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What Is A Micropenis And Do I Have One?

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Penis size is something just about every guy worries about. In fact, most guys are obsessed with their penis size and worried that their genitals too small. Some men may be convinced that they have a micropenis – that is, a clinical condition where the genitals are much smaller than average. But what really makes a small penis a micropenis, and could you have one?

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What Is A Micropenis?

A micropenis is a term that is usually used to describe a very small, or abnormally small penis. The average length of an adult man’s genitals when erect is about 5-6” and a micropenis is any shaft that is less than about 2.8” when erect. So basically, a micropenis is a penile shaft that is significantly smaller than the smallest average size.

What Causes It To Be That Small?

There are a few things that cause this condition, including abnormal testicular development in the womb and testosterone and other hormone deficiencies. If you do have a micropenis, it’s likely that you’re not going to discover this until you’re an adult – all these measurements are for an adult male, because the genitals are normally much smaller in boys.

How To REALLY Measure Your Penis

If you want to find out if your small genitals actually fall into the “micropenis” category, you’ll want to measure it correctly. Remember that most guys who have smaller genitals still don’t fit into the category of having a micropenis – because their genitals are small, but not less than 3″ or so. Here’s the real way to measure your penis:

  • Get your shaft as erect as you can. Make sure you’re really turned on and you’ve maximized your penis size.
  • Have a rule or tape measure on hand.
  • Place one end of the measuring device at the very base of your shaft, up against your groin.
  • Stretch out the tape measure or lay the ruler on your shaft and note where the tip of your penis is. This is your penis length.

If you do have small genitals, or even a micropenis, remember that it’s not all about length when it comes to pleasing a woman sexually and giving her an orgasm. It’s really the width that comes into play during intercourse, so even if you have a short shaft, if it is still fairly thick, you’re good to go.

Can A Micropenis Be Enlarged?

If you have very small genitals, you’re probably going to want look into some type of penis enlargement therapy to help you get a bigger member. Don’t take matters into your own hands though, especially if you’re considering a treatment that is invasive or risky. Consult your doctor beforehand about your options.

He or she can let you know what is available out there to help you get a larger erection, from natural ways like using a penis pump or possibly through surgical intervention. Your doctor can inform you about the risks involved with any type of enlargement therapy and suggest alternatives if some options aren’t right for you.

Don’t try to enlarge your genitals on your own with creams, pills or penis pumps because you may end up doing more harm than good. While creams, pills and pumps may be part of your treatment plan, having your doctor’s okay first will give you the confidence to know that you’re being safe and smart so you don’t end up hurting yourself.

Common Treatments For A Micropenis

Testosterone Therapy

Usually, testosterone therapy is tried first since it is considered the safest and least invasive way to treat extremely small genitals. A man on testosterone therapy to increase his size may take hormone supplements or use hormone creams, and this type of medication can be prescribed to infants in rare cases where the problem is noticed at a much younger age.

Testosterone therapy can also be used during puberty to help increase size, before the window for actual, true penis growth closes.

Surgical Procedures

Surgical procedures to enlarge the genitals are very rarely used, because it’s a risky treatment option and the length of the shaft doesn’t increase that much. A man undergoing surgical lengthening of the penile shaft may only gain a few centimeters, or an inch or so at most.

Penile implants may be an option if you’re just going for raw length, but there are caveats to any surgical procedure you might be considering. Talk with your doctor (or several doctors) about the right options for you – before you have anyone come near your genitals with a scalpel!

Can You Have Sex With A Micropenis?

The better question here is can a man lead a fully satisfying sex life with a micropenis, and the answer is yes! Actual vaginal penetration and intercourse can be difficult, especially if the shaft is really short. However, there are lots of ways you can experience satisfying, fulfilling sex with your partner without vaginal intercourse:

  • Give and receive oral sex
  • Finger her and allow her to give you a handjob
  • Bring sex toys in the bedroom and use them on each other
  • Try different sex positions – you may not be able to have intercourse in the missionary position (especially if you or your partner are bigger around the middle), but you may be able to have intercourse just fine in the doggy style position. Experiment and have fun!

Learning To Accept Yourself

If you have a micropenis – or just very small genitals – it’s easy to be down on yourself or wonder if you’re ever going to meet a woman who wants to be with you – or who can be sexually satisfied by you. Don’t worry so much about what women may think. Learn to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are and how you were made. If you have self confidence – and know how to please a woman orally or with sex toys – she’s not going to care about your size.

