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The Best Sex Tips You’ve Never Heard Of

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Sex tips are often things you see over and over again – the same ones, literally beat into your brain. But here are some incredible sex tips that are brand new!

Everyone could always use a really great sex tip, regardless of your skill level. From passionless missionary sex to oral sex that is more paint by numbers that porn star wild, you may need a few tricks of the trade to spice things up. Or maybe things are hot and you want to make them even hotter.

What She Said:

There are so many sex tips out there when it comes to pleasing your man, but what about you? Below, I offer some sex tips specifically for women to use on themselves.

Sex is a mental thing for women, we have to shut out the outside world and ignore our to-do list. You have to silence your inner critic and all those voices in your head. One way to help silence them is to prep your mind for sex. Think sexy thoughts throughout the day. Why not wear sexy lingerie under your normal work clothes. No one has to know what you are wearing under there and that makes it all the more sexy! Another tip is to watch a sexy movie or read some erotica before you get busy with your man. There is such a wide array of porn that is catered to women that you are bound to find something that helps light your fire.

Now that you have spent some extra time getting yourself into the mood, the next step is to get it on. My next tip and one of my favorites, is to TAKE CONTROL! Make the first move or show him what you like. In order for him to please you he needs to know what you like. So many women just go through the motions of sex without speaking up or showing their lover what they like. So get on top of him and use him as your own personal sex toy.

While you are on top, lean forward so your clitoris gets all the delicious contact it needs. While on top you can also control the pace and depth. Make it a game, tell him he can’t come until you have. A woman who can own her sexuality and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants in bed is the sexiest sex tip of all!

What He Said:

The best sex tip I can offer is to look good naked. Working out is great. It boosts your libido, your mood and when you look great naked, you want to be naked more often. It also can help you attract the hottest lovers of your life!

Any kind of exercise will do, at the end of the day it’s what works for you. Yoga is great, because it’s basically porn already. Don’t believe me? Go to a yoga class. There are strippers and porn stars who wear more clothing. And you’ll get all hot and sweaty with sexy people bending over, twisting like pretzels, it’s hot.

You have to own it too. Sex starts and ends in the mind. If it’s not there to begin with, it won’t happen in your naughty bits. Meditation is good, but also just stand naked in front of your mirror butt ass naked and really get comfortable in your skin. You are hot to someone and someone will want to have hot steamy intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, or whatever the hell else you’re into but first you have to feel good about you. That’s first.

Assuming you’ve got that taken care of, let’s get down to the brass tacks. Make your fantasies a reality. You may need to get creative. If you’ve always fantasized about a three way and you’re in a monogamous relationship, try getting a vibrator and using it in your backdoor while you have intercourse with your husband. If you want to be with a girl and you’re afraid or not ready (and you’re a woman) go to a strip club. Get a lap dance. If you’ve always wanted to be in control, buy handcuffs and handcuff your man to the bed. If you want to be dominant, be dominant. If you want to be submissive, be submissive.

I’m a big believe that the greatest sex tip is to find a way to have the vacation sex you love in your every day life. You may have to schedule it. Like married people with kids schedule sex or old people schedule their last glass of Ovaltine before the big Matlock Marathon. Just be consistent and be patient.

How To Give Her Great Sex And Make Her Orgasm

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An orgasm is sometimes elusive, leaving many men frustrated. Find out how to give her incredible sex and the best female orgasm of her life!

If you want to give your woman the most powerful orgasms that she has ever had, you have to understand how to seduce her to the point where she cannot take it any longer and begs you to take her. Many men never learn the art of teasing which is necessary in order to please a woman to the point where she quivers in anticipation and reaches an explosive climax.

Here are 3 hot and teasing moves that will enable you to get into a woman’s sexual psyche and help her reach the ultimate in female sexual ecstasy!

1. Tease Her Verbally

Drop hints on what you plan to do with her and start early, even during the day. This can be through a quick phone call or you can just brush up against her body during breakfast and tell her what you have in store for her that night. Women are “emotional beings,” so getting into her head is the KEY to getting her sexual temperatures soaring through the roof.

Women are also very much turned on by words – much more so than men. So start early by telling her a few naughty things and see where that gets you. Chances are, she will be hot before nightfall!

