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How To Shake Up Your Sex Life With 1 Simple Trick

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Sex tips can help you to have better sex than ever – but with this easy technique, you can have INCREDIBLE sex right away! Do you know what it is?

Morning Sex

Morning sex. I’m not talking after breakfast, or after dropping the kids off. I’m talking about first thing in the morning. Or earlier. We all know that there’s no wood like morning wood. Even if your lover is normally harder than Chinese arithmetic at all times, he will still be at his hardest and most potent when his little man wakes up to greet the day.

Often his member will wake up before he does. This is awesome. Fuck his brains out, whether or not he’s fully awake. Hop on and get off. He will wake up and join the party. Even if he doesn’t, he will wake up with a smile on his face.

He will probably last longer than any other time during the day, so be prepared. This can mean multiple orgasms for you. If you’re only in the mood for a quickie, get yourself warmed up with vibrators and or masturbation before you have sex with him.

Finishing Off With Oral Sex

Make sure to finish him off with some really great oral sex if you go the quickie route, and of course, put a condom on his penis if you engage in anal sex, for obvious reasons. If he’s still asleep when you bring him to orgasm, try taking his load in your mouth (or on your face if you’re into facials) and then waking him up, letting him see his semen all over your face or in your mouth. Waking up to a woman who’s got your load in your mouth is hot. Watching her swallow after she’s had her way with you is just plain sexy, and is a really, really great way to start the day.

Did you know that’s how Einstein started each and every day? Who knows where we would be as a society if he hadn’t had morning sex before he even got out of bed to start the day. I shudder to think about it.

He Can Service You Too!

It can work both ways too. There’s nothing wrong with him starting the day by servicing his lady (or his dude, whatever you’re into). If you start the day with a roll in the hay, you’ve put yourself in a really great position to have the best possible day, and a stress free one. It’s really hard to get upset when your brain has been scrambled by all those sexually released chemicals. You might not cut someone off on the way to work, or you might be a little more relaxed when you go to Starbucks and you spend twenty minutes behind a person, only to watch in horror as they finally get up to the counter and still haven’t figured out what they want!

You do each other every morning and you’ll notice a huge difference in your life. It will lower your stress levels, get you going, in a good way and you’ll probably find that you really appreciate your partner more and before you know it that increased physical intimacy will lead to increased emotional intimacy.

Sex is like the canary in the well of your relationship. If that’s wild and passionate and frequent, your relationship is in really good shape. If it’s dull, boring and infrequent, well, that’s not so good.

Do It Even When You Don’t Want To

My advice is molest your partner early every morning regardless of whether or not you want to. This is especially true and important for people who have kids. I’m not in the mood, you say? Well, I hate to break it to you, but women have been having sex without wanting to or being in the mood for centuries and nobody died from that. So just do it, even if you don’t think you want to. You will be really glad you did after you’re done having oral sex, anal sex, plain old missionary style intercourse or whatever you’re into. You’re welcome.

3 Ways To Get Her To Do Anything You Want

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Kinky sex can be so much fun, but women aren’t always into what men like. Here are three easy ways you can get your lover interested in what you want!

So What’s Your Thing?

It’s this one fetish you’ve been dreaming of since teenhood. Ever since you realized your penis’ calling, you couldn’t wait for that day when you could finally share this unique sexual activity with someone. You’re certain it’s going to be great, and you’ve been playing it in your head over and over – for hours each night. That’s your THING.

Now, you’ve grown up, and the stage is set. You have your own place and a gorgeous adoring woman. You’ve waited for this all your life – it’s finally going to happen – but she says, “I’m sorry honey, but I don’t do that!”

These were the last words you heard before all your dreams came crashing down. If you listen closely, you’ll hear the quaint sound of your heart breaking into a million shiny pieces.

“But why? It’s gonna be fun,” you tempted.

“I don’t know, I just don’t wanna,” the prude answered.

You threatened legal action, physical repercussions, yes, even groveled, but still came out empty. For the life of you, you can’t convince your lover that it’s going to be okay. She just doesn’t see herself doing that thing with you – nope, not in this lifetime.

So, what’s left to do?

Before hanging the gloves in desperation, here are 3 practical things to do.

