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Oral Sex Techniques That Don’t Involve The Clitoris

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Oral sex techniques almost always concentrate on her clitoris – here are some oral sex techniques that focus on the REST of her incredible hot spots!

Wait, what’s that? The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s body and is partially if not wholly responsible for a woman’s orgasm during cunnilingus – why not go straight for it? That’s the “orgasm button,” right? Well, yes. But also remember that it can be painfully sensitive as well – which means that direct stimulation can sometimes have the exact opposite effect that you want it to. But didn’t you do all the “preheating” with the warm bath and the sensual conversation? Of course, but keep in mind that you were only relaxing her mind and body. Now you need to get her vulva involved.

Where Else Is There To Go?

If you’re not heading straight for the clitoris, where do you go? That’s easy – everywhere else. One of the most sensual and exciting experiences for a woman during cunnilingus is to have her entire vulva explored eagerly and completely with a warm, wet mouth. Let us emphasize eagerly and completely – make a few sounds as though you were eating something really delicious (well, you are, aren’t you?) and don’t let an inch of her vulva escape your mouth. There are, however, a few techniques that you can utilize before moving directly to the clitoris.

Wide, Slow Strokes

You’ll want to spread your tongue out wide, like you were about to lick an ice cream cone. Start at her perineum (or her vagina if you don’t want to go quite that far down south or if analingus gives you the creeps) and work your way up. If you’re not pressing too hard, you can go over the clitoris – this indirect licking, if you will, wakes up her clitoris and gets it ready for what’s to come. This “wide lapping” move is a great first move – it simply feels wonderful to have a warm, wet tongue covering the entire vulva and moving up slowly, enhancing every last sensation. You’ll want to spend a good one to two minutes utilizing this technique at first, and then it can be mixed in with other techniques either before focusing on the clitoris or during primary clitoral stimulation.

In Between The Labia

This is a great move to help transition from the wide, slow strokes into more detailed cunnilingus. You can use the “wide” technique during this stroke as well, or you can mix it up and use a semi-pointed tongue. A very sharp and pointed tongue is generally not something you want to use during this particular technique – leave that to clitoral flicking, which we’ll go over later in the clitoral stimulation techniques. Remember how we said that it feels divine to have an eager tongue explore every nook and cranny of her vulva? This is primarily the technique that will give her that sensation. Use your flat or semi-pointed tongue (semi-pointed does work best) and work your way slowly in between her inner and outer labia from top to bottom. You can even nibble her labia gently with your teeth (or, if you’re concerned about your teeth being too sharp, you can use the same technique with your lips turned inward and covering your teeth) to give her added pleasure.

Again, you’ll want to avoid the clitoris for the most part during this technique; however, if your lady is getting a little antsy, you can lick between her labia and move up, brushing the side of the clitoris with the side of your tongue. This works well if she seems to be craving clitoral stimulation, but keep in mind that at this point, the clitoris is most likely still too sensitive to strike head-on. Another great technique you can use while focusing more on the entirety of the vulva (before reaching the clitoris) is what some like to call a “lollipop lick.”

This sort of lick encompasses the entire area and, similar to the motions used while licking a lollipop (and we mean those big ones you get at amusement parks and Chuck E. Cheese’s) – from the outside in. Start on the outside of her labia and work your way inward using slow and wide tongue strokes. If you wish, you can end the “lollipop” on her clitoris and begin to use the clitoral techniques outlined below.

Tongue Thrusting

This is great move to help transition from either a wide, flat “ice-cream cone” tongue or labia exploring into more focused cunnilingus. Bring your tongue back down to her vaginal opening and insert it gently, much like you would a finger if you were pleasuring her with your hands. You may find that either you or your partner does not like very deep tongue thrusting, so start out very light and gentle until you get a feel for it. Just licking barely in and out of the vaginal opening will give her a great feeling, so no need to try and reach her cervix with your tongue. This is also a great place to begin working on your flicking, which you will use later on her clitoris when she is more geared up and nearer orgasm. Her vaginal opening is sensitive as well (not as sensitive as the clitoral head or shaft) and she will get a wonderful preview of the strokes you are getting ready to use that will bring her to a delicious orgasm.

Use Your Lips

Although the tongue is the most powerful muscle in the body, there’s just nothing that compares to a soft set of lips caressing the entire vulva. This creates a soft, sucking sensation that will send chills down her spine (and you will probably receive a few moans in appreciation). You can use your lips as an icebreaker to clitoral stimulation since they are much softer than your tongue, or you can use them on the rest of the vulva, particularly the labia. Gently sucking her labia in and out of your pursed lips feels exceptionally wonderful, but make sure that if you are going to use your lips that they are nice and wet (by this time, she may already be wet enough for the both of you). If, however, you find them somewhat dry, you can lick them to moisten them and you can even incorporate this movement into the cunnilingus itself. A great way to use both the lips and the tongue together during cunnilingus is to act as though you’re French kissing her vulva. This feels great! Again, it gives your partner the sensation of having her most sensitive and private parts be fully explored, kissed and caressed. Another variation on this technique is to place your entire mouth on her vulva. You can then move into a gentle sucking or use your open mouth to gently blow warm air onto her vulva.

