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5 Sex Positions For Fingering

Fingering isn’t just something high school kids do – it can be a legitimate form of hot, steamy foreplay and it can be an incredible addition to penetrative sex. In fact, many girls won’t get off on just penetration alone – they need some extra stimulation to their breasts or clitoris in order to reach orgasm. Using your fingers during sex can be extremely exciting for her! Try these sex positions for the ultimate fingering!

The true fingering aficionado doesn’t need to take a break just to get his hands into the mix. There are several different sexual positions from which you can extend a helping hand and touch your girl’s naughty bits, so get ready to get funky with these legendary moves.

1. Missionary

From the missionary position, you have your choice of easy access points, if you can keep your balance by kneeling or propping yourself up on one arm. Kim Cattrall recommends a pinkie in the pink. Reach around and while you are thrusting slow and shallow, place a well-lubricated pinkie finger against her anus and apply steady pressure. From this position, you can hold her tight and thrust away. Each movement will rock her insides just right!

Try spreading her outer labia as you thrust, or squeezing them gently around your shaft. If you want to get even greater access to her back door from the missionary position, have her bring her legs together up over her head, then bend at the knees to press the soles of her feet against your chest. From this position she has great leverage to lift up her butt, and you can explore some anal play.

2. From Behind

Whether you are kneeling on the mattress or standing up on the floor behind her, this position is not only super sexy in that primal sort of way, but leaves your hands totally free to play and explore with any erogenous zone you can reach!

Reach around and massage her breasts, hold on to her shoulders, run your fingers down her spine. If she is into it, you can get a good grip on her hair and give it a bit of a tug. Make sure you grasp it close to the nape of her neck, and get all of it in your clenched fist at once. Gentle tugs will stimulate her scalp and might just play into some kinky fantasies of hers too!

For an extra stimulating surprise, try angling away from her body a bit on one side, so you can reach your hand, palm down, underneath your penis. In this position, you can enter her with both your penis and one, or maybe two, fingers, crooked toward the mattress so you can hit her g-spot!

If you are coordinated enough and have enough reach, you can even use the other hand to stimulate her clitoris, or to ask her to rub herself while you penetrate. This is also a great position to use your thumbs for exploring her back door, so be sure to have lots of lube handy.

3. She’s On Top

When it comes to intercourse, studies conclusively show that the woman-on-top positions are the best for getting her to orgasm. This gives her the chance to set the pace and depth, but also gives you the complete use of your hands, with which to make her feel good.

Try just spreading her lips as she bounces on your shaft. If she doesn’t move too much, you can also try twiddling your thumbs over the sensitive nub, or massaging her labia. If she turns around to face your feet in this position, you’ll have great access to her rear passage, and if you sit or prop yourself up a bit, you can fondle her clitoris and breasts at the same time!

4. Side By Side

If what you really need is encouragement to slow down and escape from all the high impact thrusting, a luxurious, relaxing, side-by-side position is perfect for keeping things calm. While you are thrusting in this sex position, just about all of the earlier exercises described above in the “looking-at-her-feet” category can be used. Try resting the heel of your hand on her mons, to stimulate her labia and clitoris while you thrust.

5. Standing At Attention

It’s pretty daring, but sex standing up can be absolutely amazing. If you want to be able to use your hands for anything other than holding her up, have her bend over and put her hands on a table or chair to support herself, thereby leaving you free to use any of the “from behind” positions above!

What Is Foreplay?

By loveandsex

Foreplay is something many men have heard of, but some actually don’t know what it is! But foreplay is essential for great sex, so here’s what you need to know!

Foreplay is generally regarded as the set of activities couples enjoy before he mounts her and pump away. The list includes kissing, licking, sucking, biting, hugging, caressing, nuzzling, smelling, touching, slow dancing, eating off each other’s bodies, teasing, testing the limits of sex toys, kneading, scratching, oral sex, erotic massage, dirty talk and virtually anything inspired by the couple’s imagination that isn’t penis to vagina penetration.

(This list is actually endless.)

Women are suckers for these, it’s in their very nature to be so.

While men can do without such and still be happy, women are more engrossed by them. I’m telling you, investing on these sub-arts guarantees an unbelievable upsurge in your erotic affairs, adding oomph and pizzazz to your encounters.

What Is It For?

You thought foreplay was for heating her ovens, did you? It’s the all-too-common, “We’re gentlemen, so let’s get her hot & wet first”, where foreplay is seen as an opening act.

That mindset has tripped a man too many. When you consider foreplay simply as a preliminary, you will inevitably suck at it. For how can you rock when you’re already imagining how wonderful it would be to slide inside your lover? The finest foreplayers are the ones who are lost in the moment.

Yes, foreplay will eventually heat her ovens, create palpable tension and bring her to a rabid sexual flush – but these are only the side-effects. Getting her hot and ready doesn’t overshadow the fact that foreplay is an end unto itself, not needing any ulterior motive. Side-effects should not be confused with the sheer delight of doing it.

