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Top 10 Best Places To Have Public Sex

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Sex in public is a fantasy that a lot of people have, including both men and women. The thrill of doing it where people might see you, or the fear of getting caught is a huge aphrodisiac for many. Here are some outstanding places to get busy in public and satisfy your urge for voyeurism. Use these ideas to turn the heat up on your sex life, tonight!

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Public Sex Disclaimer

In most places in America (and around the world), having sex in public is illegal. If you get caught, you could get fined or even go to jail. In some countries, the punishment for engaging in sexual acts is much more severe. Be mindful of the laws in your area and act accordingly. Also, be respectful of the people around you. Getting caught by kids is not cool! Explore your sexual fantasies but remember to do so in a responsible way.

In A Wave Pool At A Water Park

Even the most daring couples will have fun in a wave pool at a water park because it’s actually very public. At most water parks, there are a ton of people in the wave pool at any given time. You’ll definitely be in the close proximity of others, but it is possible to have sex in a wave pool without getting caught. Be creative with your timing and go later in the evening, when there is less chance that there will be lots of parents and children around.

On A Virtual Roller Coaster Ride At An Amusement Park

You can’t safely have sex on a real roller coaster, but doing it on a virtual roller coaster ride can be a lot of fun too. You have the small, cozy enclosed space and the up and down motion of the ride to assist in your partner’s penetration and thrusting. It’s also pretty much impossible to get caught if you and your partner have snagged a ride by yourselves, unless there are cameras that monitor the activity inside the ride.

At A Dog Park

Shed your inhibitions and do it doggy style in a dog park like the real dogs do! Pick a bush or tree to hide behind as you and your lover get it on, but beware of getting caught by people and furry friends alike. Also, beware of dog poop. Most people in a dog park are respectful and clean up their pet’s feces with a bag and dispose of it properly, but some don’t and getting dog poop on your body will ruin your sexy fun instantly.

Skinny Dipping At The Lake

Instead having sex with your lover in your tent or car, cool off by stripping your clothes off and going skinny dipping in the lake. Pretty much everyone has sex in the lake, so getting caught is almost a non-issue here. Make sure you’re out of the way of any boats or anyone else and enjoy the weightless feeling the water gives you. This is a great time to try standing sex positions because the water will help hold your partner up!

In A Bed At The Emergency Room

Long wait times will ensure privacy here and if you’ve ever been to the emergency room, you know it could be hours before the doctor comes to see you or sends a nurse for testing and blood work. Take advantage of this time and get busy on the emergency room bed. Just make sure not to try this during a real emergency!

In A Public Park On A Swing Set

A great way to try different sex positions with ease is by using the swing set at a public park. Imagine using the swing to swing your partner in and out of you or swinging together and only using the motion of the equipment to aid your thrusting rather than thrusting with your muscles. This can be an incredible turn on, but try it late at night when there aren’t any kids around. Also, don’t strip down completely – it can be much harder to hide what you’re doing if you do get caught if you and your lover are completely naked.

Also, consider just using the swings for foreplay and head home for the main event. The great feeling of having sex in public will still be there even when you head home, and it’s a lot easier to hide what you’re doing and avoid getting caught if you’re just giving a handjob.

In Santa’s Big Chair At The Mall

This is a great place for a Christmas time romp in public. Malls usually stay open late, and the “Christmas Wonderland” scenes are usually shut down and roped off – meaning no people and no kids. Definitely don’t try this when there are kids around! Hop up in Santa’s chair and have some sensual but risqué sex. And don’t forget to tell Santa what you want for Christmas – and what your naughty fantasies are.

At A Public Gym In The Locker Room

After a great workout when you’re adrenaline is pumping and you’re hot and sweaty, get a little frisky with your lover in the locker room. You can easily get caught here without some planning, so make sure you’re at the gym when there aren’t very many people there. Most locker rooms have private showers in them, and you can sneak your partner in there and close the curtain for some private (yet still public) fun.

