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The 4 Do’s And Don’ts While Getting Head

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Oral sex is something every guy wants, but if you make any of these mistakes, you’re likely not getting it again. Here’s how to mind your oral sex p’s and q’s.

1. DO NOT Grab The Back Of Her Head And Shove

Yes, I know this one should be obvious, but it’s amazing to me how many guys try to turn their women into Linda Lovelace on day one. Remember, you’re trying to make giving head a pleasurable and FUN and POWERFUL experience for her.

Especially the first few times, you’ve got to make sure she feels like she’s in charge and can start or stop the process whenever she wants.

At least at first, keep your hands out of the equation entirely. Don’t touch her head. Don’t grab her.  Down the line she might discover she likes it when you grab her head and when you treat her a little roughly, but for now you gotta keep things basic.

2. DO Make EYE CONTACT With Her

Remember that whole “women don’t like fellatio because it’s degrading/dehumanizing?” Yeah, we’re nipping that one in the bud. While she’s giving you head LOOK AT HER. Look her right in the eye and smile with pleasure and appreciation.

By making eye contact you establish a real connection between you while she’s blowing you and make it much more something you’re SHARING than something she’s doing TO you.

3. DO Give Her Gratitude And Appreciation

OK, guys, if you lie there like a dead fish your chances of getting ANOTHER blowjob are pretty much nil. Women are nurturers. They will do almost anything for that gratitude and appreciation. Where guys make the mistake is by making oral sex too much about them. Even if you’re the one getting the PHYSICAL pleasure, you’ve got to make the woman feel good about herself.

While she’s giving you head you’ve got to let her know how GOOD it feels, how much you APPRECIATE what she’s doing and how INCREDIBLY SEXY she is!

4. DO Show Her Technique And Give Constructive Criticism

OK, once you finally get the blowjob you’ve been dreaming of for who knows how long, you might be afraid to criticize her technique at all.

But I’m going to tell you right now that just staying quiet or ONLY giving positive feedback is a bad idea.

Here’s why:

  • Women are more observant than men and they can tell when we’re faking something.
  • If you don’t tell her something doesn’t feel good, she might assume it DOES feel good and keep doing it. Do you really want her to think you like it when she uses her teeth when you really want the opposite?

So how do you “guide” your woman without her taking offense?

Simple, you do it with the time tested and proven “Criticism sandwich.”

Step 1: Compliment her on something she did that you really like. “Oh, baby, your tongue on my cock feels soooo good.”

Step 2: Gently push her away from whatever she’s doing “wrong” (wrong is subjective. It’s just something you don’t like as much as you like something else) and towards what you want “OK, just loosen your lips a little bit and . . .”

Step 3: Give her HUGE positive reinforcement when she switches over to what you really want you to do. “OH, that feels soooo good. Thank you. You’re amazing.”

Get it?

Your Blowjob Questions – Answered (Part II)

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Oral sex isn’t always easy to figure out. Here are the answers to your most common oral sex questions!

What Can I Practice Giving Head With?

Learning how to give great head takes lots of practice, but you’re probably wondering just what you can practice on to get really good at it. The best way to practice is to practice on your partner – he can give you feedback about what feels good and what doesn’t, and let’s face it – a banana isn’t going to give you any responses about what it likes and what it doesn’t. Experimenting with new oral sex techniques and positions with your lover is part of the fun of discovering fellatio!

If you want to get really good at giving head before you go down on your man and surprise him with excellent blowjob skills, you can use other items to practice with, but you still won’t know if you’re any good or not because again, these items just can’t give you any feedback.

Food items like peeled bananas and cucumbers are popular for practicing giving head, but these can often pose a choking hazard – for example, if part of the banana breaks off into your throat and you’re not prepared for it. If you’re practicing a blowjob on an unpeeled banana – or any other food item, you can also risk scratching and scraping the inside of your mouth, your tongue or the back of your throat. To put it simply, food items were created for eating, not sucking off.

The best item to practice giving head with is an actual dildo. Choose one that is as lifelike as possible – complete with vein, head and scrotum details. This will allow you to practice many different oral sex techniques, such as swirling your tongue around the head or gently sucking the scrotum in and out of your mouth.

While a dildo can’t give you any more feedback than a banana can, if it’s realistic enough, it will train you how a certain technique feels. You’ll feel the coronal ridge of the head of the penis beneath your tongue and be able to find that same spot on your man when you go to perform oral sex on him later. You’ll know exactly what that spot feels like and what to do with it if you’ve practiced on a lifelike dildo first. If you get one with a suction cup on the back of it, you can stick it to the wall or a chair to practice oral sex positions as well!