Foreplay was never meant to be just a preliminary and you won’t recognize the delights offered by its outstretched arms until you stop seeing it as one. It would be a great sensual waste, for example, if you kiss with the hope of it leading somewhere, and miss on the fact that the kiss in itself is full of savory, mouth-watering treats. Such a waste.

Think about this for a minute: For many women – foreplay is it. (Let me give you time to let that one sink in.) For many women, foreplay is the thing, it is the sex thing. It’s their reason for the deed!

It’s when most of the things she loves take place – all the kissing, touching – everything! It’s where she feels those emotional stirrings and ecstasies women desire. It’s when they feel most wanted, most needed, most beautiful – it’s when you’re kissing them and holding them, (not when you’re feverishly thrusting into them). Many guys miss this. It blows my mind how guys simply breeze through something as big of a deal for a girl!

Why Does It Work?

Why do you think foreplay works in revving her engines in the first place?

It’s because women are great fans of it! That’s why it gets them hot and ready to ride you. In a world where girls don’t appreciate F – it won’t work, you can caress and tease all day long, and still end up with a lady bored to death. But our women do appreciate F, it inflames and energizes them. And rushing through it doesn’t endear you to her, as you’re making light of things she loves the most.

Stop treating foreplay as an opening act, and you will be a top act. You will see possibilities when you forget intercourse for the moment, and deal with what is at hand – you’ll do a much more amazing job too!

When that happens, your partner will experience the kind of longing that you want. She will have a real desire to be penetrated, to have you inside her. She will ask, bitch and nag just so you finally do her. So wise up!

How To Get It On When You Have Kids

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips often cover the “how to” but not necessarily the “how.” If you have little ones, having sex can be a challenge. Check out these ways to get busy!

Baby makes three(or more), but does it make for a happy sex life? Generally, couples have more difficulty maintaining a healthy sex life when they start hearing the pitter patter of little feet. But does having kids really have to mean the end of intercourse, or sex in general as you know it? No, no it doesn’t. But how do you keep the passion going? It’s easy when you know how.

What She Said:

I have no children (at least none that I know of) but I come from a family of 5 kids and I’ve been around enough couples with kids to know that it can be hard to find alone time. With kids around, you almost have to resort back to the ties you started dating and back to quickies. You might not have the time or energy for a whole night but you can always find 10 minutes for a quickie. Have sex in the shower! Or set the alarm a few minutes early you can have some mommy and daddy time.

When kids go down for a nap, you two should also head to bed but for other reasons. Get a lock on your door too, if kids ask, don’t lie but let them know you are just having some of your own nap time. True it might be awhile until you have hours of sex but having a quickie a few night a week is all you really need to keep the spark going and it should not interrupt kid time.

What He Said:

The most important thing is to simply accept the reality of the situation: your sex life has changed. For the next 20 years or so, you have a child and that child requires constant attention. Having a child will change your sex life forever, that is a fact. Whether or not that is a change for the better or worse is up to you and your partner. If your sex life goes in the toilet, don’t go blaming it on your kid. It’s not their fault.

Sex will be different. The biggest thing that is affected by kids is the spontaneity. You will never have that again. Yes, you should have date nights and staycations where you go to the hotel and screw like single people, but your sex life from now on will have to be scheduled. Budget it into your day planner, and don’t worry about whether or not you want to do it or not. Being in the mood is hard when you have kids, and if you wait till you are in the mood to do it, you might never have intercourse again.

The main way to get it on when you have kids is just to plain have sex. Period. Doesn’t matter how long it lasts or if it’s good or not. My philosophy is that sex is like pizza. There’s no such thing as bad pizza. There’s okay pizza, good pizza, great pizza, mind blowing pizza. But it’s never bad. It’s only bad when you don’t have it.

A funny thing will happen to you when you and your partner start screwing regularly after having kids: you’ll remember how much you love doing it. You’ll be happier, more relaxed, and the intercourse will begin to flow freely like beer at a frat party. Then, suddenly, before you know it, you’ll be in the mood again, and the sex will be awesome, if not in quality, certainly in quantity.

Again, the consistency factor is the main way to get it on when you have kids, but ownership is just as important. You’ll need to take ownership of your sex life like never before, and you’ll have to get it in all of your heads (get it?) that your sex life is going to be the best it’s ever been and nothing else will be entertained in the slightest. This may require a various array of tools in your sex kit: swinging, sex toys, vibrators, strap ons, tantra, sensual massage, porn, weekend getaways, whatever it takes. You two are a team and you should be committed to the goal of great sex, and not really care how it gets there.

Remember, above all else, that it is possible to have a healthy, regular, erotic and sensual sex life even after multiple children. It will take a bit of work, but it is totally doable (see what I did there?) And it’s a worthwhile goal. And yes, it takes practice, but isn’t that the fun of it?

How To REALLY Please Her In Bed

By lloydlester

Orgasm is something every guy wants to give a girl. But is that all she wants? Find out how to go beyond a female orgasm and give it all to her.