1. Find Out If Its Negotiable

Your thing could easily come in conflict with her self-image – she just doesn’t see herself that way. The fetish could be so beyond her boundaries as a sexual being, the moment she heard of it, it made her butt cheeks clinch ever so tightly.

Or, maybe it’s not her, maybe it’s you. Maybe you’ve just been watching too much porn and your erotic expectations are drastically skewed or out of sync. Perhaps what you’re suggesting is so out of this world, 99% of women will say “Nuh-uh,” while dragging you to the Psych Ward.

But granted, the thing, even though it conflicts with her self-image, is a reasonable activity for normal human beings, you need to ask one vital question: IS IT STILL NEGOTIABLE? (You have to give an honest answer to this.)

It may not be how she sees herself presently, but, is it negotiable? Can you possibly tempt her into it? Women have very flexible self-images. They think and say they can’t or won’t, initially allergic even to the very thought of kinky sex. This is usually just their default answer to novel stuff and things outside their comfort zones.

But given proper prodding, they’ll come around and turn out to be wonderful freaks in bed. It’s true, you can get a girl who is very anti anal sex to really love it! But you have to sense if the “NO” is negotiable, or if it’s something driven deep in her core values, solid and totally non-negotiable.

If it’s non-negotiable, then MOVE ON, GET OVER IT, don’t force the issue. She has every right to say “no.” Just because she’s in an intimate relationship with you doesn’t diminish that right a tiny bit.

But if you think there’s a sliver of possibility, then continue with #2. Answer this very important question –

2. What’s In It For Her?

Look at things from your lover’s point of view, what good will your “thing” bring her?

Of course, she can simply accommodate her man’s eccentric and kinky fantasies, but what good will it bring her personally? And don’t just say, “It’s gonna be fun!” You need more than that. Because if she just wants fun, she can turn to a million other things.

“What’s in it for her?” This is what sales savants constantly ask themselves. Only when you take the buyer’s perspective and slide your feet into her shoes, will you be able to understand how to sell it to a woman.

I don’t want to know whatever your thing is, it’s your thing. But basically, you are the seller, she is the unwitting shopper. Don’t sell by declaring, “Do this so I can check it off my list of things to do before I die.” That means nothing to her! If you want “Message Received” blinking in her head, you have to sell it from the opposite perspective.

By looking through her eyes, you can make your thing very inviting and alluring. Package it so she’s poised to gain something from the experience, not as if she’s merely accommodating another one of your whims. Make her engage in it for her own sake. Make it unique and serve it up as a challenge or something new both of you can try. Make sure to give her a climax when she engages in the activity with you. Only then can you finish off with the “It’s gonna be fun” icing.

And you know you’ve done well when she becomes more rabid about it than you.

Here’s the thing. On some level, your girl knows exactly what you’re doing. She knows you’re tempting her, so don’t treat her like some gullible 6-year old. Women are not naïve. They sense these things, so level with them.

And ultimately, leave the decision to her.

3. Know When To Stop

Groveling & begging is not and will never be an option!

Begging? Are you kidding me?! You’re the one with the goods here. Why would you resort to groveling just to be given a shot? To me, it doesn’t make an iota of sense. It’s like a billionaire pointing a gun to some homeless guy’s head, threatening to kill the poor soul if he doesn’t take off with his briefcase of cash.

I repeat, DO NOT GROVEL OR BEG FOR YOUR THING. Honestly, in the past, when has groveling helped your cause or resulted into an amazing time? The best you get out of it is pity & accommodation – which by the way, rapidly comes in short supply.

You can’t get everything through After talk, for one can never out-talk or out-argue a woman who has already made up her mind. Your case cannot be pleaded with wit or logic, unless you can fashion a paradigm shifting speech.

The more you push for your thing, the more she’ll push back – so the more passionate you are about it, the stronger her resistance becomes. This is a negative spiral that you never should get into.

Her saying “No” doesn’t mean the end of things. A verbal “No” in Aftertalk can be adjusted, modified, even reversed during the sex itself. I’m not saying that her words don’t hold water, I’m saying they can be massaged into something else.

