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Why Delaying Penetration Can Make Sex HOT!

Penetration is what guys look forward to during sex, but if you do it too fast, you could turn her off. Here’s why you should definitely wait!

Delaying Penetration Isn’t Easy

Get real, a moment by moment experience is easier said than done… especially when you throw in a raging boner and a naked woman. Savoring foreplay, while violent carnal forces take over your body, is a mean feat.

Women don’t get this, but delaying penetration is probably the most difficult thing a man can do. Guys see an erection as unresolved tension. It needs to be addressed. Immediately. Unnecessary delay is cruel.

While most women wish to luxuriate in this kind of feeling, men see it as torture.

Have a naked, gorgeous woman on your bed… moaning… with legs pointed to the heavens, and you’ll realize you’d rather be skinned alive than not jump her. It’s like the marshmallow experiment – only this time, the marshmallow is wickedly sexy at 120 lbs., calling out “Come and get me!” through a microphone. You don’t even see the woman, really, your vision just zeroes-in between her legs. And you would do anything, even pawn your Knicks season tickets, just to get into that magical place.

That’s why nobody’s telling you to stop a boner – you can’t. So don’t deny the urge. In fact, ACKNOWLEDGE IT, admit you wish to ravish her body. Admit that you want to be inside her, feel her warm and wet core embrace your penis. You want to plant it deep, deep into her. Acknowledge the urge.

Is It Possible To Even Do It?

Yes, it’s possible to delay penetration. Ever been so mad at someone you felt like strangling them to death? We’ll, did you actually do it? It’s the same with foreplay. Have the urge, but don’t act on it…yet. Feeling it is different from acting on it. This is where the bizarre struggle begins since men can easily blend the two. But just because you’re hard doesn’t acquit you of all the other options.

Why hurry a sure thing? Do you actually think she’ll do a disappearing act if you don’t jump her immediately?

What To Do Instead

GET BUSY. You will never get over that vaginal trance unless you fill your head with something else. Do some crunches if you got to, channel that sexual energy into some activity and accomplish something mind-blowing – great oral sex, for example. Get busy and realize that while you’re at it, keeping your mind off that battle-ready penis, you’re getting the hang of the thing that started off as distracters. Foreplay can rock… when you give it a shot.

Of course, don’t wait for kingdom come and allow your erection and arousal to shy away. Just remember a sexual reprogramming before finally deciding to ride. This next one is subtle but it could really change your foreplay game. Ready?

What Really Happens During Penetration

That moment you penetrate, the very first instant you slide that schlong into that pit of hers, think of it as: THE BEGINNING OF THE END, launching the finale – the final hurrah. You’re actually wrapping things up. Yeah that’s right, the moment you enter her, you’re actually nearing the end of the session, you’re taking the final bend of the final lap. It positions you a stone’s throw away from the inevitable conclusion.

To most guys, it’s the exact opposite. For them, that first push is like opening their box of chocolates… all the good stuff begins. They think, “Yeah, finally I get to do this!” It’s a “Yeheeey!” moment and fireworks are at long last lit up. Like the opening of baseball season – all wonderful things are up ahead.

But, without watering down the virtues of great sex, and without missing on the joys of being inside a woman, boxes of chocolates have been opened way before initial penetration. It’s not the opening of baseball season, it’s already the World Series! And as for the fireworks? They’re there for the closing ceremonies!

What You’re Missing If You Penetrate Too Fast

All things bright and beautiful didn’t begin when you went in for that first push, it started long way before that. It started when you first got a whiff of the scented candles she prepared, when you first ran fingers across her face, when you felt her tummy rising and falling from labored breathing. If you missed on those because of your anxiety to put your pelvic gyrations on display, then you missed a lot.

You missed the unique pleasures of the opening and middle game.

Remind yourself before you enter: This is the beginning of the end. Watch how this simple shift straightens things out and alter your foreplay game by giving you a wider shot of the whole sex thing.

8 Naughty Anal Fingering Techniques

By loveandsex

Anal fingering can be a great way to bridge the gap between regular sex and anal sex. Check out these eight hot techniques to get started!

