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4 Incredibly Naughty Rear Entry Sex Positions

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Sex positions are a great way to spice up your sex life. If you want to add a naughty element, try these 4 super hot rear entry sex positions tonight!

1. The Partial Wheelbarrow

Ask your partner to bend at the waist in front of a chair or bed, and get her to rest her head and forearms there comfortably. Stand behind her and grab onto one of her ankles, pulling her leg off the floor so that it’s close to your hip. Tell her to keep her knee bent and limp in your hand, so that you can push against it when thrusting so as not to hurt her. Then enter her from behind, making sure she’s still got one foot on the floor and she’s using her head and arms to balance herself. Put your free hand on her opposite hip, and move inside her using her hips as the pivot point.

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You get to thrust to your heart’s content and get an amazing view of her jewels, while she gets the head rush of being face down, with all the G-Spot stimulation she craves. She can also create a lot of tension using her arms, and the angle from keeping one leg up in the air changes the feeling in an oh-so-orgasmic way. Vary things up a bit by bending your knees slightly for a slightly different angle. Whoever is able to reach can tickle her clitoris for extra sensory pleasure.

2. The Rocking Wheelbarrow

Get your gal into a push up position with her arms outstretched and her body off the ground. While standing behind her, lift one of her legs onto a rocking chair, while you hold her other bent leg just below the knee. Ask her to keep the leg on the chair as straight as possible while you enter her. She’ll be able to push back against the rocking chair for leverage, and you’ll be able to hold most of her weight. Use the chair to determine the rhythm, or have her push back with her arms and chair-bound foot. You’ll definitely want to have your knees bent for this position, and try to focus your thrusting upwards instead of into her body.

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We’re relying on her feeling of weightlessness again to help her along the orgasmic process, but this time she’s got a bit of extra help with the rocking chair. The chair helps with rhythm, helping to hold her steady while you have sex, and gives her something to help create tension, which we both know is incredibly important for a woman to reach an impending orgasm. Although she won’t be able to finger herself, she will get ample G-Spot stimulation along with a definite fun factor. This isn’t a position either of you will be able to hold for long, so try it out when she’s nearing her explosion stage, or when you’ve both got energy to spare.

3. Flying Doggy Style

Have your lover lie down on her stomach and do a push up, keeping her body straight and her legs bent. Come up behind her on your knees and grip her outer thighs as you slide into her. As you lift her pelvis, get her to wrap her legs around your back, while bending her knees even more and putting her calves behind your lower back or buttocks. If she’s in the correct position, her feet will face the ceiling and her bum will be flush up against the base of your penis. Support her weight with your hands, or place a large stack of pillows under her hips to help keep her in the right position  Glide your bodies back and forth in unison, but not too vigorously or she’ll lose her balance. The higher you’re able to hold her up off the bed, the more G-Spot stimulation she’ll receive.

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There’s nothing like doggy style sex for deep penetration, but the flying doggy takes deep to a whole new level. Play around with how you move inside of her, since only subtle movements are possible here. Try short, quick strokes to massage the area where her G-Spot sits, or try long, slow, languishing strokes where she uses her feet to pull you back inside of her. If she gets tired as she nears climax, have her tilt her head down while she props herself up on her forearms. This way she’ll still be suspended in air, but she’ll have better balance and less back strain.

4. Over And Under

Have your partner position herself in doggy position on the floor with a small table, chair or even a few pillows next to one of her legs. Get her to put one leg up on the support next to her, so that her leg is perpendicular to the floor and completely straight. Come at her from behind, placing one of your legs inside hers, the other outside her straight and propped-up leg. Kneel down with the majority of your weight between her legs and enter her. Your leg on the outside will likely only drape over hers without touching the ground, and that’s just what you want.

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You’re coming at her from an odd angle in this position, yet both partners have leverage to push back or thrust deeper. You’ll be a little off balance too, which might give her a rush from the unusual rhythm and thrusting, especially if she’s nearing the pre-orgasm phase. Because your body is propped up against the length of hers, you may be able to take one of your hands and sneak it underneath her for some clitoral action. If you can’t reach around, try pushing firmly on her mons pubis and see if you can feel your penis moving inside her. If you can, apply more pressure to sandwich those special G-Spot area nerve endings, and see if it brings her closer to orgasm even faster.

Are You Embarrassed By Premature Ejaculation?

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Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to rule your sex life. If you’re embarrassed by premature ejaculation, check out these tips.

Are you struggling with issues of premature ejaculation? Sick and tired of NOT having enough stamina to last during sex? Are you looking for ways to improve your endurance in bed, but simply do not know where to begin? The simple truth is, while there is a myriad of ads, offers and products that promise you sensational improvements in your sexual stamina, the fact remains that the vast majority of them do not live up to the hype.