Just lock your door first and make sure you have complete and utter privacy – this is something you really don’t want to get caught doing!

 How Can I Get Over The Fear Of Giving Head For The First Time?

First time blowjob jitters can really put a damper on whatever sexy mood you’ve got going. However, there’s less reason to be afraid than you think. Remember how much guys love getting a blowjob? Pretty much any blowjob is a good one, even if all the girl knows how to do is suck up and down. As long as you’re not using your teeth, you’re good to go. Relax and enjoy the process!

Pay attention to his body language and the noise he is making, and do whatever causes him to make the most noise, buck his hips or breathe the heaviest. Know that you’re not going to be an oral sex master the second you put a penis in your mouth, and just enjoy the ride! You’ll get better as you continue going down on your man!

Is It Normal For Some Guys Not To Be Able To Orgasm From A Blowjob?

Sometimes you can give a guy head before and no matter what you did or how long you did it for, he still won’t get to the point of no return. Does this mean you’re bad at oral sex or don’t know how to get him off? Probably not. Some men just can’t let go when it comes to oral sex.

He may be afraid of ejaculating in your mouth or on your face, or he may be afraid he’ll break wind or so some other equally embarrassing thing if he “lets go” while your face is down there. So they hold back mentally and physically and just can’t reach the finish line, no matter how good the blowjob is. This is actually often subconscious – your man is likely not even realizing he’s holding back on his orgasm.

If this is the case, have fun with the blowjob and move on to sexual intercourse when you’re ready. There’s no hard and fast rule that says you have to give a man an orgasm from a blowjob for it to be any good. If you really want to get him to the point of no return, make sure you’ve set the mood well.

Allow him to shower first, go to the bathroom if he needs to and make sure he’s in a comfortable position with the lights down low. Give him every opportunity to relax and get into it. Don’t ask him if he’s there yet, or if he’s close. This will take him back to square one almost as fast as taking your mouth off of him all together. Talk with him about what turns him on the most and what might help him cross the border into Orgasm-land. If you can’t get him there, don’t sweat it too much. He still enjoys getting great head from you.

How Can I Tell If He Really Liked It?

Many guys aren’t going to tell you that a blowjob was really good or really bad – you’re going to have to make a lot of these inferences yourself. You can judge how good oral sex for him is by gauging his body language. If he’s breathing heavy, bucking his hips or grinding them in conjunction with your movements, moaning or talking dirty, he’s most likely enjoying himself. If he’s laying there like a cadaver or his penis starts going limp, he’s most likely not enjoying himself.

You don’t need a fancy litmus test to tell you whether you suck at sucking him off or not. However, keep in mind that if your man loses his erection often, no matter what you do, it may not have anything to do with you at all. That’s an excellent question for his doctor.

Will He Urinate In My Mouth?

Chances are, he’s not going to pee in your mouth when you’re going down on him, unless he’s got a fetish and forgot to tell you – but that’s not likely. When a man is turned on, it’s very difficult for him to urinate because his body just won’t let him do it. The valves from the bladder to the urethra shut and the valves from the vas deferens open. If your partner ever tries to urinate when he’s erect, notice that it takes him longer.

He has to mentally concentrate on relaxing the muscles needed for him to release the flow of urine while his penis is hard. If your lover has to urinate, he likely won’t be able to achieve a full erection or he won’t be able to reach orgasm and may have to stop the action to go take a bathroom break. If you feel a warm gush of thick liquid, he’s probably ejaculated in your mouth. However, it’s not impossible for him to urinate while you’re giving him head – it has happened to women before.

If the liquid is thinner and saltier, it’s likely urine. Go spit it out and brush your teeth. Relax, it won’t kill you. It will probably embarrass him more, so give him a break and don’t make a big deal about it.

How To Make Your Lover Orgasm Faster During Oral Sex

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Oral sex is fun, but when you’re going down on someone for what seems like hours, it can get boring!. Here’s how to make your lover orgasm fast during oral sex!

Why You Want To Get Down To Business!

When it comes down to oral sex, some people just dilly-dally. They do one thing or the other. This and that. No rhythm. No awareness. That’s wrong.

