erectile dysfunction

How To Prolong Ejaculation During Sex (Are You Overlooking This One Thing?)

Premature ejaculation is embarrassing for all parties involved. If you are truly serious about becoming a better lover and giving your woman the best sex possible, you will want to keep reading this article.

You see, most men want to know how to last longer in bed. Yet very few guys actually achieve it. Let’s face it. Premature ejaculation is something that millions of men around the world have to grapple with. But only a handful really knows how to permanently deal with it, and it all boils down to one specific difference.

The Law Of The Numbers

It is no secret that most men come to an orgasm BEFORE women during sex. Studies have shown that women on average need 11 minutes to be able to reach an orgasm during intercourse. For guys, it is just a short 3 minutes! And it is clear why the vast majority of women remain unsatisfied during sex.

The Principle Of Outlasting Women

Many men continue to put their trust on pills, sprays and creams to improve their sexual stamina. The simple truth is that these “band-aids” do NOT provide a permanent solution to premature ejaculation. The key to having total ejaculatory control is in re-conditioning and re-training your mind so that you can significantly delay the “point of no return”, or the point where a male orgasm becomes imminent.

“Re-conditioning” simply requires you to reverse the negative thoughts that cause you to climax early. For instance, many men subconsciously “will” themselves to ejaculate early simply because they entertain thoughts such as:

“Am I really good enough to satisfy her?”
“Will I climax early again?”
“What if she thinks I’m really BAD in bed?”

Does This All Sound Familiar To You?

If it does, the first step to fixing premature ejaculation is to replace those negative thoughts with positive affirmations, such as:

“I can completely satisfy any woman”
“I am sexually confident”
“I can last all night”

The human mind is a very powerful thing. Repetitive affirmations can subconsciously induce the mind to believe the things it can do and more importantly… to eventually act out that way.

So if you are not lasting long enough, start replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, and your ability to enjoy longer-lasting sex will increase multiple folds!

Cure Premature Ejaculation With These 2 EASY Tips!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation is an issue that affects a lot of men. Are you sick and tired of super quick sex? Are you worried that your inability to last is making your woman think twice about making out with you? Are you finally ready to take control of your sex life, supercharge your stamina, and give her hot sex to boot even if you’ve never been able to last beyond 2 minutes in bed?

If you are anything like the men reading this, I am sure your answers are a resounding “YES!”. Here’s a simple fact: over 70% of men surveyed said their biggest fear in the bedroom is not being able to last (so take comfort that you are not alone). Not only that, the majority of women also want their men to last long enough to give them orgasms.

So what are the most effective ways to improve your endurance in bed and become a phenomenal lover who can please any woman at will? Plenty! But for the brevity of this article, let us look at two proven and very popular tactics to improve your “staying power” in the sack.

1. Unload Before Reloading

Take advantage of your refractory period. This is the time frame between the first and second orgasm. Simply put, if you masturbate or gratify yourself an hour or two before you have sex, it will take you much longer to achieve the same levels of sexual stimulation. This can work wonders for your premature ejaculation.

In order words, the first climax helps to “desensitize” your penis glans and can give you up to three times the endurance in bed. You don’t have to feel funny or embarrassed to have to do this – it is a completely natural and proven way to last longer while combating premature ejaculation.

In fact many sexual therapists and medical professionals recommend masturbation as an effective “first line of defense” to prevent an early climax and increase your stamina in bed!

2. Call Me PC For Short

In your pelvis area, there exists a set of muscles, known as the PC muscle. Most men do not know this, but you can fortify these muscles and make them more resilient through simple pelvic contraction exercises that have been proven to transform your sexual stamina.

Exercises like Kegel are super easy to do and does NOT require you to handle your genitals. These simple routines take up no more than a couple of minutes each day, and can easily give you extraordinary stamina to even outlast your woman in bed and I’m pretty sure she won’t be complaining about it either!

Top 5 Reasons You Can’t Get It Up

By isabellastone

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a term to describe a state of impotency.

Yikes.

But ED is actually very common, and often only temporary. Most guys out there will be able to remember one drunken night that they couldn’t quite make it happen. In fact anything from one too many hamburgers, to ill health, to how stressed you’re feeling about your job can have an effect on your ability to get it up.

Here are some of the most common reasons why ED may happen to you:

1. Reduced Blood Flow To The Penis

Hands down the most common cause of ED in over 40s is that not enough blood is flowing to your penis to make it hard. This is caused by a narrowing of the arteries which is a natural part of getting older. However, you may want to eliminate the environmental factors that can make it worse.

2. Smoking And Poor Diet

Yep these are the two things you think of straight away as a cause of bad health and poor circulation. Smoking and high cholesterol foods (that would be your favourite pizza) constrict and clog the arteries respectively. The result? Crappy erections. The penis is no different to any other area of your body. For your penis to be fit, you have to be fit too.

