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How To Make Her Less Shy During Sex

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Sex doesn’t always come naturally to women. If she’s shy, use these HOT techniques to tune into her inner freak and drive her absolutely wild!

Do you know why some men are able to bring out the sexually wild and adventurous side of any woman with almost effortless ease? Well, if you have had the experience of being in a long term relationship with a girl who seems sexually reserved, or if you are in a sexual relationship with a woman who balks at doing anything even slightly adventurous in bed, you would probably wonder why.

But there is no need to put yourself down for not being able to bring out the wild and sexy side in her. There are two simple principles that will turn your girl – even if she is the most sexually reserved woman – into a passionate, wild woman in bed.

Stop Being “Nice” To Her

Have you ever wondered why “bad boys” or jerks always seem to score well with women in bed? No, I don’t mean you should turn yourself into a barbaric, unreasonable chap who demands the world from his girl in bed. But you should know that you cannot trigger an intense sexual chemistry with her by being her best friend or the person that she confides in. These behaviors will instead have an exact opposite effect on her.

Work On Your Sexual Shyness, Not Hers

Your woman will synchronize with your level of comfort during sex. In other words, if you secretly feel insecure about your own sexuality or sexual ability, chances are that she will feel the same way too. As a result, it will subconsciously fill her with a powerful need to suppress her own sexual desires when you are around her. On the contrary, if you are confident about sex, and know exactly what to do during sex, she will synchronize with that kind of emotional energy too! She will feel less inhibited, and less embarrassing to reveal her own desires when having sex.

The Bottom Line

Always bear in mind that if you are nervous about your own ability to perform in bed, this will have a direct effect on how she will perceive her own sexual abilities. She may even be ashamed of her own sexual desires and feel tensed up whenever sex is on the cards. On the other hand, if you are assured and confident about your ability to please her, those “yucky” fantasies she has in her mind all this while will suddenly become kind of HOT!

The Best Sex Tip For Men

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Sex doesn’t come naturally to every guy. In fact, many guys struggle with it. Have better sex by employing this #1 tip for guys.

It is without a doubt the single most powerful way to drive any woman completely wild in bed. But first, why would you want to be amazing in bed? Is it to flame your own ego? Is it to impress her with the most incredible romp she’s ever had? Or are you concerned about her straying away if you don’t perform to par in bed? It’s none of these. The ability to give the woman you love the kind of sex that makes her go crazy will make you feel just incredible. It will bond the both of you in a very deep and profound manner.

The best sex tip in the world will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy you might be mentally unprepared for. There is a certain level of responsibility that comes along with it.

The Best Sex Tip Is…

To pay attention to HER. Focus on HER body. Learn what is working for HER.

This technique is incredibly powerful, because:

Every Woman Is Different

What works on one woman may utterly fail on another. Some women may prefer clitoris stimulation while others may prefer penetrative sex. One may like things fast and furious while another is into slow and anticipatory lovemaking. One may love lots of foreplay, yet another may want to make love right out of the bolt. There is no universal lovemaking technique that works for all women. That is why paying attention to what your woman wants in bed is critically important

You Convey Sexual Confidence

A sexually confident man is a huge turn-on for any woman. Women simply adore men who know what exactly they want in bed and who feel assured about their own sexuality. And paying attention to her conveys exactly that image of you! When she feels complete involvement from you during sex, she can feel the total sexual confidence in you. And for you, because you are so focused in her, you will naturally forget about all your own insecurities and inadequacies in bed!

It Builds Intimacy And A Great Emotional Bond

The reason is simple. A woman’s ultimate sex organ is not in her genitals (sorry, guys!). Her head and her throbbing heart are. You see, when a woman is completely connected and comfortable with you, she will allow herself to totally surrender to you. All her inhibitions will melt away. Know what this means? When she achieves an orgasm with you, it will be far more powerful and intense than anything she has ever experienced.

This is the stuff that women’s sexual fantasies are made of. This is the stuff that the best sex tip is made of. You will create an amazing bond, trust, intimacy and delirious sexual pleasure. Use it well, and use it responsibly!

How To Tell Him You’ve Been Faking Your Orgasm

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An orgasm is something many women fake, but you definitely have to come clean if you want to actually have a decent sex life. Here’s how to tell him.

