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Top 10 Best Places To Have A Quickie

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Sex can be super fast and incredibly fun – it’s called a quickie. Getting it on with a time limit of several minutes can leave you and your partner flushed, exhilarated and wanting more. Here are some excellent places to go when you want to get busy on the fly.

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On A Hospital Elevator

Having sex in a hospital elevator can definitely lift a somber mood, and it’s even better when you’re at the hospital for something happy like the birth of a baby. Heck, why not practice making a baby right then and there? Press the stop button (make sure there’s not an alarm on it) and go at it. And you definitely want to press the stop button – hospital elevators are well known for stopping at almost every floor to let doctors and nurses off and on. Also, watch where you’re going! The elevator may very well take you into the morgue.

The Exam Table At The Doctor’s Office

Forget reading magazines or organizing your to-do list on your phone while you wait for the doctor to come in and examine you. Instead, hop up on the exam table and grab a quickie! It can make the wait less boring, but you do stand a chance of getting caught. Also, you may very well leave evidence – like semen – behind for the nurses to find when they flip the room for the next patient. You don’t want that noted in your chart!

In Your Neighbor’s Pool

Sex in the water is super fun, and it can feel extra naughty when you get busy in your neighbor’s pool while they’re gone. If you like the idea of possibly getting caught, plan to do it when they’ve gone off to the store or are just running errands. If you definitely don’t want to get caught (and if you want to turn your quickie into something more leisurely), choose a time that they’re on vacation or staying somewhere for a day or two and you know they won’t be back for quite some time.

Your Parent’s Bedroom

Bring back the feelings you had when you were a teenager and were trying to get some on the fly before your parents caught you by having sex in their bedroom. As an adult, you know you’re not going to get in trouble like you did when you were a kid, but getting caught can still be kind of embarrassing. For those who want a quickie but don’t want to risk the parents busting in, do it in their vacation house or while they’re not home.

On The Bathroom Floor (Yours Or Someone Else’s)

The bathroom floor is a great place for a quick romp, because it will make you feel sexy, dirty and a little raunchy! Even more so if you’re doing it in a public bathroom or at a friend’s house. Make sure the bathroom is clean though – either lay down a blanket of some kind or use standing sex positions.

In An Empty Bedroom Or Closet At A Friend’s Party

If you’re at a party and are feeling a little tipsy, your inhibitions are definitely down. It’s a perfect time to take advantage of your need to feel a little risque, so grab your partner and head to an empty bedroom or closet at a friend’s party. If it’s a wild party, you can pretty much guarantee that there are other people all over the house doing the exact same thing – just don’t be surprised if you walk in on another couple getting busy when you’re looking for a place to go yourself!

Doggy Style Looking Out Over An Observation Deck

Sometimes, you need a quickie with a view. If you live near a mountain or lake with some kind of observation deck, it can be an incredible place to get down on all fours and do it doggy style. The reason for doggy style sex here? So you can both take in the surroundings!

In The Empty Moving Van Before Returning It On Moving Day

You’ve finished moving, and you and your partner are completely exhausted – and exhilarated. You’re both covered in sweat and looking mighty fine – so why not throw down a blanket in the empty moving van and get busy? Sex or oral sex is great here – just leave the door cracked open so you can get out! You definitely don’t want to get locked in a moving van. Someone will eventually find you, but what are they going to think when they open the door and find you and your partner alone with nothing else in there?

In A Tanning Bed

Having sex in a tanning bed can be great fun, but there’s a few things to watch out for. Make sure that you and your partner’s combined weight don’t exceed the weight limit of the tanning bed. You don’t want to get busted by breaking the bed, and you’ll most likely be financially responsible for the damage. Also, limit it to a quickie, because you’ll end up with some funky tan lines if you stay in there longer than just a few minutes!

The Stairwell Of An Apartment Building

This is probably one of the best places to get busy on the fly. It has everything you need – good seating, handrails if you get really wild (or want to play with a little bondage), and privacy. Most people take the elevator in apartments, so if you sneak into the stairwell, you’re unlikely to get caught. It’s even less likely you’ll get caught if you pick a time where most everyone is in bed.

It Was Supposed To Be Just A Fling…Is It?

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Sex can be casual, or it can mean something more. What do you do if the sex wasn’t supposed to mean anything, but you start having romantic feelings?

There’s this hot guy and the office. He was a so hot, I couldn’t help myself…neither could he. We hang out, hook up, then show up at work like we can’t stand each other. It was strictly a “no strings” deal going in, but all I do is think about doing him. Am I developing feelings?