The palatability of stuff becomes very different when a woman is in the heat of things. While talking, which usually involves the thinking brain, she can very easily say “NO.” But when she’s in the heat of the moment, enveloped with the orgasm rush, her emotional brain, which knows very few rules, takes over and gets with the flow.

(When talk doesn’t help, go work for your thing during the sex itself. Yes, you can smoothly introduce your woman to kinky stuff she initially said “no” to. So you can then tell her, “See, I told you it would be fun!”)

Sheet Soaking Oral Sex Techniques

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Oral sex is often one of the only ways men know how to get their partners off. Unfortunately, even oral sex doesn’t automatically bring women to orgasm. Remember that a sizable percentage of women have never had an orgasm, and many of them are probably guilty of faking orgasms during oral sex. After all, they feel even more pressure to climax when you’re selflessly trying to please them. Plus, we can’t discuss oral sex without talking about some ways you can pleasure your partner while she pleasures you. In this section, we’ll look at some techniques that can help in both areas.

Humming Rotating Tongue

Most men resort to a type of licking motion when performing oral sex on a woman, however, its the movement of the tongue which matters when it comes to helping her achieve orgasm. Have you ever watched a dog drink water out of its bowl? If so, then you’ve seen the short, fast movement of its tongue in the water. That’s the type of movement you can imitate during oral sex.

If your partner enjoys the way a vibrator makes her feel inside, then you can turn your mouth into a vibrator during oral sex just by humming. You can try humming an actual tune or just maintaining a single pitch. Either way the vibration in your mouth and jaw will be transferred into her pelvic region and her clitoris. This technique may be especially useful if your partner’s not quite aroused enough for direct clitoral stimulation.

Because she receives quick jolts of pleasure interrupted by a brief moment of no stimulation, its almost as if you are teasing her and this is going to increase her sexual tension and help her build towards the climax. When she is nearing that point, however, you may need to switch to a technique that provides more continuous stimulation.

Face Straddle

Another trick to try when it comes to oral sex is having your partner straddle your face. While she straddles, your mouth and your tongue are going to work on her clitoris. You can also have your hands on her hips and move her body in a circular motion or in the diamond-shape we discussed earlier. This will add even greater stimulation and may make her reach orgasm faster and harder.

Some women love circular stimulation. That’s why grinding into your partner during vaginal intercourse can often bring her to orgasm. During oral sex, you can use the same trick with your tongue. Move your tongue around her vagina or around her clitoris in a rotating motion. Start slowly, and then begin to move faster as her pleasure builds.

Toys & Cunnilingus

Even though oral sex provides some women with orgasms, some report that these orgasms are not as fulfilling because they are not accompanied by that sense of fullness provided by the penetration of your penis in their vagina. To alleviate that problem and to even improve the odds of attaining an orgasm, you can use a dildo or a vibrator on your partner at the same time you are performing oral sex. If you don’t want to share her vagina with a toy, use a vibrator designed for anal stimulation instead.

Oral Sex & Popsicles

Popsicles may be the most perfect edible sex toy. Not only are they an ideal shape, but also the handle makes them easier to use than bananas or other items. Take a popsicle in your favorite flavor and gently insert it inside your partner’s vagina as if it were a dildo or vibrator. The coldness of it inside the warmth of her body is going to send chills through her body and definitely kick her arousal up a notch.

You can either thrust the popsicle gently in and out of her body, or you can use the tip to rub circles around her clitoris. When most of the popsicle has melted, its your turn to use your tongue to lick up all of the melted sweetness.

Sixty-Nine

Most people have heard of this sexual position but not as many have tried it, even though it provides both you and your partner with an ideal method of achieving orgasm. For those of you who are not familiar, this position would involve you performing oral sex on your partner while she is doing the same to you. Some couples prefer to use this technique in a side-to-side position while others prefer one partner to be one top of the other.

Either way, your biggest problem is going to be staying focused on pleasing your woman while you are being pleasured. This can be a tremendous distraction and often sixty-nine sessions end with the man climaxing before the woman even has a chance. This possibility can be reduced if she is sufficiently aroused before you get started.

