Sex Tips & Advice

How To Give Her AMAZING Sex Even If You Can’t Last Long Enough

Sex tips cover many different topics. One of the biggest genres is how to last longer in bed. You don’t need the whole repertoire of skills to please and completely amaze your woman. This article will reveal one simple tactic that will show her that you are still in control even though you orgasm way too fast. Believe me, most guys overlook this simple technique.

The Paradox Of Finishing Too Fast

Great sex often finishes too quickly. That is one problem facing most guys in the bedroom. This is also something that I have grappled with for a long time. I am just glad I don’t have to face this problem any more. You see, when you come to an early climax during sex, it makes your partner question your masculinity. You appear weak in her eyes.

Worse still, at the subconscious level, she will begin to look around for guys that can truly please her in bed. But here’s something that I discovered when I was a quick shooter.

I remembered I was pretty nervous when sex comes around, and the fear and anxiety made it practically impossible for me to have intercourse for more than a few seconds. It was just too embarrassing, even to think about it.

Hold Her Responsible For Your Early Climax (No Kidding!)

When a guy finishes too soon during sex, there are two ways a woman will think about the situation: she will think that the guy is really lousy. OR, she may think she is so incredibly hot that the guy just lost control.

But here’s the thing. Most women are so insecure about themselves that the first scenario is far more likely – unless in the first place you give her the idea that she is HOT!

So, if you come to an orgasm too quickly, be completely cool about it, and tell her “that has never happened to me, and I never thought a woman could do that to me, until you came along!”

Something magical happens when you assure her that you are totally attracted to her and enjoy her company and body immensely. Your woman will feel completely comfortable and secure about her own sexuality… and will be drawn by your masculinity too!

This is extremely powerful and a great way to turn the tables on your quick ejaculation. The sex may be over too soon, but believe me, she will remember that quick-fire sex as totally mind-blowing! But you better do better next time… else she finds someone else who does!

Female Orgasm TRUTH! How Age Affects Her Climax

By loveandsex

The female orgasm is extremely elusive. It may be easy to assume that because you have an orgasm most or all of the times you have sex, your wife is having a smashing time as well, but statistics also show that only about 44% of adults are happy with their sex life. While you are more likely to be concerned with frequency – 41% of men are – your wife and I are more concerned with our feelings. Only 29% of women want more sex, which means the chances are that your wife is not entirely satisfied with the quality of your sex life, rather than the quantity

How She Comes

The most frequent sex act reported by couples is by far coitus, yet only 6% of women report being able to orgasm from penile stimulation alone. Even with clitoral stimulation or vibration, only 29% of women are able to orgasm every time they have sex. Your hands may not be the most obvious sex organ, but the science is clear – 34% of women say that masturbation with their hands or rubbing up against something is their preferred way to reach orgasm.

In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means. Tradition says that variety is the spice of life. Switching to your brand new “swirly whirl” technique just as she’s about to come will probably stop her dead in her tracks.

Trying new sex positions and different stimulation keeps things interesting, but when it comes to making her come, all the tricks in the book can’t replace the dexterity and strength required for the consistent movement that will bring her over the edge. She has had decades of practice at this subtle movement. If you don’t learn to mimics her own masturbation, she’ll be left wanting. In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means.

One Way or Another

Do you have a defeatist all-or-nothing attitude when it comes to sex? Do you pass up the chance to get down and dirty for the sake of scheduling, or do you take the time to play when the opportunity arises? When I used to wake up in the morning and try to cuddle with my husband, he would always push me away.

We were so busy that he didn’t think we had time for all the hard work he would have to put in to getting an erection and having an orgasm, so he didn’t even want to bother touching me. Making love is supposed to be an emotional, shared experience and shouldn’t be relegated to goal-oriented time slots when you can run the full routine.

Foreplay, intercourse and orgasm are a great combination, but each activity is also enjoyable on its own. Sometimes my husband and I have time to kiss and fondle, sometimes there’s only a few minutes for a rushed quickie, and other days we may have a long, luxurious afternoon to tease and please each other.

Don’t push away the chance to make your wife feel good because you’re worried you won’t get off in the process!

The Dirty Thirties

While people in their thirties tend to be a bit more adventurous, they are also on average much busier than their younger (or older!) counterparts. Young children are incredibly demanding of both time and energy, and according the sexpert Tracey Cox, the average parenting couple have sex around once a month and if that frequency rises as the child ages, it does not start to for several years.

This kind of physical rift in a relationship can cause long term emotional and physical problems that permeate the later years of a marriage, especially if cuddling, kissing and foreplay disappear with the all-or-nothing approach. Paradoxically, a woman’s capacity for orgasm rises dramatically during this time period as well.

While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent climax, mostly during masturbation.

The Fighting Forties

As a result of the sexual dysfunction of an earlier decade, both men and women in their forties begin a downward swoop on the roller coaster that is sex and marriage. While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent orgasms, mostly during masturbation.

More than half of all men develop erectile dysfunction and this number only rises steadily from age 40 on up. People in their forties also drop way off on their rate of sexual activity – 69 times a year compared to 86 times the decade earlier.

