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How To Please A Man From Head To Toe

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Sex tips are a must have if you’re going to rock your man’s world. Sure, bringing a man to orgasm is easy and it doesn’t take much to make it happen – or so you may think. However, some women don’t know all that there is to know about the male orgasm and how ejaculation isn’t the telltale sign that your man just enjoyed what you did to him.

Yes, it is typically the sign that of a “job well done,” but did you know that there is way more behind the male orgasm? For example, sometimes a man can have two orgasms in one, meaning that he feels that release sensation at the beginning of climax and then feels a sudden burst of pleasure at the end. Sometimes, a man can have an orgasm and not ejaculate at all while other times, he can ejaculate and not feel a thing. Now that you are aware that you might not have all of the signals down pat, how do you know if you have given him amazing pleasure?

There is one way to guarantee that you are giving your man satisfaction and showing him that you know your way around the male body and that is to give him total body sex. This means that you just aren’t going to go for the gold and head straight to his penis to make him orgasm. No, you are better than that. Instead, you are going to learn how to please a man from head to toe and to really give him an all over amazing sensation that he won’t soon forget.

Above The Neck

There are many spot on a man’s head that can really get him going in the bedroom. Obviously you have his eyes to attract by wearing something sexy, his nose by wearing some delicious scent and his lips to give him passionate kisses to send chills all throughout his body but there is so much more. For example, kissing on his ears, his neck, scratching his scalp, digging your nails into the back of his neck and so on are all things that contribute to pleasure.

Even using your fingers on his lips will get him going. Try biting on his lips or even grazing them with your fingertips. Anything that you can do that will tease and tantalize him is definitely the way to go.

Torso And Arms

The obvious hot spots on a man’s torso are his nipples but stay away from that. Those are the typical spots that he is used to having stimulated by you and are you a typical lover? Of course not! You want to kick this up a notch and truly show him that you know how to give him total body sex all the way from his head and down to his itty bitty toes.

Instead of going for the nipples, try stimulating his back and stomach. Kissing on his back or stomach and even using your nails to scratch all the way down will give him some amazing satisfaction. Remember that men love that rough stimulation so the rougher it is, the better. Also, don’t forget about his arms. Using your fingers and nails to trace along his forearms will give him a sensation he probably never knew he had. The skin is extra thin on his forearms so feeling your nails digging deep will definitely drive him wild.

Don’t forget about his fingers either. A super sexy tip to try is to suck on his fingers to mimic oral sex. Feeling those warm and wet lips of yours tracing along his fingers will make him desperately want to feel that warm mouth on another part of his body.

Thighs And Legs

We all know how amazing it feels to have a man kiss our inner thighs and before oral sex. This move may be a bit too sensitive for your man to handle but that doesn’t mean that you can’t give him stimulation there in a different way. Again, your fingers and nails are capable of so much pleasure it is insane. Digging your nails deep into his thighs will drive him wild because not only is the skin sensitive there but it is also so close to his penis and the closer you are without touching it, the more you are going to drive him absolutely wild.

The best part about giving your man total body sex is that there are no rules. You don’t necessarily have to start from head to toe. You can always mix and match these tips to suit whatever your man’s needs might be in that moment. You can do a lot to him or a little; it is up to you. You are in the driver’s seat when you are pleasing him and it is all up to you how close to the edge you want to take him tonight.

How To Talk To Her About Sex

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Sex can be a difficult subject to broach when you’re dating someone. Here’s how you can discuss sex with your lover without scaring her off!

Get Comfortable With It

For a lot of people, even in this day and age, with a media saturated in sexual imagery, sex can be incredibly uncomfortable to discuss. Even with our most intimate partners. Especially when unsatisfied, your wife may not be articulating what she wants or needs sexually, as she’s afraid of hurting your feelings.

Before you start the conversation, you need to get comfortable saying the words associated with sex – penis, vagina, clitoris, G-Spot, orgasm, lubrication and intercourse. Say them out loud, somewhere private, and just get comfortable with the sound of them in your mouth. When you can say them to yourself without blushing, you are ready to say them to the person you love.

Take The Initiative

In order to open her up, you need to take the first step. If she feels like you are grilling her with some kind of sexual interview, she may retreat. Instead, you need to spend some time – days, maybe even weeks – communicating to her how important her sexual satisfaction and overall pleasure is for you.

When she knows that any helpful tips, comments or critiques she gives you will be accepted as a gift, she can feel as if she is giving them to you, instead of that she is burdening you with them. When she is ready to divulge information about her sexual preferences, don’t take in a list of questions and read it off like an interview. Go in having already thought about what you want to know about her, and take the time to volunteer some of the same information about yourself to encourage her when you start out.

Take care to be positive and gentle when talking about her sexual performance. Tell her what she already does that you like!

