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How To Get Him To LOVE Going Down On You!

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Oral sex isn’t something that all men like. If you are dealing with a guy that will not go down on you, there are a few things that you can do to take charge. Here is what real men and women are saying about how to get a guy to like going down on you.

What She Said:

Work With Him

When it comes to oral sex you can’t force anyone to like it but there are a few things you can do to make your guy be more inclined to go down on you.  One way is to do it is to go down on each other the same time!  The 69 position is perfect!  You can start giving  head and then swing your hips over to his face.

With mutual oral sex no one can say no, your tongues are already busy.  Another helpful tip is to keep your bikini line trimmed, you don’t have to go hairless but you should keep it tidy for him.  Speaking of tidy, many women fear of an odor down there and some guys might be squeamish about it too.

But, unless you have an infection, everything one can smell and taste down there is completely fine.  Another tip to get your guy to like it more is to let him know how much you like it.  While he is down there, moan and tell him what you are enjoying.  Lastly, be thankful.  Afterwards thank him with a high five or a blowjob!  It’s the gift that keeps on giving!

What He Said:

Don’t Expect Him To Know What You Like

Some guys don’t like doing it. It’s true. If you like getting head and he doesn’t like giving it and isn’t willing to learn, then you should move on. Let him hook up with some girl who has self confidence issues with her vagina and doesn’t want to get oral sex.

Some guys are concerned about getting an STD from giving you head. If that’s there deal, then use a dental dam. It prevents any STD transmission from happening and they’re also flavored, so your man will have a tasty treat in case he’s a guy who doesn’t like the taste of your vagina.

I really think for most guys who say they don’t like going down on a girl that it’s really a case of them not knowing how to properly perform cunnilingus on a woman. It’s different for every woman and where women have the benefit of men, who are always all to eager to tell you in great detail how you should be blowing them, many women just expect you to know how to give them amazing head without giving their men even the slightest hint.

He Can’t Read Your Mind!

Men aren’t good at reading what’s on a woman’s mind, do you really think they’re better at reading your vagina? Probably, not so much, if you really think about it. As much as every guy on the planet would like to be known as the “vagina whisperer” that’s just not how it is. Men really want to rock their women’s world. They want you to have an orgasm way more than you do. Society cheers for the importance of a job well done, so he’s probably dying to give you amazing oral sex more than you are dying for it.

So stop expecting your guy to know what your vagina likes. Tell him what to do. Always be sure to frame it in the right way. Don’t tell your guy what he’s doing wrong. Say that you’d like to try something that would make what he’s doing even better. He’ll be down for it. That’s a very subtle yet important distinction.

Give very detailed, explicit and real time instructions. Yes, telling him how to eat your pussy while he’s giving you oral sex, might not be quite as hot as him just automatically knowing how to give you multiple orgasms, but bear with him. If you’re willing to go through the instructional period, you’ll be rewarded with amazing oral sex very soon. Even if it takes a while for him to master, you’ll see immediate dividends as he makes his gradual progression towards giving you oral sex like the champ of your vagina.

Cure Premature Ejaculation With These 2 EASY Tips!

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Premature ejaculation is an issue that affects a lot of men. Are you sick and tired of super quick sex? Are you worried that your inability to last is making your woman think twice about making out with you? Are you finally ready to take control of your sex life, supercharge your stamina, and give her hot sex to boot even if you’ve never been able to last beyond 2 minutes in bed?

If you are anything like the men reading this, I am sure your answers are a resounding “YES!”. Here’s a simple fact: over 70% of men surveyed said their biggest fear in the bedroom is not being able to last (so take comfort that you are not alone). Not only that, the majority of women also want their men to last long enough to give them orgasms.

So what are the most effective ways to improve your endurance in bed and become a phenomenal lover who can please any woman at will? Plenty! But for the brevity of this article, let us look at two proven and very popular tactics to improve your “staying power” in the sack.

