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3 Keys To The PERFECT Massage

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Erotic massage is a great way to get things started. A good massage is not about targeting deep muscles as it is simply adoring lover’s skin. As such, you really have great autonomy going about it. Sensuality is not found on the strokes, but in YOUR PRESENCE – it’s in the vibes you give off.

So to give an excellent erotic massage, you need to imbibe 3 specific attitudes:

1. Be in the Moment

For the commercially available masseur, touching her is a job, and they have done it to several other clients that day. But for you, touching the beloved is a delight, you don’t count minutes as you’re not being paid by the hour.

Effect slow, leisurely motions and take in the sensual bombardment.

Make no mistake, giving the sensual massage is just as blissful as receiving it. In spite being the giver, notice how your senses get bombarded with stimulation, feel through your palms the softness and suppleness of her body.

Delight your eyes at the curves of her of illuminated form. Smell the tingling scent of oil rising from her skin and be attuned to her breaths and moans of rapture. Take this all in and you’ll find that giving the massage is just as great.

In Sensual Massage, both partners win!

2. Confidence

Don’t go touching your partner’s body as if it’s the first time you’ve held a girl. The worst thing is to give off that vibe of uncertainty – she’ll catch it. Instead of melting and succumbing to your touch, she’ll get self-conscious and uptight. Not good for your cause.

Lead with confidence, move with control. You’re not putting on a show. Women know it if a guy has confidence. When having sex, SLOOOOW is how confident and controlled men execute. This is not yet the time to gallop like a run-away pony. Don’t worry, she’ll feel your kick later.

3. Breath Regularly & Deeply

Yes, breathing is an attitude. And a pretty important one at that.

It does sound like the most basic thing, but breathing is also the most important. Everything starts with the way you breathe. When you take in oxygen, you’re replenishing life forces in your body, and if there’s one thing I want you to learn about Sensual Massage, and sex in general, it is to breathe regularly and deeply. Observe how a sleeping person does it, that’s the kind of relaxed and leisurely affair we’re gunning for.

The arts of Tantra and meditation have proper breathing as their cornerstone. Attitudes 1 & 2 won’t even be possible if not for #3. Good luck being sensual and confident while panting delirious. (Many today live on shallow and quick breath cycles – and they still wonder why their days are always tense and nervous.)

Respiratory rate affects the rest of your body, getting fresh and ample amount of oxygen relaxes your muscles, for example. And observe how slowing down movements becomes really easy when you also slow down your breathing. Emotions, like anger, are held stable through regular and deep supply of air – as it’s very difficult to get mad when your breathing is as steady as a Uranium clock.

 

4 Qualities In A Man That Are IRRESISTIBLE To Women

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Flirting can be one of the most awkward situations if you are not prepared. These qualities – or traits – are things that girls will find desirable. If you project these qualities you will be more likely to attract women.

1. Confidence

The reason most girls are attracted to jocks, bad boys and other men that don’t seem to be “right” for them, is because these men usually act arrogant.

For this to make sense you must understand that women are insanely good interpreters. If a man says or does something, a woman will look beneath his comments or actions and ask herself, “What is he really trying to say?”

Arrogance is interpreted as confidence. And as you may know, confidence is the most important trait you can portray to a woman. Confidence alone will get you more dates than you could ever imagine.

The essence of flirting is based on projecting confidence around women. In addition, arrogance communicates “higher status” and an “I’m too cool” attitude, which appeals to most a girl’s need to climb the social ladder.

2. Dominance

A significant part of being what women call “a real man” is taking charge in all situations. Girls will often say, “I like a man who knows what he wants.” Unfortunately, this statement is baffling to most men.

A man who knows what he wants doesn’t ask for permission. He takes the leadership role in every situation and expects others to comply. The next time you are out in clubs or bars, watch as the dominant men control the situation when they ask a girl out, talking to them, taking them by the hand and guiding them through the club to another location.

These men expect women to follow their lead. They don’t politely ask – they just do it. You might think this attitude seems rude or careless, but what you need to understand is that women want men to act this way.

Why do you think men who ask, “What movie do you want see?” get responses such as…

“I don’t know.”
“I don’t really care.”
“You decide.”

Women want men to be the leaders. Men who ask women to make these decisions get vague responses because women want men to lead. The woman is offering the man a chance to affirm his manliness. An “alpha male” will make decisions.

It may seem daunting to maintain this sort of control, but as these behaviors are broken down into actions, the need for this will become clear.

When women say that they are attracted to strong men, they don’t mean physically strong men; they mean men who can control the situation.

3. Humor

Humor is a very powerful. Everyone loves to laugh, and people love to hang around those who make them laugh.

Humor is something that all women are looking for in a man. But what you may not realize is that humor alone isn’t enough to attract women. You also need to maintain eye contact when you are approaching her.

If you become naturally funny, you’ll be able to keep fun conversations going with women as long as you want. You don’t want your humor to come across too goofy, nor do you want to look like a “try-hard” when you crack a joke.

