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How To UNLOCK A Woman’s Sexual Code

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Sex tips are a great help when giving your girl an orgasm, but what if you could go deeper than that? What if you could get unleash her inner freak?

Imagine this situation:

You’re really excited. You find her hot. You find her sexy. Things are going well and it looks like you might “get lucky.”

And then you start thinking to yourself, “Am I going to be able to please her in the bedroom? Am I going to be able to be the most dynamic lover she’s ever had? Am I going to be able to bring her to multiple orgasms until she begs me for more? Am I going to be the man that’s her best lover ever and is she going to be willing to do all the things that I want done to me?”

These are questions that haunt a lot of men on a regular basis. Men everywhere want to know how to unlock her sexual code and how to make sure that she begs for more. Let me tell you how.

Emotions Play A Significant Role

There’s so much mindset to sex that a lot of men don’t pay attention to. A lot of men are very physical; when they’re attracted to a woman, all they want to do is rip her clothes off and penetrate her immediately and have incredible intercourse that’s going to blow their mind away. But they don’t understand the way women really think.

Somebody told me a long, long time ago that if you can please a woman in bed—and it all starts with pleasing her emotionally first and really connecting to her emotionally—she’ll do anything for you. She’ll truly believe that you are the first man to be attentive to all her needs, the man that understands her on all levels.

A lot of guys don’t think that way. A lot of guys just want to go, get a woman in the sack, have sex with her for five or six minutes and hope that she gets off. Those moans and groans that you hear when you’re banging her are not necessarily moans and groans of pleasure. They’re moans and groans of disappointment, a disappointment that you are not taking the time on her the way she needs.

It’s all about understanding the way a woman’s mind thinks when it comes down to sex. You’ve got to understand her emotional core, what she needs. She needs to feel safe, she needs to feel the attraction, and she needs to hear words.

“You look hot. You’re beautiful.” Say it, whatever it might be. She needs to feel like you’re there, in tune with her. She may want to warm up to you, and spend the time kissing. And if you want to become a good kisser, mimic her kissing style. If she comes at you with a soft tongue, come back at her with a soft tongue. If she comes at you hard, come back at her hard.

Teasing Is Pleasing!

It all comes down to teasing her body and not going immediately for the clitoris or finger banging her immediately. It’s all about taking your time almost like you’re driving down a long, winding road. You want to be able to spend as much time on her body, teasing her.

You also don’t want to sleep with her the very first time you get her naked. You want to drive her crazy. The more you drive her crazy, the better the sex is going to be for her.

It’s all about understanding her need to feel safe and secure. She wants to give you her body. Too many men do not understand that. They don’t spend the time on the mindset of sex. All they do is think about the physical side of sex. If you think about the mindset, then you think about licking her like an ice cream cone, spending the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core and then seducing and teasing her. If you’re able to give her what she’s always desired when all the men before you have disappointed—you win.

The Difference Between Sex And Making Love

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Sex is sometimes just sex and other times it’s “making love” – this happens when you really open yourself up to someone you care about.

How Do You Best Distinguish Between The Two?

“Just sex” usually takes place outside the context of a loving relationship – one-night stands for example. People get horny – so they get laid, it’s that simple. Men and women use each other to get an orgasm or two. Motivation is mostly physical and very little, if at all, emotional. In fact, emotional entanglements are avoided and little consideration is given to the partner’s enjoyment.

“Making love,” as especially seen by women, is more romantic – more tender, respectful and considerate. It’s what lovers do. The people involved have feelings and emotional investments on each other. Motivation is both physical and emotional.

  • If lust shoves the penis down her throat, love slides it in while caressing her cheek.
  • If lust ejaculates on her face, love is kissing her tenderly.
  • If lust is fast, short & furious, love is sensual, slow and romantic.
  • If lust is purely physical, love is largely emotional & psychological.
  • If lust is penile penetration, love is penetration – and more.

Are There Any “Gray” Areas?

Although at first glance, the two may seem like night and day, but there are actually a lot of gray areas between the two. Differences can be very subtle and one could argue that they’re really one and the same. The two cannot be objectively evaluated in terms of actions, and it’s not as if they are mutually exclusive. There isn’t really much difference in terms of actuations.

“Making love” can be passionate as well as fast and furious. “Just sex” can also be sensual and slow. People in loving relationships can have sex just for the heck of it. And even one-night stands can come with romance, albeit not very often.

