Sex Tips & Advice

How To Make Her Fantasize About You In 3 Easy Steps

Sex of all kinds is fun, but it takes some fantasizing to really get into truly great, awesome sex. To have the kind of sex that will make your toes curl and your knees go weak (for both you and your partner), you have to get your girl to start thinking about you sexually. Instead of fantasizing about guys that aren’t you, you need to get your girl to create a fantasy with you in it by being your woman’s ultimate dream guy. Here’s how.

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Fantasy Is Crucial To Great Sex

The physical aspect of sex certainly feels fantastic, but that’s not all there is when it comes to getting busy with your lover. Fantasies are incredibly important to sex that is out of this world, especially from a woman’s perspective. A guy can simply have intercourse and completely enjoy it for what it is, while a woman’s mind must be involved for your partner to even become sexually aroused in the first place.

By getting your lover to start having fantasies with you as the main subject, you’re getting the mind and imagination working. Stimulating your lover’s imagination is crucial to getting your partner to enjoy sex (and to really let go of inhibitions so YOU can enjoy it too) and it’s extremely difficult to get a woman turned on without getting the imagination involved first. If she’s using you to fuel sex fantasies, she’s halfway turned on before you ever hit the sheets.

Foreplay Isn’t Just Physical

Foreplay isn’t just about giving your partner oral sex or kissing them passionately. A huge part of foreplay before sex is the anticipation, the excitement and the fantasies about what is going to happen. That’s actually what makes having sex with someone new so awesome – you’re excited about it and the anticipation is sometimes better than the actual sex itself.

Step 1: Become Your Partner’s Fantasy

Start by finding out what kind of guy really trips your lover’s trigger. Does she love the idea of a police officer, who can assert his authority? Or does she like the idea of a different kind of man in uniform, such as a mechanic or a handyman? Find out whatever your girl’s fantasy is and develop a separate sexual persona that involves some kind of role play with the type of man that really gets your partner off.

Doing this will make it much easier for your girl to think of you sexually if she can see you in the role that she’s already attracted to. Essentially, you are becoming the man of your woman’s fantasies.

Step 2: Get A Great Body

A lot of people may think that focusing too much on physical appearance is shallow, but having a great body is actually incredibly important if you want your girl to think about having sex with you. The reality is, you care about how you look, she cares about how she looks and you both care about how you look to each other.

Having a great body will also make you feel much more confident about the way you look. You’ll be able to let go of your inhibitions more easily, and feel more confident when your partner looks at you in all of your naked glory. Being in great physical shape also gives you more energy and stamina to last longer in bed! Feeling great about the way you look and feeling strong and healthy on the inside will make sex that much more pleasurable and it’s simply just a better quality of life.

Step 3: Master The Skill Of Dirty Talk

Understanding how to get your partner aroused is an important part of getting her to think of you. Since a woman gets aroused with the mind first, work on mastering the skill of dirty talk. Dirty talk is like an “on” switch to the part of your woman’s brain that processes sex and even a few simple phrases such as, “I can’t wait until you get home tonight” or “You’ll never guess what I’m going to do to you as soon as I get my hands on you.”

What you’re doing here is turning the switch on and then leaving your partner to imagine what you’re going to do until you actually get to do it. You’ll also want to master the skill of emotional talk, such as telling your lover how she steals your breath when she walks into the room or how much you love the fact that she’s yours and only yours…to do with what you please. Be creative and come up with phrases that will really get your girl thinking – of YOU!

6 Sex Misconceptions – Rules That Were Meant To Be Broken

By loveandsex

Sex includes many unspoken guidelines that supposedly dictate what can or can’t be done in or outside the bedroom. However, sex can get boring fast that way. There are many myths about sex – in fact, some of these “guidelines” for sex can definitely go to the wayside. Break these so-called guidelines and spice up your sex life tonight!

Myth #1 – Men Don’t Like Giving Oral Sex

It’s a common myth that men enjoy getting a blowjob, but they don’t exactly like to return the favor. This myth originates from the “I don’t feel so fresh” ads from long ago, where women got a bad rap for having a smell – of any kind – down there. The truth is, some guys don’t like going down on a girl – but most of them actually do. Women are terrified they don’t smell right, even if it’s just the natural scent of their bodies. Don’t worry about it and let your man blow your mind with his tongue.