What She Said:

It sounds like you’re getting good sex, so congratulations are in order! And, given that you mentioned you’re thinking about sex all the time, it sounds like it’s the act you’re attached to – not the guy.

It reads like an ideal situation and you’re both doing everything “right.” You’ve agreed on the boundaries (you don’t spend the night and you don’t discuss it at work); as well as what kind of relationship you’d like (sex with no strings). I’m going to assume that birth control and safety from STD’s have also been discussed. An accidental pregnancy is a quick way to snafu non-attachment!

Women Naturally Develop Emotional Attachments

In broad biological terms, women are hardwired to get attached to men they sleep with – it’s released in our hormones when we mate, so there’s no getting around that reality. But there is a way to beat it. If you feel you’re falling for this guy, take a step back emotionally and physically. Journal, talk to yourself in front of the mirror, write “NO” on the back of your hand, splash cold water over your face – whatever it takes to wake up and remind yourself what you’re really getting out of this situation. You might think you’re falling in love with him, when you’re really only falling for his body.

What you’re getting out of this is valuable. Sex is a healthy and necessary part of life and it sounds like you have a good physical connection with this guy. You both knew what you wanted from the get-go, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Keep your priorities in check and treat each other with respect – you’ll be fine. If emotions are starting to surface, be honest and see what happens. In the meantime, enjoy!

What He Said:

Sounds like he just plain screwed you stupid. You got it so good, you don’t know up from down and all those orgasms have straight fried your brain. There’s nothing to be concerned about. It is, after all, called mind blowing sex for a reason. Give it time. Let the new-ness of the relationship wear off. After your body and mind have adapted to their worlds consistently being rocked by this guy, then you’ll know if it’s really more than just screwing for you.

Don’t Get Caught

Maybe it is, maybe it’s not. Time will tell. The most important thing to consider here is the workplace aspect. Never ever do it at work. Never talk dirty at work. Never send naughty emails via company email accounts. Channel your inner secret agent and you should be fine.

Q&A: What Is The U-Spot?

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Sex tips can get boring – there’s only so many things you can do. If you feel like you and your partner have tried them all and are ready for something new, it can be difficult to discover another technique that you haven’t already done before. But what if you found a new trigger? An actual area of the female anatomy that has never been focused on before and will give her amazing orgasms? Meet the U-spot.

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The U-Spot

Generally, when you’re referring to the U-spot, you’re actually referring to the Skene’s gland. This gland sits very close to a woman’s urethra and when stimulated, it produces copious amounts of female ejaculate – also known as squirting. This area is above the vaginal opening, but below the clitoris and slightly below the urethra.

The U-spot is extremely sensitive. Most of the time, it is indirectly stimulated during sex or oral sex, and rightly so – it’s so sensitive that the wrong touch could really be uncomfortable and turn a woman completely off. It’s really easy to go overboard when touching this area, so make sure your partner is well lubed and your touch is very, very gentle.

Stimulating The U-Spot With Fingering

You can touch and rub this area with your fingers, provided that your partner is already aroused and very lubed up. If she’s not wet enough for you to use her vaginal secretions to wet your fingers, make sure you have a good, water or silicone based lube on hand. Touching this area without lube is going to be terribly uncomfortable or painful for her!

Slide your finger down past your lover’s clitoris, stopping just underneath it. Your finger should be resting just above the opening to the vagina. Move the tip of your finger in small, circular motions, being very careful not to rub or press too hard.

Accessing This Area During Oral Sex

You can also stimulate the U-spot with your tongue during oral sex, which is actually a lot more comfortable and pleasurable for a woman. The tongue is wet and soft, so there’s less of a chance that you’ll rub her the wrong way. Again, slide your tongue past her clitoris and let it rest above the vaginal opening, moving it in small circles or back and forth. Switch between doing this and licking her clitoris to drive her absolutely wild!

Communication Is Essential

As with trying anything new during sex, it’s important to communicate with your partner and read their body language to tell if something that you’re doing is pleasurable to them or if you’re actually making them uncomfortable. While your lover might just tell you out loud that you’re doing it the wrong way, some women aren’t that outspoken about what they like and what they don’t like.

That’s why learning to read your lover’s body language is so important! If she doesn’t like what you’re doing, she’s going to pull away or avoid making any pleasurable sounds. If you’re in the dark though and you’re just not sure if she’s liking your moves, don’t be afraid to ask her if it’s good for her. If she seems like she’s not into it or if she tells you so, move on to a different technique.