3. Lack Of Exercise

Remember sex is a cardiovascular activity, which puts it in the same bracket as running! So if you think you’d collapse after two minutes on the treadmill, the chances of you getting a high quality erection are slim. The more physically fit you are, the more efficiently your heart pumps blood, the stronger your erections will be.

There are other physical causes of ED: like Multiple Sclerosis, cycling, and a lack of testosterone.

This is rarer though than psychological factors like stress: which are in fact the most common cause of ED.

4. Stress

Yep that same feeling of ‘headache’ caused by your boss setting you an unreasonable deadline, or worrying about your parents’ ill health, can be the same psychological burden that stops you from performing. ED that sets on suddenly is usually due to stress. So if you’re having a tough time personally, as well as professionally; often fixing what’s going on in the work place will help fix what’s not happening in the bedroom.

5. Anxiety

Erectile dysfunction pretty much sums up the saying ‘negative cycle.’ If you have ED once then it can quickly become a repeat offender: because not having the erections you want is stressful. Best way forward is to take the pressure off. Enjoy non-penetrative activities with your partner, don’t focus on your erection and you can break the cycle.

So while the bad news is that ED is pretty common, particularly as you age; it is also often temporary. Making sure you have good health, a happy head and positive relationships will do a lot to counterbalance the most common causes of ED.

Is Porn Responsible For Erectile Dysfunction?

By loveandsex

Porn is pretty much everywhere and most guys use it. Since men are visual creatures and usually need to SEE something arousing to be able to get off, most people don’t bat an eye at adult movies anymore. But could porn be the culprit for men who experience erectile dysfunction?

The Prevalence Of Porn

Yes, adult movies really are everywhere, and they’re in every flavor that one could imagine. You can find porn on the Internet easily, with just the few clicks of your mouse. You can find photos or videos of just about anything you might desire, and if you’ve got the money, you can watch live webcam performances of your favorite stars or video chat with live, hot naked women.

But it’s not just the nudity that’s everywhere – what has changed in the porn industry over the years is the need to continually push buttons and push boundaries. What’s new? What’s exciting? What hasn’t been done before? Adult film stars and producers want to get noticed, and the best way to do that isn’t flashing your breasts – that’s been way overdone. The best way to get noticed is to do something that makes people do a double take. “Did they really just do that? Let’s watch!”

What Does Pushing The Envelope Mean For Men?

For many men, the tasteful nude spreads in Playboy just doesn’t do it anymore. But neither does some of the more risque stuff. Many men are so bored by “just naked women” or “just sex” or “just anal sex” that they continually look for new things to become aroused by. Since the adult entertainment industry basically caters to these desires, it’s a recipe for disaster.

So instead of browsing through tastefully done photos of gorgeous naked women, men are looking for more extreme forms of sexual gratification, including hardcore sex, rough anal sex, golden showers and more. Since men get desensitized to seeing such extreme things on screen, what happens is that it becomes more and more difficult to become aroused through normal nudity or normal sex.

Does It Really Cause Erectile Dysfunction?

Yep. For example, say a man is used to masturbating while watching really rough BDSM or domination. This is what arouses him, and he is always looking for something that he hasn’t seen before. So when he goes to have sex with his wife, what happens? He’s looking at a normal, naked woman and unfortunately, it does nothing to turn him on since he’s so accustomed to being aroused by porn that pushes the envelope.

So he can’t get it up. And she gets frustrated, thinking it is her fault.

In reality, the man has trained himself to sexually respond only to certain things, and the specifics differ from guy to guy. But the concept is the same – if a man masturbates regularly to intense porn, he will most likely have difficulty becoming aroused by normal sex with his partner, resulting in difficulty achieving an erection.

What To Do About It

If you find that you struggle with erectile dysfunction and suspect it may be due to porn, you can take control of your sex life again if you want to have satisfying sex with your partner.

Start by weaning yourself off the most extreme stuff. Take a few minutes to analyze the type of porn you watch at present – what kind of things does it feature? What is it that turns you on the most? Whatever that is, take it down a notch. For example, if you’re currently watching porn that features heavy BDSM, try going down a notch to something that features bondage only. Then you can downgrade to light bondage and so on. In theory, this does not sound difficult to do. The real challenge is avoiding the temptation to watch what you normally do.

Think of it as training yourself to enjoy porn that is much closer to the realistic sexual experiences that you have with a partner, instead of only being able to enjoy things that are only attainable through porn.

