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How To Introduce Your Girl To Your Smoking Fetish

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A smoking fetish can be a scary thing when your girl is not ready. A smoking fetish is probably one of the most daunting tasks to introduce into a relationship. Having a smoking fetish can make you feel ostracized from the rest of society, but it’s important to remember that there are a lot of people out there with the same fetish as you.

This is very common in the BDSM scene and it shouldn’t be hard to tell your girlfriend about it if she is open minded. Every relationship has conflict, but your partner should be open to your sexual desires and making you happy. Here is how you should introduce your fetish to your girlfriend.

Tell Her About It

Before you can introduce this to your girlfriend you will need to tell your partner about it. Chances are that if you have a smoking fetish you are probably already having pretty hot sex. If you are already using bondage or S&M in your sex life with your girlfriend then this will probably not bother your partner all that much.

There is a chance that she is not turned on by smoke so it’s important to consider if this fetish is a deal breaker for the relationship. Sit your girlfriend down and talk to her about it. Tell her why it turns you on and ask  if she would be willing to try it out with you. If she is open minded, she will probably want to make you happy.

What If She Doesn’t Smoke?

If she doesn’t smoke there is a major issue. Asking your partner to take up a habit that could potentially be addicting and lead to cancer is not fair. Smoking a cigarette every once in awhile is not going to kill your girlfriend, but it could lead to regular use. It is never recommended to ask a partner to start a dangerous habit for your sexual desire.

There is a code in the BDSM scene called SSC (safe, sane and consensual). Smoking goes against the safe notion of this code so it’s important to realize that she probably will not go for it if she is not a smoker. If you are dating a smoker then she is going to be more opened minded about your fetish.

Establish The Ground Rules

Ground rules are essential for a smoking fetish. There are several varieties of a smoking fetish that are common in the scene, so it’s vital that you have some rules in place. For instance, many people who have a smoking fetish with BDSM like to use their partner as an ashtray.

While others don’t take it this far, some people even like to flick the ash onto their partner’s face. If you are going to be doing this then you need consent from your partner. The majority of guys get off on having a girl smoke while having sex or while giving a blowjob.

Talk to your partner about what she is willing to do and what is not willing to do. If you want to smoke while you are having sex with her, you need to make sure that she is going to be comfortable with this.

Be Safe

The problem with a smoking fetish is the chance that it could slip out of your hand or her hand. Make sure that you are being safe throughout the experience. There is always a chance that she could slip and burn you in a not so hardy area so be aware of this before you implement it into your sex life.

Have ashtrays and cups of water around the room. Open a window and use a fan if possible to get as much smoke out of the room. If you are smoking in a room that is carpeted you run the risk of the smell lingering.

Opening a window and using a fan can cut down on this immensely. Smoking involves fire and the heat of the moment could lead to drapes, carpeting or bed sheets getting burned.

Understand Breath Issues

Breath issues are always a concern with sex, but they are even more important with this fetish. Most guys are drawn to a woman inhaling and blowing out smoke instead of the smell on her breath.

Keep different forms of breath mints around the room for controlling cigarette breath. Listerine strips work the best because they dissolve instantly and kill bacteria in the mouth. This is will not get in the way as much as having to chew gum or suck on a mint.

Top 5 Erogenous Zones On Her Face

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Foreplay has a vital role in getting a woman primed for sex. Some of the most erogenous zones on a woman’s body are on her face and head. Here are some foreplay tips to help you master these zones.

Why The Face Is So Important

All women are beautiful in their own special way. And nothing expresses physical beauty as succinctly as the face. It plays primary role because of one very obvious reason: IT’S THE SEAT OF THE SENSES!

It houses the EYES (windows to the soul), the EARS (receptor of dirty talk), the NOSE (channel for scents), and the MOUTH (for spit-swapping, licking, sucking & biting) Capitalize on her senses. If you know anything about sex, you’ll realize how vital the senses are – it’s all about them.

1. The Nose

What can one do with a snout? A lot actually. For starters, you can make her close her eyes and give her a whiff of varied scents and aromas. Nothing strong, just something nice. Then initiate those playful nose rubs. Nuzzle each other. It’s mano-a-mano only with the snouts. Pinch that cute nose, cut air flow and then start kissing her.

Kiss her on the nose. You can even gently bite on it – just not on the bony part. Use your lips to shield teeth and bite through that. Bite and release immediately. Don’t hold the bite too long because it will get weird.

Tell her to close her eyes and trace her nose contours – the ridge and the sides. You may then give her a nose massage, this works best with lubricant or lotion. It’s very simple – with your thumb and forefinger, gently slide up and down the sides. Just slide up & down.