8 HOT Anal Fingering Techniques

1. See-Saw

This is a simple move that will get her nice and warmed up, especially if you apply a bit of oil or lubricant to your hands. Put your hands together flat, palms touching, and place the outer edge between her cheeks, over her anus and perineum.

With an up-and-down sawing motion, rub this very sensitive spot to stimulate and relax the muscles.

2. Teeter Totter

Using the same exact position as above, wiggle your hands back and forth at the wrist as you slide up and down this area. Add extra lube to make her nice and slick, and to prepare for entering the rear passage.

3. Passing The Time

To stave off any boredom while working up to all the fun parts of anal play, the experts who wrote “Red Hot Touch,” Jaiya and Jon Hanauer, suggest twiddling your thumbs! Using the knuckles of each hand to spread her cheeks apart a bit, slowly circle your thumbs around each other so that the pads touch the anus as they pass. Use lots of lube and increase your speed if she responds well.

4. Making An Entrance

When your wife’s level of arousal tells you that she is ready for more, you’re going to take a hint from the earlier technique of waiting to be allowed in, this time with just a bit of pressure. Using a well-lubricated index or middle finger, put slow, gentle, pressure on her anus; don’t push, just apply steady pressure and allow her to suck you in past the first sphincter. Rest here and let her adjust to this new and different sensation.

Tell her to breathe deeply, to relax and to focus on contracting and releasing the pelvic muscles, in particular those in her anus.

5. The Waiting Room

With your finger between the two anal sphincters, you have the perfect opportunity to stop and let your wife get comfortable, adjusting to the feeling of having you inside her in this way. If she finds it too strange, you can exit and go again with a bit more lube until she starts to get used to it.

When she’s ready to accept you further, you can put the same gentle pressure on her second sphincter, just an inch or two away from the first. Here again, you need to be accepted in, and it may be more difficult to coax the inner doorway, since it is not consciously controlled. She can’t just relax on command here.

Just remain still, applying pressure, and wait. If she doesn’t open up for you, take the hint. Move on to something new and come back again another day.

6. Check The Clock

The clock face is a great way to envision just about any erogenous zone when it comes time to explore its idiosyncrasies. In the same way that you can explore the vulva and the clitoris, as described earlier in this chapter and the last, beyond the second anal sphincter lies a space which you can explore in this same roundabout way.

Press along the outer edge of the rectum with your finger, stopping to make small circles at each hour. Try communicating with her what you’re doing and asking for her feedback. If she remembers too, it will help you to memorize which spots are her favorite.

7. Hit The Spot

I’ve explained how a woman’s genitals and reproductive organs are all intricately linked, so it may not surprise you to know that you can hit her G-Spot from inside her rectum… but it will probably surprise her!

At about three inches into her rear canal, you can crook your finger toward her vagina for easy access to her G-Spot and with a “come hither” motion might just be able to give her a G-Spot orgasm! If you can pull this off with some exterior urethral stimulation, perhaps using your tongue, you might just be able to see her squirt!

8. The Five-Finger Surprise

If hitting her G-Spot from one cavity isn’t quite impressive enough, why not try for two? This move, in fact, takes two hands to stimulate her entire genital pleasure system from top to bottom, front to back!

With one hand in the position above, stimulating her G-Spot from her anus, crook the thumb from the same hand into her vagina, pressing against the rear wall and perineum. You can begin to make come-hither motions with your finger immediately, or wait until your other hand is in position.

Insert the index and middle fingers of your other hand into the vagina and stimulate the G-Spot and A-Spot. Using the same technique as in the Three-way move, place the pad of your thumb on her clitoris, and rock this second hand back and forth, thereby stimulating her entire labia.

If you have trouble making these slightly different motions at the same time, focus on one hand then the other, seeing how she responds. Find a rhythm that works, and use it to take her all the way to orgasm!

2 Tell-Tale Signs That Your Sexual Stamina Is Below Par!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation can happen to any guy, and it can often sneak up on you. Are you missing these two signs that you’re not lasting long enough?

Does time seem to whiz by whenever you make out? More specifically, do you find it hard to lengthen the amount of time you have sex? For many men out there, premature ejaculation is a REAL problem they have struggle with. And for many women, sex is NOT as satisfying as it should be, for the simple fact that their partners are not able to last the distance.

