Sex Tips & Advice

How To Be A Lover That Can Learn From Your Woman

Sex tips drive an endless pursuit of finding out what works and what doesn’t. There will always be lessons for you, sexual learning never ends. Nothing can highlight this better than what happened during first time sex.

Your First Time

When you were still a languishing virgin, curiosity took over your hormones. The desire to make a man out of yourself was evident every waking minute. You’ve heard that sex felt great – and even though you lacked a legitimate point of comparison, you knew it was going to be better than anything. If porn can feel that good, how much more if it were real breasts in front of you. The bulge in your pants seems to agree.

You need to learn how to do it right. The drive may be natural, but the quality is not. You need some experience under your belt. You need to be closely acquainted with your tools, learn about your girl’s body and how it works, and discover her preferences.

Sex Is Partner Specific

The manner and style will differ from woman to woman. This goes beyond body type, bust or booty size. It’s as unique as the two individuals engaged in it. And if you think all sex is the same, you’re unnecessarily lumping incomparable experiences – seeing the big picture and missing a woman’s idiosyncrasies.

It’s a woman’s sexual personality, the mixture of her naughtiness and innocence that makes her incomparable. It’s the way she shocks you with the things she calls, “Normal”. It’s the exquisite way she does you and the way she reacts to your moves. It’s the level of spanking she can take, or the depth her mouth can take your penis.

It’s in the manner she holds your tool when she gives you head and the smile on her face when you kiss. It’s in the exceptional tightness of her embrace and the way she rubs on your face every time you eat her.

Of course, there will be similarities. You’d go crazy if every time you do it, it’s all new and strange. But the similarities don’t really disturb us, do they? It’s the anomalies, the differences between women that keep us on our toes. These differences lie on the details. The devil is in the details.

Make Adjustments and Refinements

That’s why when it’s your first time with a certain woman, it feels like you’re a virgin all over again. The excitement may be familiar, but her body and sexual personality are not. You’re commencing a journey of discovery. Initial difficulties are okay, and adjustments & refinements have to be made.

That’s what happens when two people learn to adopt and adapt to each other. It’s okay if you don’t rock her world the first time. It’s not a rejection of you, it’s merely an indication that you need to learn something. Tell her that you want to master her and she’ll gladly assist you.

Do Not Slide Back

Men have a strong tendency to forget what was taught and return to their old ways. Be forewarned. When she teaches you something, burn it in your head. Schooling you once is already hard enough, doing it thrice is really just nagging. Keep learning, and keep the learning. Something wonderful happens over time, you start having better sex.

You get better. You’ll be the authority on what turns her on, the virtuoso on what gets her off. You’ll make her body squirm with delight. You’ll have her preferences down pat. Life will be good!

And when that time comes, don’t be so stuck up. When you think you’ve mastered your woman like your favorite RPG game, remember that there’s always something to learn. Even if she’s shouting your praises on a 3-block radius – there’s always room for more wonderful things. Always.

Are YOU A Good Lover? Find Out NOW!

By davem

Better sex is completely reliant on you. Making the same mistakes that so many other men make is not going to help you. Learning how to separate yourself from the rest will give you the confidence you need when pleasing a woman. Here are some ways that you can immediately improve yourself in bed.

Don’t Put Too Much Focus On Intercourse

Being a great lover you is about being able to please a woman. It’s all about her orgasm first. You must be able to bring her to climax before you. Then she’s going to want to bring you to climax and the sex is going to be that much better.

Too many men focus on the intercourse. They’re all about being good in the intercourse part, you know, good in the dynamic part of sex. A lot of men spend too much time researching sexual positions: how to flip a woman over and how to do it from behind and what the best missionary positions are.

And that’s all great. Understanding all the different positions and different moves and how to stimulate the g-spot are all fantastic. These are all things that you need to know to be a dynamic lover.

It’s All About Mindset

If you haven’t figured out by now, life is 100% mindset. When a man meets a woman for the very first time and there’s sexual energy between the two of them, it’s not just about what you’re going to do with them physically, it’s all about the foreplay ahead of time that really drives a woman wild and actually drives the man wild too.

