Sex Tips & Advice

How To Thrust The Right Way

Sex tips can help you sharpen your game so you’re always getting better at sex. Check out how to penetrate correctly and give your girl incredible orgasms!

There many variations to penetration, thing, but all strokes hang on 3 basic elements of style.

Speed
Angle
Depth

1. Your Speed

Speed, which is very much related to power, is prime consideration for the male orgasm. Going at it hard and fast is the standard masturbating procedure – probably the only pace most men have been working with all their lives. It has been proven to work and many will find it awfully hard to operate any other way.

But since we are not unwitting agents to this whole thing, we can choose to dial the speed up or down. Speed doesn’t control you, you control it.

There are reasons, as you already know, why it’s good to give that “fast” button a rest once in a while. Again, if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll burn out too early or finish with a prematurely blown load. How can you hold off ejaculating when you’re stroking her like there’s no tomorrow?! Be realistic.

Instead, add variety to your style by patterning into different thrusting speeds.

For example, you can do 5 quick strokes followed a slow & deep one. Or 3 slow ones followed by 5 quick dips. Have fun and play around with a variety of speeds, mix it up. Slow it down and speed it up. Create an amusing rhythm or thump to the beat of your booty-music.

2. Your Angle

Stroking isn’t a straight in & out affair, another way of adding sexual variation is through the angle of your penetration. There may be just one point of entry, but there can be different angles of thrust.

Those different sex positions are ultimately about different angles. You’ll find for example, that Doggie is good for the G-spot because it allows you leg support and aim to thrust at the zone where it resides. Missionary Position, on the other hand, has difficulty fully engaging the spot, because in this configuration, the penis is usually angled down. The Woman-on-Top can be a good G-spot position as long as a woman angles her pelvis so you can stroke into it. Different angles of attack result in various sensations for the lusty pair.

When you stroke, you employ the combined efforts of your arms, hips, pelvis, knees and legs. Having physical endorsement as much as this allows you stuff other than simply dart in and out. Your hips and pelvis can do more than straight-up thrusting, and you might not be a great dancer, but you can definitely move those hips around. I’m sure that when you boogie on that dance floor, you also roll them to the sides and in circles.

So WORK IT! The bed is certainly not the place to go shy and timid. Grind into those hip and pelvic maneuvers as you stroke in – go left, right and round & round. And when you’re in deep – wiggle & grind some more, brushing your pubic bone against her clitoris. Try SCOOPING thrusts by pointing your pelvis up as you dive deeper into her. It’s playful, fun and a happy detour from the all too serious jackhammer classic.

3. Your Depth

This refers to how deep into her your equipment goes. Profound, isn’t it?

Women love “full and deep” – but it’s not the only thing they adore – they also love to be made wanting. You don’t need to fire everything all the time and be balls deep with every thump. Going in at various depths automatically creates variety.

You may start by thrusting just the head of your penis – then pull out. Kiss her. Caress or sweep the vulval area. Thrust the head, and pull out again. Do this several times. Go back in, and go deeper each time. Continue to progress until you’re all in. After which, you can really start pounding.

Get the idea? You don’t need to perform full strokes all the time.

Now, a shout out for those endowed with humongous equipment (say, anything 8” and longer). You’ll be lucky to find a woman who can take the fullness of you, your thing may simply not fit her. Don’t get me wrong, large penises rock, but paired with a petite and timid vagina, it’ll just be a waste of meat. She can’t take all of it in with pleasure. It’ll be like running an extra-large catheter up your thing.

So for guys who pack a horse of a penis: Make sure the lady is really aroused before you penetrate. Otherwise, you’ll just really wreck her cervix.

Remember the cervix? It’s the last point where penises go, a dead end of some sort. When a woman is highly aroused, her cervix will rise, giving your schlong more thrusting space. But when you start pounding before the arousal mechanisms kick in, there’s a good chance you’ll bump into her cervix.

It’ll hurt…a lot.

So give her arousal allowance so you’ll have more elbow room to play with. You feel me? OK. After these penetration details, we’ll look at the bigger picture and talk body arrangements. No erotic discourse will ever be adequate without venturing into the wonderful world of Sexual Positions. (Notice that sexual poses are considered primarily for their thrusting potential?) You’ll soon learn that there’s more to these anatomical configurations than meets the eye.

