good without your clothes and you have a great chance of actually pulling it off. You’re already ahead of like 90% of the population. Believe it or not, most of the people who have made it this far still fail. Why?

Take Action Immediately. Something Is Always Better Than Nothing

There are so many options out there. Yoga, crossfit, P90x, insanity, zumba, bodybuilding, swimming, you name it. We have two political parties in America, and yet 200000 kinds of orange juice in the grocery store. The sheer volume of choices can paralyze even the most dedicated person, because they are trying to find the program that “works.”

Here’s the hint. They all work. The trick is to find the one that works for you. This will require trial and error. Get a personal trainer if you need one. If you don’t, you don’t. Find what works for you by figuring out which type of diet and exercise program is up your alley. Do that. Do it a lot. You will have set backs, you will be subject to the learning curve, which is simply:

At first you suck, then you get better.

But if you are serious about looking good without clothes and you use these three action items, you will be successful. How fast is determined largely by how well you apply them. You will get there, you just don’t know when.

How To Play With Her Breasts

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Foreplay can be anything you want it to be, but must guys go after a woman’s breasts. Here’s how to do it so you turn your lover on even more!

Guys Love Breasts!

Call them boobs, knockers, tits, titties, jugs, rack, the twins, juggies, hooters, bazookas or bazongas – call them anything you want – they all refer to the magical pair of breasts that has an enthralling effect in every straight male. Who can fathom their mystery? Who can unveil the allure behind those twin peaks? They take our breaths away – and why can’t we stop talking to them?

Perhaps because they were once a source of life at a young and innocent past, breast obsession could just be a misunderstood homage to childhood. Well, perhaps not. I know of guys who were never breastfed as babies but still spend their evenings waiting for that 2-second breast exposure in those late night TV specials.

Breasts remain hot even when there’s a baby sucking and having a meal off it!

What’s up with that? What’s this fixation with bodacious peaks?

Even women don’t know why. “They’re just mammalian protuberances! Every human being has them, and ultimately, they’re just a lump of fat. So what’s the fuss,” they’ll say. However, it’s interesting to note that this hasn’t stop many of them ladies to visit their friendly doctor and have some work done – making breast augmentation a multi-billion dollar industry.

Don’t Ignore Her Breasts During Foreplay

A woman certainly doesn’t want to be man-handled by a sloppy and callused partner. They’re just breasts, but they’re HER breasts! So treat her knockers just like you want your balls treated – painlessly. She’ll cry foul if you get overly nasty with her tatas. Rummaging them like a pirate laying claim to some treasure, most guys immediately grab and suck – but believe you me, there many other ways of skinning the cat.

Pay attention to the areas around the breasts. Those zones ABOVE, BELOW & at the SIDES. Treat them as Base Camps. Begin your assault of the peak by giving them extensive amounts of oral and manual indulgence. Give them a breath of warm air, run your fingers around.

Why? Uhhh… Because it feels nice.

Here’s the thing. She knows where you’re going next – every man, after-all, wants to go on a nipple pilgrimage. But by kindling the areas around her knockers first, you’re not only signaling your intentions, you’re also heightening her awareness of it. She knows you’re going there, but she doesn’t know WHEN. And she can’t explain why the heck you’re not there yet. It’s a crafty tension building move.

Getting To The Nipples

There are several ways of doing this esteemed ascent to the nipple. You can choose to engage by licking or caressing in a spiraling course, imagining that her nipple is at the center of the spiral. You can execute backward and forward spirals, going back & forth, getting nearer each time.

You can also start from below the breast for example, and head in a straight line towards the peak, up to the Areolar Area (dark area surrounding the nipples), BARELY BUT PURPOSELY MISSING the nipple itself, and continuing up. Go very light, as if your lips/fingers are simply hovering over her areola. Do a reverse by plunging and barely missing the nipple once again as you continue downward. Well, you get the idea.

Details like this might make little sense to you, but to your lover, it’ll make for a wonderful foreplay experience. While others act like gluttonous babies diving for her nipples at first sight, it’s a little different with you, and a lot more exciting.

Every time you take a step back, you’re actually piggy-backing on what all the guys from her past failed to do, separating yourself from the rest. If she has given herself to several men prior to you she’ll be thinking, “Why isn’t my nipple in his mouth yet?”

Eventually, you’re going to have to ravage her nipple. You know you deserve to. So suck and lick it good. Suck and lick to your heart’s content. Flick it, go around and over. Bite it like marshmallow. Grab the other breast (there are TWO! Remember SYMMETRY?) and bring those raisins to a reunion. Lick between, suck them together, bite them both.

Kinky Things To Do With Your Fingers That She Will LOVE!

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Fingering can be hotter than it was in high school when you hadn’t yet reached third or fourth base. Here’s how to make using your hands sexier and more adult!

What other kinky things are fingers good for? If you and your wife are both up for something a bit more out-there, try turning up the kinky knob on your relationship and trying out a few new tricks. Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission and sadomasochism are all designed to lead to increased pleasure for both parties. If you or your wife might get off on the exchange of power or pain, why not take a stroll down a few new pathways?

BDSM

Whether you bind her wrists to give you the upper hand or simply to immobilize hers, bondage is a great way to use your hands to make her very conscious of what her hands can and can’t do. Add a blindfold, and she won’t have any idea what amazing new move is coming her way!

BDSM requires lots of discussion and decision making to reach informed consent. The use of a safe word is very important if you will be playing with any kind of bondage or pain play.

When it comes to pain play, your hands are really your best asset. There are lots of little devices you can buy, but if you are just getting to know her responses, you want the hands-on experience that comes from using your own skin. An over-the-knee bare hand spanking can be an incredible bonding experience, and depending on how much force is used, can be anything from energizing and stimulating to excruciatingly painful.

Walk the line carefully. You can also use the same technique to give a light “spank” to her vulva. Be very gentle here, in the facing-her-feet or spooning position, unless she asks you to go harder!

The other great thing your fingers can do to start off playing with pain is tweaking her nipples. What can easily be pleasurable with a gently touch can quickly turn to pain – sometimes, that delicious kind of pain – when it comes to pinching and twisting those sensitive little nubs.

Exhibitionism

In my opinion, that best kind of kink that comes from learning new hand tricks is a little bit of exhibitionism. If you can get her off without either of you having to get naked, it opens up a whole world of possibilities – literally!

With a skirt and skimpy (or no) panties, you have all the access you need to finger her under the dinner table, in a movie theatre, in the back seat of the car, in the bathroom, while she’s sitting on your lap at the club, in an elevator, or just about anywhere else you’ve ever dreamed of getting busy. Time to make a date!