There is more to becoming a better lover than just the mechanics of sex. A man needs to be both the bad boy as well as a sensitive man in order to please most women. There are techniques that will work in various circumstances that any man can use and will turn any guy into a Don Juan. If you are ready to be the type of man who can please any woman in bed and prime her for wild screaming orgasms, then read on!

“Seductive Orator”

Tell her you want her. Sounds simple enough, right? But so many men just jump right into sex without even saying these words. Women need to connect at an emotional level before they can truly get sexually aroused. Tune her in, get her into the mood. Words have an extremely powerful effect on women.

Tell her how much she turns you on, that you were thinking of her all day and how much you want to give her an amazing time in bed. Get into the head of a woman FIRST and you will be the lover she has always dreamed about!

“Sensual Kisser”

Most men do not kiss long enough. And many women complain that they receive too little kissing from their lovers. In order to be the man of her fantasies, make sure you do not neglect her in this department. Her lips and tongue have millions of sensitive endings waiting to be stimulated, so light up her erotic passions through these areas. Put your tongue to good use and give her long, lingering kisses!

Don’t just focus on her mouth. Kiss, lick and nibble on her neck and shoulders too. Kissing is a great prelude to sensational sex and can turn on the “orgasmic furnace” in a woman like nothing else can.

“Whimsical Lover”

Lovemaking can get mundane for both you and her after a while, especially when you are in a long term relationship. That is the last thing you want in bed. In order to keep sex exciting, you need to be a bit unpredictable in the bedroom. One way to do this is to break out of your routine and do something new.

A new position, a new place to have sex – anything to get out of the rut! No one wants the same old, same old when it comes to sex. And an unpredictable move on your part is bound to light her passions and orgasmic fire!

How To Get Her To Make A Sex Tape For You

By serenapaige

Homemade porn made just for you is a wonderful thing to have. But just how to you get your lover to do a sex tape? After you use these tips, she’ll WANT to!

Making a sex tape with your girlfriend can be fun and exciting. However, if your girlfriend or wife is not exactly keen on the idea of being on camera, there are a few things that you can do to convince her. Making sex tape is not like it used to be. Nowadays with the Internet, everybody is extremely weary of where the tape might end up.

The camera on your cell phone has the ability to capture your sex life with the utmost detail. Making a sex tape literally takes the push of a button. If your girlfriend or wife has told you no in the past, you might be able to butter her up with these easy methods.

Build Trust

The number one reason the girl would not want to make a sex tape is the fact that they don’t know whether or not he could hurt them in the end. There are a lot of websites that pay great money for amateur porn. If your girlfriend has told you know in the past it might be because she does not have enough trust in the relationship.

Telling your girlfriend that you would never sell a sex tape to a website or upload it to a free porno site is probably not enough to sway her interest in your sexual fantasy. Her girlfriend doesn’t trust you there’s no way that she’s ever going to make a sex tape with you. Build trust in the relationship so that she knows you would never do anything to hurt her, including releasing a sex tape to the public.

Alleviate Body Issues

Another reason that some girls will not make a sex tape with their significant others is the fact that they have body image issues. Girls are just like guys, they have insecurities when it comes to physicality. If your girlfriend or wife does not have enough confidence in herself or in the way that she looks she will be strongly weary of making a sex tape with you.

Even if she knows that the sex tape would only be viewed by you and her she could be afraid of how she looks onscreen. Reassure her that she is beautiful and that you think making one could be a fun and kinky way of spicing up your sex life.

Ease Her Into It

Making a sex tape is a lot like having sex for the first time. The last thing you want to do is jump right into it. Ease her into it by starting off slow. Start off with a tape of you performing oral sex on her or her performing oral sex on you. Watch the tape together and then delete it together.

Once your girlfriend or wife sees the way that she looks on camera she will probably be much more open to making a full-fledged sex tape with you. She will also be reaffirmed by having the video deleted. Once a girl sees that the video she just made can be deleted forever she will probably be much more open to making a real sex tape.

Get The Lighting Right

The lighting for your sex tape should always be in the favor of the girl. If there is bad lighting in the room imperfections of your girlfriend or wife can easily stand out. Not everybody has perfect skin so it is a very common issue for people to get nervous on camera. Make sure that the lighting in the room isn’t going to show off her bad qualities.

With high definition video imperfections can easily be seen, bringing in and to your sex tape before it even begins.

Film Without The Face

As the cameraman on this shoot, you can easily convince your girlfriend or wife to make a sex tape by leaving her face out of it. The face is the most identifiable part of the human body. If your wife or girlfriend has refused to make porn in the past it’s probably because they don’t want it wanting up on the Internet so that friends and family can see.

If you assure her that you’re going to leave out the face, meaning both your face and her face, there will be no identifying parts to lead back to her or you. Girls are just as worried about somebody seeing you in the sex tape as they are of seeing themselves. Once you have completed the tape without filming her face, watch it together. She may even be game for keeping it since it would not lead back to her or you.