When you accomplish this, you will be more satisfied during your sexual encounters with your partner. You will enjoy regular intercourse much, much more than masturbation and masturbation will simply become a “quick necessity” rather than a go-to for the satisfaction of your sexual fantasies. In short, your sex life with your lover will become much, much better and you won’t be in danger of experiencing erectile dysfunction during normal intercourse!

What To Do When He Can’t Keep It Up During Oral Sex!

By loveandsex

Oral sex is awesome for guys, but not every guy can maintain his erection while you do your thing. Do this if he has trouble keeping it up during oral sex.

Is It Your Fault?

Not every man (especially those above the age of forty) has the ability to swiftly get an erection and keep his penis hard during fellatio or at other times as well, even if his partner is completely arousing him. If your partner has difficulty getting or keeping an erection, it is important that you do not beat yourself up emotionally about it! This does not mean that you are not arousing him or that you are not “sexy” or “good” enough.

What To Say When He Can’t Maintain His Erection

You must also be careful about what you say when this happens. Men in general are very sensitive about the size of their penis and whether or not they can get an erection and keep one. Remarks, although seemingly harmless to you, may have long-term ego scarring that can affect future fellatio sessions. Better to avoid this at all and be supportive of your partner should he have difficulty getting or keeping an erection.

Getting Him To Relax

This is an important first step in beginning fellatio on a man who has difficulty obtaining and/or maintaining an erection. Physical and emotional stress (particularly if the stress is in relation to the sexual act about to be performed) your partner may find it difficult to get aroused, even if he has never had this happen before. There are several ways you can reduce anxiety before performing oral sex.

Turn down the lights. If your partner is at all self conscious about the way he looks down there or in general, turning the lights down or completely off may help take the visual focus off him and allow him to relax. If you’re planning on incorporating some visual techniques into your fellatio session, however, complete darkness isn’t going to work here. Candles are an excellent thing to have – everyone looks great in candlelight! The soft, flickering lighting will provide you with enough light to do your job (no pun intended) while discreetly hiding any physical flaws that he may be worried about.

You can also give him an erotic massage. While this is traditionally something that women enjoy getting from men but that does not mean that a good rubdown will not relax your partner and help get him into the mood. Grab some scented oil or plain lotion if you prefer and get to work! Stay focused in the neck and shoulder area and don’t be afraid to let your thumbs gently work their way in between the creases of his muscles – this is where the endorphins (those awesome, feel-good hormones) are released from.

Using Kissing And Communication

You can kiss him everywhere – his body and his lips. But a great make-out session before going down on your partner can help bring a slack penis to attention by mimicking on his lips what you’ll be doing to his penis in a few minutes. He will begin to imagine the way your lips will feel below his waist and by the time you get there, his penis might very well be ready for it! This is also a great turn-on for men that do not have difficulty getting an erection.

Your attitude plays a big part here, ladies. If your partner has difficulty getting or keeping an erection, it is important that you discuss with him things that you can do to help alleviate the situation in a non-judgmental way. And we really do mean non- judgmental here! If your partner even gets a whiff of a frustrated or upset attitude from you, he will most likely shut down completely. But it is important that you and your partner have this discussion, because although we list several things that may help you to give your partner an erection, none of them are foolproof and they are certainly not tailored to the individual guy. If you can get him to open up, your man could give you the key to what gets him hot and erect. Just be loving, supportive and open-minded.

How To Stimulate His Penis

Whether be it by handjob or with your mouth, it is important to give your partner’s penis some direct stimulation if you find that he has difficulty getting an erection. If you’re saving the oral stimulation for the main act, you can gently use your hands to bring his penis to life. Remember, a flaccid penis is a sensitive one so techniques that you would use on an erect penis can sometimes still apply here. Just be gentle! Stroke his penis and touch it tenderly, the way you would want to be touched to get aroused. Would you want your partner instantly rubbing your clitoris when you haven’t been warmed up at all? Exactly. Give him some stimulation and some time to get fully aroused if you and your partner find yourselves in this type of situation.

Pay attention to his head. Yes, the head of his penis. This is where the majority of the sensitive nerve endings are bundled up and what better way to get your partner’s penis erect than to give it a jump start! Try to stay away from areas that you know don’t have a whole lot of nerve endings, such as the base of the penis, because in reality it will be wasted effort. If you and your partner have had successful oral sex before, try some of his favorite techniques to get him going. Just experiment with what feels good to him and you should be off to the races in no time!

Begin licking immediately. You don’t have to wait for your partner to be hard before putting his penis in your mouth. Although with fellatio, the man is generally aroused beforehand, this is not always the case. It actually feels quite pleasurable for the man to have his entire penis wrapped up in your hot, warm mouth. With bigger penises, the only way to do this is while he is soft! Generally, a man who has difficulty getting an erection will begin to get hard while you are in the starting stages of fellatio. Just be patient and give him some time.