Myth #2 – You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date

Sex on the first date has long been a “faux pas.” You’re supposed to wait until at least the third date, right? This is an old rule that should definitely be broken – that is, if you have the opportunity to be on a date with someone who so totally rocks your world that you can’t wait to get your hands on his clothes and rip them off. In that case, why not? If you and your date are both consenting adults and have discussed safe sex, seriously – why not?

Myth #3 – Sex Should Be Serious

Yes, all the sex scenes in the movies make us feel as though our sex lives are nowhere near as enthralling, but come on – who hasn’t passed gas on accident while getting it on after burritos and margaritas for dinner? Come on! Sex is fun, and it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. If you accidentally make an idiot out of yourself, get stuck in a not-so-flattering sex position, or get interrupted by a call from the in-laws, laugh it off and go back to doing whatever you were doing before. Your mate will love your good sense of humor and the ability to roll with the punches.

Myth #4 – You Have To Have An Orgasm Every Time

Pretty much every woman has been in the situation where she’s not in the mood, but he can’t keep his hands off her. Many women will give in and give their guy some lovin’, but they’ll end up faking their orgasm so he thinks she’s satisfied. Hold up – it’s totally okay not to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your man. It’s okay to put out just for him, because he’ll get yours next time. What isn’t okay is letting your guy believe that whatever he did to give you the big “O” is what he needs to do every time…and the only person that suffers in that situation is you.

Myth #5 – If You’re Great In Bed, You’re Great With Everyone

A lot of people believe that if you’re really great in bed, you can rock anyone’s world. But everyone has a different idea of what great sex is and what it isn’t. Everyone likes something different between the sheets, and you can’t please everyone. Truth is, you can be really great at sex with one person and give them multiple orgasms in a single sex session, and the next person you sleep with, you can totally bomb out and wonder what the hell happened to your mad skills. If you’re in a relationship, focus on being the best for that person. If you’re single, just have fun!

Myth #6 – If He Cheated, He Doesn’t Care About You

Men have gotten a bad rap for being notorious cheaters. In fact, rumor has it that most men who cheat on their partners do it because they just don’t love them anymore. Right? Wrong! If your man cheats on you, chances are, he didn’t mean to. Ask him. He may have been drunk and in a compromising situation, where a woman was all over him and wouldn’t leave him alone. Or he may have thought he wanted something and then realized it was a very, very big mistake. Cheating is not the end of the road ladies, unless you’re absolutely sure that’s what you want. He may still love you and want to be with you – talk it through and ask him why. You might be surprised at what you hear.

Top Erogenous Zones For Men And Women

By loveandsex

Most sex tips cover instructions on how to stimulate areas on both men and women that are well known to create pleasure, but there are actually lots of pleasure points that many sex tips and advice manuals don’t cover. Here’s a list of spots on a woman’s body (and a man’s) that when touched, licked or tickled will drive them absolutely wild!

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Best Pleasure Points For Women

Lips, Neck And Ears

Women love the soft, sensual feeling of kissing, so their lips are a huge pleasure point. Her neck and ears also contain lots of pleasure receptors, and you can use them to your advantage when kissing your girl. Kiss her softly on the lips, letting your tongue slide ever so slightly across her mouth. Then, kiss and lick softly down her chin, up her neck and behind her ears. Draw her earlobe into your mouth for a light suck and she’ll melt.

Breasts And Nipples

The breasts and nipples are obvious pleasure points on a woman (they’re mentioned in almost every sex tips manual), but few mean really know how to use them to get a girl warmed up before sex. A lot of men will tweak or pinch a woman’s nipples expecting her to become turned on, when in reality, she craves a soft and gentle touch at first. Spend time caressing your lover’s breasts with your hands and kissing softly and rubbing your lips across her nipples. Use your breath to blow warm or cool air on your partner’s wet nipples to send shivers down her spine.