Did you know that premature ejaculation is the number one problem in the bedroom? Most men do not have the stamina to have decent sex, let alone give their women sensational lovemaking. This can not only create resentment about sex, but also put unnecessary strain on a relationship. If you want your relationship to last, you really need to develop more stamina so you can give your lover the pleasure she wants, needs and deserves.

So how do you know if you are lasting long enough for her? Well, here are two obvious indicators:

1. The Principle Of Reciprocity

How is she responding to your advances? Does she look forward to making out with you? If you are not lasting long enough, chances are, sexual intercourse will become frustrating for her. Most women have a sexual response cycle of ten to fifteen minutes. Simply put, that is the average amount of time it takes for most women to achieve an orgasm through penetrative sex. But if she takes delight in every lovemaking session with you and wants to return you the favor, you know you are doing something right and you are most likely lasting way better than most guys out there.

2. The Measure Of Self Confidence

Do you look forward to sex? The reason I’m asking is because most men who suffer from premature ejaculation routinely find excuses to avoid any sexual contact altogether and I’m not kidding! The embarrassment and stigma associated with PE can be painful enough for a man to abstain themselves from any sexual activity. If you enjoy sex as much as your partner and step into each session with confidence, you have nothing really to worry about!

And the good news?

Even if your stamina isn’t up to the mark, you can take comfort from the fact that premature ejaculation is a treatable condition, and can be reversed with relative ease using a good dose of natural conditioning exercises.

Sex Positions She Likes Best

By dicksinthecity

Sex positions can make sex even better, but guys don’t often consider what a girl wants. Here are some of HER favorites you can use for great sex tonight!

A happy woman is vital to your sex life! Everyone knows men and women love sex, but which sex positions do women like this? Here are some tasty treats for you and your lover to try out!

What She Said About Sex Positions For Her:

All of them! OK, I know I represent a small majority of women who love sex in every form and position! And I am lucky enough (and work out enough) to have confidence in my body and allow myself to have a healthy body image. I think two naked or half naked bodies doing the horizontal mambo is super sexy! But, there are times when I prefer one position over another.

I have to say that woman on top (WOT is my favorite! When women are on top they can control the speed and depth. Also being on top is perfect for a women to find the right position that rubs her clitoris. Sometimes leaning forward, sometimes leaning back can do the trick. Doggy style is also a winner in my book and great for women who may feel self conscious about their bellies or boobs.

There is something so animalistic about doggy style that I think is a turn on and its also a great position for a guy to bite and nibble on your back and neck! Or he can just hold on to you with his hands, and man hands on a woman’s hip is super erotic. In doggy style, women can control the speed and depth too, just tell your guy to stay still and you can just back your ass up!

What He Said About Sex Positions For Her:

Okay, am I the only one that didn’t know WOT = woman on top? Really? I am? No one sent me the memo? That’s cold.

The sex positions she likes often boil down to either A) which ones she ‘knows’ will get or off or B) the ones that show off her best angles and make her look good.

Ideally every woman would have the confidence in their bodies that old men do. Any guy who has ever gone to the gym knows what I am talking about. They are old, they are fat, and they are naked. Constantly. And they want to have long, in depth conversations with you and they never, ever want to wear clothes. Ever. Not a stitch of modesty, or inhibition, why, I will never know, but every woman should be so uninhibited.

The more uninhibited you are, the more you enjoy sex, and the more sex positions you will enjoy.

Woman on top is great for so many reasons, chief among them the ease in achiving orgasm. I don’t care how unskilled the male lover may be, there’s no way the woman isn’t getting off on top. It’s just not possible. Not only is it guaranteed, her orgasm on top is usually quick and easy. She’s probably going to get off in that position before the man in her life.

I’m not sure it’s as efficient in achieving female orgasm as woman on top, but in my experience, every woman loves to do it standing up. Not every guy has the strength to handle it, but if you can handle it, another great sex position that every woman is sure to enjoy. I’m not sure why they love it so much. Maybe because it’s so primal, and so intense.

