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How To Get Him To LOVE Going Down On You!

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Oral sex isn’t something that all men like. If you are dealing with a guy that will not go down on you, there are a few things that you can do to take charge. Here is what real men and women are saying about how to get a guy to like going down on you.

What She Said:

Work With Him

When it comes to oral sex you can’t force anyone to like it but there are a few things you can do to make your guy be more inclined to go down on you.  One way is to do it is to go down on each other the same time!  The 69 position is perfect!  You can start giving  head and then swing your hips over to his face.

With mutual oral sex no one can say no, your tongues are already busy.  Another helpful tip is to keep your bikini line trimmed, you don’t have to go hairless but you should keep it tidy for him.  Speaking of tidy, many women fear of an odor down there and some guys might be squeamish about it too.

But, unless you have an infection, everything one can smell and taste down there is completely fine.  Another tip to get your guy to like it more is to let him know how much you like it.  While he is down there, moan and tell him what you are enjoying.  Lastly, be thankful.  Afterwards thank him with a high five or a blowjob!  It’s the gift that keeps on giving!

What He Said:

Don’t Expect Him To Know What You Like

Some guys don’t like doing it. It’s true. If you like getting head and he doesn’t like giving it and isn’t willing to learn, then you should move on. Let him hook up with some girl who has self confidence issues with her vagina and doesn’t want to get oral sex.

Some guys are concerned about getting an STD from giving you head. If that’s there deal, then use a dental dam. It prevents any STD transmission from happening and they’re also flavored, so your man will have a tasty treat in case he’s a guy who doesn’t like the taste of your vagina.

I really think for most guys who say they don’t like going down on a girl that it’s really a case of them not knowing how to properly perform cunnilingus on a woman. It’s different for every woman and where women have the benefit of men, who are always all to eager to tell you in great detail how you should be blowing them, many women just expect you to know how to give them amazing head without giving their men even the slightest hint.

He Can’t Read Your Mind!

Men aren’t good at reading what’s on a woman’s mind, do you really think they’re better at reading your vagina? Probably, not so much, if you really think about it. As much as every guy on the planet would like to be known as the “vagina whisperer” that’s just not how it is. Men really want to rock their women’s world. They want you to have an orgasm way more than you do. Society cheers for the importance of a job well done, so he’s probably dying to give you amazing oral sex more than you are dying for it.

So stop expecting your guy to know what your vagina likes. Tell him what to do. Always be sure to frame it in the right way. Don’t tell your guy what he’s doing wrong. Say that you’d like to try something that would make what he’s doing even better. He’ll be down for it. That’s a very subtle yet important distinction.

Give very detailed, explicit and real time instructions. Yes, telling him how to eat your pussy while he’s giving you oral sex, might not be quite as hot as him just automatically knowing how to give you multiple orgasms, but bear with him. If you’re willing to go through the instructional period, you’ll be rewarded with amazing oral sex very soon. Even if it takes a while for him to master, you’ll see immediate dividends as he makes his gradual progression towards giving you oral sex like the champ of your vagina.

Everything You NEED To Know About The Clitoris

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A female orgasm is a mystifying even to a lot of men. By far the most common way for a woman to achieve an orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. To understand why, you must first understand the clitoris.

Just WHAT Is It?

The clitoris is located just above the entrance to the vagina and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh that contains a high concentration of nerve endings.

A clitoral hood often covers it. Many men and women mistake the hood for the clitoris itself. But what most people don’t know is that only a small portion of this is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.

Why Is It So Darn Important?

Two things are particularly interesting about this sex organ. First, all female mammals have one. This is interesting because according to biologist, the sole purpose of this organ is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren’t the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels. And if you’ve ever seen two animals mate, you might agree.

Second, it is made from the same material as the the male genitals. In fact, in men this organ becomes a fullfledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the male organ, the female organ fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin.

It’s The Same As A Penis…Say What?

The only real difference between the two —besides location in the body—seems to be that the males use their organ for urination, while the clitoris is not. With that said, it is important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen.

Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse can stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris, as well, and this can also lead to an orgasm. What many people don’t realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually can’t stimulate it. This is due its position within the woman’s body. This makes it extremely difficult for the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.

Erotic Massage from A-Z – How To Master Foreplay NOW!!!

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Erotic massage seems easy but the challenge lies in doing it correctly. Become a master of the massage with these EASILY learned strokes for better sex tonight!

