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6 Hot New Sex Tips To Try Tonight!

Sex tips are a great way to keep your sex life inspired. Whether you’re getting tired of the same old missionary style, or you’re looking to expand your already amazing sex life, sex tips can take you over the hump. If you and your partner are looking for a way to increase the amount of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship, these sex tips can easily help you out. Here are 5 hot new sex tips to try tonight.

1. Roleplay With Your Partner

Role play isn’t for everybody. There are of men and women that get embarrassed over putting on a costume or having to improv sexy talk. If you and your partner are comfortable with it, role playing can be a great way to put some new kink into your sex life. Some of the most common forms of roleplay involve one partner being dominant and the other being submissive.

Before you start to role play, you should always determine who is going to be dominant and who is going to be submissive. If you want to switch it up in the middle of the role playing then this is fine too. The key is to find a healthy balance so the both of you are satisfied in the end.

2. Set Up Barriers

This is something that is commonly found in the pick up artist community, but it works well with couples also. Barriers are basically used to increase sexual tension. Pick up artists use this to increase sexual tension in an environment that cannot be used for sex. For instance, talking dirty to a girl in a restaurant or getting a her turned on in a nightclub.

You can’t have sex in a nightclub or in a restaurant, so the girl feels safe and more likely to respond in a positive manner. Go out to dinner with your partner and use the barriers to your advantage. Get the sexual tension so high that you can’t wait to get home.

3. Switch Up The Dominance

There are a lot of guys and girls that love to be either dominant or submissive in the bedroom. One of the best ways that you can get out of your comfort zone and experience something different is to switch up the dominance. Instead of always having your boyfriend or girlfriend being the dominant one, take control.

If you’re the one who always takes control, be submissive. In the middle of sex, switch roles so that you are either dominant or submissive. This will not only increase the sexual tension and create a really fun environment for experimentation, it can also expose you to new and creative ways of taking or letting go of control.

4. Use Sex Toys

There are too many couples who rely on their bodies for sexual pleasure. If you haven’t tried sex toys yet, do it. Take a trip to the adult store together and pick out a small vibrator or dildo for your girlfriend. You also might want to try out a cock ring or a vibrating condom. Sex toys are there to enhance your sex life, not replace it.

So many couples think that sex toys are a form of “cheating” or “copping out.” Just because you have a really intense orgasm with a vibrator doesn’t mean that your guy isn’t a good lover. Try out some sex toys to get things rolling or to take your orgasms to the next level.

5. Remove Anxieties

With kids, work, housework or whatever else you have in your life, the last thing that you or your partner wants to do is have sex. Sex is about having fun and it can be an escape from life, however, there are things that your sexual urges can’t overcome. Remove the anxieties from life so you can focus on your sex life. Try to help your partner out on a daily basis so you both have less stress and anxiety in your lives. This will go a long way with your sex life.

6. Double Down On Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for having great sex. While this is not secret, so many men and women tend to forget it when they are in a long-term relationship. It’s way to easy to get to the big show immediately. Take the time that you normally spend on foreplay and double it. If you normally spend about 5 minutes on foreplay, extend it to 10 minutes.

Mix up what you normally do so your partner is surprised. Going from kissing to oral sex is a staple. Mix it up so you are kissing and then giving oral sex and then back to kissing or just fingering. This will make a big difference in the way that your partner gets turned on.

12 Unbreakable Domination Rules

By loveandsex

Domination can be fun and sexy, but you need to make sure you don’t cross the line. Here are twelve things to keep in mind when getting your BDSM on.

Here’s how this game is played: one partner is the dominant one (the top) and the other plays the submissive role (the bottom). It is the power component that differentiates this form of lovemaking: the bottom accepts the vulnerable position and leaves all responsibility in the hands of the top.

Before engaging to it, be sure that you’re both aware of the following four conditions for good B/D:

You know and trust each other enough to go beyond the “normal code” of sexuality
You both agreed to practice safe sex and take all the necessary safety precautions so that nothing stands in the way of your pleasure.
Neither you, nor her is pressured or uncomfortable doing it.
Whenever something starts to feel painful or wrong, you stop immediately.

Do NOT Break These Rules

1. Be Careful With Your Knots

Don’t do anything air, circulation or joint constrictive. Don’t use slipknots (they’ll tighten up when pulled) or stockings (being so thin and slippery, they also tend to tighten up under pressure). The act of bondage is just make believe, so use knots tied very loosely or even thread.