2. The Ears

In many countries, animal ears are considered a most sought-after delicacy.  Women have ticklish flaps, and going this route can be the beginning of something fun during foreplay. So nibble her ears. Since this is not a boxing match, don’t bite it off. Play with her ear lobes and curves, but don’t go deep. Make sure it never gets wet and sloppy – it’s not a nice feeling when things start getting slick.

Whisper sweet nothings. You don’t have to be poetic. Anything in a sexy tone will work. Since you’re so close, your utterance will be magnified several times, so don’t go drill sergeant on her. Banging the life out of her eardrum is not sensual. Instead, use your sexiest and most evocative voice. Whisper is the operative word.

You may, but very gently and not directly, blow her a warm breeze – it’s more like a sigh or moan really. This is a huge turn-on, especially when reinforced with a caress somewhere. An erotic massage works well with this method.

3. The Eyes

Bring your heads closer and get eye contact, this cheap psychological trick adds to the feeling of intimacy. As been said, gazing into each other increases attraction.

Try this – have some sweet things to say in your head, and then try communicating them through your eyes. Get to that point where you find it easier to talk through the eyes. The satisfaction of knowing what the other is thinking, without the exchange of words, is incomparable – it’s like an inside joke that strengthens your bond.

Tell her to close her eyes. Plant those gentle & dry kisses. Run your fingers over her eye brows, eye lashes and kiss them very gently. Watch her get dreamy with this. Caress the soft skin around, go gentle and sweet. This is something men rarely do nowadays.

4. The Mouth

Take licking, sucking, biting, making out and blowing to a new level. What else can you do with it? Feed her! Put something inside that mouth. Open your refrigerator, what’s inside that’s not past expiration date? You don’t need to go grocery shopping for this one.

Feed her. Kiss her. Don’t just spit swap, swap diets. Spread some on her cheeks and lick it off. Encourage her to do the same. Give her something to suck on – a chocolate-dipped finger, perhaps? Anything that’ll make her mouth and tongue move will do the trick.

You are scintillating her by offering an assortment of flavors. Don’t feed her to fullness though – that’ll just make her sleepy and bloated – not good for physical activity. Give her a tingling sampling, a taste to excite and awaken her drowsy existence.

5. The Hair

Unless your partner is G.I. Jane, I’m going to assume she’s got some. Blond, brunette, frizzy – doesn’t really matter, you can have fun with it. Smell her locks. Isn’t that already a treat? Instead of considering her locks as an annoyance guys should take advantage of her hair.

Hair is one of the best sex toys. Play with it. Use it to caress her body and yours. This will spring goosebumps on both. Run your palm over her head several times – like soothing a lost child. Then course your fingers through like a comb. Add appropriate eye contacts and you make her feel like she’s the most precious girl in the entire Universe.

Motion as if you’re tucking her bangs behind her ears.  It’s the same move as wiping the corner of her lips clean even when there’s no food there. These are cheap, ‘cheesy’ tricks, but she falls for them every time because they’re a sweet-kind-of-nothing that shows attention to details.

For ladies with long locks, take a fistful by sliding your hand from the back, through the neck and through her hair. Form a fist and grab a fistful near the roots then gently tug on it. Gently but firmly. Look at her longingly, survey her face and slowly descend your lips on hers and kiss her.

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide Review

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The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide teaches you how to stimulate the prostate and turn a regular orgasm into a WOW orgasm!

While it’s pretty simple for most men to have an orgasm during sex, it’s just a regular ol’ orgasm unless the prostate gland is stimulated. That’s right – the prostate gland is like a woman’s g-spot, but for a guy. While the route to get there isn’t exactly favored by a lot of guys (sticking something up your anus may not be your idea of a good time) but the results are out of this world!

The Good

If you’re looking for a guide on everything there is to know about the male prostate (including some information that you would probably consider TMI), the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is an excellent choice. There’s definitely no shortage of topics covered here, and no stone is left unturned when it comes to a man’s prostate gland. Whether it’s a discussion about reducing the risk of prostate cancer, how to get clean before and after a prostate massage and specific techniques to use, this book covers it all.

Although there are some spelling and grammatical errors that will leave you re-reading a sentence a few times to get the meaning of it, the author’s conversational tone is a welcome change from the usual dry, statistical feel of many of the other prostate massage guides out there. You’ll enjoy reading about prostate massage from a guy’s perspective – it’s almost like the author is talking to you one on one.

The Bad

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide isn’t for every man. For example, although the book does cover how to get over the squeamishness that many men have about anything touching or going in their butts, if you’re really really against the idea, this guide isn’t going to help all that much.