No guy wants to know that you’ve been faking your orgasm, but you have been and you’ve decided you want to tell him the truth: he’s not doing it for you. This is a delicate conversation to say the least. How do you do it? How can you tell him you’ve been faking your orgasm?

What She Said About Your Fake Orgasm:

Why have you been faking? I don’t understand women that think its ok to pretend that something is working for them so in turn, their guy will continue to do it thinking that is what works! It would be so much easier to just let him know you didn’t come but he could do so-and-so and that might help! If you have been with a guy for a while and you have been faking it you are kinda screwed.

If you tell him now you are going to shatter his little perfect sex world and take away all his glory! It’s like giving him the Olympic gold and then taking it back because you lied about the scoring. Or giving him a puppy then running it over. OK, that was extreme but guys really take pride in getting their women off which is why it is never good to fake it. When you fake it you are just denying yourself pleasure and setting your guy up to continue to fail you.

Let’s say you are not in the mood for sex or too tired etc, there is nothing wrong with telling your man that you didn’t come but had a great time getting him off. Or telling him that you really loved all the foreplay but for one reason or another, tonight was not your night. If you honestly do not resent the fact that he didn’t get you off then reassure him that he can get you next time. If you are left with”Pink Balls” (female blue balls) then you might need to take matters into your own hands, or take his head into your lap. But, what ever you do, don’t fake it.

Alas, if you have been faking it and you feel you must tell him, do not do it when you two are having sex or right after you had sex. So how do you bring it up? Well, a great trick is to use media! So, wait until something like a TV show or magazine article mentions it and then you can casually say “Sometimes (not all the time, even if it is all the time never say all the time!!!) when we are having sex i don’t come and in order to help you finish i fake my orgasm”. There, honest and quick. But be prepared for him to care and even be a bit bothered that you have been faking. You need to reassure that he is still the man, so let him know the reasons why you have been faking.

Some of these reasons could be:

  1. You love what he does to you, it makes you feel so good but sometimes it gets so intense you fake it.
  2. You could say that you like how he feels inside you and don’t always need to come.
  3. You were so tired but love all the foreplay and all you really needed was a little bit of loving. Anything around those lines should be helpful as he tries to pick his deflated ego.

Also, please know you do deserve to come every single time you have sex, so don’t think that it’s all about him! Do not play the “I didn’t need to come” card all the time. So now that you have confessed you two need to get on figuring out what he can do, or what you can do or what a battery operated friend can do to get you there. If you are ballsy enough to admit that you have been faking then you are ballsy enough to bring a vibrator to bed.

What He Said About Your Fake Orgasm:

This conversation isn’t going to be easy, and it’s probably going to hurt him. Men are all about the idea of doing the job well, and they take pride in it. If you’ve been faking it, you’ve been telling him that he has been doing it right and that’s not true. Now you’re going to pull the rug out from under him and he’s going to land on his ass.

In addition to the pain in his ass, will be the pain in his chest. You’ll break his heart. I don’t know if you should come out and say it, but if you have to, say “I always enjoy sex with you, but I don’t always achieve orgasm. Let’s work on that together. Here are the following things I’d like to try.” Telling him straight up that your faking your orgasm isn’t pleasant, so be sure to have other options ready and let him know you enjoy having sex with him and want to continue to do so.

Also, if you do have orgasm with him from say oral sex or anal sex or by hand and not intercourse, let him know and maybe suggest toy use, but that’s another column left for another time.

How To Achieve The Holy Grail Of Sex – The Simultaneous Orgasm

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A simultaneous orgasm can be a super hot and emotionally gratifying experience. Here’s how to achieve what is known as the “holy grail” of sex.

A simultaneous orgasm is something that a lot of couples strive for. This concept can even be something that people worry about on a constant basis. The most important thing to understand about a simultaneous orgasm is that it does not define your sex life or your relationship. People put way too much weight on climaxing at the same time.

Just because you and your partner to not have an orgasm the same time every time doesn’t mean that you have a problem in your sex life. However, if you would like to achieve a simultaneous orgasm, there are a few things that you can do in order to improve your chances.

1. Know That It’s Not Easy

There are men and women that have control over their orgasms and there are men and women that can’t keep it at bay for too long. When you are trying to achieve a simultaneous orgasm, it is important to realize that it might not be that easy. Timing your orgasm with your partner can put a strain on the relationship that is really not needed. Different partners have different sexual needs to even reach an orgasm in the first place. Don’t be afraid of failure and you will be much more likely to put each at ease during sex.