1. Unload Before Reloading

Take advantage of your refractory period. This is the time frame between the first and second orgasm. Simply put, if you masturbate or gratify yourself an hour or two before you have sex, it will take you much longer to achieve the same levels of sexual stimulation. This can work wonders for your premature ejaculation.

In order words, the first climax helps to “desensitize” your penis glans and can give you up to three times the endurance in bed. You don’t have to feel funny or embarrassed to have to do this – it is a completely natural and proven way to last longer while combating premature ejaculation.

In fact many sexual therapists and medical professionals recommend masturbation as an effective “first line of defense” to prevent an early climax and increase your stamina in bed!

2. Call Me PC For Short

In your pelvis area, there exists a set of muscles, known as the PC muscle. Most men do not know this, but you can fortify these muscles and make them more resilient through simple pelvic contraction exercises that have been proven to transform your sexual stamina.

Exercises like Kegel are super easy to do and does NOT require you to handle your genitals. These simple routines take up no more than a couple of minutes each day, and can easily give you extraordinary stamina to even outlast your woman in bed and I’m pretty sure she won’t be complaining about it either!

What Your Partner REALLY Wants During Phone Sex!

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Phone sex can be a great way to keep your relationship interesting if you have distance issues. Even if you live in the same city, this dirty deed can be a mood killer if not handled properly. Here is what real men and women are saying about it.

What She Said:

Imagination And Tone

Phone sex is all about imagination and your tone of voice. This is much different than sexting. There is nothing you cannot talk about! Since guys are super visual and you are miles away, a great idea is to describe to your guy what you are wearing. After he has a nice visual describe to him what you are doing to yourself. Keep your voice low and sultry.

To help get yourself in the mood, you should put on something sexy that feels good on your skin, light a few candles to set the mood and keep any toys and lubes near by. Another hot tip is to describe a sex romp you two had in the past! Describe what you two did and then tell him how hot you feel thinking about it.

You can also describe in details what you would do to him if you had him with you.  There are no rules or boundaries and when you trust your partner you can let your inhibitions run wild. And if you are unsure of what to say, a deep low moan escaping your lips is worth a thousand words!

What He Said:

Be Specific And Be Slow

Tell your partner what you would like to do to them, in great detail. Let the story build. I also think it’s great to be naked when you talk dirty to your partner. It’s best to have access to your naughty bits with your dirty talk and just the fact that you’re naked, helps set the mood. It will really help you fall into that world.

Realize that phone sex is fantasy based, so feel free to let your mind wander and imagine yourself having the best sex you and your partner have ever had in a dream location. Maybe it’s about you two having sex on the beach, maybe it’s about the two of you having sex in public.

Maybe it’s slow and sensual love making, may it’s about hard and nasty fucking. Maybe he wants to do you and your best girlfriend, maybe you want to fuck him in the ass with a strap on. Or maybe it’s about trying an orgy for the first time. From straight sex to swinger sex, let your imagination go wild!

Then let your fingers do the walking. If you’re on the subway, it’s maybe a bit different, but if your alone at home, and you and your partner both don’t orgasm, what’s the point? Get your lover hot and bothered, and make sure you cum loudly for them, and they of course need to return the favor. Tease, please and play all you like, but make sure you end it with a bang.

And above all, have fun. Dirty talk is a skill and it takes practice, but what’s the downside of that? Phone sex is fun and should be enjoyable. It’s not rocket science and it’s not hard labor (unless of course, those happen to be sexual fantasies of yours). So relax, un wind and get your rocks (and other things) off!

Everything You NEED To Know About The Clitoris

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A female orgasm is a mystifying even to a lot of men. By far the most common way for a woman to achieve an orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. To understand why, you must first understand the clitoris.

Just WHAT Is It?

The clitoris is located just above the entrance to the vagina and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh that contains a high concentration of nerve endings.

A clitoral hood often covers it. Many men and women mistake the hood for the clitoris itself. But what most people don’t know is that only a small portion of this is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.

Why Is It So Darn Important?

