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How To Choose The Right Sex Positions

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Sex positions can definitely spice up your sex life, but how do you choose the right ones when there are so many different options? Find out now!

Who hasn’t heard of the Kama Sutra? The Perfumed Garden or The Tao? These ancient love texts exhibit the various ways a couple may entangle themselves at play. And no, they are not porn.

Getting into various sexual arrangements can spice up a sleepy erotic existence, in addition to being a good way to discover each other’s hidden talents. Guys will always want to test the limits of a woman’s flexibility, leg power and skull strength.

But do not assume that the more Evil Knievel-ish the poses, for the lady, the hotter the sex is. While experimenting is good, it should be tempered by common sense so nobody ends up in the emergency room in the middle of the night. Getting into acts hazardous to your health is insane, your choice of sexual positions shouldn’t constitute acts of stupidity, as if you’re out to prove anything.

People will have different takes on plow positions, depending on their tastes; one will be preferred over the others. The following are the five things you should factor into choosing your sex positions.

1. Movement

Men will always favor situations that allow for thrusting with reckless abandon. (We will discuss later what these positions are.) Certain arrangements allow for excellent movement and mobility, others, not so much. In fact, some greatly restrain movement it will seem that your partner has you on a body lock.

2. Accessibility

This refers to manual and visual accessibility to a woman. Some thrusting positions free a hand or two, allowing them to wander into other territories. (As you may already know, a great deal of these free hands end up at the breasts.) Others require both arms for balance & stability for the stroke.

Men love to ogle the goodies as they pound away. Bouncing breasts, moaning faces, and of course, tight behinds are winners. But because the body is profiled a certain way, manual and visual access to these may not be available all at the same time. Woman-on-top for example, makes the face and breast visually and manually accessible, but it leaves her buttocks hidden from view. In a way, there’s a Catch-22 going on.

Very notable height discrepancies between couples can make for some uncomfortable sexual positions. A giant and a dwarf, on the same bed, will have issues with alignment and reach. The ideal is for both to be of the same height and weight categories. The good thing though is that significant height and weight discrepancies among couples are not very common.

3. Stress & Strain

During the sexual tumble, muscles and bones do receive reasonable stress. This is again a question of health, conditioning and medical conditions. Your options for positions will greatly depend on what both your bodies can do COMFORTABLY.

Sex can be lethal. If you’re a couple of 120-year olds still getting some action, there will be positions your soon-to-be bereaved family will strongly advise against. You’ll be better off with more relaxed and more subdued sexual maneuvers.

There are positions that overly strain your back, hips, neck or legs.

You will instantly know what these are because your body will be screaming, “Are you kidding me?!” Others are borderline acrobatic and will drain the joy from the act.

Why engage in those non-practical positions anyway? But if you’re young, healthy and able, you have a lot going for you – there’s POWER OF CHOICE in that.

4. Orgasm Potential

Sexual positions have different clitoris and G-spot potential – some target them perfectly, others render them next to useless.

To increase your hit rate, recall the locations of these two: (1) the clit is located OUTSIDE the vagina – safely nestled under a hood ABOVE the vaginal entrance where the Labia minoras meet. It gets off on friction & pressure. The G-spot on the other hand can be excited INSIDE, through the TOP wall of the vagina.

There are choice arrangements that fire up these areas and offer intense pleasure, eventually leading to a cussing climax. We will soon determine what these are, but men who generally consider themselves givers… already know.

5. Emotional & Psychological Effect

It’s interesting to note that the manner in which two bodies are configured has psychological and emotional bearings on the participants. The partner on top for example, will oftentimes experience the sense of power and leadership, by virtue of playing the dominant role. The one at the bottom can express trust and safe-vulnerability by being led and taking on a more tempered role.

There are positions that signal adventurous excitement and creativity, others, raw passion and unfettered intensity. Through tons of friction and closeness for example, certain positions enhance the feeling of intimacy between two naked bodies. Still, there are arrangements that strike a woman she’s merely being treated as a sexual object.