How To Perform Better Oral Sex And Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms!

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Oral sex can be mediocre, or it can be fantastic! Check out these oral sex tips that will leave your girl’s voice hoarse from screaming your name over and over!

Are You Boring Your Partner?

You know that you are frustrating her with boring bed rituals. Now, you can give her the hottest and steamiest sex she will ever experience. Offer her a chance for increased sexual release and let her beg for more sex. Yes, women can get disinterested even during the most private moments with their partners.

It’s time to make a move and add a new flavor to these intimate explorations – give her oral sex! What kind of woman would not want to perspire during a steamy lovemaking? Yes, you read it right. You can have your woman writhe in pure orgasmic pleasure with oral sex.

You can give the most thrilling cunnilingus she will ever experience by putting a small amount of a female orgasm enhancing cream (such as V-cream) on her clitoris prior to the sexual act. She will surely have heightened sensations with every stroke and touch that you give to this small organ. Such creams act immediately upon application, making her primed for an exhilarating time in bed.

Knowing The Magic Of Creative Oral Sex

Upon application, you can proceed to give your woman a pleasurable experience. Start off by giving her inner thighs tender and light touches using your lips. Move upwards to her vagina and allow your tongue to gently stroke the external area using an up-and-down motion for few moments.

Be playful! Stop the movements of your tongue along the external edges of her vagina and let her beg for more of what you are already doing. Place gentle kisses and soft caresses using your tongue, and make your teeth chew gently on her skin until you reach her abdomen. Go back down after paying much of your attention on the sensitive parts on her upper torso. She will surely demand that you get to the real business and that is what you will do!

Women usually reach a sexual climax due to clitoral stimulation so you should pay close attention to that mound of flesh. Imagine that you can only pleasure her through those gentle strokes that your tongue can make. Visualize yourself eating ice cream because this is how your tongue and lips should move. Don’t we just love eating ice cream?

How To Experience Her Pleasure

Allow yourself to experience the same or greater level of pleasure as what your partner feels through the following methods:

  • Perform tender strokes using your tongue.
  • Allow her to place her external genitalia on your face.
  • While your mouth is busy on her clitoris, you can try penetrating her vagina with your two fingers.
  • You may also raise her buttocks off the bed or floor and allow her lower limbs to encircle your neck. This may take some effort from you.
  • Trace the letters of the alphabet along the borders of her vagina with the gentle movement of your tongue.
  • Lastly, the circular motion around her clitoris will surely do the magic trick!

Try these proven oral sex moves and give her the kind of wild screaming orgasms that she will never forget!

Q&A: Sex Toys For Virgins

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Sex toys aren’t just for advanced users. Virgins who choose not to have sex yet still want satisfaction! Whether you’re a teen looking into exploring your body before choosing to become sexually active, or you’re abstaining from sex but still want to have great orgasms, you definitely want to have a great sex toy in your nightstand! However, a huge dildo probably isn’t the best choice. What are good sex toy choices for virgins or women who are abstaining from intercourse?

Question: I’m a young virgin, and I want an inexpensive sex toy that won’t stretch me out. Any suggestions?

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Clitoral Vibrators

First off, if you don’t want to deal with insertion at all, your best option is a vibrator designed specifically for the clitoris. All it does is sit on top of the clitoris and vibrate – no insertion required! This is also the perfect choice if you’re a virgin and don’t want to stretch yourself out or damage your hymen in any way. In fact, many women prefer clitoral vibrators over other styles of sex toys simply because they can provide some of the best orgasms! The clitoris was designed for sexual pleasure – and that’s it! It has no other function at all except to provide pleasure. Many women – even very sexually experienced ones – choose clitoral vibrators again and again simply because it’s one of the easiest and best ways to reach climax!

Small, Slender And Discreet Vibrators

There are many small and slender vibrators out there that are designed for insertion, but they are so slender, they’re not going to stretch you out at all. In fact, many slender vibrators are thinner than a tampon! While you definitely want to stay away from Rabbit style sex toys (those can be quite large and are better suited to advanced sex toy users) and large dildos, small and slender vibrators might just be right up your alley. Most of these types of sex toys are designed to be discreet, and can fit in your purse or may look like a tube of lipstick. These make excellent starter sex toys, especially if you’ve never had sex before and are just starting to experiment with sex toys!

Bullet And Torpedo Style Vibrators

A bullet style vibrator is a must have for every woman, simply because it is so small and versatile. A simple bullet vibe can be placed on the clitoris or in the vagina, and some of them can be inserted into cock rings and used for couples pleasure (when you get there). Torpedo style vibes are also popular – they’re generally just a longer version of the bullet vibe. Jimmy Jane makes excellent torpedo style vibrators – they’re extremely classy and barely even an inch in width. G-spot vibrators are also popular, because they typically have a larger bulb on the top, followed by very slender handle.