4 Ways To Make Tonight SIZZLE

By loveandsex

Sex tips can help you liven up your sex life and make it hotter than ever! Check out these four sex tips that will turn the heat up on your love life.

Tonight is the night! Well, maybe not, but you and your partner want to make tonight a hot, sweaty, erotic good time! How do you fan the flames of passion and make tonight really, truly hot? You’ll be surprised to learn it takes a lot less than you think.

1. Make Plans For Sex

If you’ve been together for any decent amount of time, you know the “relationships take work” saying. It’s like being young. When you’re a teenager, you can eat whatever you want, barely exercise and you’ll still be in good shape, limber and virile. In your fifties, if you so much as look at a donut, it will make your ass expand like the national debt.

Same is true for relationships. When you first start dating, she’s always ready to go and he’s harder than Chinese arithmetic. The sex flows like wine. Every little thing she does is magic, every move he makes make her feel like he’s a god.

Then reality sets in. You move in, you get jobs, a mortgage, kids, and then you only see your partner at dinner or communicate via the occasional text message. She becomes the one who doesn’t appreciate him, to her he’s just the schmuck who pays the bills.

Maybe it doesn’t get to that extreme, but you see the point. It’s different, the longer you are with someone. The relationship will need more TLC as time goes by. Give it that TLC.

That starts with planning. If you want to make tonight super sexy, you need to set up a plan of attack to make that happen. Single people who just started dating can leave things to chance. People who are married (with or without kids) or people in long term relationships can not.

2. Go On Dates

I know there are tons of studies that say married people have more sex than single people. This is a crock. Married people may have it more regularly, but single people more of it, and it’s usually way hotter. Why? Because they’re dating. People who are dating usually date because they want to get laid. It’s that simple. People who date and get laid usually stop getting laid when they get married. Why? Because they aren’t dating. I’m not saying don’t get married, I’m saying don’t stop dating. If you do tonight won’t be hot or tomorrow.

3. Have Naked Sunday (Or Any Other Day)

Nothing says “make tonight amazing” like easy access. Nothing says easy access like “naked Sunday.” It’s pretty simple. You and your significant other stay home, and stay naked the whole time, whether or not you’re doing anything sexual.

It’s funny how just being naked makes the most innocuous, non-sexual activity go from mundane to fun and flirty to hot and sweaty naughty couple time. You obviously can’t have sex the whole day, Viagra or not, but it will make you and your partner flirt more, touch each other more, snuggle and cuddle more. It’s really good for helping you and your partner embrace your bodies, but the really benefit is the sizzle factor.

So how do you use “naked Sunday” to make tonight incredible? Instead of making it just a date night, make it a ‘naked date night.’ Order takeout, or make dinner at home (an apron is required for cooking. Yes, it’s not ‘naked date night’ 100% but it does prevent burns in highly sensitive places) and rent a movie, or Netflix it. Sit their on the couch, cuddle, play words with friends, or whatever else you two do. But do it naked. That’s hot. You know what’s even hotter? Having other couples over for naked date night. That’s another column.

4. Give A 60 Second Kiss

Start your night with a 60 second kiss. It’s only a minute, which seems like a short, maybe insignificant amount of time. Until you try making out for that amount of time. Trust me. It’s longer than you think, and that’s a good thing. You’ll be making out like teenagers, and that always leads somewhere, and that place is usually deliciously naughty and well worth it.

I recommend starting your night off with the sixty second kiss, especially if you have an evening’s worth of events planned. Why? Because it’s going to be so hot to make out for sixty seconds, and then you can stoke the flames of passion all night long, letting it build over the course of the evening. The anticipation will act like gasoline on the fire and if you feed it just right, that fire will last all night long and well into the morning, and beyond.

I’m all about the sixty second kiss, and I recommend it be done on a daily basis. Doing so keeps the passion going, and builds a reserve tank full of passion and heat, which will not only make tonight size, but many nights in your forseeable future.

2 Phenomenal Ways To Have EXPLOSIVE Sex!

By lloydlester

Sex can be boring or it can be incredible – and most people prefer the latter. Here are two simple suggestions to make sex absolutely UNFORGETTABLE!