Mutual Masturbation For Beginners

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Mutual masturbation is a great way to connect with your partner and learn what she likes sexually so you can give her better, more intense orgasms!

We tend to think of masturbation as a solitary event, but it can also be a great addition to any couple’s list of erotic options. Simultaneous masturbation is an all-fun/no-danger way to share enjoyment and get to know each other’s preferences. This involves you two masturbating in each other’s presence.

When Should You Engage In Mutual Masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is definitely a thing to be taken into consideration if you want to create that special bond between you and your girlfriend or wife that will allow you to take pleasure in sex. If you are in the room while she is touching and fingering herself, you can understand better what she needs and what you’re supposed to do when you’re in charge.

What Does She Like?

Does she like short strokes or long strokes? Does she rub her clitoris clockwise or counterclockwise? Does she like her genitals be touched gently or does she like it rougher? Pulling or stretching? Fondling or fingering?

All these little secrets bring you closer and help you facilitate each other’s enjoyment of sex.

In order for her to feel comfortable enough to do it while you are watching, is only fair that you do it too. She will love watching you masturbate as much as you like watching her.

Once you both get worked up, you can switch and do each other (this is called mutual masturbation). There are numerous ways you can do this, just use your imagination, your hands and your tongues. The amount of pleasure that you can both get out of this is immense. Moreover, after such an intense bonding experience, she will feel more prepared and more comfortable about sex with you.

Solo masturbation orgasms can be extremely intense, because there’s no outside pressure or presence, but they can also be, I guess, lonely, for a lack of a better word. Partner masturbation orgasms feel different, there’s more of an energy exchange going on, a wavelike exchange of energy that makes the orgasm feel bigger and more satiating.

What It Can Do For Your Relationship & Sex Life

Ultimately, shared masturbation can and must build trust. When you expose yourself to another, you must know that your sharing is welcome, that you won’t be ridiculed. Truman Capote used to say: “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” This should remain valid when it comes to simultaneous masturbation as well.

She doesn’t have to feel pressured to look or act in one way or another, but do it like nobody else was in the room. It can be difficult to convince your girlfriend or wife to agree to it, but not impossible. If she has doubts, check out the lists bellow (masturbation must have and masturbation must not) and find out what you have to do in order to assure her you’re not going to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.

5 Sex Games For Scorching Hot Foreplay

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Foreplay doesn’t have to be the same every time. Check out these sizzling sex games for a new twist on before sex fun!

Everyone loves scorching hot foreplay. Everyone loves sex games. What is the connection between the two? Does scorching hot foreplay and kinky fun sex games really have to be separate? Not by a long shot. Playing sex games is a great way to have amazingly hot and naughty foreplay that will burn your house down! Here are some really naughty sex games that will guarantee you’ll have all the amazing foreplay you can possibly handle!

1. Time Dash

Get yourself a timer and set it for say 10 minutes. You can play it several different ways after you set the timer. You can, for example say: for ten minutes, we’re only going to make out, or you have to let me give you oral sex for ten minutes nonstop. Or you can just say, we’re going to do everything but have intercourse for ten minutes and stick to that time dash, no matter what.

You’ll have to be firm on that, no pun intended. When that timer goes off, you’ll more than likely go straight to hard core intercourse, anal sex or whatever it is you’re into from that point on, but it’s super important to stick to the time limit no matter what.

2. Foreplay Truth Or Dare

Cliché, yes. Effective? You bet your ass. Sometimes times the classics still work. Truth or dare is pretty simple. You know the game, basically, without me telling you. The main thing to keep in mind is to set up some ground rules. You want to push the erotic envelope and get partners out of their sexual comfort zones, but you don’t want to force them to do something they aren’t down with for one reason or another. Finding the balance between the two is key to having ample amounts of scorching hot foreplay.

3. Naked Twister

I have never finished a game of naked twister. Come to think of it, I don’t know how you actually finish a game of naked twister, but you get the idea. Just a matter of minutes into naked twister, you’re going straight into oral sex, if not outright intercourse. Oh, if I had a nickel for every time I had a 69 on a twister mat, I’d be rich.