In A Phone Booth

This is also a great way to dabble with public sex in a private way. Phone booths are pretty tiny though, so make sure you and your partner can both fit in there to begin with. Also, consider bringing lube with you just to make things go more smoothly. In fact, lube is probably an essential component of public sex period – a little stage fright can definitely affect a woman’s ability to produce adequate sexual lubrication.

In The VIP Area Of A Swank Nightclub

If you can get into the VIP area of a nightclub, their swank sofas and sensual atmosphere is perfect for sex. A blowjob under the table probably won’t get you caught, but full on sex will. If you want to get really wild, consider finding a swinger nightclub that allows that kind of thing. Check out the rules before you go and feel it out before the pants come off.

10 Best Places To Have Sex And Feel One With Nature

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Sex can sometimes get boring when you’re doing it in the bedroom every time you and your lover want to get busy. Sure, you can do it on the couch or in the shower, but why not take it totally outside the house? Connect with your outdoor surroundings by having sex with your lover in these amazing places.

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In An Outdoor Hot Tub Overlooking The Ski Slopes

Having sex with your lover in a hot tub is incredible – but imagine doing it in a hot tub surrounded by mountains of beautiful, crisp snow. Not only is this a super hot place to have sex with your partner, but it’s also one of the best places if you’re looking for romance. If your hot tub isn’t private, you may have other couples joining you (which may or may not be a bad thing depending on how you look at it), but if you want some privacy, find a hotel with a Jacuzzi on the balcony.

On A Nude Beach (Or Any Beach) At Night

Sex on the beach is amazing – there’s a reason they named a drink after it. It’s a wonderful experience being intimate with your partner while being surrounded by frothy ocean waves and the sea salt in the air. The only downside to this? Sand! And of course, getting caught which is why choosing a nude beach may work in your favor. If your lover isn’t bothered by sand, choose sex positions where they are on the bottom, or try doggy style where only your knees are in the sand. Or, bring a blanket!

Inside A Butterfly House

This is a very romantic place to have sex and connect with nature. You’re surrounded by flowers and thousands of butterflies – girls love this! Aside from being careful not to get caught, you also want to be very mindful of what is around you. You don’t want to go destroying the habitat of the butterflies! Find a spot where you’re not likely to disturb anything and get it on. If you think you have time for foreplay before anyone heads your way, go for it! In fact, this may be a place where foreplay is better than actually doing it.

In A Canoe In The Middle Of The Lake Under The Stars At Night

Everyone has sex at the lake – that’s just what happens! But you can put a new spin on this by actually doing it in a canoe in the middle of the lake. The experience of the water rocking underneath you is wonderful! Finding different sex positions to use in a canoe can be a little difficult, so try using an air mattress instead if the canoe just isn’t your thing. Don’t tip it over and fall off, and remember to hug the shore so you don’t end up in the path of a large boat or jet ski.

In An Underground Cave

This place provides you with a private, dark and cozy place to connect with the Earth and your lover. One of the great things about an underground cave is that while it is outdoors, it is also very private and the risk of getting caught here is minimal at best. Avoid caverns that are known to have bears and make sure to dress warm or bring a nice, thick blanket because underground caves and caverns can get downright chilly!

In A Field Of Pure, White Snow

Find a large field of pure, white snow that has been undisturbed. You can usually find one just after it snows, in the early hours of the morning before anyone has bothered the area. Being in a field of snow really dampens the sound around you, so it’s a great place if you’re looking to have sex somewhere amazingly peaceful. Oral sex can be great here, because the experience of the cold snow in conjunction with your partner’s hot mouth is incredible.

In A Field Of Daisies

This is a very sweet, romantic place to have sex with your partner. Girls love flowers, so having sex in a field full of them is an experience she will never forget. However, if you or your partner have bad allergies or are allergic to daisies or bees, this probably isn’t the best place to go for really great sex. Who wants to sneeze ten times during a blowjob?

