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Are You Making These Mistakes During Sex?

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Sex doesn’t come naturally to everyone, but when you make mistakes you can really screw things up. Are you making these common sex mistakes?

Most articles on sex tips tell you what to do. But how often do you read one that tells you what NOT to do? There are many mistakes that men make in bed that turn off women quicker than the latter could say “not tonight”. Well, read on and see if you are guilty of committing any of these lovemaking “boo-boos.”

1. Lack Of Confidence During Sex

Confidence is a great asset that any guy could have. When it comes to sex, confidence is what gets a man going and giving his female partner an unforgettable night. A woman loves a man who is sure of his ability to charm her in bed. So once you have set your mind on a night of great lovemaking, don’t waver in your attempts and give up too soon. Sometimes, women give out mixed signals of not wanting sex when they actually yearn for it. Show her you know what you are doing. Create a romantic ambiance, sip on some wine and add a touch of sizzle through music. Once you get her in the mood, follow through with some sensual foreplay and amp up her temperatures for the night!

2. Making Out The Same Way All The Time

Do you use the same sex position each time you have sex? What about making love in the same place at and the same time, every time? Falling into a routine is probably one of the easiest ways to take the fizzle of out any sex life. Why not put the passion back into lovemaking by trying out new things, new positions, new places to make out? Even something as simple as making out on the floor instead of the bed can make a whole lot of difference in your sex life!

3. “Tuning Out” During Sex

Ever had sex when your mind is not really into it? Many men are guilty of this too! The worse thing you could do is to start making love and then stare into space! Here’s the thing: If you are too stressed to make love, or if you are simply too distracted by something at work to give her a great time in the sack, there is always another time.

So the next time you plan to give your lover a great time in bed, it would be wise to look back and reflect on whether you have been making any of these lovemaking mistakes.

Get Ready For Hot Sex TONIGHT!

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Sex involves some preparation first if you want it to be really good. Here’s how you can get ready for hotter sex tonight!

Cleanliness Is Next To Sexiness

A big turnoff for a woman is a guy with bad hygiene. You need not just be neat and tidy to keep her interested, but also to prevent infection from bacteria and foreign materials, as you are going to be putting fingers in some of her most sensitive places.

Shower and shave or wash your facial hair thoroughly. Brush your teeth, put on some clean clothes, use deodorant. Trim your fingernails the day before, so you have a chance to wear down any sharp edges. Clean under your nails and, most importantly, wash your hands! Use soap and water, and if you have rough spots or calluses, use a pumice stone to soften these areas. Dab on just the slightest hint of a cologne you know she loves, or an aphrodisiac scent like sandalwood or vanilla, and then get ready to set the mood.

Figure Out Your Sex Routine

You don’t want to walk into the bedroom, spread her legs and lay out a set list of all the moves you want to try on her tonight. Not only will she think you’ve gone nuts, but you’ll be too distracted trying to figure out what comes next to focus on what’s happening right now. Take your time to practice a couple of the simpler moves from each chapter, some labia and clitoral stimulation, and some penetration.

Plan to spend at least an hour, from foreplay to finish, especially if you are exploring the possibilities of G-Spot orgasm. Don’t cut corners, and do remember to take your time on every step, from desire, to arousal, to orgasm and back again. Be calm and confident, and if you stumble on something she doesn’t like, just move on to the next thing you had in mind. If you run out of ideas, ask her to show you or, better yet, improvise!

Create A Sex Playlist

One of the best ways to create a setting for love is through the use of music. Rhythm is super important to the female orgasm, so pop in some tunes before the big event. Try to mix it up, with slow and sensual, get-down groovy and fast-paced frenetic in a cyclical manner. This will allow you to work up to arousal and orgasm slowly, reach a climax (hopefully in more ways than one!) and start all over again at the buildup.

Set The Scene

While music is a great start to setting the scene, think about how your wife described her “ideal erotic experience” and see what you can do to turn your bedroom – or living room, or kitchen, or back yard – into the place in her dreams. What was it about this dream world that you can recreate here and now?