Make A Deal

No accusations, no judgments, no huffy remarks or pouty lips; it’s time to sit down and have that chat. Sexpert Tracey Cox suggests three things to remember when it comes time for open and honest communication about your sex life:

First, take the time to figure out what it is you want, and be very specific. You know that you aren’t satisfied with your sex life, and you probably figure your wife isn’t either. Do you want to know how to please her better? Do you want more sex? How much more, and what kind? Do you need to have more orgasms, or do you want to opportunity to touch her more often? Do you want to have sex more in the morning, or during the daylight hours? Are you interested in trying more new things, or is there something you know that you like, that you want to do more often?

Second, how much information do you really want from her? Do you want details of past lovers and how they touched her? Are you prepared to hear about any difficult or shocking experiences? It is important to know how many details you are willing to divulge as well. Tell her how much you are willing to hear, and let her do the same.

Finally, agree that “no” means “no more.” Whether it’s just the sexual conversation, or time to try things out, it is important to have a clear understanding that either of you can say “I’m sorry, that technique (or role play, or sex position) isn’t working” or “Hey, I need a break to collect my thoughts” if things aren’t going quite the way you anticipated.

It can be a bit overwhelming when you try to get into the details, which is why you should think about it for a while before you sit down to talk. Furthermore, you should give your wife the chance to think about it as well. When you sit down to make your deal, take the time to discuss what you really want to know about each other.

How To Choose The Right Lube

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Lube is essential for almost all sexual activities – especially manual stimulation – but selecting the right kind can be a little overwhelming.

Perhaps you have already taken a look at your local sex shop, or at online stores to see what the selection is like. I bet you were taken aback! Heck, my sex toy store has over a thousand different products in the lubrication category!

That is a whole lot of choice, so let’s take a minute and talk about your options. Lubricants can easily be broken down into a few categories based on ingredients.

First, the “base” of the lubricant determines how they can be used – silicone lube, for example, can’t be used with silicone toys; oil-based lubricant is not safe for use with condoms; some women are incredibly sensitive and will only be able to use lubes that are based on natural, organic ingredients.

Next, there are lubes that are best for anal sex, others that heat up or cool down, and even some with special flavors just for oral. Be sure you know what you’re getting into before going on a shopping spree.

Oil & Water

Oil based lubricants are great, especially natural ones, because the body just soaks them up and gets silky smooth. Most oil-based lubricants, unless otherwise labeled, are not condom safe. If this is your choice of birth control, move on to another selection.

Water based lubricants are the best all-around choice. Not only are they safe for condoms, but with silicone and other toys as well. They are also easy to wash out of sheets and clothing. They do tend to evaporate quickly, but a bit of saliva or a light mist of cool water will slick them back up in no time.

Silicone

Silicone-based lubricants are smooth like silk and great for long lasting play, but are no good when using silicone toys and not great for oral sex. Silicone may not taste very good, but you only need a touch and it will last for hours. It is safe to use with condoms, so if you do have silicone toys, you can protect them with a latex condom or nitrile glove. If you are planning to try a bit of back door play, pick one that is nice and thick.

Au Natural

If your wife or girlfriend is particularly concerned about what kind of liquid love gets inside her body, or if she happens to be sensitive to parabens or other irritating ingredients in most popular lubes, you should take advantage of the growing array of natural and organic products for the conscientious buyer. If plain coconut oil won’t do, or you want something a bit slicker for longer play, these are right up your alley.

Hot, Cold And Delicious

Whether you want something that is going to warm up with some vigorous thrusting, or a bit of icy gel to get her clitoris tingling under your touch and tongue, there are options available for your delight! Tingling lubricants and gels are also great for nipple play, especially if they are edible. They will help to harden her nipples right up, making them extra sensitive to your mouth and fingers, and also give them a bit of a slippery surface for extra sensation.

Flavored lubes are obviously best for a bit of oral play, but be very careful. Many of these lubes contain irritants or sugars that can cause a yeast infection if they get inside her vagina, so if you use them on her genitals, be sure to only put a drop on her clitoris and keep your fingers clean for insertion when your tongue techniques have made her wet.

Why Sex Gets Better Over Time

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Sex is something you’ll be doing for the rest of your life. It really is.

Maybe not as much when brittle bones and cardiac complications set in, but it will always be an element of your existence. Whether it’s vicarious sex or a simple interlocking of hands with your wife of 50 years, sex takes a whole lifetime to appreciate.

The Good News – Sex Gets Better With Age

Like wine, huh?

You get good at it the more you do it. You’ll soon master its in’s & outs and will be able to calibrate your woman down to the most minuscule detail. Similarly, she’ll also master you, discovering how you want booty served. As you two get to know each other, sex will spiral up.

Really?! Then why do people tend to spiral the other way?