Humor combined with body language is a powerful conversational tool that everyone needs to develop if they want to succeed socially.

4. Higher Social Status (Be Cooler)

You must understand that along with physical attraction comes social status. Just think back to school – all the cool people hung out together, as did all the other social groups with their respective peers.

The advantage you have when meeting new women is your hidden social status. Most women make dozens of assumptions about you the minute they lay eyes on you, and this includes your social status.

Women want to hang out with guys that are cooler than them. When you talk to a woman who catches your eye, you must always portray yourself as being “cooler” than her, or at least “as cool”. This increases the likelihood of her being interested in a date.

So how do you accomplish this? You accomplish this by increasing your coolness quotient.

  • Don’t act insecure and always ask “Is everything Ok?”, “Have I done something wrong?”, “Do you like me?”, “What do you think of me so far.” Never say these things!
  • Dress in fashionable, comfortable clothes that you feel great in.
  • Be selective with the people you hang around, as well as which women you choose to date.

Now that you understand attraction, and what it is that makes women feel attracted to men, let’s discuss the basics of flirting. And after this, we’ll talk about how to incorporate these must-have qualities into your conversations.

How To Make An Incredible Online Dating Profile

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Online dating should be used from a marketing perspective. Think of your profile as a brochure. I want you to think of yourself maybe  going into a Porsche dealership. Imagine you’re going into a Porsche dealership  and you want to drive this Porsche.

You go in and they get you a really nice brochure and you take it home. What you want is a profile that reveals just enough to tease a girl into being even more curious. Use these strategies when trying to meet women online.

Choose Your Headline Wisely

You need a witty headline because the headline is one of the first things a woman is going to see on your profile. Some online dating sites will call it a “tagline”, which is basically the same thing. I always use something funny as a headline. If you’ve read any other pick-up stuff, maybe you had a funny saying or a funny line you can use. I always rotate and try different things.

Here are some of them:

“I’m not feeling the connection… Do you know what I mean?”
“I think I’m going to have to break up with you.”
“I’m ex-husband material”
“I’m ex-boyfriend material”

You can say things like these and it will crack them up because these are one-liners. You can always use movie lines. I love using different movie lines. What are some funny movies that you can think of? For everybody it’s going to be different.

What’s funny for me might not be funny for you. What kind of funny movies come to mind? What kind of lines
come to mind. I always use those in my profile and in my headline because it’s starts everything off on a funny note.

Choose Bio Pictures Carefully

What I discovered is that looks don’t really matter as much as guys tend to think they do. Men like to think that women are drawn to their physical attraction, but this simply isn’t true. Granted, women especially online are paranoid about the height. The height issue is real big for a lot of women.

As far as the photos go, what I found to work really well are photos that convey what you’re saying in your profile. So if you’re talking about traveling, have pictures of you in different places because you’re conveying that. If you talk about how you love museums or you’re an artist, show you and some of your artwork in some of your pictures.

What I also found worked really well were pictures of myself in a suit. If you wear one for work, that’s great. Get a picture of you when you’re at work. Women always love a man who looks good, especially in a suit and tie. You can never go wrong with that. You probably already have these kinds of photos on your social networking profiles.

Include Group Photos

The mistake that very often cripples a lot of guys is they have all their pictures with them by themselves. Think about what you’re a conveying to a woman subconsciously. You’re conveying loneliness. You want to make sure you have people in your pictures where they’re smiling and having fun. This will give more of a chance for a first date.

You’re by yourself in every single picture so what do you think woman is going to think. You’re by yourself, you have no friends. What kind of woman wants to be with a guy who has no friends? If you’re a teacher, a photo of you with your kids at school will work great. Build a sense of confidence in your photos.

Get Your Photos Rated

One of the things I created was this system of getting my pictures rated. What I tend to think is three to five pictures is more than enough. You never want to have more than five pictures. You want to leave a little bit of mystery there. Three to five pictures should do it. What you want to do is take your pictures and go to this website called www.HotorNot.com. It’s free.

All you do is upload your pictures and women will rate your pictures from 1 to 10. You just leave it up there for a little while and you’ll kind of get an idea as to which pictures the women from all over the world or all over the country are looking at, and which ones they like the best. What better way to figure out which pictures to put up on your profile then to have women tell you.

Don’t be afraid of rejection when getting your photos rated. This is a chance to see what REAL women think about your pictures.

Make Her WANT to Contact You First

In order to do that, you need the right bait. It’s just like fishing. If you want the fish to bite, you have to give them the right bait. One of the best baits you can use is called “Desire.” When you’re writing, you want to build desire in the girl. The more you express that you’re cool, you’re funny, you have friends, you lean an interesting life and you’re carefree, the more she wants to meet you.

While doing my research on how to date online, one of the things I started looking at were some online escort sites. I found a trend. I noticed how the professional escorts would always talk about experiences. They would never say, “I’m 5’7, 110 pounds, 34DDs, I got a great ass like JLo.”