Try appealing to all her senses: soft lighting like candles or a crackling fire, something to drink like hot cocoa or wine, a light snack to nourish your bodies and make refueling sexy, like cherries and grapes, and soft comfortable surfaces like lambskin or soft sheets and warm blankets. If you don’t have a fireplace or a campfire roaring nearby for lighting, try adding a space heater or cranking up the furnace a bit for the experience. Your naked skin and hers will be grateful during this time of exploration.

Get Her Consent For New Activities

Informed consent is required if you’re going to try something new, and you’re not sure whether she would like it or not. Just being married does not give you the right to do whatever you want to your wife. There are some things that you just have to talk about before you do them, like anal sex. You can’t just put it in there and expect her to be cool with it. If you haven’t discussed anal play, you don’t have consent. If you don’t tell her that you want to make her squirt, she might feel like she doesn’t have your consent to ejaculate, especially if she is self-conscious about making a mess, (or worried about having to clean it up all by herself) so bring it up at your earlier discussions.

If you have an inspired idea in the heat of the moment, you don’t have to put it off for later, but you do need to approach her to make a decision about how far she is willing to go with you. If your finger slides a little too far south and she jumps, don’t just pretend that nothing has happened. Apologize for startling her and tell her you thought she might enjoy something new. If she isn’t interested, you will just as happily move on to something else. No pressure.

9 Mistakes That Will Make Her Never Want To Have Sex With You Again

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Sex isn’t as cut and dry as you might think it is. Make any one of these nine sex mistakes and you can guarantee she won’t want to do it again – EVER.

You just had sex with her. Congratulations! You got laid! But will you get laid by her again? The answer is, it depends. On what? How well you rocked her world and how many sexual mistakes you made. What kind of mistakes?

What She Said About Bad Sex:

It’s really not fair what women put men through. I will admit we are a lot of work, and a lot of foreplay but when you get us, you got us and we can make you feel like King of the World. When you don’t get us, we will easily pack up our little self and walk out the door because we are women and there are other men. Some mistakes men make that lead women to never want to have sex with them again are:

  1. Jack hammer her from beginning to quickly reached end. Unless she says to you verbally, “Give it to me like you are 17 and don’t know what you are doing.” Don’t go at her all rabbit style. The huffing and pounding is not good for anyone. It will be hard for her to get into it and will most likely lead you to coming way too quickly.
  2. Skip foreplay. Why, why would you do this? If you want her to think you are the man then you need to warm her up! Take the time and kiss her, feel her, lick her all these things are good things and hell while you are at it, go down on her! She’s more likely to return the favor.
  3. Orgasm too soon. I know sometimes men can’t help themselves and lets face it, us women are pretty damn hot, so it makes sense that they sometimes lose control but guys should last longer then one Bruno Mars song. This is when foreplay comes back into, well play. If you think you are going to blow your load, why not slow down and focus on her. Or switch up sex positions. If none of that helps then think about baseball or your aunt whatever.
  4. Orgasm too late. By this I mean the rare (but they exist) guys that can go on and on for hours without the help of drugs. Don’t get me wrong we are super impressed that you can have hours of sex but after a while (and after we have come a few times) things start to chafe and sometimes we would rather have a sandwich.
  5. Don’t shower. A smelly guy is never ever a turn one and we will not be putting our mouths on anything that smells like sweat, dirt or a port a potty. Irish Spring yourself!
  6. Remind us of our fathers. Enough said.

What He Said About Bad Sex:

Women should give it up more, just for the sheer about of crap we have to go through just to get you naked. I mean seriously. All’s fair in love and war, my ass! Anyways, here are some other mistakes you should avoid making:

  1. Not cuddling. Even if you’re just hooking up with her, women like to feel a certain level of intimacy after sex, even more so if you’re in a relationship. Pumping and dumping will make her never want to screw you again. I know there are reasons you might have your orgasm and then not cuddle. Maybe you have a leg cramp and need to walk it off. Maybe you just have to pee. Hold it. Or you won’t get to hold on to her again.
  2. Not calling the next day. You should always leave a woman better than you found her. Part of that is what I call “the art of the dismount.” That simply means how you end the relationship or the interaction is as important or more important than what you did during the interaction. Always text or call the next day, even if you never want to see them again or if you just didn’t have a good time. You never want to leave her feeling cheap, easy or used, even if she spent her sexual encounter with you bound, gagged and begging to be treated like a whore. (That’s only fun in the moment.)
  3. No oral sex. There’s no excuse for not going down. IF you need tips, and tricks, just tell her. Most women are ecstatic to meet a guy who wants to get better at going down. But not giving her oral sex is a huge way to guarantee that you’ll never get to go down on her again.