Inner Thighs, Behind The Knees, Crease Of The Elbow

These pleasure spots aren’t ones that you normally hear about, but they’re powerful ones nonetheless. When you’re kissing and licking up and down your partner’s body during foreplay, don’t skip her inner thighs, the back of her knees and the crease of her elbow. These spots are packed with nerve endings and pleasure receptors and when these spots are caressed, it will drive her wild.

Clitoris And G-Spot

These are obvious hot points and you definitely don’t want to skip over them when getting your partner turned on! When licking her inner thighs, let your tongue brush lightly over her clitoris to tease her and bring her closer to orgasm. When you’ve had enough foreplay and are ready to get the main event started, start giving her oral sex. Slip one or two fingers gently inside her vagina (make sure that she’s either wet enough or you have a generous amount of lube on hand) and find her g-spot.

Best Pleasure Points For Men

Neck And Ears

Both men and women enjoy having their neck and ears stimulated. When making out with your lover, kiss him softly on the lips and then move your way to his neck and right behind his ear. When licking and sucking this sensitive skin, breathe heavily and make sure he can hear the delicious sounds you’re making as you savor his skin.

The “Happy Trail” And His “Cut Lines”

The “happy trail” is the area between the navel and the start of a man’s groin. The “cut lines” are areas on either side of the groin where the legs come meet the abdomen. Both of these areas are very sensitive and you can use them to your advantage as you’re licking and sucking all over your partner’s body.

The Head Of The Penis

When you feel like you’ve had plenty of foreplay and are ready to take things to the next level, begin giving your lover a blowjob – but don’t put your lips all the way down his shaft! Instead, you’re going to focus all of your licking and sucking on the head of your partner’s penis while you hold his shaft in place with your hand. This area is extremely sensitive (the most sensitive part of his penis) and he may not be able to tolerate a lot right away, so start slow. This is definitely one of those sex tips that will get him squirming!

Perineum And Prostate Gland

A man’s “g-spot” is considered to be his prostate gland and when stimulating it, you can give him some of the most amazing orgasms he’s ever had. If your man is anal shy, try rubbing firmly or pressing a vibrator against his perineum (the area between his scrotum and anus). This creates indirect stimulation to the prostate gland. If your guy digs anal play, lube up and slip your fingers (or a prostate massager) in about two inches and make the “come hither” motion. He’ll love it!

My Libido Is Too High! What Do I Do?

By dicksinthecity

My libido is extreme! I’m a girl and when I’m in a committed relationship, I really like sex. A lot. I have a more prominent libido than any girl I know. My past boyfriends couldn’t handle it. I’m kind of insecure about my sexual needs. My current man says he’s okay with it. How much sex drive is normal for a girl?

What She Said:

How much you want is what’s right for you – there isn’t anything as “too much,” though some may argue there can be too little! It honestly sounds like you’ve got the perfect situation – you enjoy having a lot of sex with someone you love, you’re in love and your partner is happy to help you fulfill the frequency. I wish I could expand on this, but I don’t see a problem.

The misconception that a woman’s sex drive is lower than a man’s is just that – a misconception. Many women have a higher libido than their man, especially as they get older. A man comes into his sexual peak in his early twenties, while a woman doesn’t come into her sexual peak until her thirties and even forties!

It sounds like you know what you like and how much you like it, all while satiating your needs in a healthy and safe way. You may have had boyfriends in the past that judged you (perhaps because they couldn’t keep up), but now you’re with someone who’s a better match for you sexually, and hopefully emotionally. I’ll say to you what you probably say to your lucky boyfriend, “Keep it up!”

If you and your current beau break up and you end up with a guy who can’t fulfill your sexual needs (and you really like him and aren’t interested in finding someone else who can meet your sexual needs), you can consider incorporating sex toys into your routine. If your man just isn’t in the mood, light some candles, take a hot, relaxing bath and have fun masturbating by yourself! There’s nothing wrong with a woman getting it on with herself, even when she’s in a relationship. Lots of men and women enjoy masturbation in addition to a healthy, happy sex life.

What He Said:

You’re not banging random guys on the street corner, are you? (If so, call me and tell me which corner) So there’s nothing wrong with screwing your man’s brains out. I’ve often said that a football stadium full of teenage boys on Viagra couldn’t keep up with an uninhibited woman’s libido.