How To Get Your Man In The Mood – TONIGHT!

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These sex tips to turn the heat up with your lover are almost GUARANTEED to work! Even though men are usually up for having sex, sometimes you need to put in a little effort to get your partner to start thinking about slipping in between the sheets with you. Apart from telling him up front that you want to get it on, try these super steamy sex tips tonight and have him begging for more!

Cook With Cloves

Cloves have long been known to be an aphrodisiac for both men and women, but they get a lot less press than other aphrodisiacs such as oysters or ginseng and ginkgo biloba. One woman who ate a clove soup with her man ended up having sex with her man all night – and it happened again the next time she made the soup! Cooking with cloves can definitely revv up your lover’s libido and have him craving sex – and it will work for you too! Next time you make dinner, find a recipe that has cloves in it, such as a ham baked with cloves or a clove flavored Bundt cake.

Be A “Damsel In Distress”

Men love to rescue women – it’s hard wired into their DNA to do it. Does this mean you have to completely give up your female independence to make him feel like the Alpha male though? Of course not. However, playing a “damsel in distress” every now in then will be all you need to get your partner wanting to lift your skirt up and bend you over.

Next time you want to get it on with your lover, have him come over and fix something for you or lift something really, really heavy that you just can’t manage to lift by yourself. Whatever you ask him to do, make sure it’s something really manly that you couldn’t possibly do on your own. Bonus points if he comes over to do his job and you’re wearing skimpy lingerie. He’ll definitely get the idea then!

Play A Little Hard To Get

Men also love the chase – it’s part of the reason they really don’t like clingy women. Men want to be with a woman who is confident enough not to NEED him too much or smother him with affection. Use this tactic to your advantage by playing a little hard to get. Flirting is probably the best way to do this. Flirt with your partner unabashedly – tease him, banter with him and let him get a glimpse of your ass in a tight pair of jeans as you walk away. It won’t be long before he’s tearing your jeans off and initiating a night full of passion.

Dress Up

You don’t necessarily have to dress up to get your partner to start thinking about sex, but take some time to make sure you look good. Often, women get comfortable in relationships and don’t do their makeup as often or worry about what their wearing. Usually, this isn’t a problem because men love to see their women in a pair of pajama pants that make your butt look good.

However, sometimes women get too comfortable and a guy’s “sex mechanism” doesn’t get turned on or want to have sex as much – because you’re not looking sexy, you’re not feeling sexy. And he can pick up on that. So go get a pedicure, a manicure, a wax job and buy a new bra and panty set. Do your hair and makeup, even if you’re just hanging out around the house. If you’re confident and looking hot, he’ll want to jump your bones ASAP.

Make Out

Another thing that couples forget about when they’ve been in a relationship for awhile is how much fun just kissing can be! Remember when you first got together with your current partner and you spent hours just kissing without worrying about when you were going to have sex or even what you were going to do next? There’s really something about making out with your partner – without thinking about sex – that makes sex even hotter when you finally do head to the bedroom!

Next time you and your lover are hanging out on the couch and watching a movie, lean over and start kissing his neck softly. Move up to his lips and kiss him deeply. If he starts to move his hands to start taking off your clothes, stop him. Use your lips to show him that you just want to kiss – for now. After you’ve teased him enough with your lips, then you can let him take it further.

The Virtuoso Lover Review

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The Virtuoso Lover, written by renowned love and romance author Michael Webb, is a complete, 3 book guide that will take you from being simply “okay” or “good” in bed to being absolutely excellent! Build your sex skills from square one or add finesse to your current sexual repertoire. An easy to read, comprehensive guide that will allow you to hone your sexual talents and truly become a master of sex.

The Good

The Virtuoso Lover is a complete guide on how to become a better lover. Not only does it include the philosophies behind great sex and how to become a great lover, it also includes two books on excellent tips and techniques to get you started. That said, Michael reminds us several times during the guide that actual tricks and techniques are not what make a great lover. Read all 3 books within the guide and you’ll be armed with comprehensive information on how to have amazing sex and become stunning in bed.

The Bad

Those looking for a simple guide full of techniques will easily be turned off by the lack of actual tricks in book one. The background information contained within book one is an extremely important step in learning how to become a great sex partner, but you may find yourself tempted to skip ahead a little bit to the actual how-to instructions. Resist the urge to read right past the chapters on sexual programming and common sex mistakes, because you’ll actually find that a lot of that information will completely change your outlook on sex, thereby completely revamping your sex life.