Pay Attention To Your Emotions

It’s in the perception and interpretation of the players. It is FELT, not seen. It is in the individual to perceive whether what’s happening is simply lust, or a combination of lust, like and love or something else.

If a woman interprets things one way, then that’s what it is! If over time, she changes her mind, and develops feelings and sees the two of you as ‘making love’, then FOR HER, it’s making love.

If it’s “just sex” to you, then FOR YOU, it’s just sex.

What If You’re Not On The Same Page With Your Lover?

Unpleasant surprises arise when partners’ views don’t match. She’s making love, and he’s just in it for the sex. And because they have differing perceptions, they consequently have incongruous expectations and behaviors. She expects him to be generous and loving, but since they’re not on the same page, he might not be those things at all!

A great lover avoids unnecessary complications by making sure they’re both on the same page. Playing with women’s emotions is NOT cool!

How To Get Her To Have Sex With You – Even When She Doesn’t Want To!

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Can you have sex with your partner, even if she’s not in the mood, has a headache or doesn’t want to? You bet you can! Here’s how!

Women want men to understand one simple reality – that sometimes, she’s just not up for it, and it’s nothing personal.

Sometimes sex can be the last thing in a person’s mind. Hey, even guys in their sexual prime have those days when they’d rather be alone, get some TV time and cement that butt impression on their couches. Sometimes a deluge of projects and deadlines can drown little Johnny’s screams for action. Of course, women have these days too! (Plus the PMS. Well, some have PMS the whole year!)

Have Excellent Timing

This is simply knowing the difference between a good and a bad time. Jerks who march up to her in the middle of the night, all hot & horny, a little drunk and expecting some action, would be better off couching with their blow-up dolls. If they’re going to be Mr. Wrong Timing, they might as well be masturbating!

A 6th sense is needed to develop timing and it takes a balancing & gauging act to know the difference between a genuinely bad, hopeless sexual situation, and a massage-able/negotiable one – there are no hard and fast rules. Your ability to calibrate will improve as you get to know your woman.

Master The Art Of Gentle Persuasion

Great lovers master the art of gentle persuasion and subtle influence. They don’t decide for women, they gradually encourage them into a decision. A little look here, a little touch there, a massage packaged as time-out from her stressful schedule – and she’s bound to come around. It will only be a matter of time before she caves in and melts into his arms – it’s magic.

Set A Woman At Ease

Set her at ease. Clear the way for her brain to focus on your caresses instead of on last week’s deadline. A woman at ease is in a state of openness – to anything – sex included. And that’s way better than having someone wary of your moves. Anything you do to an inattentive (or defensive) brain might as well amount to nothing.

Second, ease her into sex. Before you know it, both of you will be sweating it out in the kitchen. It just happened. Unfortunately, many guys make this too difficult. Instead of creating that “in the moment phenomenon,” they get pushy, rude and crass. They pressure, which only emboldens her defenses.

They might eventually be forceful and strong enough to get what they want – but the next time around, it’ll be doubly hard. They’ll be fighting unnecessary battles just for the lay – not to mention, accommodation sex won’t be as satisfying.

What’s a woman to do? Over time, she’ll cut the sex short by faking an orgasm. Then later, she’ll block the sex altogether with every excuse.

So set the lady at ease, and ease her into knockin’ boots with you. Make it an easy and obvious decision, then give her a great time so she’ll want to do you over and over. This is the simplest prescription for your recurring sexual droughts.

What Your Girl REALLY Wants This Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day comes with lots of expectations – you really need to perform well (this doesn’t mean spending a lot of money, but you should know that already) if you really want to make your woman feel special. But are dinner dates, flowers and jewelry all she wants? Not hardly! Find out what your partner TRULY wants this year.

For You To Not Ask Her What She Wants

She doesn’t want you to ask her what she wants for Valentine’s Day – that’s a huge faux pas. What that says to her is, “I don’t care to know enough about you to make an educated guess as to what you would like for a gift.” That is so lame! This is something you want to avoid at all costs. Don’t discuss Valentine’s Day with her. Don’t bring it up. Don’t ask her what she’s getting you. Let her think you’ve forgotten! Just whatever you do, plan your gift without her help!

If you’re really stuck on what to get your girl, ask her best friend for a hand instead. That’s what they’re for and when your partner finds out you enlisted the help of her BFF, that’s major brownie points for you. Just don’t be the one to tell her – let the friend tell her during a meaty gossip session. You can pretty much count on getting laid for awhile after that.