How To Make Him Melt In Your Mouth

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Oral sex can be a pretty touchy subject with a lot of women, mainly because a lot of women out there just don’t feel comfortable. The main reason for this level of discomfort is because women just don’t want to mess anything up. They want to be good at giving oral and they want to make it a mind blowing experience for their man. Also, nothing would be more embarrassing than having your gag reflex come into play and end up ruining the entire experience or any future experience for that matter. It is easy to understand why giving a blowjob might be scary, but you are missing out if you aren’t giving him that satisfaction.

Don’t you want to make your man melt? Don’t you want to leave him in a pleasure induced coma and render him speechless? Wouldn’t it be a wonderful thing to have all of the power in the bedroom and to make him completely weak in the knees? You are getting excited by these thoughts, aren’t you? Then it’s time you learned how to make the pleasurable experiences happen for both you and your man tonight.

Ease Into It

You can’t go in guns blazing. That’s the first rule. Just with sex, there is a little foreplay involved. Even in those heated moments, you never just go right into it. There is always some form of foreplay to get you both going. The same rule must be upheld for oral sex. You don’t necessarily have to take your time, but don’t go right into it right away.

Start off slow by kissing around his penis. Use your hand to stroke around the base and gradually work your way up the shaft. Starting off with your hand will ensure that you are making him hard and making your job ultimately easier. This also gets him going and gets him used to stimulation. Then, you can throw your tongue into the mix. Use your tongue to lick up and down the sides of his shaft and making your way up to the head of his penis. Keep in mind, the head of his penis is akin to your clitoris – it gets very sensitive when directly stimulated. Use your tongue to massage around the penis but never stay on one spot.

By this time, he is going to be begging for it so it’s time to move into phase two. Don’t leave him on the verge of this breaking point for too long. It’s time to give him.

Work Your Magic

Even though it is called ‘oral sex,’ that doesn’t mean that you have to use your mouth and only your mouth. Even though your warm tongue and mouth both feel incredible stimulating him all over, he needs a bit of rough stimulation as well and this is where your hands come into play.

With your mouth and tongue on the tip of his penis, stimulating his most sensitive spot, he is craving some rough stimulation on his shaft where he can handle that kind of a touch. This is a perfect opportunity to use your hand or both your hands and to really work his shaft.

When doing this, make sure you have a lot of lubrication. Another mind blowing oral tip to keep in mind is that for him, the wetter the better. Make sure that he is plenty lubed up with either lubrication or your saliva so he doesn’t encounter any friction that will take away from the experience.

Get Into It

Good girls can give good head but bad girls give amazing head. Don’t be afraid to moan and to get into it. Flip around and let him tend to you while you are on top giving it to him. Oral is supposed to be fun and the more you let loose, the sexier and amazing it is going to be. Also, the more you are into it and the more relaxed you are, the easier it is going to be for you to take him in your mouth.

If you want to deep throat and give him that kind of an experience, then there is a trick for that so you can do so with ease and reassurance. All you do is make a fist with your left hand, press your index and thumb together and squeeze as hard as you can. This pressure will bypass your gag reflex so you will be able to allow your man to explore all of the depths of your mouth. Try it tonight!

You can give your man an amazing mind blow oral sex experience tonight and it is about time that you did just that. Make him melt with just your mouth and have him eating out of the palm of your time in no time.

Lick By Lick Review

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Lick By Lick teaches men the best techniques to use for oral sex on a woman so he can learn to please his partner over and over again! She will love it!

For a woman, cunnilingus is like a mini-vacation where she can finally forget her daily routine and nagging to-do list while her body releases the pent up tension from the day through orgasm. This guide will show you how to go down on a woman and have her begging for more.

The Good

A well written, easy to read manual that really provides you with just about everything you need to know when it comes to giving a woman oral sex. Lick By Lick offers information on female desire, how a woman gets turned on, safe oral sex, cunnilingus techniques and advanced techniques. Perfect for both beginners and seasoned “oral sex professionals” who want to wow the women in their lives with this most sacred of sex acts.

The Bad

The introduction, while containing plenty of excellent information, is a bit long winded. Those who are anxious to get straight to the oral sex techniques may find the introduction a bit more than they anticipated. Much of the introduction, however, has information that guys need to know before they ever get in between a woman’s legs! Although you’ll be tempted to skip the intro and get straight to the meat of the book, you’ll gain a lot of knowledge and wisdom about women and oral sex (often called cunnilingus in the book) that will help you become even better at giving your partner a mind blowing orgasm through oral sex.