NOTE: keep a pair of scissors nearby, just in case.

2. Never Use Alcohol Or Drugs Before Or During

Don’t abuse alcohol or drugs before doing BDSM. Your judgment will be impaired and you might overdo everything.

3. Use The Right Tools For The Job

Don’t improvise. Use specially designed sex toys for bondage, if you want to remain on the safe side. They are easy to use and don’t present complications.

4. Always, ALWAYS Have A Safe Word

Invent an escape word. Agree on an escape word that ends the game immediately when uttered. A clear and established sign is more prone to be taken into consideration than mere begging, which might be taken as a game play move.

5. Establish Boundaries First

Create a checklist. Sit down with your partner and write what is ok to do and what is not, so that there are no misunderstandings.

6. Don’t Forget The Intimacy

Keep the heat on. Whether you are on the giving or receiving and of the bondage equation, take every opportunity to behave seductively toward your partner. If you want this to work, you must not allow yourselves to get lost in the preparations and forget the goal of all this experience, which is to feel good and share your love for one another.

7. Don’t Aim To Hurt

Stay on the comfort side. The purpose of bondage is to restrain the body for sexual pleasure, but it shouldn’t cause you pain or irritation. It might end up distracting you and putting you off.

8. Keep It Simple

Rope, and handcuffs, and leather, and ear bunnies, and spanking, and dirty talk – sometimes too much is just that- too much. You don’t need to re-enact everything that you’ve read in all the books and magazines that have passed through your hands. Excess fumbling and fussing over elaborate details obscure the ultimate goal.

9. Know Your Limitations

As adventurous as you might be, there are some things that you just can’t do, and attempting to impose or maintain a position at the expense of anatomical realities eventually results in frustration and disappointment.

10. Know How To Release Your Partner Quickly

One of your first purchases when you’re preparing for this type of sexual activity should be a pair of paramedic scissors from a medical supply store. The blades will be at a ninety-degree angle to the handle and the lower one will have a blunt end to avoid cutting skin as you cut rope. If you’re using locking restraints (such as handcuffs), know where the key is at all times, and always have a backup one for emergencies.

11. Pay Attention To The Warning Signs

The human body is extremely unpredictable and no two bodies react the same to the same things. Fainting, out-of-focus gazing and talking, flushed an pale face, clammy skin, all these are signs that she’s not really liking what you two have put together. If you see any of these signs on her face, be prepared to put her out of the restraints immediately.

12. Never, EVER Leave A Partner Who Is Tied Up Alone – EVER

Not for a minute, not for a second. She’s helpless and she’s counting on you to be there. No matter what role play game you’re ‘pretending’ to play, always keep in mind that you’re responsible for whatever outcome this has, since you’re the one pulling the shots. Stay in the same room at all time and keeps your eyes and ears peeled for the tiniest sign of discomfort.

6 Naughty Truths About Explosive Sex She Wants You to Know!

By lloydlester

Sex tips from your girl are the best, because they’re spot on! But she won’t always give them to you! Here are six sex tips she secretly wants you to know.

Do you really know what women want during sex? There are too many women who complain about having bad sex instead of experiencing the heavenly pleasures of lovemaking. If you don’t know what women really want in bed (or think you are clueless), here are things you should keep in mind if you want to give her an amazing time in between the sheets.

1. Smell Good

A foul-smelling body can be a real turn-off in bed. Even if you have a body-odor that you THINK is appealing, get a shower! You should be smelling fresh and clean in bed, not like a caveman waiting to devour his prey. Now, if you are expecting her to give you great fellatio, the last thing you want her to remember is smelling bad down there.

2. Erotic Massage

An erotic massage can work its magic on a woman like no other. Women love to be pampered by their men and massage is a great way to heighten her sexual senses. Put your hands to good use after a bath together and give her a good rub on her back and thighs. This will be a great prelude to a night of passionate fireworks.

3. Assume Dominance

Even the most sexually adventurous women would love their men to be bold, dominant and sexually confident. They want you to set the pace and intensity when you make love. Take charge and try new things together, with one thing in mind: giving her an awesome orgasm that she cannot refuse.