5 Sex Tips From Couples Who Do It All The Time

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Sex doesn’t have to get boring when you’re in a relationship. Here’s how couples who do it all the time keep sex fresh AND hot!

Having sex a lot during a long-term relationship can be a sign that you’re doing something right. However if the sex has suddenly stopped working as been on the decline for a little while it’s hard not to wonder what happened. Couples around the country judge their relationship based on how many times they have sex in a week.

While a lot of sex could be sign of a healthy relationship, there could still be problems. Having a relationship that is solely based on sex is never healthy. If you would like to have a healthy relationship with your wife or husband, as well as have more sex, there are a few key ingredients to making this work. Here are five tips from couples who do it all the time.

1. Open Communication About Sex

One of the hardest things to deal with as a partner who will not express what is making them angry, sad or discontent with the relationship. If you’re wondering why the sex in your relationship has suddenly stopped one of the easiest ways to find out is to simply ask if your partner is feeling reservations about what the two of you have together.

Open communication is extremely important so that nothing is bottled up. Keeping things from your partner is never a good idea and will only prolong the unhappiness that you are feeling. Talk to your partner and get the lines of communication open before you start to have major problems. That way when problems do start to occur you will feel comfortable talking about them openly and honestly.

2. Be Honest

There are a lot of instances were partners will lie to each other in order to detect their feelings. While this is harmless for if your wife or husband asks you whether or not you like something that the wearing, this can evolve into a big problem when they start asking about things that affect the relationship.

No matter how bad or good things are, you should always be honest about a situation. If you don’t like the way that something is, be honest about it with your partner and yourself. You’re never going to have a great relationship or a great sex life until you are honest with yourself and your partner. It doesn’t matter if the sex is great, good or horrible, you cannot improve anything until you address the fact that there is a problem.

3. Admit Your Mistakes

There are too many instances of partners who are too proud to admit that they made a mistake. Have the guts to admit when you have screwed up and you will see that your partner not appreciates this, but will also forgive you much more easily. Having pride can ruin a relationship from the very start. Most couples only need to meet each other halfway to see an amicable end to a problem.

Keep this in mind when you are judging whether or not you are having enough sex the relationship. Your partner might resent something that you did. If you simply apologize for it, you will start to see a vast improvement in communication, trust and other issues that affecting the sex life in your relationship.

4. Quality Time

Quality time is a big one. Whether you are doing something that the both of you love, something that your partner loves or something that you love, having quality time together is essential to building the relationship even more. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together for two months or 20 years, no relationship can survive without quality time together.

Remember that quality time should be spent between the two of you equally. No partner should be getting more quality time doing what they love than the other partner. Doing something that you both love is great, however, compromise must be used when something comes up that one partner does not particularly like. Spending quality time together will bring you closer and create more intimacy, thus leading to a better sex life.

5. Reject Mainstream Expectations

It is very easy to get caught up in the hype that the entertainment industry has laid out over the last couple years. You turn on the television and see that your favorite TV character is having sex with their wife or girlfriend constantly. In order to have a healthy relationship you need to recognize that this is simply entertainment and that real couples do not have sex 3 to 4 times a day.

Talk with your partner so that you know how many times a week they would like to have sex versus how many times a week you would like to have sex. Make sure that you are not getting swept up in the media’s interpretation of a healthy sex life.

What To Talk About After Sex

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Sex is a wonderful thing, but afterwards can be a little awkward if you don’t know what to talk about. Here are some tips for after sex discussions.

Ok, semen’s out. Now what?

The world doesn’t end when you orgasm, there is a continuing, social, person-to-person interaction after intercourse. That intimacy bubble doesn’t burst when you ejaculate. This may not be evident in one-shot deals where you’ll probably never see each other again, but it becomes very obvious in long-term relationships.