For You To Have More Than One Gift Planned

You do not have to spend a lot of money to make this happen! Most guys who don’t forget Valentine’s Day entirely will get one nice gift that will be graciously accepted. However, remember that part about how she doesn’t want you to ask her what she wants? How she wants you to already know what she wants? Apply that here – she wants you to know what she wants so much that you have multiple ideas and couldn’t settle on just one. Yes, that’s actually a secret fantasy of hers.

Again, this doesn’t have to be several gifts persay. It can be a love coupon book with a treasure hunt with sweet notes leading the way to find it, paired with a romantic home cooked candle lit dinner at home, an erotic massage and incredible sex. See? That’s like 7 presents and would easily take up the better part of the afternoon, evening and night. And it would cost you about $20. For all of that. Not even kidding. She wants you to be creative enough to plan not one, not two, but as many incredible, creative, sweet and romantic things you can think of. They can cost hundreds, or they can cost exactly zilch. 

No “Useful” Gifts

Yes, she may have been needing her brakes done for awhile or really needs a new electric mixer, but that does not mean that these are acceptable Valentine’s Day gifts. In fact, these are really bad ones! The entire point of Valentine’s Day is frivolity – meaning, that for this frivolous holiday, you need to choose frivolous gifts. Get it?

No Last Minute Gifts

Your partner also doesn’t want you to buy a gift last minute. Even if you think you totally slid by and got an awesome gift, she’ll be able to tell that you forgot about Valentine’s Day until the last possible moment. This screams irresponsible and inconsiderate to her! She’s likely been planning your present(s) for days or even weeks, so if you go out the day before and get her a stuffed animal and chocolates from Walgreens, you are most definitely going to insult her.

Take some time to plan nice gifts, or a romantic date. If you’re not creative and have difficulty coming up with something on your own, plan to have enough time to do a little research.

Chores!

Above all, your lady wants you to get up off your butt and help her out with cleaning the house! As in, right now. If you want to make your chore gifts into a coupon book, all the better. But this Valentine’s Day, make an effort to have the dishes done before she comes home from work, or take out the trash without her having to ask.

Better yet, call in sick for the day while she’s at work, and surprise her not only with a sparkling clean house and dinner, but decorated with balloons and candles. Believe it or not, this takes very little funds. You can have the house dripping with “Valentine’s Day” with $30 or less if you put in the effort.

And there it is, fellas. What does she really want for Valentine’s Day? For you to do something that makes her feel like she was totally worth the effort.

4 Fun Ways To Give Your Girl GREAT Sex!

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Sex tips can help you sharpen your game, but they’re not everything. It’s not all about technique! Here are four suggestions for you to have incredible sex with your partner!

Learning how to be better in bed is not just about knowing new techniques and sexual positions (although those help a lot too). At its most fundamental, enjoying a fulfilling night of lovemaking simply involves helping your lady relax and finding total comfort in your company. And one of the simplest things to do to deepen your sexual intimacy is by creating an erotic ambiance and touching her the right way. This article will show you how in four enjoyable and easy steps!

1. Find Some Place Comfortable

Most couples find great privacy in their own homes, and in particular, their bedrooms. Take a warm shower together to condition both your minds to relax in each other’s presence. Then set her down on a soft rug with cushy pillows so that her body is nicely cushioned. Play some soft, romantic music in the background and light some scented candles to create a really relaxing ambience.

2. Release Her Inhibitions

Let her wear something light and soft, preferably a lingerie or nightgown. Get her to close her eyes while she is lying down. Alternatively you may want to blindfold her. Many women are able to totally free their sexual inhibitions and become far more responsive when blindfolded.

3. Begin Serenading Her With Your Touches

When she is totally relaxed, you may begin physical contact with her. Start with light touches, focusing on her non-sexual areas first. For instance, tenderly touch her toes with your fingertips then slowly move on her more sensitive zones such as her inner thighs, tummy and her neck. Hint: never start groping her right away at her most sexual places!

4. Watch Her Reactions

Pay close attention to how she is responding to your touches, then change your approach accordingly. Does her body feel relaxed or tensed up? If she is too relaxed, you could firm up your touches on her; if you sense that she is too tensed, go easy on your touches and caresses so that you can slowly build her up through light foreplay. Also observe her breathing patterns and if she is making any noise. If she is clearly enjoying the moment, her breathing should be getting heavier.

Every woman is different. It may take some time to explore her body and learn exactly what makes her tick in between the sheets. Use this simple exercise to learn how to relax her mind and body, and get her primed for a night to remember!