4. Cuddle With Her

Don’t head off to sleep straight after a lovemaking session! Women are emotional beings. They want to feel special not just during sex, but after sex as well. A good cuddle will make her feel wanted and appreciated for who she is. Believe me, this can work magic into a sexual relationship. Most guys don’t do this at all. Be different, and she will likely let you go for round number two.

5. Be Ready For The Next Round

Well, you may have seen this coming, don’t you? Most women don’t request for a second round. But if the first one was so good – especially if you have given her an exquisite orgasm – be prepared to have a go at it again. Grant her this wish. After all, it simply means she adores you and she loves the way you make her feel.

6. Keep It Up

Need I say more? A rock hard erection will get any woman going. It shows how turned on you are by her, and epitomizes your desire for her. So give her the most amazing night ever!

BDSM Basics: How To Get Started

By kendallashley

BDSM is a sex activity that incorporates bondage, domination, submission and masochism. If you have been interested in BDSM for a while, but don’t know how to get started with it, there are a few things that you can do to ease into the scene.

BDSM is very kinky and can be a lot of fun. However, your comfort level might not be the same as your partner’s. It doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie or a veteran of the scene, you should always know what you are comfortable with and what is going to be beyond your limits. Here is a quick guide to help you get started with BDSM.

What Are You Into?

As mentioned before, there are a lot of subsets with BDSM. Whether you’re into bondage or domination, you need to determine what makes you hot. Some men are really into dominating their partner while others would rather be the submissive. If you are into being whipped or incorporating a little pain into the relationship then you must be careful.

Telling your girlfriend or wife to bite your nipples is a little different than being chained to a bed and flogged. Determine what you are into and what is off limits before you ever bring this up with your partner. Knowing your limits will help define what is acceptable and what is not.

Master Vs. Slave

“Master” and “slave” are a very common terms in BDSM. In this scenario, one of you will be the master and one of you will be the slave. The master controls all aspects of the slave’s life. This means they control their privacy, what they do and when they can perform certain tasks. In many cases, the slave will wear a uniform and a collar. Some slaves do not feel comfortable wearing a collar, but others prefer it. In this form of domination, the actions do not always have to be sexual.

A master can designate certain tasks for the slave to complete. These tasks could include housework or sexual actions. The master is in charge of the slave and the slave must abide by the master’s rules. If you are interested in either of these roles, it’s recommended that you get direction from an experienced dominatrix or a slave.

Experimenting With Bondage

Bondage is another form of BDSM that you can get into fairly easily. The most intricate of bondage equipment will involve chains or bed straps, but you can easily improvise. Using neckties or pieces of satin fabric will not break the skin but can restrain easily. Rope is not recommended unless you are experienced because it will irritate the skin during movement.

Handcuffs work well and can be found at local adult stores or at toy stores. It’s recommended that you buy a good pair of handcuffs as plastic can break easily. If you are the one being restrained, make sure that your partner secures the restraints so you cannot move easily. Bondage allows you or your partner to relinquish control, which a lot of people find sexy.

What Is Masochism?

Masochism is another aspect of BDSM. Masochism is a consensual agreement between you and your partner involving the giving and the receiving of pain. There are different levels of masochism. There is extreme pain and then there is just a little pain. If you have ever enjoyed your girlfriend or wife scratching you with her fingernails then you have experienced a very tame form of masochism.

Masochism is enjoyed in the realm of sexuality. In order words, slamming your hand in a door is not the same as getting whipped by your girlfriend. Start off slow with masochism. Getting too much pain at once can ruin the experience quickly. Start out with a bullwhip and then work your way up to other tools.

Always Keep Safety In Mind

Safety is a must when it comes to BDSM. You must keep safety in the forefront of your mind so you are not only comfortable but also safe from any diseases or puncture wounds. It’s all too easy to get over-enthusiastic and wind up with a lash across your back that hurts for days or even scars. Have a safe word in place with your partner and research any methods that you are going to use before you implement them into the bedroom.

Make sure that all of your restraints are secure so they don’t come flying off the bedposts while in use. Also make sure that your restraints aren’t going to damage your furniture. Discuss any rules beforehand with your partner so they know what is off limits. Use these guidelines and you should be off to a great start with your first BDSM experience.

When Domination Goes Wrong

By loveandsex

Domination can be fun during sex, but there’s times where it crosses the line. Are you the kind of guy that can be too rough during sex? Find out now!