Guys are notorious for getting caught choking the chicken when they’re in a relationship, because so many women expect that a man must solely be satisfied with sex with his partner alone. However, men usually enjoy a combination of getting busy with their woman (a blowjob is by far better than masturbation) as well as satisfying themselves when their girl isn’t available. There’s no reason it can’t be the same for a woman – if your guy just isn’t up to it and you’re rearing and ready to go, hop in bed for a little solo session. Your man just might walk in on you and want to join the fun!

Can your man keep up with you? No, but he will have fun trying. Relax and enjoy it and for God’s sake get him a truck load of those little blue pills!

7 Titillating Tips To Unleash The Sexual Desires In Her

By lloydlester

Even the best sex advice in the world doesn’t shine a candle to this amazing suggestions on how to get a “good girl” to shed her own inhibitions and become a wild, sexy and sex-obsessed woman in bed. This is something that probably every guy would love an answer to. The simple truth is that most women have this dual “good girl/bad girl” characteristic in them.

You see, a normal woman, even one who appears prim, proper and pristine, will experience moments in her life when she is more or less sexually expressive. The truth is that you hold the amazing power to quickly shift a woman’s feelings and emotions about her own sexuality and sexual ability. You can make her suddenly feel a sexual connection with you and become wild and sexually adventurous. The key lies in YOU achieving a balance with your own sexuality and sexual desires.

Don’t Be Afraid To Reveal Your Own Desires To Her

By the law of reciprocity, your willingness to open up to her holds the key to bring out the more adventurous and wild streak in her. For example, if she’s a little apprehensive, try revealing your own sexual fantasies first. Tease her out of her sexual shell and heighten her anticipation of what’s to come next.

When You Are Making Love To Her, Touch Her With Confidence

Increase her desire by exercising self-restraint. For instance, refrain from heading straight for her clitoris during sex. Instead, tease her playfully. Kiss her gently, allowing your tongue to work its magic on all her sensual spots, from her ears, to her neck, down her navel (skip her vagina) and traverse down her inner thighs to her toes.

Revel In Her Sexuality

Learning to genuinely appreciate her body is extremely powerful in getting her to totally relax and be ready for your advances. Most women feel insecure about their bodies and how they look, so compliment parts of her body and make her feel hot and sensuous about herself. Women respond very well to positive reinforcement. So let her know that you appreciate her body for all its splendor and how you enjoy the things that she does to you in bed.

Know What You Are Doing In Bed

Understand the facts about female sexuality and how to give her an orgasm. Sex is not just about using tricks, tips and techniques, although these are important aspects of sensational lovemaking. It is also equally important to pay attention how you can connect with her emotionally before and during sex.

Give Her The Right Kind Of Foreplay

Talking about foreplay, you should know that women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of pre-intercourse stimulation before they are ready. Contrary to what most men believe, touching and caressing her private parts and engaging in oral sex are not really considered proper foreplay. These are really sexual acts on their own, and not the sexual prelude that woman generally needs. Foreplay should involve mental activities that will heighten her arousal (such as talking dirty) as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual erogenous areas (e.g. massaging her back).

Address Any Performance Issues Immediately

If there are issues that hamper your performance or ability in bed, address these as soon as possible. For instance, if you find yourself ejaculating prematurely during sex or if you have problems with erectile dysfunction, make sure you get the right help and deal with these without delay. There are many effective self-help programs that improves a man’s performance and their overall sexual confidence.

Never Force Yourself On Her

Don’t pressure her to have sex when she is not in the mood. You can still connect with her in a different manner – give her a sensuous massage or cuddle together in front of the fireplace, for instance. If you get her in the right frame of mind before sex, making her climax suddenly becomes ten times easier for you. A woman’s mind is her most powerful sex organ… it is THE focal point of her orgasm. If you can make her feel completely comfortable in your presence and make out with you with total abandon, giving her a powerful climax is in most cases, just a clitoral rub away!

Believe it or not, by simply demonstrating these characteristics, you will bring about powerful and lasting changes in the way your woman views her ability to indulge in wild, adventurous and wanton sex!