2. Tease Her With Caresses And Kisses

Instead of falling all over her with kissing and caressing, give her some of this necessary foreplay and then hold back. Continue to do this, going ever so close to her most erogenous zones such as her nipples and her clitoris before pulling back. This form of “strategic holding back” is extremely powerful, and creates a sense of heightened sexual anticipation that will make a woman hunger for more. Eventually, you will want to follow through what you are doing but not until you have teased her into begging you for more.

3. Tease Her With Your Manhood

Instead of plunging right into her during intercourse, take your time. By delaying your own gratification, you will reap greater rewards later on. Try teasing her by entering with just the head of your penis and then pulling out. Then do it again to build up the sexual anticipation within her. Shallow penetration will hit all the sensitive nerve endings located near the entrance of the vagina. Build up the anticipation and momentum. And pretty soon she will be arching her back towards you, beckoning you to finish what you started and priming her for the big “O”!

How To REALLY Eat A Girl Out

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Oral sex is something lots of girls love, but rarely get because many men just don’t know how to do it right. Here’s the truth about how to go down on a girl!

The long and short of it is this: A tongue on her vulva feels wonderful. Whatever your tongue does down there is almost always a hit. That’s how powerful that thing is. What parts of the vulva do you lick? Flick? Suck? The answer is: EVERYTHING!

Everywhere your tongue can take you, GO! You don’t focus on a few spots, you make a pass and provoke every single fold – she wants you to. Cover all her bases and make one juicy woman very happy.

So, you want to learn how to eat kitty? Let’s get to the trenches and be in on the action.

1. Start With Her Pubic Mound

The mound is a wonderful area to play with. Think: grazing goat – only the grass is black and you don’t have any horns. Go dive into her mound. Nuzzle and glide your lips around as if you’re tickling her. Feel the textures. Remember that with cunnilingus, both giver and receiver get sensual bombardment.

Blow onto the area and watch her shrubbery sway with every breath. Vary breeze temperature by increasing or decreasing the size of your mouth’s opening.

Try a playful nibble and bite.

2. Lick Around Her Large Labia (The Outer Lips)

Wet your lips and do lip glides. Glide over her fat lips. Then, lick them up and down – mostly up. A variation of this is moving your tongue rapidly from side to side whilst licking up and down.  If her labia allows, perform some nibbling or munching actions. This will initiate her into a happy rage.

3. Gently Nibble And Suck Her Smaller Labia (The Inner Lips)

If her inner-smaller lips could speak, they’d probably say, “Hey buddy, over here! Lick us, flick us, bite us… again and again.”

And that’s what exactly you should do – lick them good, flick them good. Use your hands to spread folds of skin and expose hidden surfaces. Then lick those lips. Let them have it. Bite on them with your lips, then gently tug. Stretch her labia around. Suck on them like a nipple. Bring them into your mouth, continuing to flick while inside. These will make her lose a little bit of composure.

Alternate between licks, sucks and bites. You know you’re doing great if you hear some moaning and heavy breathing.

4. Lick Her Vaginal Opening

Make sure this a wet and warm episode. First, lick around the vagina opening. Then spread her and lick the exposed sides. The most sensitive part is near the opening, so give it some good lovin’. She’ll start to well up so let her juices flow. Can you taste that? That’s her way of telling you she likes what you’re doing.

Lick up and down, side to side and go around and around her vaginal opening. Go soft, and then stiff. Use both pointed and flat tongue elements to create combos. Suck her juice if you want to, but whatever you do, never blow into the vagina.

Try extending your tongue as deep as you can. But don’t worry if you can’t venture very far, she doesn’t expect you to go frog or lizard on her. You can use fingering to take care of those corners.

5. Hone In On Her Clitoris

The clitoris is where it’s at guys. This is home, baby!

Listen. When she’s just starting to get warmed up, you can come and go with the clitoral excitation. But, when she’s on the verge of orgasm, you don’t ever, ever leave the nest. Continue clitoral stimulation, stay with it and forget the rest of her vulva. When you want to tease a woman, you do it while she’s on the build up stage. When she’s on the verge of an orgasm (or in the middle of it), you’ll have to be the biggest jerk not to finish the job.

Almost anything your wet tongue can do with the clitoris will feel good.