2. Prolonging Can Be Bad

Prolonging an orgasm by either a man or a woman is never a good idea. Some men find that prolonging their orgasm during sex makes it that much harder to actually have one. This can also make them that much more sensitive to premature ejaculation. Taking a man to the edge of his orgasm and then making him stop could be a recipe for disaster.

After prolonging the orgasm, the man could be that much more likely to have an uncontrolled climax during the same session. Forcing a woman to prolong her orgasm can also be bad. When a woman prolongs her orgasm, it can be harder to get her back up to the level of being able to climax.

3. Use A Lot Of Foreplay

Having a simultaneous orgasm is much harder for women than men. At the drop of a hat a man is usually able to achieve orgasm during sex. Using a lot of foreplay on a woman will bring her to edge of climax much more quickly. Guys, use oral sex and fingering to get her primed to have a female orgasm and you will find it much easier to achieve a simultaneous orgasm. Using manual stimulation on the woman’s clitoris during sex will give you much better results in trying to come together.

4. Use Multiple Orgasms To Have A Simultaneous Orgasm

One of the best tricks is to use multiple orgasms to have a simultaneous orgasm. If the girl can have multiple orgasms then the two of you will much more likely to be able to reach your goal. Not all women can have multiple orgasms, however, if your partner can, you can use this to your advantage. Although you might not be able to reach orgasm during the first one or even the second, you can have a simultaneous orgasm on the third or fourth.

5. Do Kegels

Kegel exercises can help a man control his orgasm during sex. If your boyfriend or husband has a problem with premature ejaculation, he should start to use kegel exercises during the day. These exercises can help him old his orgasm in rather than having to pull out and wait a few seconds for the sensation to pass. When a man has found the ability to control the muscles that affect his orgasm, he will easily be able to hold it in until the woman has reached climax.

6. Practice

Practice always makes perfect. When you are trying to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, it is important to keep the goal in mind during sex. Use all of these suggestions to help you master the learning curve and get to where the both of you are happy with your sex life. Remember that there are going to be times where you are not both coming at the same time. If you even hit 50% then you are doing better than most couples on the planet. Practice with each other and communicate during sex so you can both come together.

3 Incredible Tactics To Give Her A Powerful, Earth-Shaking Orgasm!

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Her orgasm should be the primary focus of sex, and yours comes only after she’s been thoroughly satisfied. Here’s how to rock her world!

Are you disappointed with the fact that she may be faking orgasms with you in bed? This is a challenge for you to be able to give her better sex! Surprise her by making her experience the real thing tonight. Getting her to orgasm during sex is not as difficult as what many men make it out to be. With these three powerful tips, you will be surprised at how much she will begin to change how she experiences sex with you!

1. Give Her A Back Massage

Unknown to many men, a woman’s back is a huge erogenous zone! Women also love it when you pay attention to every inch of the skin of their rear. There are different sensitive points on a woman’s back: the lower back or the area just below the scapula. It will be a man’s job to discover which part of his woman’s back is most sensitive to erotic massage. You may let your fingers run tenderly along the expanse of her back, place gentle kisses on her warm skin, and make your tongue do slow and passionate caresses. Know when she whimpers the most because that area is the point of maximum thrill and frenzy. This will be the start of a steamier encounter between the two of you!

2. Increase Her Orgasm Potential With Kissing

Just like other parts of her body, that plump mass of flesh on her face is also supplied with numerous nerves. Give them a passionate kiss! Pay her back from all the loving kisses she gave you in the past with those sensual movements of your lips against hers. Begin with soft strokes of your lips on hers then let the excitement take the lip-locking to another level. However, you may also arouse her by letting your fingers do soft strokes on her lips. Watch her as these arousing actions send surges of thrill all over her body.

3. Never Linger Too Long On Her Breasts

Yes, men do love their women’s breasts more than anything else. Your woman, however, will be more ecstatic if you also pay attention to the other parts of her body even without taking any of her clothing off. Once she is already at the height of sexual exploration, you may proceed in hovering over her breasts. Press your lips against the skin of her round bosoms. You may let your tongue travel against her skin, and make your fingers fondle those small pink buds. With this, you will be able to show her how much you appreciate her whole being, resulting in a more exhilarating sexual union.