She May Feel The Urge To Urinate

When you’re stimulating the U-spot the right way, your lover may feel the need to urinate. This is actually a good precursor to female ejaculation, so this may tell you that you’re on the right track. However, it’s always a good idea to make sure your partner uses the bathroom before getting started, so she can be reasonably confident that the sensation of having to pee is actually a pleasurable sensation of being on the verge of squirting.

Help Her Relax And Have Fun With It

Your lover isn’t going to find having her U-spot touched and fondled very pleasurable if she’s not relaxed first. It may be helpful to draw her a warm bath first, or take a shower together. Help her do whatever she needs to relax and get her mind off of the stresses of the day. Also, remember to have fun with it. Trying something new is supposed to be fun – so don’t get bent out of shape if it doesn’t work the first time or you’re unable to give your partner an orgasm this way. You can always try again later, in a slightly different way. Experiment with different techniques and enjoy the process!

Let Her Touch Your Most Sensitive Spot – And Win Her For Good

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The prostate is one of the most sensitive parts on a man. By letting your girl finger your prostate, she’ll blow your mind – and want to do it over and over!

How Adventurous Are You?

Most men would say “Adventure is my middle name” and “absolutely” with utmost confidence when it comes to sexual intercourse and experimenting with sex positions thanks to PORN and the Kama Sutra.

Women would and answer “it depends on my mood” to both questions. Get the hint? No? Are you retarded or something? Oh man! She needs motivation you dork!

Satisfying a woman entails a lot of time spent on initiating foreplay until her batteries are all charged up and her libido spiking up to the maximum level. I don’t mean just mediocre foreplay and hard slapping and pounding sexual intercourse after dude! It has to give her a very electrifying, explosive, intense and invigorating and masterfully orgasmic experience prior to getting your Jerky, Johnson, Willy, Junior or whatever you call your penis spit-fully satisfied inside her sweet, wet, warm vagina.

Men treat foreplay as just a waste of time and are oh so eager to just get it on. What most men don’t understand is that women who get enough foreplay can go the distance of attempting what only a handful of women would do for their man – and that is, to stimulate the male G-spot.

What Is The Male G-Spot?

“Eeewww!”, “You want me to do what???,”Yuck!”, ”That’s so disgusting! Are you gay?” – Typical reaction of women, who are deprived of enough foreplay, asked or, since we’re talking about sensitive and emotional women, I should say “requested” to stimulate the male G-spot.

For those of you who are clueless about what the hell I’m talking about, brace yourselves – get a cup of coffee, a cigarette, a bottle of beer or anything that could keep you glued to reading what I intend to reveal to the less fortunate ones.

Alright, the male G-spot is the prostate gland and not the head of your penis or your balls. It is located and can be stimulated from the anus. Yup! Don’t blame or question God for engineering it that way. There is a reason for its anatomical position. It is there because it is situated close to the so-called ejaculatory ducts. The term ejaculatory ducts are quite self-explanatory isn’t it? Get the logic?

Getting Her To Do It

This may be such a turn-off but if you give women the pampering and satisfaction she yearns and needs during foreplay, she will go the distance of allowing you to lay on your back with your legs spread apart like when a woman is about to give birth and best achieved when a pillow us under your hips aiding elevation and giving the appropriate angle. Applying pressure on the perineum or the surface of your anus would prep you up.

Stimulating the male G-spot or the prostate gland that resembles the shape of a chestnut requires gentle probing using the middle finger initially, to about 2 inches inside the anus. And the crowd went wild! Geez! Ever heard of a LUBRICANT you chicken? Your partner can make it even more interesting and exhilarating when coupled with fellatio while probing and applying different levels of pressure and intensity on your G-spot.

Trust this soon-to-be sex guru – after such an experience you would surely need to take a very cold shower to keep the conflagration under control because it is definitely illuminatingly hot when a woman does this to you in exchange for treating her like a queen during foreplay.

Low Sex Drive – How Can A Woman Get Her Libido Back?

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The libido changes in lots of ways throughout life, for both men and women. A low sex drive can mean a lot of things for a woman, especially after giving birth. Here’s how to figure out why she has a low libido and how to revv up your partner’s libido again after the baby is born.

Question: My question is, since my wife gave birth 18 months ago she is never in the mood, EVER. Now I work midnights and take care of the baby during the day to save on daycare costs. During that time at home, I cook, I clean, I do laundry and of course take care of the baby. I do this because I know her job is stressful and she works hard and the last thing she wants to do when she comes home is cook and clean. I thought all of that might help, but it didn’t. How can I help her get her get her libido back??? Thanks for the help!