Remember That Your Vagina Is Made To Stretch

While you certainly don’t want to purchase any sex toys that make you feel uncomfortable or feel too big for you, keep in mind that your vagina is designed to stretch and return to it’s normal shape. It’s not as though you’re going to put a vibrator in there and your vagina is going to stretch out and never return to it’s normal size. It will! The vagina will even return to it’s normal size and shape after giving birth – and that is definitely stretching. The only thing that won’t return to normal after using an insertable sex toy if you’re a virgin is your hymen – once you break that, it’s done and over with. But also know that the hymen can be broken during a variety of non-sexual activities, such as horseback riding, gymnastics, or even inserting a tampon.

Inexpensive Sex Toys

While there are lots of inexpensive sex toys out there that are great, there are many that aren’t so great. While price is a good thing to keep in mind when shopping for sex toys, you really don’t want to compromise on quality. Make sure whatever toy you choose is manufactured with body safe, phthalate free materials (or slip a condom over it if you’re not sure) and is made by a reputable company. Buying cheap sex toys may make your wallet feel better now, but you won’t be pleased when you open the package and find that it stinks like chemicals or the vibrations are weak. If you can find actual user reviews on the sex toys you’re considering purchasing, read through them! They can really help you decide whether or not a particular toy is right for you.

Female Orgasm – 3 Ways To Make Sure Your Girl Gets A Jaw Dropping Orgasm Every Time!

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The female orgasm can be elusive, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are three ways to give your girl the best orgasm she’s ever had!

Penetration Alone Won’t Do The Trick

Did you know that direct penetration during sex is unable to bring most women to an orgasm? That is indeed true. Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex. It is far easier to stimulate a man to an orgasm than a woman. But when a woman climaxes, she usually does so with greater intensity than guys.

It is not easy to bring a woman to an orgasm through intercourse alone. In fact more women are known to achieve a climax through masturbation than through sex. So what are the tricks to make sure she gets one when you make love to her? Keep reading – these tips would keep her orgasmic furnace burning hot…

Clitoral Stimulation: The Right & Wrong Ways To Do It

A woman’s clitoris is a key instrument to bring her to an orgasm. Thus the way you stimulate this super erogenous zone is really vital. You see, when a woman is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable for her.

The trick is to give her stimulation indirectly at first. Try running your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, you will feel her breathing heavily and the clitoral hood swelling up. This is when you know she is ready for more.

The Rhythm Of Sex

Many men are mistaken that women are equally attuned to the speed and rhythm of a man’s touch. This is a fallacy. How you touch and caress her can vary in speed but the rhythm should not alter. Starting sex slowly is a great way to get her all warmed up to the act. As the sex progresses, women prefer the speed (including that of thrusting) to increase, culminating to a boil as an orgasm approaches. But make sure the overall rhythm or tempo remain the same.

The Tantalizing Grind

Many men simply engage in straight thrusting motions during sex and wonder why their partners never get an orgasm. No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax.

The right way to perform penetration is this: instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pelvic bone will rub against her clitoris and sufficiently stimulate her to an intense orgasm.

The Best Erogenous Zones Below The Belt

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Erogenous zones underneath the navel don’t just include the clitoris – there’s a lot more! Check out these erogenous zones you probably didn’t know about.

You probably think this is going to be a guide to the clitoris. Well, you’re wrong. There are other erogenous zones below the belt you can touch her besides between her legs. I will break it down into regions for you so it’ll be easier to comprehend.

The Booty

I’m sure that you go for the booty-grab at every moment you can sneak on in. She leans in for a kiss – grab the booty. She gives you a hug – grab the booty. She’s doing dishes – grab the booty. When you’re in bed, there’s also the booty smack. Before you incorporate this move, be sure she’ll be down for it. I don’t mean you should stop while you’re railing her from behind and say, “Excuse me, miss, would you mind so much if I smacked that booty?” You should be comfortable enough with her to know in advance how she’s going to react.

Then there’s the more sensual approach to touching her booty, and that is the tickle. You can use your fingers, a feather, or anything else lying around. Start with her back. Caress her so lightly that you hardly make contact with her skin. Move down toward her lower back. Hang out there for a while as her body relaxes. Trace the sides of her hips, and finally, right where the thigh and the buttocks meet. Move away, and come back every once and a while. It will send shivers through her whole body. Especially to the spot you want to stimulate.

The Knees

The knees are an often overlooked area when it comes to erogenous zones. You can give fluttery little kisses around the kneecaps, or tiny bites on the sides of the knee. The real pleasure center here, though, is the back of the knees. Now, most women are quite ticklish on the backs of their knees, but if she’s relaxed, it can give exciting sensations similar to when you tickle under her buttocks. Make sure you use only the lightest of touch, but caressing her behind her knees will give her a thrill even she’s not expecting!

The Feet

Never underestimate the power of the foot massage. It’s become a bit of a cliché, but its effectiveness has stood the test of time. Women typically wear all kinds of crazy shoes. If you give even five minutes of a good foot rub, it will ease the tension of the day. Use slow movements to make it a more erotic massage, and add some lotion to your palms to help glide along the foot. She will be so grateful, she’ll want to come up with some way special to thank you!