Let’s face it. For most men, sex is something that can give him pleasure, anytime, anywhere. Men are just turned on visually and can head into intercourse right away. For women, it is a different proposition altogether. If you want to spice up your sex life and satisfy her, you need to fulfill her emotional needs first. It can be a challenge, but not exactly a tall order. You just need to do things a little differently to tease out the wild side in her. Keen to learn more? Great! Keep reading for 2 tips to take your sex life up a sexy notch!

1. Titillate Her Sensory Awareness

Women have this inherent ability to amp up their alternate sensory awareness when one of their senses is inhibited. For instance, when you blindfold her, her sense of touch, smell and hearing will suddenly become amplified. You can use this to your advantage and create a sensual build-up or anticipation during sex. She will try hard to hazard a guess what you are going to do next, or which part of her body you are going to venture upon. Her sense of touch will become doubly sensitive when she cannot see, so pay your attention to those sensuous spots where she normally loves to be touched. These will send her temperatures racing very quickly.

2. Ask And You Shall Be Given!

When it comes to sex, there are simply a thousand and one things you can try, but most men simply stick with doing what they THINK their women will like. Chances are, there is a lot more things she likes you to do to her that you are not even aware of. While most women are passive during sex and accepts whatever their partners serve up in bed, if you do make the effort to ASK her, you would be surprised by the things you will LEARN about her! When she knows that you care about what she truly wants and seek to deliver these, you would have fulfilled her key emotional needs.

This is what you can do: ask her to write down 3 things she would like you to do to her during sex. It can be the type of foreplay she wants; the position she prefers or the role play she fantasizes about. Then go down the list and grant her wishes. The freshness and excitement of what you are going to give her will make sex truly out-of-this-world for her, as it will for you!

The key to having great sex is to make time to learn new things to do with each other in bed. She will be erotically and emotionally fulfilled, and you will be amply rewarded with wondrous sex you never had imagined!

How To Get It On When You Have Kids

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips often cover the “how to” but not necessarily the “how.” If you have little ones, having sex can be a challenge. Check out these ways to get busy!

Baby makes three(or more), but does it make for a happy sex life? Generally, couples have more difficulty maintaining a healthy sex life when they start hearing the pitter patter of little feet. But does having kids really have to mean the end of intercourse, or sex in general as you know it? No, no it doesn’t. But how do you keep the passion going? It’s easy when you know how.

What She Said:

I have no children (at least none that I know of) but I come from a family of 5 kids and I’ve been around enough couples with kids to know that it can be hard to find alone time. With kids around, you almost have to resort back to the ties you started dating and back to quickies. You might not have the time or energy for a whole night but you can always find 10 minutes for a quickie. Have sex in the shower! Or set the alarm a few minutes early you can have some mommy and daddy time.

When kids go down for a nap, you two should also head to bed but for other reasons. Get a lock on your door too, if kids ask, don’t lie but let them know you are just having some of your own nap time. True it might be awhile until you have hours of sex but having a quickie a few night a week is all you really need to keep the spark going and it should not interrupt kid time.

What He Said:

The most important thing is to simply accept the reality of the situation: your sex life has changed. For the next 20 years or so, you have a child and that child requires constant attention. Having a child will change your sex life forever, that is a fact. Whether or not that is a change for the better or worse is up to you and your partner. If your sex life goes in the toilet, don’t go blaming it on your kid. It’s not their fault.

Sex will be different. The biggest thing that is affected by kids is the spontaneity. You will never have that again. Yes, you should have date nights and staycations where you go to the hotel and screw like single people, but your sex life from now on will have to be scheduled. Budget it into your day planner, and don’t worry about whether or not you want to do it or not. Being in the mood is hard when you have kids, and if you wait till you are in the mood to do it, you might never have intercourse again.

The main way to get it on when you have kids is just to plain have sex. Period. Doesn’t matter how long it lasts or if it’s good or not. My philosophy is that sex is like pizza. There’s no such thing as bad pizza. There’s okay pizza, good pizza, great pizza, mind blowing pizza. But it’s never bad. It’s only bad when you don’t have it.