On a technical note, there are some spelling errors in the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide, and there is a definite lack of visual engagement here. While the all text format may not be an issue for women, men learn best (and are intrigued more by) visual stimuli. Men who don’t enjoy reading are going to get bored about halfway through the book, if not earlier. On the plus side, there are decent headlines, so it’s not that difficult to skip around and find what you want, or reference back to a section after you’ve already read the whole thing.

The author doesn’t give much information about how to use condoms to keep anal sex toys clean, although he does suggest using a latex glove when using your fingers. (Neoprene or any non-latex glove can be used for guys that have a latex allergy, although the author does not suggest this). Other bits of missing information or sections that could be elaborated on more are what types of lube to use (everyone has heard of KY Jelly and in all honesty, there are much higher quality anal lubes out on the market today) and exactly how to clean your anal sex toys.

The Bottom Line

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is a must for any man who is interested in exploring his body to the fullest during sex and receiving the most intense pleasure possible. While there are a few things that this guide could have done better (more pictures, please!), the value of the information contained within should not be underestimated. If it is difficult for you to read a huge chunk of text in one sitting, commit yourself to reading just a few sections at a time. It’s a lot to take in, so don’t expect to be able to catapult yourself to prostate heaven within ten minutes of reading the guide. However, with careful exploration of all the techniques in the book, you’ll be able to experience what men who have tried prostate massage call the “holy grail” of sex. It’s well worth the read!

The Full Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide Review

The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide teaches you how to access your own pleasure button (and how to show your partner how to access it) so you can take your orgasms from ho-hum to “WOW!” Once you learn the right tips and techniques, you’ll be able to experience the most intense pleasure you’ve ever experienced during masturbation or sex with your lover.

Prostate massage can give men the most intense experience they’ve ever had during masturbation or sex, even more than the best handjob or blowjob they’ve ever gotten!

Here’s What You’ll Learn In The Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide:

  • What the prostate gland is and how to find it
  • Why massaging your prostate can improve your health and reduce your risk of cancer (by 30%!!)
  • How to get ready for prostate massage (cleanliness is a must!)
  • How to get over being squeamish about something in your butt
  • How to do it yourself during masturbation
  • Breathing techniques to help you relax your anus
  • Step by step instructions on how to massage the prostate
  • How to teach your partner to do it on you
  • Different types of male orgasms (yes, you can have different types too, it’s not just for the ladies!)
  • Anal sex toys to use during masturbation and sex to massage your prostate for you
  • And much, much more!

As you can see, there is truly an abundance of information here about all things prostate – so if that’s what you’re looking for, the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is pretty much everything you need. There are few guides out there that cover this topic in such detail.

The headlines and clear table of contents make it easy to skip around if you want to or quickly reference back to something you’ve already read. However, skipping around isn’t recommended. Although reading through the medical facts and statistics about the prostate may seem boring, it’s really for your own good. You don’t want to go sticking anything up your butt until you’re fully educated and fully informed. Skip around at your own risk!

In addition to the plethora of information found in the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide, it’s actually good information – not a whole lot of fluff to speak of. The author cautions against using sex toys in the bum that don’t have a flared base, because yes, they can get lost up there – buying you an embarrassing trip to the emergency room. The author also discusses using plenty of lubrication (you absolutely CANNOT massage the prostate with ANYTHING – finger or toy – without lube) and notes that anal sex toys must be kept very, very clean to limit the spread of bacteria.

Overall, the Prostate Massage And Orgasm Guide is an all-in-one book that covers pretty much everything you would ever want to know about prostate massage from how to do it to how to teach your partner how to do it. While some sex tips guides may have small sections on prostate massage, if you’re looking to get into it (or even get better at doing it), THIS is the guide you want to get.

10 Libido Types – Which One Is YOUR Girl?

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Libido types are important for understanding your partner. The more often you can practice touching each other, the easier and more magical it will get! The amount of time that you have available for sex will vary, but you can maximize your chances by gaining an understanding of your wife’s libido. Take these tips to heart and make the most of her love-style.

1. The Sensual Type

The sensual woman is an emotional creature and sex is a pure expression of her love for you. She adores the exotic when it comes to exploring the finer things in life, so don’t be surprised if she enjoys feeling champagne bubbles on her skin or the taste of fresh fruit and chocolate during foreplay.

2. The Erotic Type

Eroticism is defined by its intensity. An erotic libido demands the extraordinary – something breathtaking and adventurous. This woman probably won’t turn down “ordinary” sex, but to really grab her attention it needs to have that spark.