4. Slave For A Day

It’s not exactly a board game, but it’s hard to go wrong with “slave for a day” or night. It’s pretty simple: you are your lovers sex slave for a day, or if you don’t want to do the whole day, or you can’t do the whole day, just do it for an evening. Start by stripping naked and getting them naked. Then do whatever your master wants you to, no questions asked (it’s always good to have a safe word as well).

Being submissive to their dominant “master” is usually pretty hot for both people, especially if you are usually in the opposite role in the relationship. The permission and trust it takes to be master or slave creates erotic energy you can cut with a knife. That’s a recipe for scorching hot foreplay if ever there was one.

5. Naked Yoga

Maybe not a game per se, but you should totally do it. You can’t go to a studio to due naked yoga, but you can totally do it in you living room. There are plenty of yoga DVD’s out there and there are now many websites that are offering on demand, streaming yoga classes.

This is awesome, and multitasking at it’s finest. You both get a work out in, and you’re gong to get hot, sweaty, horny and loosened up, all of which will be a great primer for sex.

Seeing each other naked, is hot. Everyone male or female who has gone to a yoga class undoubtedly has fantasized about seeing the person doing downward dog in front of them doing it butt ass naked. Why not give your lover the gift of making that a reality?

It’s super important to finish the entire 90 minute class. Why? The anticipation will send you out of your mind, which you probably saw coming. But regular yoga practice makes men last longer and helps women have orgasms more easily and intensely. And it preps you for sex by loosening up your muscles, tendons and ligaments.

You won’t have any tight spots, no aches and pains at least for a while after you do yoga and that will help you have better sex for longer and all of this is nothing more than scorching hot foreplay. You finish that yoga DVD and you’ll be ready to go straight to the intercourse, no more foreplay needed, but if you wanted to do some foreplay, it’ll be the hottest foreplay action you’ve had in a while.

Hot New Twists On Classic Sex Games!

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Sex games that have been done over and over can be boring. But you can try these sexy new ways to do old sex games and have tons of fun!

Food Games

Every once in a while, choose culinary delights to accompany your intimate enterprise. In the field of food alone, there’s of myriad things to do – so long as the couple is not afraid of getting messy. Practically anything set on a table and served on a plate can be eaten off the human body. Practically anything a hand can hold can be fed to your lady.

But don’t feast ‘til the tank’s full, that’ll only make you sleepy, you might as well forego the sex. In this context, food exists to tease the senses – not just the tongue, but also the skin, eyes and nose. Work your appetite with torrid sex, then eat to your heart’s content during the Afterplay dates.

Food can get messy, especially if you have food fight in the agenda. I suggest you buy a special mattress exclusively for sex play, something that doesn’t absorb liquid or stain. You can use the ones they have in gyms, lay it on the floor and you’re good to go – you won’t have to worry about going to the cleaners in the morning.

Besides ice, mints, candy, wine, strawberries and whipped cream, here are other food ideas:

  1. Chinese food – Work the grease on each other. This may not be your idea of romance, but who knows, it might be your idea of fun. It will feel odd initially, but then you’ll remember how wonderful it was to be in a sandbox. Play and eat, be a child once again. Finish the messy affair by lathering each other in the shower. Get ready for some serious action after.
  2. Sauces – See how adorable she looks with some sauce on her face. (Don’t use too much, licking it all off can be nauseating.) Liquids are mainstays during foreplay, when penetration is not the main issue. Getting foreign liquids into the vagina may disturb the pH balance inside, so be careful not to drip anything in. Finally, cleaning up is as important as getting messy, make sure you still approach it with childish fun.
  3. Fruits – There are messy fruits, there are easy fruits – take your pick. Consider the issue of seeds, pulp and flow of juices.

Role Playing

Pepper your encounters with role playing and themes by putting on your best acting pants and pretend you are making love like different couples.