Two things are particularly interesting about this sex organ. First, all female mammals have one. This is interesting because according to biologist, the sole purpose of this organ is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren’t the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels. And if you’ve ever seen two animals mate, you might agree.

Second, it is made from the same material as the the male genitals. In fact, in men this organ becomes a fullfledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the male organ, the female organ fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin.

It’s The Same As A Penis…Say What?

The only real difference between the two —besides location in the body—seems to be that the males use their organ for urination, while the clitoris is not. With that said, it is important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen.

Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse can stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris, as well, and this can also lead to an orgasm. What many people don’t realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually can’t stimulate it. This is due its position within the woman’s body. This makes it extremely difficult for the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.

Erotic Massage from A-Z – How To Master Foreplay NOW!!!

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Erotic massage seems easy but the challenge lies in doing it correctly. Become a master of the massage with these EASILY learned strokes for better sex tonight!

The Basic Strokes

1.    GLIDING – The most commonly used stroke, gliding is executed by simply sliding your palms over lover’s skin, creating friction and warmth as you go along. Make sure that you use a lot of lubricant for this. There are no patterns or set motions, this is just you caressing her. This is a very pleasant stroke that can be applied anywhere on her body. (You may also use the back of your hand.)

2.    PALM CIRCLES – This is usually executed on broad areas like your partner’s back. Trace a circle (or half-circle) using your palms. With both hands, you can simultaneously or alternately fan in opposite left-right directions.

3.   THUMB CIRCLES – This one’s similar to Palm Circles but is usually executed in smaller areas like the neck, shoulders, palm, ankles and temples.

4.   FINGER WALKING – This involves the other four fingers. Imagine you’re playing the flute. Point & Slide. Let your fingers walk along the different avenues of her body.

5.   SCRATCHING – This is not the BDSM variety. It’s simply an erotic but gentle slide of fingernails on your lover’s body. You can do this practically anywhere. Just go very, very light on the face, especially when you go over her eyes. This is before you make love.

6.    KNUCKLES – Form a fist. Roll and glide those knuckles around. This is especially effective on the back. Those bony knuckles provide a more focused and slightly intense touch.

7.    THUMPING – Form a fist. This time, use the underside. Gently thump this on her. This is again especially effective on her back but may still be employed to the rest of your girlfriend’s body.

Remember, the magic is not on the strokes but in the attitude – without sensual presence, there are no sensual strokes.

Touch Techniques

These are 3 moves of pure power. Unleash them on your woman’s body before sex and the pleasures that await are indescribable. You’ll be amazed with what great hands you’ve got!

A)    LOVER’S TOUCH
B)    BODY TRACING
C)    HUNDRED HANDS

The Lover’s Touch

The Lover’s Touch (LT) is like stroking a butterfly’s wings. It’s gentle and kind. Tender and light – executed by hovering one’s hand delicately just above her skin. When it lands, it barely even touches. It’s there, but as if it isn’t. The weightless caress sends a wave of happy shiver through her spine, flushing her brain with pleasure. With eyes shut, she’ll feel it even more!

The Lover’s Touch, the epitome of the slow and gentle touching, awakens her basic longings. It is a paradox in action. Very light and gentle, one supposes it’s hardly even felt, but the opposite ensues – the slower and softer one goes, the more intense the kick. This doesn’t make any sense, for it seems the stimulation is not even there.

For example, run the back of your hand and caress your partner’s cheeks – from the base of her ears to the tip of her chin. Do it very, very slowly and very, very gently. Back and forth. Light as a feather, quiet as a willow,tamed as a breeze. (Observe her breathing.)

The Lover’s Touch can be employed anywhere on the body and is a good way of hunting for moan zones.

Don’t be limited to the use of hands, the Lover’s Touch goes beyond that trusty pair – YOUR WHOLE BODY is your Hand… every last blob of it. Your hair, toes, chest, penis, butt, lips, nose, yes even your pubic hair are conveyors of LT.