The numbers regarding fidelity are not much more encouraging. In fact, it doesn’t take much for someone to cheat – somewhere between 25% and 40% of people have been unfaithful to their partner, and not all those people were unhappy in their marriage. Those who were “pretty happy” were twice as likely to cheat as those who were “very happy,” and those who were “not too happy” were three times as likely as their very happy peers.

4 Male Masturbation Techniques For Better Orgasms

By loveandsex

Male masturbation is something that every guy learns to do by the age of about 14. While there isn’t a guy in the world that would rather masturbate then have sex with a woman, sometimes a do-it-yourself job is all that is available. If you’re tired of using the same techniques, there are few ways that you can spice up your solo masturbation regiment.

Doing the same old same old can easily get tiring and become humdrum when you’re by yourself. Spicing things up can give you different sensations and easily take your mind off of being single. Here are some solo masturbation techniques that can get you through any dry spell or spice up how your girlfriend gives you a handjob.

1. The Standard Single Fist Technique

The standard single fist is probably the most commonly used masturbation technique used by men today. The technique is fairly simple. You wrap your fingers around the shaft of your erect penis and then slide your hand up and down from the head to the bottom.

This technique gives you the most contact between your penis in your hand. While hand lotion and lubrication is not always around, the standard single fist technique can easily be used without these items. Lube or lotion can take this technique to a newer level, but if you are going to use such items it’s better to use a more advanced technique.

2. The Churning Butter Technique

Male masturbation can be boring if you’re not using different techniques. The churning butter technique involves both hands and plenty of lube or lotion. The technique is fairly simple. Simply apply lube or lotion to both of your hands and then put one hand on top of the other and go up and down on your penis.

For a better sensation you can twist both of the hands around the shaft and head to make it seem more like a vagina. Make sure that you’re not holding your hands too tight as you could cut off the circulation to your penis. When you are about to have an orgasm, you can either stay with the motion or you can use the standard single fist to finish it off.

This method gets its name because it will actually look like you are trying to churn butter. This can make for an excellent alternative to your standard masturbation technique.

3. The Jelquing Technique

Jelquing is another male masturbation technique that you can employ in your arsenal. While this technique is typically used to increase penis size, it can also be used for masturbation. The idea is to push the blood from the shaft of your penis to the tip to increase the erection state.

Jelqing is a whole new aspect to masturbation and gives a completely different sensation. You basically want to use your index finger and your thumb to make an “O” shape. Tighten your index finger and your thumb around the bottom of your penis and then slowly work it up to the head.

Make sure that your index finger and your thumb are not too tight or you could hurt yourself. This method requires either lube or lotion. Never do this with a dry hand.

4. Using Sex Toys

Sex toys are one of the best ways that you can increase the amount of pleasure with your male masturbation. While toys are typically used with women, there are toys out there for men also. Male masturbators are commonly used for male masturbation with single guys, however, they can also be used with couples. This gives the man the feeling of a vagina or a mouth in order to get them off. These toys can be found at local sex shops or online.

They typically cost anywhere between nine dollars and $80 depending on the model and the store that you are buying them from. If you are going to buy a male masturbator be sure to get one that is going to encompass your entire penis. There are a lot of male masturbators out there that are very short and will not take your entire penis.

There are also different variations on how tight the masturbator will be. Make sure that you are buying one that is not going to go loose within a couple of uses. The best thing about these toys is that it can train you for having sex with a woman. They are typically used to increase stamina while also providing a little spice to your normal male masturbation regiment. All toys will require lube as well has a thorough cleaning after use.

4 Ways To Get Started With Bondage TONIGHT!

By kendallashley

Bondage is often associated with black leather and a guy with a zipper mask. The fact of the matter is that bondage doesn’t have to be something out of a horror movie. There are a lot of couples that get off on bondage and lead very normal lives.

Although there are those couples out there that tie each other up in chains or with other materials, you don’t have to do this in order to experience this kind of sex. If you have an interest in moving up in the scene, you need to understand the basics first.

What Is Bondage?

Bondage is basically the restraint of one partner as to not impede on the actions of the other partner. Many people love bondage because it allows them to relinquish control of what is happening to them. They don’t have to make decisions and they can be used for kinky sex.

They can also be teased in this position and not be able to do anything about it. Giving away all control is a turn on to a lot of men and women. If you are one of them then you need to start out with a basic understanding of what bondage is and what it is not. This does not have to do with whips or humiliation. Although Bondage is a part of BDSM, it is only a small part.

1. Establish Some Ground Rules

The ground rules should be set before you tie up your partner or before your partner ties you up. The ground rules are essential to knowing the limits of what you and your partner can do while either of your is inhibited. If you are a little afraid of being tied up, you might want to pretend for first time or make the restraints loose enough to get out of.

Talk to your partner about what they want. Do they want their legs tied, their arms tied or a blindfold? Determine what you are comfortable with also. You might have a rule that they can only tease you when you are tied up but that they have to let you go before you have sex. Discuss anything that is going to make you uncomfortable with your partner and have them do the same so you are on the same page.