The great news?

There are time-proven tips, techniques and strategies that can help you beat premature ejaculation for good. These are safe, natural and can be practiced by any man to dramatically improve his stamina.

Let us explore two such simple strategies:

Reduce The Chances Of Premature Ejaculation

Many men suffer from PE due to the effects of stress as well as performance anxiety.

If this sounds like you, you can easily turn this problem around through simple dietary changes. For example, antioxidants-rich foods such as red grapes, acai and nuts are great for stamina and overall sexual health. Learning how to calm your sexual nerves before sex through specific breathing techniques is also a great way to boost your staying power when you make love.

For some other men, premature ejaculation is caused by poor masturbation habits. If you have been masturbating and getting off quickly, it conditions your mind and body for quick-fire sex as well. In this case, you can easily “re-train” your ejaculatory triggers by reserving MORE time during your acts of self-gratification and learning how your body responds to stimulation and arousal.

Stop It From Happening During Sex

Learning how to associate the sensations that precede an ejaculation is critical, because these are “markers” that give you an early warning that you are approaching the point of no return. It is a good practice to reserve a few lovemaking sessions simply to learn about your ejaculatory threshold and how to modulate your movements in order to keep your arousal within control.

From my experience, partner communication is absolutely vital in improving one’s sex life. Talk to your partner about specific verbal and non-verbal cues so that she knows when to stop providing the stimulus when your arousal is surging, and when to resume when you are able to regain control.

Key takeaway?

Don’t let premature ejaculation keep you down for a lifetime. As a matter of fact, the sooner you overcome it, the more fulfilling your sex life (and hers too) is going to be!

Cure Premature Ejaculation By Avoiding This Mistake

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Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to ruin your sex life – or your partner’s. Cure it for good by avoiding this one simple mistake.

When one talks about premature ejaculation, it is almost always about finding sex tips, techniques and products to last longer in bed. Rarely do men talk about what they should NOT do. You see, there are many mistakes that men make that hamper their progress in lasting longer. This article will reveal the number one mistake that most guys make.

It All Stems From What Premature Ejaculation Really Is

What do I mean? It begins with what you know as PE. Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner than he or his partner feels is appropriate.

For some guys, this could be 30 seconds; for other men, even 10 minutes is considered premature. So there really are varying perspectives about what “premature” truly is. And if you cannot define it, there is no way you can put a stop to your problem.

So Do This Now

Take a moment and think about what it means to last longer for you and your partner; think about how long is “long enough” for the both of you to be truly satisfied, and for her to have an orgasm.

Most men skipped this altogether and it is little wonder that many failed to address their premature ejaculation problem. Simply put, if you are not specific about your desired OUTCOME, how would you know if you have succeeded?

That is the biggest mistake that most men make when trying to learn how to last longer without even realizing it!

So get this part of your bedroom problem sorted out right now. Decide on your desired outcome – how long you want to be able to last.

Tracking Your Progress

Once you get that sorted out, you need to track your progress. This is the only way to know if you will ever achieve your target. Those tips and tricks – however powerful they are – will all come to nothing if you have no way of knowing if you are improving at all!

Starting a journal to record your improvements in stamina is a smart thing to do. It doesn’t have to be drilled down exactly to the last second. I’m sure you can tell the difference between lasting a minute, 5 minutes or 10 minutes. Write that down.

Something magical happens when you do that and hold yourself accountable. As you see real, actual improvement, you will begin to feel much more motivated and rewarded. And your endurance will start to soar and so will your sexual confidence!

2 Ways To Make Foreplay Hotter

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Foreplay is incredibly important if you want a great sex session. Here are two easy ways to make foreplay even hotter, and you can use them tonight!

More Isn’t Better

How do you know the foreplay is enough and that it’s a perfect time to ride?

The answer is you don’t, even a woman doesn’t really know. This isn’t a simple inquiry about time or quantity. With foreplay, more is not necessarily better. If it’s a long and lame one, then it’s a long and lame foreplay. You’re merely prolonging the agony of what could have been short anguish. It’s unnecessary and worse than no foreplay at all!

But even amazing foreplay will eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. Stay too long with it and it ceases to be great – that’s reality and you have to forge ahead before it gets stale. (But something tells me that stalling the foreplay isn’t the biggest issue with most guys. I have yet to hear a woman complain that her man gives too much.)

But Is Less More?

On the other hand, less is more doesn’t hold. It may be true for things like make-up or dancing, but sex is a different ballgame altogether. Sometimes less is just that less. You have to let things heat up, and when it’s hot, make it even hotter and allow a woman to really get the hang of things.

So where do balance and the optimum point lie? The fact that women are not a homogenous group, doesn’t make it any easier. So what can you do?