The Basic Strokes

1.    GLIDING – The most commonly used stroke, gliding is executed by simply sliding your palms over lover’s skin, creating friction and warmth as you go along. Make sure that you use a lot of lubricant for this. There are no patterns or set motions, this is just you caressing her. This is a very pleasant stroke that can be applied anywhere on her body. (You may also use the back of your hand.)

2.    PALM CIRCLES – This is usually executed on broad areas like your partner’s back. Trace a circle (or half-circle) using your palms. With both hands, you can simultaneously or alternately fan in opposite left-right directions.

3.   THUMB CIRCLES – This one’s similar to Palm Circles but is usually executed in smaller areas like the neck, shoulders, palm, ankles and temples.

4.   FINGER WALKING – This involves the other four fingers. Imagine you’re playing the flute. Point & Slide. Let your fingers walk along the different avenues of her body.

5.   SCRATCHING – This is not the BDSM variety. It’s simply an erotic but gentle slide of fingernails on your lover’s body. You can do this practically anywhere. Just go very, very light on the face, especially when you go over her eyes. This is before you make love.

6.    KNUCKLES – Form a fist. Roll and glide those knuckles around. This is especially effective on the back. Those bony knuckles provide a more focused and slightly intense touch.

7.    THUMPING – Form a fist. This time, use the underside. Gently thump this on her. This is again especially effective on her back but may still be employed to the rest of your girlfriend’s body.

Remember, the magic is not on the strokes but in the attitude – without sensual presence, there are no sensual strokes.

Touch Techniques

These are 3 moves of pure power. Unleash them on your woman’s body before sex and the pleasures that await are indescribable. You’ll be amazed with what great hands you’ve got!

A)    LOVER’S TOUCH
B)    BODY TRACING
C)    HUNDRED HANDS

The Lover’s Touch

The Lover’s Touch (LT) is like stroking a butterfly’s wings. It’s gentle and kind. Tender and light – executed by hovering one’s hand delicately just above her skin. When it lands, it barely even touches. It’s there, but as if it isn’t. The weightless caress sends a wave of happy shiver through her spine, flushing her brain with pleasure. With eyes shut, she’ll feel it even more!

The Lover’s Touch, the epitome of the slow and gentle touching, awakens her basic longings. It is a paradox in action. Very light and gentle, one supposes it’s hardly even felt, but the opposite ensues – the slower and softer one goes, the more intense the kick. This doesn’t make any sense, for it seems the stimulation is not even there.

For example, run the back of your hand and caress your partner’s cheeks – from the base of her ears to the tip of her chin. Do it very, very slowly and very, very gently. Back and forth. Light as a feather, quiet as a willow,tamed as a breeze. (Observe her breathing.)

The Lover’s Touch can be employed anywhere on the body and is a good way of hunting for moan zones.

Don’t be limited to the use of hands, the Lover’s Touch goes beyond that trusty pair – YOUR WHOLE BODY is your Hand… every last blob of it. Your hair, toes, chest, penis, butt, lips, nose, yes even your pubic hair are conveyors of LT.

How To Give Your Girl The SQUIRTING Orgasm Of Her Life!

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Squirting can be extremely hot and surprising if it has never done it before. If she has never squirted before, you could be the greatest lover she has ever been with by employing a few simple techniques. Making your girlfriend or wife squirt is not all that difficult when you understand the physiology of how it is actually performed.

A common misconception is that women who have never squirted before are unable to. This is simply not true. Unless there is an anatomical problem or sexual dysfunction, all women can squirt. Here is a quick guide to squirting so your wife or girlfriend can experience the orgasm of her life.

What Is It?

When most men think about squirting, they think that the girl is urinating. This is not true. Although squirting is a clear liquid, it is not urine.  It does come out of the urethra and not the G-spot, but the liquid has no affiliation with pee. Before you try to make your girl squirt, there are a few things that you need to be comfortable with.

When a girl is squirting, there is a slight chance that she could pee. Being comfortable with this is essential. Don’t freak out on her if she does pee a little bit. This is fairly normal for girls who have never ejaculated before. Make sure that she knows you are okay with her peeing if this occurs. If she is nervous she will not be able to relax and she will not be able to squirt.

Getting Her Ready

Before you ever try to make your girl squirt, you need to make sure that she is warmed up. In order to put your girl at ease and get her in the mood, you must start off with a lot of foreplay. Shoving your fingers into your girl without getting her ready is never recommended.