For many couples, this is what happens: Sex was good, no, it was GREAT! They made love like the gods. They were Energizer bunnies who just won’t stop. They thought the passion would last forever… but nobody’s falling for that now.

That was yesterday, viewed through rose-colored glasses. Today, sex (with that same old hag) has become boring – almost a drudgery. All they have are memories of what has been…and they are just 27 years old!

What’s up with that? If sex is supposed to get better over time, then why end up in a rut where it has become soulless, dead, ho-hum and unexciting?

It’s Only Up To A Point

Beyond an optimum point, things start going downhill. The body cannot realistically maintain levels of brain chemistry that cause passion to wax hot. The Law of Averages dictates that over time, all things come back and plateau on the average. Passion has to simmer down when the novelty of sex ceases. If it’s all the same – same partner, same set of breasts, same sexual positions, same moans – sex will definitely get old.

Chances are, a day will come when you’d rather sleep than make-love to that fat ogre beside you. There’s no set time, but it’ll definitely happen. You’ll feel it, she’ll feel it, you two will definitely feel it. When you hear things like, “I’m just not as horny as I used to be,” you’re getting there.

But that’s okay. Things getting old is fine, that’s life. Nothing is wrong with the idea of sex losing its charm, it’s your response to this new sexual dynamic that needs tweaking.

New Challenges Await You

Recognize that when this “up to a point” comes, it only means A NEW STAGE IN YOUR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ACHIEVED. This brings with it a new set of challenges and it’s important that you appropriately respond to them. It doesn’t mean your run is over, you don’t need to swear off sex altogether.

Whereas the challenge in the past was getting home in the least amount of time, your new challenge could be finding new and exciting ideas to bring into bed.

And that takes work, a lot of work. Not manual labor, but brain power. You need to don your creative hat for this. And for many people, the very idea of honing creativity for sexual purposes is just too much, they’d rather find someone else new. But in committed, long-term relationships, it’s not that simple – or wise.

How To Shake Up Your Sex Life With 1 Simple Trick

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Sex tips can help you to have better sex than ever – but with this easy technique, you can have INCREDIBLE sex right away! Do you know what it is?

Morning Sex

Morning sex. I’m not talking after breakfast, or after dropping the kids off. I’m talking about first thing in the morning. Or earlier. We all know that there’s no wood like morning wood. Even if your lover is normally harder than Chinese arithmetic at all times, he will still be at his hardest and most potent when his little man wakes up to greet the day.

Often his member will wake up before he does. This is awesome. Fuck his brains out, whether or not he’s fully awake. Hop on and get off. He will wake up and join the party. Even if he doesn’t, he will wake up with a smile on his face.

He will probably last longer than any other time during the day, so be prepared. This can mean multiple orgasms for you. If you’re only in the mood for a quickie, get yourself warmed up with vibrators and or masturbation before you have sex with him.

Finishing Off With Oral Sex

Make sure to finish him off with some really great oral sex if you go the quickie route, and of course, put a condom on his penis if you engage in anal sex, for obvious reasons. If he’s still asleep when you bring him to orgasm, try taking his load in your mouth (or on your face if you’re into facials) and then waking him up, letting him see his semen all over your face or in your mouth. Waking up to a woman who’s got your load in your mouth is hot. Watching her swallow after she’s had her way with you is just plain sexy, and is a really, really great way to start the day.

Did you know that’s how Einstein started each and every day? Who knows where we would be as a society if he hadn’t had morning sex before he even got out of bed to start the day. I shudder to think about it.

He Can Service You Too!

It can work both ways too. There’s nothing wrong with him starting the day by servicing his lady (or his dude, whatever you’re into). If you start the day with a roll in the hay, you’ve put yourself in a really great position to have the best possible day, and a stress free one. It’s really hard to get upset when your brain has been scrambled by all those sexually released chemicals. You might not cut someone off on the way to work, or you might be a little more relaxed when you go to Starbucks and you spend twenty minutes behind a person, only to watch in horror as they finally get up to the counter and still haven’t figured out what they want!

You do each other every morning and you’ll notice a huge difference in your life. It will lower your stress levels, get you going, in a good way and you’ll probably find that you really appreciate your partner more and before you know it that increased physical intimacy will lead to increased emotional intimacy.

Sex is like the canary in the well of your relationship. If that’s wild and passionate and frequent, your relationship is in really good shape. If it’s dull, boring and infrequent, well, that’s not so good.

Do It Even When You Don’t Want To

My advice is molest your partner early every morning regardless of whether or not you want to. This is especially true and important for people who have kids. I’m not in the mood, you say? Well, I hate to break it to you, but women have been having sex without wanting to or being in the mood for centuries and nobody died from that. So just do it, even if you don’t think you want to. You will be really glad you did after you’re done having oral sex, anal sex, plain old missionary style intercourse or whatever you’re into. You’re welcome.