What Is After Sex Talk?

Afterplay talk is very similar to boy-girl date conversation, the only difference is that you don’t talk crap just to get into her pants because you’ve been there and done her. It’s one of pure communication as the only motive is to bond with your partner – and have fun while at it. The ability to converse and temporarily forego sleep separates great lovers from men who roll over and go to sleep after barely slipping the condom off their shiny penises.

Being awake post-coitus is one of the marks of a guy who gets laid regularly, who doesn’t resort to typical begging. He knows that afterplay is the most important bridge to the next sack session. For one cannot keep ignoring a woman’s need for post-ejaculation companionship.

If you constantly make her feel she’s just good for the sex, over time, she’ll wise up and realize she has something you want – and if you don’t treat her any better, you’ll experience a shortage of it – a sort of what goes around comes around situation.

Do You Have To Talk After Sex?

Sure, there is no law compelling you to engage in afterplay conversations, you can always doze the night/afternoon away. But sooner or later, you’ll wake up, and soon, you’ll have boners and you’ll have the hots for her again. What I’m saying is that in terms of relationships, this is an investment worth your effort. I will not explain why this is, I hope you are insightful enough to realize that this matters to women and not to miss the fact that you have as much to gain.

What NOT To Discuss

Except for a few landmines, you can talk about virtually anything under the sun. Talk about your most intimate secrets for all I care, although simpler topics are better. Talk about the ingredients of your version of the World’s Perfect Sandwich. Anything!

Don’t turn it into a serious, drawn-out discussion, do it in the spirit of fun. Be unthreatening, playful, and don’t make a big deal out of it.

But no guy talk. Guys can yak away about their passions not knowing they’re slowly lullabying the woman to sleep. Conversations involving engines, radiators and hydraulics should be saved for your car mechanic on poker nights. Same thing goes for guns, the playoffs and RPGs. All she’ll really hear is “Blah blah, bablahblablah.” Imagine her talking about lip gloss, concealers and asking for your personal philosophy on make-up. How can you engage? You can listen to death, but all you’ll really hear is “Blah blah blah, bablah,blabla… and that’s why I need your credit card this Sunday.”

Veer off negative topics like death, accidents, failures and disappointments. Stay away from stuff that caused friction in the past (eg. bills, ex’s, in-laws, nagging). They’re anti-climactic. Why would you stop a great aura with a lousy remark about how you absolutely abhor her friends?

Spiral up, don’t start digging holes.

What You SHOULD Talk About

Talk to her vanity instead. Talk her up. Comment on her sexual prowess, make her feel so good about herself she’ll want to do you again and again. (This is one way of starting a sexual addiction.)

In addition to talking about simple, fun stuff, the couple can also discuss the SEX and further refine the experience. Unless you engage your lady in open, honest sexual conversation, she’ll try giving you an orgasm with the often frustrating trial and error method. Simply telling her what you want saves time and a whole lot of errors. She may not instantly become an expert, but she’ll get on with the program and improve steadily.

During the heat of passion, one doesn’t have the luxury to plug in a projector, use a laser pointer, and graphically illustrate the moves. So one simply howls, ‘to the left’ or ‘more! After sex, you actually have the luxury of gathering your thoughts, choosing your words and belting out a speech. It’s an opportunity to communicate clearly and precisely.

SO, TELL HER WHAT YOU WANT! (She’d appreciate it.)

Not being able to specifically pin down your desires is an entirely different thing. Honestly, have you ever spared a second to think about the kind of sex that you want? If not, then no wonder you can’t communicate them to a woman, and no wonder you’re not getting it from her!

Still, many don’t sound-off because of fear. It’s that timeless fear of rejection, the embarrassment of being said “NO” to, the sting of being laughed at and told, “You want that?! You sicko!” Add to that the anxiety of telling your woman that she actually sucks at a technique she prides herself in, like a blowjob.

These fears will always exist. And there’s eerie comfort in knowing that many guys experience them.

The most effective way of dealing with such is not by explaining them away or denying their existence, it’s by learning exactly what to do.