The pictures on the escort sites would convey that but the words on the page to build that desire always talked about experiences, stories, places where she could meet you, things like that you could do with her. Steal this strategy and build desire.

The Secret Psychology Of Attraction

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There’s a reason that nothing you’ve ever found online or in dating guides has worked before! They don’t have the “loophole” in female psychology that will allow YOU to know (and secretly influence) how a girl feels about you before you ever make a move. You’re about to learn the insider secrets on how you can STOP REJECTION forever and quit getting stuck in the dreaded friend zone.

The dating tips and seduction tactics out there now are mostly ones you’ve heard before – and they’re the ones you KNOW don’t work. You know because you’ve tried them.

Seducing a woman isn’t easy (that’s an understatement!) In fact, it can be one of the most frustrating, terrifying and nerve wracking things out there!

You’ve been there before – too scared to ask a hot girl out, too nervous to even get a complete sentence out of your mouth without looking like a fool.

Are You Sick And Tired Of Watching Rich Or Good Looking Guys Get ALL The Girls?

You’re a pretty good catch, right? You would treat a girl like a queen – that is, if you could ever get her to go out with you! It must be exhausting to go out every night in the hopes that you’ll hit it off with a girl, but they’re ALL hanging on the arms of other rich, good looking guys!

They SHOULD be hanging all over you!

You might have tried to approach hot women, and you might have even settled for the less attractive ones  just so you could attempt to strike up a conversation with one. How empty did you feel when you left the club ALONE? How frustrated were you when every attempt you made at conversation with a woman was blown off? How envious were you of the guys in the club that made talking to women look absolutely effortless?

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The #1 Secret To Flirting

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Flirting is often discouraged because of our insecurities. We want a better job, we want more money, we want to be more attractive to the opposite sex, we want to be thinner and we want a great partner. We constantly want more and more out of life, which is healthy and natural for human beings.

So, it is also natural that once you have what you want, you don’t obsess about it the same way.

If you were dreaming about having an amazing sports car and finally bought it after 10 years, the desire to want the car would disappear as soon as you get it.

All of us have the desire have more money, or to even be rich. Well, everyone except rich people.

Wealthy people constantly explain to others that being rich is “not all it’s cracked up to be” and that they want more from their lives too.

In this example, even rich people want more out of life. They’re usually unhappy because they crave a long term relationship, which they may find difficult to achieve because of their heavy involvement in building wealth for themselves. This is a core concept that is very important to understand, and one that is heavily linked to flirting.

UNIVERSAL LAW: People Want What They Can’t Have

Now, think very carefully about how this scenario could be relevant in the dating world. Very feminine beautiful women are shown interest from eager and horny men every day of their lives. By the time these young women reach adulthood their experience with men, dating and relationships is considerably higher than the men who don’t date often.

These women are approached countless times a week by men communicating their interest in them. This may be flattering for awhile, but like everything else, after a while it gets “boring”. If she could have any man within five seconds of meeting him, where is the challenge in that?

People want to lead spontaneous, wild and unpredictable lives. But in order for this to happen, people need opportunities to experience the unexpected, the challenging and the mysterious.

So if a woman is 100% sure she can have a man, because he communicated this in some really obvious way, how much effort is she going to put into calling him, making an effort to talk to him or begging him to catch up?

Of course she wouldn’t chase him, because she knows he’ll be there for her whenever she wants. This encourages her to take him for granted. You must have confidence that you are a challenge to her.

Don’t Suck Up To Women

Women are constantly interpreting men’s actions and the words they say. Their minds are always analyzing your moves in order to better understand your intentions. But if you can keep a woman guessing by being playful, challenging, fun and mysterious, you are much more likely to engage her very quickly.  Observe how these two situations compare and differ.

Negative Interpretation

HE JUST said:, “Wow, you’re really beautiful.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s only interested in me physically because he doesn’t even know anything about me. I don’t like him.
RESULT: She’s repelled.

Woman’s Positive Interpretation

HE JUST: Poked his tongue out at me!

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s very confident, mysterious, funny, secure, in control, hard to get, playful, and really fun! He’s not just interested in my looks because he’s not sucking up to me like all the other guys. In fact, I’m not even sure if he is interested in me. I’m going to keep flirting with him and get to the bottom of this.

RESULT: She’s attracted.

Do you see how challenge attracts women? Now that you understand why this type of flirting is necessary, let’s look at more examples that can help you attract the sort of woman you are looking for. By learning verbal techniques and body language that works, other aspects of your personality will develop automatically, and transform you into the irresistible man women want to meet.

Woman’s Positive Interpretation

HE JUST SAID: “You look like a dork in that hat.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s confident and independent. He’s not kissing up to me like all the other guys and he isn’t trying to get anything from me – or is he? I like him.
RESULT: She’s attracted.

Can you see how telling a woman that she looks like a dork can work so well? Why don’t women date men who desperately want them? Women don’t find these men challenging. They don’t find them “worth it.” What is not earned is not valued.