When you’ve got a lot of mental foreplay with somebody, it opens up a whole new world of sexuality. A lot of men and women don’t understand the art of talking dirty, or how important it is to really bring somebody to orgasm. But more important, a lot of men don’t realize the emotional connection that women need to have. Because men tend to think with their little head, and women, well, they have a little head too, but their little head is so small they don’t really think with it.

Use Her Emotion

In order to massage a woman, in order to get her to really open up sexually to you, you need to be able to understand the way that she is wired emotionally. I’ve said so many times that women are like giant a giant clitoris. If you go in for the kill right away, they’re basically going to be shut down.

You’ve got to learn how to open them up. You got to learn how to really become a dynamic lover, because that is what they’re looking for. It’s like licking an ice cream cone. Spend the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core for then seduction and teasing her. Learn how to control your mindset, learn how to influence hers, and you’re already on your way to becoming the best lover possible.

Can You Go The Distance? Last Longer TONIGHT!

By loveandsex

Sex tips can help with everything from technique to gauging her reaction on different touches. But none of this matters if you can’t go the distance. Notice how women hurl and laugh the hardest at premature ejaculation gags? You’ll be laughing with familiarity too if you deal with it on a nightly basis.

There’s a female comical recognition when a punch line tags the guy who explodes a mere 13 thrusts into the game. But for our purposes here, we’ll look at “Going the Distance” (GTD) beyond the superficial issue of premature ejaculation.

Get Fit NOW!

It’s not a far out question, is it? In case you didn’t know, sex is very physical. Intercourse is intense. It’s ugly. It’s fierce. Your pupils dilate, your heart pounds so hard and threatens explosion, breathing gets heavier and labored by the minute, body temperature rises to fever pitch and you sweat like you’re on fire. Muscles tense so hard they feel like concrete, your brain lights up like a thousand Christmas trees, and you thrash around, contending with another human being who’s exhibiting the same symptoms.

People die during sex, you know – and it’s not just the battle-tested elderly. Learning how to last longer in bed requires a consenting body. If you can’t even support your own weight, how far do you think will you go? How long will you last if after a few maneuvers, you’re already panting and teetering on an asthma attack?

If you want to go somewhere, you better be fit to go. Settling for less, because your body won’t allow the naughty things in your head, is indeed a sexual tragedy. Especially when you know you deserve to enjoy so much more.

Use Intense Workouts For More Stamina

So shape up! Run like hell. Bike. Get to a gym. Consult your doctor first if the need be. Get fit, eat right! You’re flooded everyday with health information and you actually already know what to do. You just have to get into doing them. (Don’t even try to make your age, schedule or lifestyle be an excuse.)

Good health gives you more sexual options. You don’t know the number of grossly obese people who settle for sex positions just because it’s the only one left that doesn’t pose serious health risks. You don’t know the number of men who fear that a heart attack might be around the corner every time they get their grooves on – living with the constant fear their corpses would be found at a nearby motel and blasted on the evening news. Being healthy simply makes sense, because if you’re dead, you can’t do it no more! No, the dead don’t score!

Visualize Sex Beforehand

Sex is not only very physical, it’s also very mental. How you VISUALIZE better sex will often find itself manifested in the real thing. How you think about it will ultimately be reflected in your style.

Check your imagination; you need a mind that sees beyond the obvious, a mind that can think in ways novel and exciting. GTD means constantly creating, improving and breaking routines. It’s being able to think about sex beyond the bed, the bedroom, penis & vagina and ejaculation. Mentally going the distance means applying your creative energies and discovering that sex is so much more than what you originally thought it to be.

When you see a made bed or a kitchen table, what do you really see? How open and ready are you to engage in the world of sexual positions, sex toys, fantasies and activities available for two horny consenting adults? The limits lie only in your head, in your imagination. Sex is mental, and you got to see it in your mind first before you see it manifested.

How To Have Better Sex RIGHT NOW!

By loveandsex

Better sex comes with consistency. A lot of guys have a real tendency to swing from one extreme to another, thinking that the farther left or right of the continuum they go, the better sex becomes. When a girl asks you to go slow do you not only quit the breakneck speed, but swing to the opposite and equally annoying extreme. This mindset is no good. Instead, hone one of the most important sexual skills.