Look at your lover, read her. She will tell you stuff she doesn’t even have the audacity to verbalize – open your eyes and witness what she’s screaming without words. Only then would you see the glaring window to transition from foreplay to play. Only then would you know the most opportune time for it. (Do you see how calibration works at the advantage of long term partners over one-night stands?)

To help you decide whether or not she’s ready for your penis, check on two things you should have achieved:

An Extended Make Out And Foreplay Session

This includes all the works – kissing, caressing, hugging, even dirty talking and sex games – all those things men tag as preliminaries to the real thing. Add 5-15 extra minutes  to your usual. This way, you’re giving her plenty of time to catch up and really rev up her engines.

Give Her An Orgasm Or Two

Follow the “ladies first” rule. A lot of seasoned guys make it a rule to never ride unless she cums once or twice via manual/oral work. They let the lady have hers first, before they mount away. Stimulate her all the way to orgasm and don’t leave her hanging, hoping that penetration will finish the job. Penetration is one of the most ineffective ways of making women orgasm.

The Female Orgasm Explained

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For a very long time, female orgasm was considered to be a myth. With nothing but personal accounts to go by, it was hard for male scientists to accept that there was a function and reason behind the elusive experience. Now scientists of both genders think they understand some of the purpose and evolutionary benefit of female orgasm.

We now know that the muscular “flutter” that occurs during female orgasm helps to encourage fertility. The strong muscle contractions in the pelvis, vagina and uterus occur rapidly at less than one second apart, allowing the cervix to open up for incoming sperm. The consequence of this is biologically significant and a verifiable physiological phenomena; couples who are able to have orgasms during penetrative sex are more likely to conceive.

A recent study found that when a woman reaches climax anytime from one minute before and 45 minutes after her partner’s ejaculation, her vagina takes up significantly more sperm than during sex when she does not orgasm. Even more surprising, a woman who orgasms before her lover by any more than one minute retains as little sperm as those who don’t have a female orgasm at all, making it necessary for her to either orgasm during PIV sex, or find a partner who will continue to stimulate her (with his dexterous hands!) after he has reached his own orgasm.

The Steps Of Female Orgasm

Orgasm is a three-step process, the culmination of a lengthy build up beginning with psychological desire, climbing through the various plateaus physiological arousal and peaking in the spasmodic release of orgasm. There are some times in a woman’s monthly cycle when she may be naturally aroused both psychologically and physiologically, depending on her libido type, but these days are few and far between. The rest of the time, you’re going to need to know how to really touch her, inside and out, to get things moving in the right direction.

1. Building Arousal

The signs of physiological arousal are obvious, if you know what you are looking for and are paying attention. Increased blood flow to the genitals caused by hot thoughts or stimulation results in swelling of the labia, clitoris and vagina. Increased lubrication helps make the peak experience of orgasm possible, opening a woman up for more intense activity.

This is prime time for using your ten best assets – your fingers! With such an incredible range of movement, those miraculous movers are exactly what you need to keep her going even when you can’t. And hey, your grandkids will secretly thank you for your Don Juan progeny.

2. Increasing Arousal

Sex educator and author Lou Paget points out in a Men’s Health article that too much repetitive sensation, especially in the early stages of arousal, can actually make the vagina numb. If you go ahead and plunge into intercourse before she is fully aroused and open, you aren’t just depriving her of the pleasure of your hands, but actually decreasing her chances of being able to have a female orgasm with you inside her! By “saving your energy” for the act of coitus itself, you are in fact ensuring that it doesn’t function properly.

3. Orgasmic Release

Female orgasm is an extreme sensual experience. The heart races, breath quickens, pupils dilate, skin flushes, lips and breasts swell with anticipation of the pelvic floor muscles contracting and sending out a ripple-effect that emanates through the rest of the body.

Each woman experiences this process differently, and for most women, every female orgasm is unique. Some may be the powerful, earth-shattering things we see in pornography or on television, but others are simpler, quieter and cascade like gentle waves along the body instead of a raging tsunami thrashing with ecstatic energy. They can be silent or deafening, or even both at the same time.

In her own medical practice, author Rachel Carleton Abrams M.D. explains that many women who come to her for help to reach female orgasm are in fact already experiencing them regularly during sex, albeit mildly. They just didn’t realize it, after the false expectations set by pornography and Hollywood’s over-the-top acting led them to believe that what they were feeling somehow wasn’t orgasmic enough.

Learning to experience several different kinds of orgasms by experimenting with stimulation involving a variety of techniques aimed at eliciting different but complimentary reactions is the best way to help a woman discover her orgasmic range, her preferences and desires, her favorite moves and, most importantly, the best combinations to ensure that sex satisfies both of your needs and desires every single time!