Attack and lick the surrounding areas first. Then lick through the hood. And when you lick the clitoral head itself, start with a flat, soft tongue. (Later, you can operate with the stiff and pointy version and seriously increase both speed & intensity.)

Be creative with your lapping. To induce variety, some guys imagine writing the Alphabet with their tongues. (It’s the tongue adaptation of that fine art of writing your name on snow when you pee.) And while you’re at it, “write” your age, address, heck, your whole resume, on her pleasure center.

That gives your tongue an assortment of combo’s. But as she’s nearing climax, hold off the variety and give her a rapid up-&-down or side-to-side stimulation she can count on.

Suck on her clitoris, but don’t suck it dry, suck it wet. Slurp on it like a baby searching for nourishment. Bring it and the surrounding area to your mouth – giving the zone a gentle tug. Then, electrify her senses by delivering flicking maneuvers while inside. Produce slurping sounds as you do. Before finally releasing the clitoris from your mouth’s blissful grip, let it pass through the smooth inner side of your lips.

THEN REPEAT.

In a very short while, her body will quake and enter an ecstatic orgasm!

Four Signs You Should NOT Sleep With Someone

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Sex tips will tell you how to have better sex, but what about whether you should have sex at all? Here are four indications you shouldn’t get busy.

1. You Don’t Have Protection

We’re not talking about handguns here.

Of all the reasons not to do it, this is the biggest one, and it should be a no brainer, but sadly it’s not. If you don’t have condoms, you should not sleep with someone. Period.

I know, I know. You’re already there, both parties are willing and they swear they’re clean. They’ve totally been tested recently and they passed with flying colors. Nothing could possibly go wrong here, right? Seriously? You have to ask?

You don’t need to look at government statistics. Way too many STD’s or unplanned pregnancies stem from this scenario. If you don’t have protection, don’t sleep with someone. And don’t just assume we’re talking about condoms here. This includes dental dams for rimming or oral sex, and latex gloves if you plan on fingering or fisting someone.

They may think they’re clean, maybe their last test was. But you could still catch a disease, like say herpes for which there is no relable test. If you aren’t prepared, don’t do it. So the moral of the story is if you want to sleep with someone, always have protection on you

2. You Don’t Really Want To

There are many reasons you might find yourself in a position to hook up with someone you aren’t super excited to. Maybe you’re in a slump and you just want to end it by any means necessary. Maybe you’re on an online date and this person is all about you and you don’t feel the same way. Maybe you know you want to watch Sportscenter instead. If you’re not feeling it for one reason or another, you shouldn’t sleep with someone. It’s not going to be that good for you, and it won’t be for them either, and if you’re a guy you might not perform as well as you would normally.

This temporary performance issue can lead to serious consequences long term for you and could make the other person feel unwanted or unattractive, which can cause confidence issues for them too. Now that’s one big shit sandwich. If you really aren’t super excited to sleep with someone you probably shouldn’t. I’m not saying you need to be in love with the person, but if getting them naked doesn’t make you feel like a kid of Christmas, you should probably consider passing.

3. Your Spidey Sense Is Tingling

None of us are perfect. We all have baggage in our past and skeletons in our closet. So don’t go running if the person you go home with doesn’t exactly have what it takes to be a foot model. But if they takes off their shoes and the smell is so bad the EPA tries to regulate the emissions, you might not want to sleep with this person.

If this person seems super negative, or high maintenance, or exhibits any of your “deal breakers,” just move on. And above all, if they seem super crazy or clingy or needy, just bail. If your intuition is telling you something is wrong now, just move on. It’s not like it’s going to go away. You’ll never hear anyone say: “Yeah, I thought he/she was kind of crazy after they said they like to kill small animals while listening to Justin Bieber, but it turns out they’re the love of my life.” That just does not happen. Period.

If you have doubts, any doubts at all, do not have sex with someone. This, like all rules should be taken with a grain of salt. If you find that everyone who wants to sleep with you makes you have doubts, then well, that’s your bad. You should be mindful to make sure you aren’t the problem. If you don’t want to sleep with them because they own a PC and you’re a Mac user, well, that’s not the most valid reason not to engage in intercourse, but to each their own.