Use a lot of kissing and teasing to get your girl wet enough to start fingering her. Suck on her breasts and nipples while running your fingertips up and down her inner thigh. When she starts to breathe harder you will be able to tell that she’s ready for you to start touching her vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the inside of her vagina. Play with her clitoris a little bit and brush the outer lips with your fingers to get her ready.

The G-Spot

The G-spot is going to be the primary way of getting your girl to start squirting. There are a lot of women out there that are so in tune with their bodies that they can ejaculate by just touching their breasts or their clitoris. However, most women will not be able to ejaculate unless they are being stimulated manually through their G-spot.

If you have problems finding the G-spot, there is a simple guide you can follow. Insert your fingers into your woman’s vagina palm-face up. The G-spot is located on the upper-most portion of the vagina about three inches in. The G-spot is a very fleshy textured patch and you should be able to feel it with your fingers. As soon as you touch it you should see your girlfriend squirm a bit.

Making Her Squirt

Now that you successfully found her G-spot it’s time to start making her squirt. Start to curl your fingers as if you are saying “come here.” She should moan in delight. If you start to feel the G-spot fill up and get solid, you’re doing it right. Increase the pressure to her G-spot and start going a little faster.

Take your other hand and press down on the area around her stomach and pubic bone. This will give more pressure to the area and add to her arousal. Take direction from her. If she says go faster, then go faster. If says that she feels like she’s going to pee, tell her that it’s okay and to let go. Within a couple of minutes she should start to ejaculate. You might see a small gush of liquid from her vagina or a stream of liquid.

3 Sex Tips For A Better Sexual Relationship With ALL Women!

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Sex tips usually try to tell men how to last longer in bed. However, according to a recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the “most desirable” length of time to spend having sex turned out to be only 7 to 13 minutes. Women started rating anything from 10 to 30+ minutes as “too long”. In fact, only 3 to 7 minutes of intercourse were needed for the act to be considered “adequate” and only when sex averaged one to two minutes or less did couples think that coitus wasn’t lasting long enough.

Be open, ask your wife which of the many techniques that she has experienced turn her on the fastest. Don’t worry about her finding the question awkward; she’s been waiting to hear it from you for years, but you haven’t afforded her a safe place to be explicitly asked about this delicate issue.

Knowing that she has an easier time coming all by herself, it can be easy to feel rejected and replaced. You’ve heard that old joke, right? “Why did God create man?” “Because a vibrator can’t mow the lawn.” That may be true – I’ve seen some pretty ridiculous contraptions in my search for sexual fulfillment, but none that could cut the grass!

But for women, sex isn’t a separate part of our existence. Lust isn’t distinct from our love and respect for you. These emotions intertwine and are incredibly complex. Here are 3 sex tips for better relationships.

1. A Vibrator Can’t Cuddle

Yes, sometimes when we are hot and bothered, when we need to relax and focus or fall fast asleep, masturbating is preferable. Sometimes we all just want to be alone – you too, right? But there is a clear distinction between the easiest way to orgasm, and the most enjoyable sexual experience. Sexpert Tracey Cox points out that “there is a reason why we jump through extraordinarily complicated hoops to not only make someone like us, but lust after us – it might be harder to have an orgasm with another person but it’s usually far superior quality.”

2. Throw Out the Calendar

What kind of hoops have you been jumping through? Sex schedules, couch cuddling sessions, couple’s therapy, a bevy of skills workshops – your brain is probably so full of new techniques that it’s ready to explode! Throw out that calendar. Women want the type of orgasms that are hot, exciting, intense, and don’t interfere with their afternoon workout and getting dinner on the table! The only way to ensure you are prepared for hot sex is to master one mind-blowing skill at a time.

3. Be a Musician, Not a Technician

You’ve warmed your wife up and she is primed and ready with you between her legs. As one hand heads for her soft bits, you run down the list of techniques to try in your head. You are so preoccupied with what’s next in your arsenal that you can’t really tell if she’s enjoying herself or not. You don’t bother to ask, because you’re too concerned with transitioning into the next move, and acting out the lie that you’re best for her as a “strong, silent type”.

A technician keeps a list of jobs he needs to get done and checks each one off in a row, making sure he hits every point until the machine in front of him is “fixed”. While an indispensable part of being a good man in day-to-day life, darling, this is not a sexy skill. Kim Cattrall writes that “the musician who never gets past technique never really plays music”. You need to be fit and finessed enough to know a few techniques really well when having sex. When you are a master at making love, you can have dozens of skills in your arsenal, but only when you can do them all well.