A funny thing will happen to you when you and your partner start screwing regularly after having kids: you’ll remember how much you love doing it. You’ll be happier, more relaxed, and the intercourse will begin to flow freely like beer at a frat party. Then, suddenly, before you know it, you’ll be in the mood again, and the sex will be awesome, if not in quality, certainly in quantity.

Again, the consistency factor is the main way to get it on when you have kids, but ownership is just as important. You’ll need to take ownership of your sex life like never before, and you’ll have to get it in all of your heads (get it?) that your sex life is going to be the best it’s ever been and nothing else will be entertained in the slightest. This may require a various array of tools in your sex kit: swinging, sex toys, vibrators, strap ons, tantra, sensual massage, porn, weekend getaways, whatever it takes. You two are a team and you should be committed to the goal of great sex, and not really care how it gets there.

Remember, above all else, that it is possible to have a healthy, regular, erotic and sensual sex life even after multiple children. It will take a bit of work, but it is totally doable (see what I did there?) And it’s a worthwhile goal. And yes, it takes practice, but isn’t that the fun of it?

How To Get Her To Make A Sex Tape For You

By serenapaige

Homemade porn made just for you is a wonderful thing to have. But just how to you get your lover to do a sex tape? After you use these tips, she’ll WANT to!

Making a sex tape with your girlfriend can be fun and exciting. However, if your girlfriend or wife is not exactly keen on the idea of being on camera, there are a few things that you can do to convince her. Making sex tape is not like it used to be. Nowadays with the Internet, everybody is extremely weary of where the tape might end up.

The camera on your cell phone has the ability to capture your sex life with the utmost detail. Making a sex tape literally takes the push of a button. If your girlfriend or wife has told you no in the past, you might be able to butter her up with these easy methods.

Build Trust

The number one reason the girl would not want to make a sex tape is the fact that they don’t know whether or not he could hurt them in the end. There are a lot of websites that pay great money for amateur porn. If your girlfriend has told you know in the past it might be because she does not have enough trust in the relationship.

Telling your girlfriend that you would never sell a sex tape to a website or upload it to a free porno site is probably not enough to sway her interest in your sexual fantasy. Her girlfriend doesn’t trust you there’s no way that she’s ever going to make a sex tape with you. Build trust in the relationship so that she knows you would never do anything to hurt her, including releasing a sex tape to the public.

Alleviate Body Issues

Another reason that some girls will not make a sex tape with their significant others is the fact that they have body image issues. Girls are just like guys, they have insecurities when it comes to physicality. If your girlfriend or wife does not have enough confidence in herself or in the way that she looks she will be strongly weary of making a sex tape with you.

Even if she knows that the sex tape would only be viewed by you and her she could be afraid of how she looks onscreen. Reassure her that she is beautiful and that you think making one could be a fun and kinky way of spicing up your sex life.

Ease Her Into It

Making a sex tape is a lot like having sex for the first time. The last thing you want to do is jump right into it. Ease her into it by starting off slow. Start off with a tape of you performing oral sex on her or her performing oral sex on you. Watch the tape together and then delete it together.

Once your girlfriend or wife sees the way that she looks on camera she will probably be much more open to making a full-fledged sex tape with you. She will also be reaffirmed by having the video deleted. Once a girl sees that the video she just made can be deleted forever she will probably be much more open to making a real sex tape.

Get The Lighting Right

The lighting for your sex tape should always be in the favor of the girl. If there is bad lighting in the room imperfections of your girlfriend or wife can easily stand out. Not everybody has perfect skin so it is a very common issue for people to get nervous on camera. Make sure that the lighting in the room isn’t going to show off her bad qualities.

With high definition video imperfections can easily be seen, bringing in and to your sex tape before it even begins.

Film Without The Face

As the cameraman on this shoot, you can easily convince your girlfriend or wife to make a sex tape by leaving her face out of it. The face is the most identifiable part of the human body. If your wife or girlfriend has refused to make porn in the past it’s probably because they don’t want it wanting up on the Internet so that friends and family can see.

If you assure her that you’re going to leave out the face, meaning both your face and her face, there will be no identifying parts to lead back to her or you. Girls are just as worried about somebody seeing you in the sex tape as they are of seeing themselves. Once you have completed the tape without filming her face, watch it together. She may even be game for keeping it since it would not lead back to her or you.