3. The Dependent Type

A dependent libido understands sex as a way to relieve stress and relax. A woman thus inclined is likely to become upset and frustrated without frequent release, but may not always be willing to initiate. To avoid the cycle of abstinence – then fighting over a lack of sex drive – then make-up-sex release, you may want to try adding some other regular physical activity to your routine.

Try going for hikes or playing a sport together to invigorate that competitive spirit and warm up your bodies, minds and emotions before letting go.

4. The Reactive Type

This sexual personality is rarely aroused before their partner. They will almost never instigate sex through foreplay, but can have an active sex life if their lover takes the lead. It can take a lot longer to get things going, but don’t fret! Showing and telling your wife how turned on you are by her is a surefire way to ignite her flame.

5. The Entitled Type

Hopefully neither you nor your wife fall into this category. This kind of lover doesn’t really believe they have any responsibility to pleasure their partner, or believes their skills are better than they truly are, and so feels as if they are entitled to receive pleasure but don’t actually give any back. This type of lover holds and resonates loving sexual energy, but never replicates or reciprocates it. In short, the entitled libido is selfish, ignorant or both. It’s time to do something different, right?

6. The Addictive Type

This kind of person tends to get sex-obsessed. It is an absolutely necessary component of their day-to-day lives, often to the detriment of other areas, including relationships. Addictive lovers are prone to cheating and may have a difficult time maintaining relationships if they cannot overcome their emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. Discovering their true sexual and emotional potential will help them recover from addiction and learn to enjoy a healthy, regular sex life without feeling desperate.

7. The Stressed Type

A stressed out lover is no fun for anyone, so if this describes you or your wife, some immediate change is necessary! This kind of libido is going to be very low, because sex is an uncomfortable event filled with anxiety. Pressure to perform and worries of inadequacy make true intimacy nearly impossible. This person needs to do some real soul searching and work towards coming to accept their body and having their body accepted by others.

8. The Disinterested Type

Sometimes the result of past sexual distress, sometimes the product of a very low libido, some men and women are just not very interested in sex and orgasm. This, of course, does not mean they don’t enjoy intimate touch! Some women do not enjoy the thrusting of a penis inside them, but instead find great pleasure in oral sex, mutual masturbation and the skillful manual manipulation of a coochie connoisseur, and don’t mind reciprocating for an eager lover.

9. The Detached Type

A detached lover doesn’t necessarily dislike sex, but rather tends to forget about it when it is on the back burner. Even if they feel sexual, they may tend to spend a few minutes with masturbation rather than initiate sex, because of the time it would take away from the things currently occupying their mind. With this kind of partner, it can be important to make dates.

Take time away from the TV, the computer, Addictive lovers are prone to cheating and may have a difficult time maintaining relationships if they cannot overcome their emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. the kids and the kitchen; turn off the cell phones and lock the doors (or better yet, go somewhere special away from it all!) and get your minds focused on each other.

10. The Compulsive Type

Folks with fetishes and problems with chronic masturbation tend to fall in this category, where sex is only really enjoyable if they are able to follow a specific ritual. This need is often psychosomatic and can easily be adapted to work in a relationship.

Most women who are only able to achieve orgasm through one specific act or movement can learn to achieve orgasm in other ways if the sensation is altered over time – in other words, if you spend enough time fingering her while she uses her vibrator, she can probably learn to orgasm just from your hands, without the use of the vibrator!

How To Master The ULTIMATE Orgasm!

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An orgasm gives some men the impression that the women should be responsible for stimulating themselves. This has always seemed a bit unfair to me, since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. So shouldn’t he do the same to give her an orgasm? However, when handled appropriately, having a woman stimulate herself can be a pleasurable experience for both her and her partner.

Be A Multi-Tasker

Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris by pressing his pubic bone against, also called “grinding.” This is a great method for the woman to reach orgasm.

If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option. Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to taking turns, meaning one partner will climax first, then the other. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility, but for couples that enjoy climaxing together, this may not be a satisfactory option.

Experiment With Her Orgasm

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships, which may have become routine and boring over time.

The main benefit of experimenting is that you’ll learn just what makes your woman tick—sexually speaking, of course. While some women prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have learned how to have an orgasm through masturbation will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

Know Her Orgasm

As I mentioned above, the clitoris fills up with blood and becomes erect like a penis. This means it’s much more noticeable when a woman is aroused. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect for sexual intercourse to occur, clitoral orgasms will only happen if the woman is properly aroused.

That means some type of foreplay is generally a requirement. With continuous stimulation of the clitoris, it becomes more engorged with blood and this further heightens its sensitivity. As stimulation continues, a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released—the point in which an orgasm is experienced.