Oral sex for a woman isn’t just about a man going down on a woman’s vagina, licking her clitoris, and bringing her to orgasm. That’s just basic stuff that we learn right from the get go.

When a woman goes down on a man, she shouldn’t just suck and lick and that’s it. She should involve her hands!

The hands are the key to making anybody come faster.

Oral Sex For Her

Whenever you go down on a woman, you want to kiss her vagina all around and do it really slow. Kiss all around her lips. Take your tongue and flick it in very slowly. Don’t go for her clitoris right away.

When you finally do kiss it, it’s like almost like the flower opening. Every time you kiss her vagina, it just opens up just a little bit more and a little bit more and a little bit more.

You will be able to feel the moisture on your lips. Take your lips and just move them all around so she can feel and anticipate the gliding. Of course going by her clitoris several times so she starts building up pressure inside her body. When you finally do go for her clitoris, slip one finger deep inside her and go right to her G spot, because if you spend enough time getting her prepped, her G spot at this time will be swollen and spongy.

It will feel great to touch.

Then start licking her slowly, changing your techniques up, figuring out what type of rhythm she likes. At the same time, start taking your finger and moving it back and forth on her G spot, adding pressure and building that pressure up ever so slowly. Now she has two sensations going, she’s got her G spot going and she’s got her clitoris going. She’s going to come really fast. She might come from both spots at the same time and explode all over you!

That’s hot!

That will get her wanting more, desiring more, thinking about more. That will distinguish you as a good lover.

Oral Sex For Him

If you’re a woman, don’t immediately go suck a man’s penis.

Kiss his body, tease him, kiss his inner thigh, lick his balls, get involved in the whole area before you go right for his penis and just start sucking. When a woman just goes and sucks on her partner’s penis instantly, it almost feels like he needs to start masturbating. It won’t work for him at all!

He will love when you start altering between his penis and his balls. It will feel great when you start sucking both of them. A favorite move men love when a woman is sucking his penis and tickling his balls at the same time, or playing with his balls or tickling the perineum.

Get your hands more involved because then you’re going to give him the best blowjob of his entire life.

This is how you master oral sex!

You don’t just go for it, you tease, touch and use your hands. Use everything that’s available to you. You’re going to give your partner and lover one of the best experiences they can ever have.

Why Some Women Hate Giving Head

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Oral sex isn’t something every woman just loves to give. There are a great deal of women out there that really don’t like going down on their partners. Most of the time, this is due to the fact that a lot of women rate a man’s genitals slightly above insects in terms of things they want coming in contact with their mouths. However, there are actually plenty of reasons a woman might not be so enthusiastic about giving her lover oral sex.

It’s Condescending To Women

It’s true that oral sex on a man is a form of sexual submission for a woman, or it at least can be viewed as such. However, many girls feel as though this type of submission is condescending to women. Oral sex in and of itself is not condescending towards women, but of course, a man’s attitude while he’s getting a blowjob has everything to do with how the girl feels while she’s going down on him. If he’s acting like he deserves the blowjob, that he’s controlling her or if he acts condescending towards her in any way during the blowjob, that’s how she’s going to perceive it.

However, men that treat receiving oral sex as a gift and treat the woman giving it with respect and love, she isn’t going to feel as though he expects it or is looking down on her for doing it. If you’ve had a bad past experience with men treating you poorly during oral sex, don’t assume that it’s because the act itself is condescending towards women. It’s more likely that the partner you were giving head to had a bad attitude about it.

It Smells & It’s Dirty

The far majority of women who don’t like going down on a man feel this way because they view a man’s genitals as dirty and gross. While both female and male genitals have their own distinct odors, if your lover keeps his undercarriage clean, there shouldn’t be too much of an issue here as far as smell and taste goes. Many women, however, have had a bad experience going down on a man who hasn’t bothered to wash his genitals thoroughly or at all, leaving her with an unsavory memory of oral sex. Rest assured that this is not always the case!

Many men are very vigilant about their genital hygiene, especially if they suspect or know that they’ll be receiving oral sex at some point during the day or evening. If your man doesn’t pay much attention to cleanliness, that doesn’t mean that you have to forgo giving him the gift of a blowjob – there are many things you can do during foreplay to get him cleaned up, such as incorporating a sexy shower beforehand so you’re both fresh, clean and ready for action.

He Doesn’t Give Her Oral Sex, Why Should She Do It For Him?