2. Use Safety Measures

There are a few terms that you should be familiar with. The bondage scene uses Safe, Sane And Consensual (SSC) and Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). These basically mean that you should always have consensual play with your partner and you should never be impaired by drugs or alcohol. Come up with a safe word to say if you are feeling uncomfortable and make sure that it’s something you would never use in the moment.

3. Get Tied Down

Now that you have all of that out of the way, it’s time to get tied down. Since you’re a beginner you probably don’t have all of the equipment needed. Get a couple of pairs of pantyhose and tie your partner to the bedpost or have her tie you to the bedpost.

Use a simple knot that will hold, but a knot that you could ultimately break if needed. If you want to start out slow, simply tie their hands together without securing them to the bed.

4. Use Some Objects

A feather is the easiest way to get started. It can feel good and it’s very teasing. Run the feather up and down your partner’s body or have them run the feather up and down your body. Tease them with the feather until they are begging for you. At this point, don’t give in.

The feather is most widely used object for teasing, but you can also use different sex toys. A feather is going to be enough for a guy, but a vibrator works very well with women. Run the vibrator over her nipples and her down her thigh. Don’t put it on her clitoris or inside her just yet. Wait until she is sucking in her stomach.

This is an involuntary refllex to try to get you to put the vibrator on her. Gradually work the vibrator around her clitoris and watch as she tugs on the restraints. Always follow the rules when you’re using objects or sex toys.

This form of sex is a fun way to put a little kink into the relationship. If you have an interest in bondage, following this simple guide will give you a crash course in what you like and what you don’t like. Remember to keep to the rules and never do anything that you or your partner is uncomfortable with.

Sex Tips: Grooming Your Pubic Hair The RIGHT Way!

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips do not only cover technique, they also extend to your grooming. Pubic hair can be one of the biggest turn-offs in the bedroom when not handled properly. Here are a few sex tips based on what real men and women are saying about how you keep yourself groomed.

What She Said:

Hair Down There

I’ll never forget when I was 7 yrs old and found my parents’ 1969 Joy of Sex book. Till this day, I can still vividly picture the naked hippies and the massive amounts of hair that surrounded their genitals. I still have nightmares.

In this day and age we have come a long way with lasers, razors and waxes. For girls, there is no fun way to remove hair. Lasers can sting and be costly. Razors, although cheap, can be dangerous. One wrong wrist movement and bits can be cut.

And with razors there is always the grown in hairs, thicker hairs etc. That being said, maintenance is totally worth it! Not only does it look better, but also less hair makes it easier for your lover to find your clitoris.

And you and your lover can play the game of “Landing Strip” or “Tortilla chip” depending on the shape you want to leave your hair in. Going full on hairless is also sexy; there is something erotic and naughty about it.

Guys need to do their part in the manscaping department too. They don’t need to go bare, but for the love of God please keep it under control! No woman wants to end up flossing with your hair! And besides, a trim can make your penis appear bigger!

What He Said:

A Little Maintenance Won’t Hurt

I know there’s a lot of weight behind this “pro-bush” movement these days, but I’m just going to say it: only terrorists and weirdos are in favor of hairy lady parts. Yes, terrorists. If you don’t go bare, the terrorists win. True story.

Seriously, though, all women should be totally hairless from the scalp down. There is no logical reason to have any hair down their except that you’re part of Al Queda. I’m sure Oprah will tell you that all women are beautiful exactly as they are, but that’s simply not true. 70’s bush is just not sexy.

It wasn’t even sexy in the 70’s, but guys were given that to have sex and they didn’t really want to, but they did want to have sex, and everyone had fros back then. Girls even had fros covering their naughty bits, and men had fros surrounding their wedding tackle.

Ladies should be bald down there. It’s just plain hot. I can’t tell you why, but who cares? It’s wrong and it’s naughty and it makes us guys want to spend lots of time down there. And isn’t that what women want?

Yes, the landing strip is nice and slutty too. And who doesn’t like women being slutty? Nobody. That’s who. Still, I vote full commando, instead of the landing strip. I mean, if you’re going to do it, why not do it right?

Manscaping is all the rage and frankly I rage against that machine. Men are supposed to be smelly and hair and dirty. The way God intended. Sure you get a few hair balls when you give us a blowjob, but that’s just part of the battle scars that come with performing oral sex on a man properly. Wear those hair balls in your teeth with pride knowing you did a job well done.

Though a little scissoring down there never hurt anyone. As long as you do it right. Sharp objects and the male genitalia generally don’t go together. I know women will say men are wusses for being afraid of this, but who the hell are you? You have an innie, we have an outie! Totally different ball game. Literally.

Be careful when you prune, or trim or whatever you want to call it, but never ever go full commando. It’s just not hot. I don’t know why it’s hot when women do it and not guys, but it’s just one of those things we can’t pull off. Maybe because it’s attached! Zing. Seriously though, trim but don’t shave it all of. It just isn’t right.