A very big warning though: WHEN THE GAME STOPS, WHEN IT’S ALL OVER, YOU HAVE TO STOP PLAYING THE PART – don’t get carried away. Moreover, never hurt, abuse or threaten your partner – I don’t care what the role you’re playing is. Keep it light, playful and flirtatious.

  • Doctor & Nurse
  • Dentist & Assistant
  • Judge & Lawyer
  • Boss & Secretary
  • Rockstar & Groupie
  • Superstar Athlete & Reporter
  • Business Tycoon & French maid

Of course, it can also go the other way and women can play the dominant role:

  • Hot Teacher & Naïve Student
  • Amazon Boss & “Let’s see if you’re really gay” Assistant
  • Horny Mistress & Pizza Boy
  • Beauty Queen & Pool Boy
  • Horny Heiress & Hunky Gardener

Mix & match, and make your own. Try Astronaut and Alien!

Sex Toys

There’s a legion of sex toys available in the market today – some of them will work for you, others are better off as home decors. But you will find that those that rub you the right way are really heaven sent.

Toys don’t get tired or think that the kitty tastes awful. They simply do their job and allow both of you to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Vibrators and butt plugs don’t compete with you, they aid in your pleasure and are on your team. Many get threatened with sex gadgets. It’s the “Why, am I not enough?” feeling that nips on the egos of men.

But there’s really nothing to be insecure about. You are definitely better than any toy – more delightful than any battery-operated device. Toys might bring her orgasms, but they are only physical implements devoid of psychological warmth.

You’re different – you’re a fumbling, sometimes clueless, ball of fun! So don’t think twice of employing toys, it’s not cheating. It’s simply admitting to being human. Face it, you can’t vibrate your tongue or fingers as rhythmically and tirelessly as any garden-variety vibrator. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

To spice up sex toys, try masturbating in public, in a discreet way. Bring a quiet vibrator to a movie theater, or masturbate in your car on a long drive. Wear a pair of quiet, vibrating panties to a business meeting and try your hardest to keep a straight face! When it comes to sex toys, use your imagination to bring life to old, played out toys.

3 Premature Ejaculation Misconceptions You Must Not Believe!

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Premature ejaculation is often misunderstood. Clear the air and learn the truth about PE with these three untruths!

Almost three quarters of men are affected by premature ejaculation at some stage in their lives. Unfortunately, a lack of understanding of this sexual dysfunction has led to the birth of several misconceptions regarding this condition. If you have been suffering from the embarrassing problem of early ejaculation, you need to familiarize yourself with these false notions FIRST, before you have any chance of turning the tables on PE.

1. Premature Ejaculation Is Caused By A Weakened Libido

In fact, the reverse is true! Ejaculating early is often the result of getting too excited too fast. If you have a super responsive pleasure system, you are more likely to suffer from PE – which usually happens to young men (especially those in their early 20’s) who have absolutely no problems with their libido. The problem arises when men are unable to exert control on their arousal at the right time. This is what causes the male sexual arousal to peak in a hurry, resulting in a premature ejaculation.

The best way for you to avoid PE is to exercise your pelvic muscles and gain superior control over your arousal.

2. Mental Manipulation Is A Wonderful Way To Prevent An Early Climax

Not true. Think about this for a moment: What is the purpose of having sex if you are going to avoid the pleasure by putting your mind somewhere else? There are a number of ‘experts’ who would advise you to think about other things during sex so that you can avoid a premature ejaculation. This is NOT the best solution, and hardly practical at all if you truly want to enjoy sex.

3. There Are Quick Fixes To Cure PE

There is NO quick fix that can secure a permanent solution to your problem. Although there are some pills, desensitizing sprays or climax control condoms that can give you an instant boost in staying power, these solutions are really more of a clutch than a real cure. You can try out all the so called libido boosters and enhancers but again, these are not permanent solutions. By and large, premature ejaculation can be permanently treated only through a combination of natural techniques such as Kegel exercises and mental arousal control.

Get yourself acquainted with these myths and misconceptions about premature ejaculation. That is the first important step towards banishing PE from the bedroom and achieving a respectable sexual stamina to boot!