4. They’re Way Tanked (Or You Are)

We’ve all hooked up at a bar, or when we were tipsy. But when someone is super tanked, you probably shouldn’t sleep with them. Some states consider that sexual assault as the person is not sober enough to give consent. You might wake up next to someone you’d claw your arm off not to wake up next to. The only thing worse than waking up with post drunken one night stand regret is to be super happy with the person you hooked up with, because it means they’re looking at you with regret. Better to wait till your somewhat sober.

How To Turn A Shower Before Oral Sex Into Foreplay

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Oral sex can be a lot of fun, but if he’s not clean first, it’s only fun for him. Here’s how you can get him to shower before oral sex and make it foreplay.

You know that it is pretty much essential for a guy to shower before oral sex for both your sake and his – but just how do you broach the subject? Do you flat out tell him he stinks and needs to wash up before you come within 10 feet of his downstairs area? Absolutely not! This will kill his ego and turn him off for the remainder of the night. He won’t be able to enjoy the blowjob because he’s caught up in worrying if he smells bad down there or not. But does that mean you grin and bear the sweaty man odor?

No way!

You can get him to take a shower before oral sex without telling him he stinks and bruising his ego. It’s called foreplay.

Lure Him Into The Shower

Making a shower before oral sex a part of foreplay is the best way to get your man smelling fresh and clean without him being aware of what you’re up to. Look at it this way – he can’t resist a naked, soapy girl who wants to play with him, can he? Use this to your advantage! Lure him into the shower by telling him you want to be hot, wet and naked with him. Whisper in his ear that you want to feel your wet, soapy body sliding all over his. He’ll probably take his clothes off and high tail it to the shower so fast he leaves a smoke trail!

Soap Him Up To Turn Him On

If you’re whispering in his ear that you want to slide your hot, soapy body all over his in the shower, you’d better make good on your innuendo. Don’t hop in the shower and start scrubbing his balls right away – he’ll definitely get a clue then and he’ll be none too happy about it. Start by slowly soaping yourself down, spending a little extra time on your most sensitive parts, such as your nipples and your clitoris.

He’ll really enjoy the show and you’re bound to get turned on too! If he wants in on the action, let him get you sudsy first. Allow him to soap wherever he’d like and spend as much time as he likes there – that way, when you go to soap him down, it just seems like you’re copying what he’s doing.

When you’re washing his genital area, be gentle and keep up the notion that you’re doing it to turn him on, not to clean him up. If you lose yourself in the idea of pleasuring him, you’re going to forget what you’re doing too – and you’ll both end up getting out of the shower hot, steamy and turned on – not to mention clean. Use the soap as a sort of lubricant to allow your hand to slide up and down his shaft and all around his genitals.

Cup his scrotum gently as you wash him, and make sure to get under where his perineum is. He probably doesn’t want you to wash his anus, so skip that part unless you know for a fact that he likes that area stimulated. If you skip the perineum area, you’re likely to still have a strong odor when your fella gets out of the shower, because this is where most of the sweat and bacteria hangs out. Let him know how much it turns you on to see him all hard and soapy!

Give Him A Preview (Or Finish Him Off) In The Shower

Once he’s clean, you may want to surprise him with an in-shower blowjob. This can be super fun for the both of you, but may require some creativity on your part to find the right oral sex positions. Giving head in the shower is easier than having sex in the shower, but only marginally. The easiest way to do it is to have him stand while you kneel, but don’t be afraid to get a towel soaked in the name of making sure your knees don’t start to hurt five minutes in. If you have a large enough tub or an in-tub chair, you can have him sit down, while you sit cross legged in front of him.

If you’re lucky enough to be able to get into this position okay, this is going to be the most comfortable for you. Another option is to have him sit down in the tub, while you kneel on all fours and go down on him that way – again, a towel is your best friend here. Who cares if it gets soaking wet? You can always wash it later.

You can give him an oral sex “preview” while you’re in the shower, or you can totally finish him off there. It’s up to you and how you want to do it! Sometimes the hot, running water can be super sexy as you suck him off, and if he ejaculates semen in your mouth, the shower makes it much easier to spit and rinse your mouth out discreetly, without him ever knowing that you didn’t swallow! Experiment with different things in the shower and have fun with it!

Even though your main purpose is to get him clean before you go down on him, washing your man up and giving him a blowjob in the shower is fun in and of itself!