At The Top Of The Grand Canyon

While this isn’t as cozy as having sex at the bottom of the Grand Canyon, it does provide for some amazing views. This is even better at sunset, when the golden rays of the sun are caressing you and your lover’s sweat kissed skin as you enjoy making love in a place that is absolutely breathtaking.

In A Fragrant Flower Garden

Instead of giving your partner a bouquet of flowers, up the romance by taking her to a huge flower garden and laying her naked body across the soft, sweet smelling flower petals. She will never want it to end! Not only will the sex be amazing, you’ll also get big brownie points for the romance factor. Be careful of thorns though – don’t have sex in the rosebushes.

If you really like the idea of having sex on a bed of flower petals, prep the area first by laying out hundreds of petals in place that doesn’t have any thorns – or just do this in your bedroom. You can almost always get flower petals at a discount from florists – they bag up the ones that fall off the flowers and sell them for much less than they sell the actual flowers. Just use lots of petals – the effect is lost if there’s only a few.

Under A Natural Waterfall

This is a super sexy place to get it on with your lover because the sound and feel of the rushing water creates a feeling of power and lust that is unmatched by any other place. Since you pretty much won’t be able to hear anything besides the water, you’re going on feeling alone and that can be incredibly sensual.

Not Having Sex? You NEED To Watch This!

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Sex is something just about everyone wants – but not everyone always gets it. Some single guys get a lot of sex and other guys hardly get any at all – and dating isn’t as fun when you’re in the latter category. If you’re not getting any, you’re probably wondering what the difference is between you and the guys who are getting laid every weekend – or more. If you’re not getting any, here’s how to fix it and start getting more sex!

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If You’re Single And Not Getting Sex

If you’re single and you’re not getting any, these three steps will help you get laid more often. However, if you’re married and looking to get more sex, these techniques are definitely not for you! If you follow these steps while you’re married, it will likely cause more trouble than it’s worth, considering that these techniques are all about how to score with lots of different women.

Step One: Approach One Girl A Day And Ask For Her Phone Number

Make a committment to approach one new woman a day and ask her for her phone number (bonus points if flirting is involved). This simultaneously achieves two things. First, you will inherently become much more comfortable talking to women. When you’re constantly going up to women and making conversation with them, you become more and more aware of what to say and when to say it.

Second, it increases your chances of getting a girl to actually say “yes” simply because after talking to so many women, one of them is bound to. By asking tons of women out, you’re actually improving your odds at getting a date – learn to focus on the number of women that say “yes” instead of the number of women that don’t. Even if you ask fifty women for their phone number and only get two responses, that’s still two women that are interested in dating you and possibly sleeping with you!

Step Two: Design A Date With Multiple Activities – Ending At Your Place

You’re much more likely to have sex on the first date if you design it so that it ends up at your place. Plan a date where you’re moving around a lot and doing multiple activities. Dinner and a movie is cliche, and afterwards, there can be an awkward moment when you’re figuring out what to do next, especially if you’ve hit it off and want to continue spending time with each other.

Here are a few ways you can convince her to go to your place, after you’ve taken her to a few other places first.

Make or purchase a really yummy dessert. Then, let her know that you “made” her something really delicious and she just has to come over and try it. This sounds cheesy, but it actually does work!

Use the things around you to your advantage. For example, do you have a great view from your balcony or your backyard? Do you have a pool or some really exquisite fine art? Perhaps you have a crazy roommate that your date just has to come meet. Look at the things around you and decide what could possibly be interesting to a woman and use that to your advantage when trying to get her to come back to your place.

Step Three: Acquire Sexual Skills

You can get different women back to your place with the above steps, but if you’re not wanting to bomb out and never have sex again with this same girl, you’re going to need to acquire some great sexual skills. This is the true secret to getting a lot of sex all the time. Most guys that get sex have a few girls that they have sex with all the time, rather than doing it with someone new every time. This is because a guy that is really good in bed will have the women he sleeps with coming back for more!