The Bottom Line

The Virtuoso Lover is a great all-in-one guide to becoming an awesome lover. This book certainly doesn’t disappoint, whether you’re looking to do a complete overhaul of your sex life or if you just want to pick up a few excellent tips here and there. The Virtuoso Lover is definitely one book you’ll want to save to reference back to again and again. As you move through your sexual journey, you’ll find more use for it than you ever had, especially as you get better and better at sex and need new and exciting things to try!

The Full Virtuoso Lover Review

Michael starts The Virtuoso Lover off with an introduction on how to get the most out of the information contained within. Many books containing great sex tips and advice fall short here, because a number of people just aren’t sure how to use the information they’re being given about sex. One of the most powerful pieces of advice in The Virtuoso Lover is this: “The biggest sex secrets are not moves, tricks or techniques – they are specific mindsets, beliefs and mental programming.” Your attitude towards sex has much more to do with how good you are in bed than you really think.

The guide dives right into the gritty stuff, introducing sexual programming and how each one of us has a different set of beliefs and ideas towards sex. Michael teaches us how to find our own custom sexual programming blueprint by asking ourselves sets of questions that has shaped us sexually. Michael shows us exactly why our brains – the most important sexual organ of the body – are pretty much completely in charge of our sexual experiences, right down to what we expect sexually of other people and how receptive we are to certain types of sexual gratification.

The Virtuoso Lover also gives some simple, yet powerful wisdom on the real secrets to enjoying sex. Being fully engaged in sex, focusing on your partner’s pleasure as well as your own and really knowing what you enjoy sexually are extremely effective at taking sex from “blah” to absolutely “wow!” Of course, one of the biggest problems sex-wise between men and women is just that – they’re very different! Men are completely different sexual creatures than women and they often don’t respond to the same things. Michael realizes that while the differences between men and women emotionally and socially may cause problems for a couple’s sex life, he also realizes (and teaches) that these differences can actually be made to work for you and not against you.

Foreplay is absolutely essential to a successful sexual relationship and that knowledge is not lost in The Virtuoso Lover. While the chapter on foreplay lacks some actual foreplay suggestions, the “why” behind it is a fascinating and enlightening read. You definitely won’t want to miss out on the benefits that foreplay – and lots of it – can offer you and your partner sexually.

Each person’s sexual journey is different, but Michael reminds us that one thing is pretty much the same between everyone: no one taught us how to have sex and they especially didn’t teach us how to have sex well. Many men and women turn to pornography to learn how to have sex, but this will only serve to make your sex life worse, not better. The Virtuoso Lover, however, points out the many sexual mistakes that men and women make, and how de-programming yourself to stop making these mistakes will greatly improve how good you are in the sack.

The second book in The Virtuoso Lover starts off with a bang and you right into step by step techniques on how to please your partner from head to toe. Michael warns against trying too hard and of going straight for the gold. In fact, many of the great techniques contained in the second part of The Virtuoso Lover don’t have anything to do with the vagina or clitoris at all. About halfway through, however, Michael announces the book’s foray into the pleasure to be had down south with a vibrant, “Welcome to the Vulva!” These are the tips that advanced lovers may want to skip ahead to.

Two quite large chapters on the clitoris and g-spot tell you how important these two spots are on a woman’s body, and after reading these sections, you won’t be wondering what to do with the clitoris or where exactly the g-spot is. Michael ties up the second installment of The Virtuoso Lover with a comprehensive look at a woman’s orgasm from how it happens to how it sometimes won’t happen and why.

The third and last book in The Virtuoso Lover guide is more about advanced techniques and philosophies that should definitely wait until you’ve mastered many of the principles in the first two books of the guide. From sex positions to dirty talk, Michael finishes up the mini-series with just about everything else you need to know about how to become great at sex, whether you’re new at it or have been doing it for years.

The Virtuoso Lover is definitely a long read, so it’s not one you’ll want to sit down with and try to read “cover to cover.” Instead, take some time out to read and absorb a few of the principles in the guide, putting them into play soon after learning them. You can always go back to the guide and grab a few more pieces of the puzzle and start adding them to your sexual repertoire until you’ve literally become a sex master.

Of course, what ebook wouldn’t be complete without some amazing bonus materials? Michael certainly doesn’t let us down here, and has given us five incredible bonus books to only further add to your knowledge about how to fully and completely pleasure your partner.