Many guys drop the ball when it comes to giving a woman oral sex, which can be frustrating for girls. It can seem like a man expects it, but won’t give it out in return – which can definitely make a woman feel resentful about giving him head. There are a lot of reasons a man won’t go down on a woman, from being sensitive to her scent to not even being aware of the fact that she craves oral sex too. Regardless of the reasons, it doesn’t help the relationship any for a woman to withhold going down on her man just because he doesn’t do it for her.

The fastest way to get a man to reciprocate is to give him an enthusiastic blowjob! He might not respond right away, but be patient and enjoy the fact that you’re pleasuring him. Communicate with him about what he likes and let him know that you’d like a little oral pleasure too – and make sure you’re clean and well groomed down there. Once he sees how excited you are about giving him oral sex, he’ll likely be so turned on, he’ll want to go down on you too!

It’s Too Hard To Keep From Gagging

If a man is particularly well endowed, it’s likely the head of his penis will aggravate his partner’s gag reflex and cause her to gag or even vomit in worst case scenarios, especially if she’s not skilled or practiced at relaxing her throat. This happens most often, however, when a man is aggressive during a blowjob and holds her head down onto his penis or bucks his hips so that his penis is shoved further down her throat. If a woman is in total control while she’s giving head, she can easily back off or stop all together when she feels like gagging, stimulating him with her hands while she regains her composure.

If she’s in control, she may not even get to the point where she’s gagging, because she can control the depth and angle of his penetration. If your partner gets too aggressive during oral sex, explain to him why you want to be in control. Let him know that you want him to relax and let you please him totally! If you make the conversation about him and his pleasure (and how it will be better for him if he backs off and lets you do your thang), he’ll likely be exceptionally receptive to letting go and letting you take the reins.

It’s Difficult To Get And Stay Comfortable

It’s not easy to get comfortable during oral sex and it’s even more difficult to stay that way. You can get cramps in your neck, back or wrists from holding yourself up while going down on him. Finding the right oral sex position is essential to staying comfortable and giving head for extended periods of time without experiencing discomfort. This will take some experimenting – you may not find the right position right away, but as you continue to try different oral sex positions, you’ll learn which ones cause you more discomfort and which ones allow you to have more stamina.

He Doesn’t Let Her Know What He Likes (And She Thinks She’s Doing It Wrong)

Most guys don’t know how to communicate well at all, let alone communicate what they like during sex. Many guys enjoy getting head so much that they revert into their own little worlds, forgetting to make any noise or movement. Most men won’t tell a woman what feels good and what doesn’t, which can be really frustrating for her! She’ll wonder if she’s doing anything right, and she’ll switch techniques too fast in an effort to find something he actually responds to.

This actually makes the situation much worse – he may like what she’s doing, but if he doesn’t respond to it, she’s going to switch too quickly, without allowing him time to build towards an orgasm. This actually makes the blowjob terrible – so his lack of communication actually makes her fears and concerns about not being any good at oral sex realized.

Communicate with your lover and let him know how important it is for him to communicate with you during a blowjob, even if it’s just moans and groans. Let him know that it is crucial that he let you know what he likes and what he doesn’t, so you can tailor your oral sex skills specifically to what feels good for him. It may take him several tries to open up to you, but be sure to never judge him or be critical of him for what he likes or how he chooses to tell you he likes it.

Be sure to do your best to read his body language and once you both get the hang of it, he won’t have to tell you what he likes anymore and you won’t be afraid you’re doing it wrong – you’ll be confident you’re absolutely ROCKING his world!

5 Easy Blowjob Techniques To Start With

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While a blowjob might sound pretty simple, just putting your mouth on your man’s penis doesn’t mean that you’ll actually be able to do it well. To give great head, you’ve got to experiment with different techniques and moves to find the ones that absolutely set your man on fire! Every guy is going to be different – one guy might really get off on you licking his scrotum while you grasp his penis tightly in your hands, while another guy might love it when you suck firmly on the head of his penis.

It’s important to pay attention to a man’s body language when going down on him and if one technique doesn’t work, it’s time to move on to another. Just make sure you give your guy enough time to decide whether he likes the technique you’re using or not. Don’t move too quickly between techniques without giving him enough time to get used to what you’re doing.

1. Licking The Lollipop

While licking alone doesn’t necessarily feel awesome for your guy, it’s a great warm up technique because it gives him an excellent show! You don’t want to use a licking maneuver halfway into a blowjob, because it’s not enough stimulation to work him towards an orgasm. However, it’s an excellent way to get him turned on and wanting more!