Mentally and physically, because you’re being penetrated in a way that is primal and intense, like no other position, and it’s a great measure of trust. He’s literally supporting you and you have to hold on to him in order to not fall and hurt yourself and potential him as well. It is not a position that a couple finds themselves in for super long (as it’s very taxing on the man and easy to get tired and then someone could get hurt), but it’s a pretty intense and amazing position.

How do you pull it off? The simplest way to get into this amazing sex position for women (and men) is to have the man sits on the edge of the bed, the woman sits on his baby maker, wraps her arms and legs around him and then he stands up and they do the horizontal mambo while standing up. A lot of men can’t hold that position for very long, for obvious reasons, so you can either, pick her up and lean up against the wall or do it like that for a while and then sit down on the bed again. You don’t need to hold that one long, women love that one for many reasons! It takes a bit of practice, but is well worth it!

You can then sit back down on the bed, and easily transition back into woman on top or another position.

Dirty Talk Phrases You NEVER Want To Use!

By dicksinthecity

Dirty talk can really spice up your sex life, but there are just some things that are off limits when it comes to talking dirty Never use these phrases! Dirty talk is a must have in any hot and steamy sexual encounter, from a quickie to a long term relationship. A little dirty talk can go a long way, but the wrong dirty talk phrases can take the relationship straight to nowheresville.

What She Said About Dirty Talk:

There are some sick and twisted people out there in the world that like the raunchiest, dirtiest, nastiest phrases. There are also some super sexy, highly sexual people who do not say a word during sex. I think dirty talk is something that should be explored in little steps to gauge what your partner is into. Moans are always a good way to start and then you can move on to describing what you want done or what you want to do to your partner. If all this seems to make the sex hotter then by all means take it up a notch (if it gets you hot too). But, there are a few grey areas when it comes to dirty sex.

These grey areas are lines that when crossed can make hot dirty talk turn terribly disgusting.

For starters, a dirt talk phrase that I would never want to use or hear is anything “family” oriented. This is any use of the nicknames “mommy,” “daddy,” “brother,” “sister,” “grandpa”. ICK. It’s one thing to be joking while out and call your man “Daddy.” But is something entirely different when you do it while he is banging you. There are a handful of guys who do get off on that but most likely these are also the guys that like to wear adult diapers and want to be breast fed.

Speaking of diapers, and sort of baby talk or goo-gooing is defiantly a no no. There is nothing sexy about a guy talking to you like he is a baby or like you are a puppy dog.

On the flip side, you don;t want to use dirty talk phrases that are too clinical sounding. I would steer clear of any phrase like, “Stick your penis in my vagina.” or “Lick my mammary glands” Ok, I know these samples are extreme but just in case you are a moron and don’t know any better don’t sound like a 7th grade Sex Ed class. But do feel free to role play some naughty catholic school girl and dirty principle fantasies!

What He Said About Dirty Talk:

The first dirty talk phrases you should never want to use are the ones that are deal breakers for your partner(s). Some women may be okay with being called a slut. Some may punch you when they hear that. You typically will have to have a sit down (clothes on) to negotiate the dirty talk phrases you will use. She may want to call you think you may not like and vice versa. Some compromise and give and take will happen. Sort through all that first and foremost before you do anything else.

After that, I would say the next dirty talk phrase you want to avoid using is anything that makes her feel to used and vulgar. A lot of people are into that, but you’ll want to make sure that after you’re done getting naughty she doesn’t feel cheap or used or like a whore.

While you’re doing it, that’s totally fine and even expected and healthy, but afterwards if she’s feeling like a piece of meat, that’s not cool. When she puts her clothes on, she should feel good about what you all just did and super eager to take them off again.

Also, avoid dirty talk phrases that sound like they came from a raunchy teen sex comedy or porn. You should avoid the former because they’re usually uttered by characters who don’t know what they are doing sexually and this is heightened for comedic effect. You also want to avoid comments used by the latter because there are things you can say and do in porn that just have no basis in reality whatsoever.

If you’re going to bust out your dirty talk in the heat of the moment instead of negotiating them first, I would suggest starting small, and relatively safe and less naughty. Try it and see what he/she does and how they respond. You never want to go big and bold too fast. The dirty talk phrases you never want to use are the ones the ones that will get you cut off and cut out the sexy fun time for good.