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Why A Woman’s Libido Might Change

There are a million different reasons a girl might experience a change in your lover’s libido, whether it’s a decrease or an increase. Usually it boils down to hormones. Throughout a female’s life, the levels of hormones in the body, such as estrogen, differs greatly. She may have a rampant sex drive at a younger age, only to experience a drastic decrease in libido during the aging process and the levels of hormones in the body begin to change. This is especially true right after giving birth. The good majority of the time a female experiences a change in libido, a change in hormones is what is responsible.

Communication Is Key

Make sure that you actually have an open line of communication with your partner about what is going on in your relationship, especially when it comes to sex – or the lack of it. Your partner may have no clue how you feel about the situation if you’re not talking to her – so make sure you’re actually communicating about what is happening.

Physical Reasons A Female’s Sex Drive Can Decrease

If your partner just isn’t feeling good and isn’t feeling like having sex, it may be time to make an appointment with her doctor. There are several purely physical reasons that a girl might experience a decrease in libido, such as:

  • Changes in hormones
  • Having a baby, especially if it was a difficult birth
  • Significant weight gain
  • Taking certain medications, especially anti-depressants and anti-psychotics

Emotional Causes For A Reduced Libido

Aside from physical factors, there are also lots of emotional factors that you need to consider when trying to find the root of a female’s lack of libido.

  • Being tired or exhausted from work or taking care of kids
  • Lack of time together as a couple
  • Lack of emotional connection
  • Lack of confidence and feeling unattractive, especially after having a baby or gaining weight
  • Depression or anxiety

A Word On Postpartum Depression

Postpartum depression is a serious issue that can happen after a girl has a baby, but it can be difficult to spot, since it’s normal for women to feel a little down after giving birth – this is most commonly referred to as the “baby blues.” However, when it becomes serious, it can be dangerous to leave it untreated. If you suspect that your partner may have postpartum depression, don’t judge or criticize. Show your partner love and support, but make sure to see a doctor immediately. Serious postpartum depression can cause a woman to harm herself or the baby, which never ends well. Symptoms of postpartum depression can include:

  • Lower libido than before the baby
  • Loss of appetite
  • Insomnia
  • Intense irritability and anger
  • Overwhelming fatigue
  • Lack of joy in life
  • Feelings of shame, guilt or inadequacy
  • Severe mood swings
  • Difficulty bonding with the baby
  • Withdrawal from family and friends
  • Thoughts of harming herself or the baby

What You Can Do To Fire Up The Libido

If you’ve ruled out some of the more serious reasons that your partner might be experiencing a decrease in libido there are a few things you can do to try to get that spark back into your sex life.

Plan A Date Night

Often, after having a baby, everything becomes all about taking care of the baby. There’s very little time left for you and your partner to actually spend time together away from the baby and reconnect. You need to remember why you’re a couple in the first place! The baby will be just fine with a babysitter or grandma and grandpa while you and your partner go on a date. Stay in touch, but remember that you need to take some time for the two of you.

One of the most important aspects of planning a date night is that a girl doesn’t usually have the opportunity to dress up, do her hair, put on makeup and go somewhere when she’s a full time mother – especially if there’s a full time job involved. Giving your partner the opportunity to feel like a woman again can work wonders!

Romance Your Partner

You may just be missing that element of romance that used to exist in your relationship but doesn’t anymore. Most of a female’s arousal is actually mental, and for a girl to feel sexual, she must be completely relaxed. Draw a nice bubble bath and pour your partner a glass of wine (if the baby isn’t nursing). Give your partner a massage, or buy a gift certificate so she can go get one.

Focus Your Attention On Your Partner

Remember that for a woman to feel important to you and valued by you (which is necessary for a lady to want to be come sexual with you), she has to feel like you’re paying attention to her and value what she has to say. Talk to your partner one on one, with the television off. Ask questions about how she feels and what she thinks, and then actually listen to the answers!

When You Do Have Sex

When you and your partner actually do have sex, it’s very important that you focus on her pleasure – and make sure your lover has an orgasm too! Worship your lover’s body and make her feel sexy in the way you touch and look at her. Give your partner oral sex and let her have an orgasm first, and even more than once if you can!

If She’s Having Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Many women have trouble reaching orgasm, especially after having a baby. After giving birth, things may be a little sore, or may just feel a little different down there. Don’t be afraid to bring in some props like arousal gel or warming lube. Of course, lube is especially crucial for sex after having a baby, because you can really hurt the sensitive tissues down there if the vagina is dry – which is more likely after giving birth.