Take some time to research on how to give a woman a really great orgasm. Learn how to please a woman with incredible oral sex, and then learn how to stimulate the g-spot or the a-spot and give her types of orgasms she’s never had before. If you learn what a woman likes in bed, you’re really only going to have to date a few women – because if you blow their minds during sex, they’e going to want to go back to your place again and again.

How To Have Great Sex Without Penetration

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Sex isn’t all about penetration. It’s a common misconception that you have to actually have intercourse to have awesome sex, but the truth is, you can actually have wonderful physical intimacy with your partner while not bumping uglies at all! There is so much more to doing it than just “penis-in-the-vagina” – in fact, there are so many more enjoyable ways to experience your partner sexually while avoiding intercourse! Here’s how.

Why Couples Would Want To Skip Traditional Intercourse

You might be wondering why anyone in their right mind would want to skip out on the sex part of sex. There are, however, lots of couples who either can’t or don’t want to have traditional intercourse with each other for various reasons. Some couples may want to avoid unwanted pregnancy by not engaging in penetration (if they’re not using condoms or birth control) and other couples may be avoiding penetration for religious, spiritual or moral reasons.

After childbirth, women are often cautioned not to have sex for six weeks afterwards, leaving them at a loss on how to please their partners when sex is not an option. Other couples may not be a great fit physically down there and will get more enjoyment out of foreplay than actual intercourse.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is a great way to give your partner an amazing orgasm with no intercourse. Most people feel like oral sex is for foreplay only, but why not make it the main event? It is that great, after all! Take turns pleasuring your lover with your tongue and letting them do the same for you, or try the sixty-nine position and give each other simultaneous oral sex. You may not think it’s possible to feel completely satisfied after having only oral sex with your partner and forgoing intercourse, but the truth is, you might even have a better and more satisfying orgasm this way than through intercourse alone. Your partner will too!

Masturbation

If oral sex isn’t your thing or you’re just not ready to go there with your partner yet, think about masturbation. Not the flying solo kind, but the masturbating your partner with your hands kind. This is better known as fingering (if they’re a girl) and giving a handjob (if they’re a guy). Lots of people avoid this type of stimulation when they’re getting it on with their lovers because they feel like that manual stimulation is actually boring – especially since this is the kind of stimulation you get all the time when you masturbate alone.

However, you can give your partner amazing orgasms through manual stimulation! All it takes is time, a little hard work and lots and lots of great lube. Most people who don’t enjoy getting a handjob from their partner have forgotten that crucial component – lots of lube!

Sex Toys

If you’re not going to have intercourse with your partner, why not bring in some fun sex toys to play with instead? If she can handle penetration but just not with a penis (for example, if she’s trying not to get pregnant), try using a dildo or a vibrator. If penetration of any kind is out of the question, a clitoris vibrator can definitely come into play. This is a great way to give a woman an orgasm when avoiding intercourse, especially if oral sex or fingering isn’t your thing. Instead of letting her take care of herself with the vibrator (which a lot of guys do when they can’t do it with their ladies), take care of it for her and get off on her pleasure.

For the men, sex toys can also be beneficial when you can’t or don’t want to do it the traditional way. Male masturbators (also known as masturbation sleeves) can make giving him a handjob a lot easier, especially when you use plenty of lube. In fact, it will probably feel better for him too!

Kissing

If you’re avoiding sexual activity all together for whatever reason, don’t forget that you can stay physically intimate and close to your partner through kissing. Don’t just assume that the quick kiss you gave your lover before work will suffice – if you’re not having sex, take some time to have a really great and satisfying make out session with your partner.

Kiss your lover deeply and slowly, with no regard to how much time you have or what is going to come next. Simply enjoy the kissing experience for what it is and encourage your partner to do the same. When done right, kissing can be an extremely satisfying way to stay physically connected to your lover when you can’t get it on!