Do Men Go Overboard On Purpose?

Though not really wishing to hurt or disrespect his partner, he’s just one sold to the image of a man holding his girl by the head, shoving his equipment down her throat during a blowjob. He doesn’t mean to be a pig, he just thinks it’s supposed to be that way and actually hopes his lady loves it! Not hearing any real grievances from her, he gives her a rough time.

There’s this idea that women want their men to dominate – that women want to be sexually led. I have found this assertion to be very true.

Of course, a woman wants her man to assume control. Dominance themes populate a woman’s fantasies and she cherishes the feeling of being overwhelmed, overpowered and unable to restrain her man’s carnal cravings. She wants her partner to take her, bring her unimaginable pleasure and have his way with her body. Many times, the desire for this is repressed.

Unfortunately, the manner in which many guys administer dominance, as a response to this need, suggests only a partial understanding of the concept. For many, real control is manifested when one makes a girl do something she doesn’t approve of – say, an almost impossible sex position. Or making her swallow semen even though she genuinely doesn’t want to. For them, that’s power.

What Women REALLY Want

But do you know what women actually mean when they say, “I want my man to take control”?

This: I WANT MY MAN TO TAKE CARE OF ME.

So while men gloat, “Wow, she wants me to take the lead, I can do anything I want,” women are thinking, “I just really want him to take good care of me.”

Can their thinking be more opposite?!

Being given control is no license to be unreasonable, for dominance never equals disrespect. Control need not be rude or abusive, it can be dignified and erotically irresistible at the same time. Yeah, you can probably do anything you want, but be responsible.

She gave you control in the first place because she trusts that you know what you’re doing. Leading the mattress moves gives one the opportunity to prove her right on that decision. (Why would you ever want to prove her wrong on that point?)

Every now and then, a woman craves the feeling of being roughed up. Even the non BDSM types want that. But lo and behold, rough and hard is just one of the ways. Having it as a pattern and the sole sexual theme is actually counterproductive. When you’re giving her intense anal sex, with your hands on her neck and she’s thinking, “There has to be something better than this,” that’s already something else.

How To Do Domination The Right Way

If you want to execute the dominance theme on a given night, and with the desired results, make sure of one very important thing. The proper execution of rough & hard hinges on this – HIGH AROUSAL. Not just simple arousal, but head-spinning desire, ushered in by plenty of teasing. When she’s burning with lust, that’s when rough sex can get you the desired effects. (Ironically, a successful execution of dominant sex is built through slow and gentle coaxing.)

As I’ve said, the longing to be dominated is a repressed one, and women are scarcely aware of it. What brings this impulse to surface and fore is high arousal. Unless a girl is intensely excited, she’ll be turned-off and take offense with the perceived manhandling. She won’t appreciate your overly aggressive moves; you’re being too rough with her. But when she’s burning hot, she sheds that rational, defensive normalcy of polite society and becomes very amenable to your advances.

It’s amazing how sexual palatability changes when a woman is crazy horny. Arousal gives leeway for your dominance so you can execute it with the desired results. (She may give ‘token resistance,’ but this doesn’t last very long.)

Rough and hard cannot be executed on a nightly basis as it will rapidly lose its charm – the true masters of wild sex know this. Avoid the routine trap, having it as a pattern turns one raw lover into an incompetent jerk.

What Does She Mean When She Says “Be Gentle?”

We have no scale for it, but there’s such a thing as MAN GENTLE and WOMAN GENTLE – and there’s a big difference. Gentle for you may still be rough for her. MAN GENTLE is not enough – it’s the wrong yardstick.

Why?

In case you didn’t know, men and women live in different worlds. The sensual-gentle approach does not blend in our dog-eat-dog world where we are expected to be strong and aggressive. Outside the love chambers, guys are encouraged to be rough. Gentle is lame. As cowboys, we’re highly applauded for wrestling with bulls. As business men, we vanquish the competition. As athletes, we learn to give the most punishing defense, and in return, earn multimillion dollar contracts.

And of course, women love these exploits. But they don’t live in that kind of world.

In order to approximate the female version, a man has to be extra-mild & extra-careful because the genders have different thresholds, and therefore, different judgments of what is supposed to be this or that. It is a common situation where a girl feels roughed up despite a dude’s best efforts. It should be made clear that every time she drops the “G” word on you, she’s referring to the female version of things.