The Bottom Line

Full of both great oral sex tips and techniques and good to know background information on female desire and anatomy, Lick By Lick really is a comprehensive guide to all things oral sex (for women, that is). Michael Webb truly knows his stuff, whether it’s romance and creative dates or how to drive your partner wild when going down on them! Well worth the meager monetary investment for all the usable information you get.

The Full Lick By Lick Review

Michael Webb, author of Lick By Lick, starts the guide off with some great information about how you can get a woman to mentally relax before going down on her. Michael realizes that most women are very sensitive to receiving pleasure and are more used to giving it than getting it. Many men will find that they must first tear down a woman’s emotional barriers and misconceptions about oral sex before he can actually start pleasuring her with his mouth. Fortunately, Michael will show you exactly how you can do that.

While direct, step by step instructions are always good to have on hand, this book focuses more on learning how to communicate with your partner about what they like during oral sex. Oral sex techniques are not just a one size fits all scenario – even if you learn how to perform a certain technique perfectly, it is not a guarantee that every woman will enjoy that same technique. This book includes an informative section on how you can talk to your partner about what feels good to her while you’re peforming oral sex on her, and get some answers that will help you to form your own brand of great oral sex.

Contrary to popular belief, giving a woman oral sex can spread sexually transmitted diseases. Michael includes a section in Lick By Lick about STD’s and how they are spread through mouth to vagina contact and vice versa. Included is information on how to avoid contracting sexually transmitted diseases if you’re going down on a woman you’ve not established a monogamous and disease free relationship with. Safe sex is always better sex, for both you and your partner!

Next is a somewhat dry but still informative section on female anatomy. While you may not care to know all of the scientific names of each and every aspect of a woman’s vulva, just knowing where everything is located is an important part of learning how to go down on a woman and give her the right kind of pleasure. Fortunately, this section is written in a conversational tone, helping to make some of the more complicated stuff easier to understand.

Next on the list – still before getting to any of the actual oral sex techniques – are ways to get your partner turned on and relaxed enough to accept oral sex. Many women are so apprehensive about receiving oral sex that they can’t get turned on by it or even reach orgasm, no matter how hard you try or what techniques you use. This section of the guide will show you how to get your partner to be open and receptive to oral sex so your hard work pays off.

After glossing over a few more erogenous zones that women have (besides the clitoris), the book finally delves into what you’ve been waiting for – techniques! Here you will learn great moves like sweeping the tongue or using a gentle sucking motion to drive your partner absolutely crazy. Each tip or technique also gives you a “variations on this move” paragraph that will show you different ways you can use the same tip, so you’re actually getting several techniques in just one!

The remainder of the book is tips, tips and more tips. You truly will be an oral sex master after reading Lick By Lick in its entirety!

Included with the guide are four great additional manuals that contain tips and techniques you can use to make sex – and your relationship – that much better.

How To Make It Bigger, Stronger And Last Longer

Many men fear that they have small penises, ejaculate too early during sex or don’t have the hardness or stamina that they think they should have. While the first guide shows you how to pleasure your partner with your mouth, you can use this guide to enhance your penis for when your partner is ready for penetration.

53 Sexy Coupons

A sexy coupon book ready for you to use! Give your partner a coupon for “one lovemaking session in front of a roaring fire” or a coupon for a sex favor that you came up with yourself. Coupons are a great way to spice up your sex life in addition to making your partner feel ultra special.

How To Give Your Partner Great Massages

Michael Webb suggests in in his oral sex guide that massages are a great way to get your partner to relax before oral sex. Take that one step further with this additional manual on how to give your partner the massage of her life! She’ll be putty in your hands after you employ these amazing massage tips.

101 Romantic Ideas

Another way to get your partner to be receptive to oral sex is to romance her. Included with all the other bonus material is 101 Romantic Ideas that you can use tonight to start romancing your partner. She will feel like the queen of the world when you romance her, massage her, and give her the kind of orgasm she craves through the oral sex tips in Lick By Lick.