Sex All Around The House

One way that sex gets old fast is doing it in the bed over and over and over. So you don’t have a ton of money to spend in a hotel room or anything, but you don’t have to! This lovely little companion book tells you hundreds of different ways you can turn your house into a sex playroom! You may have thought of doing it on the couch a few times, but Sex All Around The House definitely takes it to the next level.

How To Make It Bigger, Stronger And Last Longer

No matter how many sex skills and techniques you learn, it won’t help you a whole lot if you haven’t got much stamina to keep going with. If you have a short or thin penis or are a premature ejaculator, Michael includes a book that will help give you the skills you need to take control over your sex life with 100% all natural ways to enlarge and thicken the penis, as well as helping you to last longer in the sack.

Sexy Coupons

You’ve probably heard of giving your partner sexy coupons for an anniversary or Valentine’s Day gift, but what about just giving coupons to your partner just because? Included with all the other great bonus items you get with The Virtuoso Lover, you’ll get a booklet of coupons you can leave under your partner’s pillow or in their car to get them thinking about what you want to do to them all day.

How To Give Your Partner Great Massages

Massages are a great way to get your partner to loosen up and relax before sex. One of Michael’s most important tips to giving your partner the greatest pleasure (and getting the best pleasure in return) is to help your partner to relax and put the day’s stress behind them. This companion book will teach you massage basics so you can melt her muscles and make her putty in your hands.

101 Romantic Ideas

Romance is many times the only prelude to sex, so if you don’t know how to romance a woman, you’re not getting very far with her in bed no matter how many awesome techniques you know. Go from being good in the sack to being an amazing lover in every sense of the word. Romance her and sweep her off her feet and make the sex that much better! 101 Romantic Ideas will definitely take you to the next level.

How To Give Your Sex Life A Makeover Without Shattering Your Man’s Ego

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Sex isn’t something every guy is a natural at. In fact, a lot of guys are very awkward when it comes to pleasing a woman and some guys aren’t able to give their partners an orgasm at all, period. If your man sucks in the sack, you definitely want to give him a few sex tips to point him in the right direction – but how on earth do you do it without damaging your guy’s fragile ego? Here’s how to gently give your guy sex tips, while still making him think he’s the best.

Vocalize Your Pleasure

Even if he doesn’t get it right most of the time, there’s bound to be a few times that he hits the spot exactly the way you want it – and when he does, it’s important that you vocalize your pleasure and make a very big deal about it. You don’t necessarily have to make it into dirty talk – you can simply moan very loudly, gasp for air or yell “Yes!” – or all of the above. The point is, you want to make sure that he KNOWS that he’s done something right. Because once he figures out that he’s on the right track, he’s going to keep doing whatever it is that makes you scream and writhe with pleasure. So vocalizing what feels great to you is beneficial for you both.

Do To Him What You Want Him To Do To You

Sometimes, the best way to give your lover sex tips is to actually show him what you like – on him. If you want him to give you oral sex, try giving him a really great blowjob first. If you want him to touch you with his hands or finger you, show him what you want by giving him a handjob first! The idea here is to show him what you like by doing it to him first. He’ll probably pick up on it right away, but he may not. Keep giving him what you want and he’ll eventually get the idea. If he doesn’t, you can always wait until after you’ve given him a really amazing oral sex session and say, “I would love for you to try that on me.”

Guide His Hands – Or Mouth

If he’s going down on you and just isn’t hitting the right spot, don’t be afraid to gently guide him in the right direction. If he’s licking in the wrong place, gently use your hands to guide his head and mouth to just the right spot. Honestly, he’ll appreciate the pointers much more than he would appreciate his efforts being wasted because he wasn’t sure what you wanted – and you wouldn’t tell him.

If he’s using his hands, gently slide your hand down to your clitoris and show him with your hand how you want to be touched. This won’t upset him if you’re not cocky or condescending about it. You can also move his hand the way you want him to touch you – and after you let go, he’ll continue doing the same movements you showed him.

Leave A Magazine Or Internet Article Out For Him To See

If you find a particular juicy article with sex tips you think your man can use, leave it out inconspicuously for him to find. If it’s a print publication, leave the magazine in the bathroom, open to the page you want him to read. Leave it out as though you were simply reading it yourself and just forgot to put the magazine up. Next time he’s sitting in the bathroom, he’ll probably notice it – and read it. If it’s an Internet article, just leave your browser pulled up like you had forgotten to close it down. You can also minimize the browser and when he pulls up the Internet, the article will pop up “accidentally.” This is especially effective if you and your partner share a computer.