5 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

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Sex is a very physical activity – there’s no doubt about that. Great sex will leave the sheets soaked with sweat, and even mediocre sex will leave you and your partner both out of breath if you’re not healthy and fit. If you’re not in shape, sex can definitely become lackluster and not just because you don’t feel confident about the way you look naked. Being physically ready for great sex will help you have sex that rocks your world. Check out these moves that will get your body ready for amazing sex.

Abdominal Workouts

Some of the most used muscles during sex are the abdominal muscles. They’re used for penetration and thrusting, they’re used for hip gyrating and strong abs can be extremely helpful when it comes to trying some of the more awkward sex positions. Strengthen your ab muscles by doing simple sit ups – as long as you’re doing them the right way.

Sit ups don’t have to involve you actually sitting all the way up. In fact, you can strengthen your abs by just lifting your shoulders off the floor – enough to tighten those muscles. Hold for a few seconds before resting your shoulders back on the floor and repeat. Do three sets of 10-15 sit ups three times a week for stronger ab muscles.

Another move for the lower abs involves assuming the same position as you would if you were doing a sit up and lifting your legs instead, using your lower ab muscles only. It might take a few tries to learn how to isolate the muscles you’re wanting to use (you want to feel the “burn” in your lower stomach, not your thighs), but these are the muscles that are going to be responsible for the majority of your hip movements.

Thigh Workouts

Both men and women can benefit from doing thigh workouts to enhance sexual stamina and performance. The thighs are used primarily during thrusting, and people with poor muscle tone in their thighs won’t be able to thrust for very long in bed, making sex shorter. A lot of men may mistake having a reduced libido with simply not being in good enough physical shape to continue thrusting for extended periods of time.

Simple squats can take care of this. Start without weight, and then add small amounts of weight as you get stronger. You don’t have to do this in a gym either – squats at home will work too. You can add weight by using cans of vegetables for the lighter weights and bags of sugar or flour for heavier weights. Just use your imagination! Three sets of 8-10 to start out with a few times a week is sufficient, but when you’re ready to step up your game, you can add repetitions.

Flexibility Training

Of course, to get into some of the more interesting sex positions, you need to be flexible. Flexibility is something that people have a lot of when they’re younger, and then they lose it as they get older. You can get your flexibility back, however, by doing stretching and training your body to stretch further and further each time.

Women can begin by practicing stretching their legs upwards while lying down, bringing the tops of their thighs and knees towards their shoulders. This helps stretch the tendons in the back of the thighs, allowing a woman to get her legs up farther when she’s beneath her man during sex or when he’s performing oral sex on her. Another great stretching move is actually simply learning to touch your toes in a sitting position. This helps a woman’s legs become even more flexible, allowing her to use them differently with different sex positions.

When stretching, simply practice a little each day, pushing yourself as far as you can go without experiencing a lot of pain (a little burn is normal). After several stretching sessions, you’ll notice that you can stretch a little farther each time.

Cardio Exercises

Cardio training is probably the cornerstone of getting your body ready for sex. Many people who don’t have a lot of stamina will get out of breath easily when having sex, especially if it involves more vigorous thrusting. If you want to last longer in bed, practice getting your heart rate up and keeping it there for a short period of time. You can do this with fast walking or jogging, or you can use a treadmill or elliptical machine at the gym.

Start small, with five to ten minute bursts of heart-racing activity. When you stop getting out of breath as much and your heart doesn’t beat quite as hard, it’s time to add another minute or two. After just a week or two of cardio a few times a week, you’ll notice a huge difference in your ability to have sex longer with your partner.

Safety

Of course, before beginning any fitness program (for better sex or otherwise), it’s important to consult your doctor first, especially if you have muscle or joint problems or any kind of heart condition. When doing these moves, make sure to listen to your body and stop if you become extremely uncomfortable, dizzy or are too out of breath.