How To Do It

Grasp the base of your lover’s penis with your hand, holding it in place. If you grasp firmly (but not too tight), you’ll keep the blood inside the penis, engorging the head and making it more sensitive to your maneuvers.

Stick your tongue way out and lick all over your lover’s penis while looking deep into his eyes and smiling now and then. You want to look like you’re really enjoying it! Enthusiasm is key with this technique.

Experiement with a soft, wet tongue or a pointed hard tongue. Make a mental note of which areas he seems to like stimulated best and when he moans and groans the loudest. Jot these down on your “mental map” of his body and what he likes best so you can focus on those areas more next time – and avoid the areas that don’t seem to do anything for him.

2. Licking The Scrotum

Again, this is definitely more of a warm up technique than it is a main move, but it can be very effective at getting men hot and bothered. Most women tend to ignore a man’s balls when going down on him, either because they’re hairy, they smell or it just seems like concentrating on the penis is a better idea. However, if you can give your lover’s scrotum some sexy attention, he’ll love feeling like he’s getting licked from top to bottom.

How To Do It

This is an excellent maneuver to move into and back and forth from when you’re doing the licking technique we just mentioned. You’ll continue to grasp your lover’s penis at the base, but this time instead of holding it in place for you to lick it all over, you’ll move it up and out of your way, exposing his scrotum and pulling up on it at the same time. As his scrotum is exposed, lick from the bottom of it all the way to the top, and all around. The most effective tongue stroke here is with a wide, soft tongue. Make sure you’re using plenty of saliva or have dabbed on a generous amount of flavored lube. This is a technique much better done warm and wet!

3. Sloooooowww It Down

Part of the incredible experience of fellatio is feeling each and every sensation your tongue, mouth and lips create. Don’t rush it – go super slow for the first several minutes of the blowjob. Hold out for as long as you can, and if you’re really into pleasing him and hearing him squeal with delight, you’ll surprise yourself with how long you can keep this up. No matter what technique you’re using, go sllllooooowww.

Let him concentrate on every movement on every inch of his penis. This will allow him to become super absorbed in the act, forgetting time and space completely. When you finally bring him to climax, he’ll be much more sensitive and his orgasm will be that much more powerful.

4. Tongue Twister

This move feels so incredible when compared to the standard “up and down” or “in and out” moves that a regular ol’ blowjob consists of. It can be hard on the neck, so don’t expect yourself to be able to keep it up for very long. However, when used at the right time – past the foreplay or warm up mode but before you get into the rhythm mode where you’re building his orgasm – it can feel so good it makes his legs shake! He’ll want to be lying down for this one, or his knees just might give out on him!

How To Do It

Get your lover’s penis as far as you can into your mouth and as you’re coming back up, twist your head to the right and left so your tongue and mouth twists over the shaft and head of his penis. Don’t concentrate on how your twisting your mouth – just point the top of your head to the left and then to the right as you slide your mouth up his penis. Don’t do this on the downward stroke – it’s not as effective as you twist while you’re sliding his shaft out of your mouth.

5. Orgasm Grip

As your lover is getting closer and closer to ejaculation, he’s heating up and you’re getting ready to finish him off. Whether you’re getting tired of being in between his legs, your neck has got a cramp and you’re ready for it to be over with, or you’re just excited about giving him a mind bending orgasm, there comes a time when you want to finish things up. This technique is perfect for building his climax even further and bringing him over the edge of an amazing orgasm.

How To Do It

This is a technique best used while your lover is in a sitting position, because you really need to have a lot of leverage here. If he’s lying down and you’re holding yourself up with your hands, you’re not going to be able to do this well, if at all. Grasp the base of his penis again with your dominant hand and move it up and down as though you were giving him a handjob. You only want to go about halfway up the shaft though – you’re going to work your mouth over the head of his penis and your lips should meet your hand.

Move your hand and your lips in sync – both going down and up at the same time. Count in your head to keep your rhythm, or listen to music. You don’t want to break the rhythm, because it will cause him to have to “start over.” Continue to do this faster and faster until you’re really working on him! It won’t be long before he’s ready to shoot his load!

These five techniques are easy to do and will take you from the beginning of a blowjob to the very end. There is, of course, many more techniques you can use, but who doesn’t want to get started right away? Stop reading right now and go treat your man to some intense new blowjob techniques that will make him say, “Wow! Where the **** did you learn that?!?”