Tell Him – Nicely

If all else fails, you need to talk with your guy about how to make your sex life better – because if he’s getting off, you deserve to have an orgasm too (and an amazing one at that!) There’s absolutely no shame in talking to your guy about how to make sex better, but the way you bring it up is extremely important. If you start the conversation off saying “You need to do this,” or “You do this wrong,” it’s going to make him want to immediately stop listening to you. Don’t criticize your guy – because he’s probably trying very hard to please you sexually. Instead, tell him things you’d love to try, or say, “I love it when you do this, but I think this would be even better.”

8 Ways To Prevent UTI’s During Sex

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Sex can often cause urinary tract infections for both guys and girls. Urinary tract infections happen when bacteria or fungi get into the urethra and these infections can be uncomfortable or painful. When severe, UTI’s can cause extreme pain, bleeding and the inability to urinate. Here’s how to protect yourself -and your partner – from UTI’s during sex.

Drink Lots Of Water

Make sure you and your partner are drinking enough water every day. The body is about 70% water, so each person requires roughly eight or so glasses of water a day. A glass is about 8 oz. – so it’s safe to say that a lot of people don’t get enough water. Replacing drinking water with drinking soda, sweet tea or any other sugary or caffeinated drink can definitely contribute to a UTI.

Bathe Before And After Sex

This is probably one of the best things you can do to help prevent getting a UTI during sex. Both men and women naturally harbor bacteria all over the body, however, it’s not necessarily the kind of bacteria you want to introduce to your genitals during intercourse. Hot, sweaty sex (the good kind) can definitely create a breeding ground for bacteria and contribute to urinary tract infections. Simply make a shower before sex part of foreplay – and make sure you wash up afterwards as well.

Women: Be Careful What You Use Down There

Scented lotions, sprays and soaps can irritate the delicate tissues of the vagina, which can lead to an infection. Even products that are designed for use in, on or around the genitals – such as douches or feminine deodorant sprays – can irritate the vagina if there are any chemicals, soaps or perfumes in the products. Avoid douching, and stick to using only plain, unscented soap during showers or baths. You may also want to take showers instead of baths, as bacteria and fungus in the bathwater can easily travel up the urethra.

Wear Cotton Underwear

If you or your partner do not wear cotton panties, briefs or boxers, you may want to switch to wearing cotton only. Any time there is heat and moisture around the genitals, it can cause bacteria to breed. Cotton fabric allows moisture to evaporate through the fabric, while other fabrics (such as polyester or lingerie items) can trap moisture near the genitals.

Change Sex Positions

Sex positions where the penis rubs up against the urethra – such as missionary or girl on top sex positions – can also cause urinary tract infections. This is because the friction during sex actually pushes more bacteria up the urethra. Instead, try sex positions that don’t involve the urethra, such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl.

Urinate After Sex

Make sure that along with showering after sex (or having sex in the shower!) that you also urinate immediately after having sex. This will help flush out any bacterial or fungus that was pushed into the urethra during intercourse. While this isn’t going to completely prevent UTI’s from ever happening, it can certainly help reduce the occurrence of a UTI or at least make the UTI less intense and easier to treat if you do get one.

Pay Attention To Your Sensitivities To Condoms And Spermicides

Spermicide and condoms with lube or spermicides can also help contribute to urinary tract infections if you’re a fairly sensitive person. This can happen to both men and women, although, it is more common for women to get UTI’s from intercourse, condoms and spermicides. When you try a new product, make sure you aren’t using anything else new at the time. For example, don’t try out a new lube and a new condom at the same time.

This is because if you find that you have a sensitivity to the product, you’re not going to be able to tell which one it is. Introduce each new item alone and pay attention to your reaction to it. If you’re sensitive to it or get a UTI, try something else until you find something that works with your body chemistry. There are lots of lubes that are available for sensitive skin!

Increase Your Vitamin C Intake

Extra vitamin C will help adjust the pH in your bladder and urethra, making it difficult for bacteria to actually live there and cause an infection. You can do this by taking simple vitamin C supplements, or by drinking more vitamin C rich juices. If you do choose to go the juice route, make sure that you’re not drinking juices that are packed with sugar, as this can actually make UTI’s worse.