Pay Attention To Her Body Language

A woman’s body language (and her moans and groans) are your best guide during sex. When you pay attention to her body language, she will show you the way and tell you if you’re doing her right, instead of swinging from one extreme to another. Keep an eye and an ear on what she’s doing and how she’s responding, so that when you’re having sex you can tell what she likes and what she doesn’t.

Look For The Optimum Point

This is home. It’s where things simply flow and sex is “WOW!” The OP is the zone of leverage – the zone of perfect sensations. Below OP, you get meager result. Beyond it (when you’re doing too much or stay in the same spot for too long), you have diminished effectiveness. One might think that things get better beyond OP. No it doesn’t, in fact the opposite happens, you get diminishing returns. Just because you’re pumping faster and harder doesn’t mean she’s getting happier. Stay at OP – no more, no less.

Be Just Right

It’s the point in clitoral stimulation for example, where you don’t go too slow or too fast. It’s the duration of hot sex where it’s not a quickie but also not a death-defying marathon – it’s what women refer to when they say “just right.”

Discover Her OP

OP’s vary not only from woman to woman but even in the same woman. That doesn’t make your job more difficult, it only makes it more challenging. I’m sorry to tell you that finding OP is not something you can read on a page. To cater to YOUR woman and give her better sex, you’re going to have to learn HER specific OP.

Play around and try different speeds, different strokes and different things on your girl. Since you’re the one in the room with her, you can observe her reactions – her body will talk to you, so listen to it!

This is never automatic, and like many things in life, it’s not mastered by simply sitting around and reading e-books, it’s honed by reading bodies. That means you actually have to dive to the trenches, commit the mistakes and learn from them, only then can you become a master. People have a word for it; I think they call it PRACTICE!

Should You Have Sex During “That Time” Of The Month?

By dicksinthecity

Having sex on your period is a toss up for most couples. Unless you are a vampire, blood in the bedroom can be an icky situation. As women, we are taught to hide our periods, that they are embarrassing, messy and a pain. Many women feel that having sex while on their period is gross or worse, they are afraid their man will find it gross.

What She Said

To Bone Or Not To Bone?

As much as guys love the movie Glory, they do not wish to turn the bedroom into a war zone. But many women find that when they are on their period, they are also hornier, and orgasms can help with cramps during their time of the month. To bone or not to bone while bleeding is something that both partners need to agree upon.

If a woman feels like the period makes her gross, then there is no way she is going to feel sexy. And if her man finds it a bit off putting then again, the woman will not feel in the mood. If it is a red light for a couple, there are tons of other things to do! Massages and blowjobs are top on my list. Now if the couple is OK with it then having sex can be super fun! Some sex positions are limited due to gravity, but I recommend laying down a towel to catch any mess or better yet, hit the shower!

What He Said

The No Fly Zone

I am proud to have coined a new, sexy, and appropriate term for this time of the month, and I’m sharing it with you now: “No Fly Zone.” It makes it seem like some sexy military type operation instead of, well, you know.  Can you do it during the no fly zone? If you’re married and you know that she’s not sleeping with anyone else, then sure, I guess it’s safe.

But my own personal sex tip here is that you should avoid having sex while she’s in the “No Fly Zone.” I’m pretty sure if you look up “high risk sexual activities” in the dictionary you’ll see a picture of having sex on your period and then the dictionary will actually smack you upside the head for being stupid enough to even consider it.

Have you not heard of blowjobs or anal sex? Those are perfectly viable and deliciously naughty sex acts that you and your partner (or whatever the hell you call them) can do while you wait out the “No Fly Zone.” The “No Fly Zone,” like all other sanctions, seems really terrible and oppressive for a few days, then it blows over and then everyone pretends like it didn’t happen in the first place.

The “No Fly Zone” has been a thorne in the side of people (metaphorically speaking) since the beginning of time. Millions have tried to work their way around it, and basically you aren’t going to discover anything that others haven’t been able to. Remember that there are other alternatives such as anal and oral sex for him.