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Best Orgasm Tips Of 2011

An orgasm is the icing on the cake with sex, so make sure that’s where you and your partner are headed. Many women fail to have an climax with their partner during sex, sometimes not for lack of trying. “Getting there” can be frustrating for both parties, especially if he’s too fast or she can’t seem to get over the top. So we’ve put together our best climax articles of the year for you to use to have better sex in 2012!

Don’t forget to take a good look at some of our all time favorite orgasm articles! These have some of the best orgasm tips we’ve ever seen!

We’ve also spent a lot of time this year finding and reviewing the best orgasm tips products out there, so you know which ones are a good buy – and which ones aren’t. Check out the best orgasm resources we found this year:

Female Orgasm Secrets Revealed (a great book for guys who want to learn how to give women great orgasms)
The Female Orgasm Blueprint (teaches men how a woman’s climax works from beginning to end)
Faster Female Orgasm (this guide is directed towards women, so they can learn to take control of their own climax and learn to reach their peak faster and stronger than they ever have before!)

How To Give a Woman The Best Sex EVER!

By lloydlester

Sex tips aren’t something you want to just brush aside – they can really help you up your game! Use these sex tips to satisfy your lover like never before!

Did you know why most guys fail so miserably in the bedroom? And why so many women end up walking out on their boyfriends and husbands when sex becomes so unfulfilling for them?

The Paradox Of Man’s Greatest Strength

Most men are focused on results. We are by nature very action-oriented. Results are what we care about; the end goal, so to speak. We set targets in the boardroom and get things done. Sadly the same mentality carries over to the bedroom:

undressing yourself and her
begin intercourse
reach an orgasm (you, NOT her)
end of sex

So where does this perpetual male strategy leave a woman? Empty, unfulfilled, disappointed. You see, for women, sex is not so much about the end goal per se. They really care more about the journey; how you arrive at the end goal. Women love to savor the sexual experience moment-by-moment, from foreplay all the way to intercourse.

Start Living For The Moment, Guys!

Goals are meant for the boardroom, so leave it at that! When it comes to great sex, take it SLOW. Don’t use sex as a means to an end. Instead be a man who plans for the future BUT also live for the moment. Be a man who starts a night of lovemaking without considering his own orgasm, but focus on securing a body-shaking climax for his lady. This is the type of men women would gladly die for.

Now achieving that kind of body-shaking, wild-screaming orgasms that most women crave for, will depend on how you build up the sexual tension. Savor each stage of lovemaking as if each phase can bring her to an orgasm (indeed it can!). Raw, passionate kissing that sets free a woman’s sexual inhibitions can bring her right to the edge of a climax. And so can the great prelude to intercourse – foreplay. Even a good dose of oral sex can give her mind-boggling orgasms that leave her breathless.

The key is to live for the moment and don’t let your focus waver away from her. Believe me, when you are able to do this, you will enjoy sex for its full glory and splendor, just like how a woman enjoys it. And when you finally reach your own orgasm, it will be more mind-blowing than anything else you have experienced before!

I’m A Girl But….Did I Just Ejaculate? 5 Ways To Tell If You Squirted During Sex

By loveandsex

Female ejaculation happens, but it may come as a surprise to many women. Not every woman is aware that they can ejaculate and many women have never experienced it before. The first time you have female ejaculation, you may be left sitting in the soaked bedsheets wondering what the heck happened. How can you tell if you just squirted?

1. You Peed Right Before Sex

This is actually the best way to tell if the fluid you expelled during sex was actually urine or ejaculate. Since the fluids are fairly similar in consistency (ejaculate can be thinner than urine, but sometimes it is just as watery), it’s hard to judge whether you peed or squirted by going on the consistency alone. If you urinated right before sex though, you can be almost positive that any fluid you expel during sex is ejaculate, unless the sex has lasted hours.

For example, if you ejaculate during sex about fifteen to twenty minutes after you used the bathroom, it’s not urine. Your body doesn’t have enough time to make that much urine in that small amount of time, unless you drank a gallon of water before you started having sex. So if you want to be sure the next time you soak the sheets that you haven’t just pissed the bed, cut down on your water intake a few hours before you plan to have sex (make sure you drink all the water you need before that – don’t dehydrate yourself!) Then, urinate right before you get it on. If you still gush, it’s a squirting orgasm.

2. It Came Out On Its Own

Sometimes, when a woman doesn’t know she can ejaculate, the fluid will come out on its own during involuntary muscular contractions when you have an orgasm. It may feel like you need to pee when you ejaculate (hence all the confusion on whether the liquid really is urine or ejaculate), and if you bear down and flex your muscles, you can push the ejaculate out. This is what seasoned squirters do. However, many women who have never experienced female ejaculation aren’t aware of this. So when the muscles contract involuntarily during orgasm, the ejaculate may seem to come out on it’s own. It can be a few drops or even a cup full of liquid, and it can either leak out or squirt in a huge gush.

3. It Doesn’t Smell “Too Much” Like Pee

If it’s not urine, then it won’t smell a whole lot like urine. Really, the only exception to this rule is if you drink A LOT of water and your urine is almost always clear anyways (or you drank a lot of water right before sex for some odd reason). Since female ejaculate does come out of the urethra, it may mix with a little bit of urine that was left over – so if it has a “light” urine odor, don’t be too alarmed. If it really smells like pee, it was pee. If it doesn’t and you haven’t drank your weight in water, then congratulations – you’ve just experienced female ejaculation.

4. Your G-Spot Was Being Stimulated

Often, the g-spot needs to be stimulated firmly (very firmly) in order for a woman to achieve female ejaculation. Light tickling or barely touching the g-spot isn’t going to produce female ejaculation. It takes a surprisingly firm touch to stimulate the g-spot to the point of female ejaculation, and the woman usually has been really aroused first too. So if you or your partner engaged in a lot of foreplay, you’re super turned on and your g-spot was really getting massaged right before your gushing orgasm, then you can be pretty sure you just squirted.

5. Your Orgasm Was Killer

A squirting orgasm is intense. REALLY INTENSE. Many women who can’t squirt cannot do so simply because they have the inability to really “let go,” which is necessary to experience female ejaculation. If you’ve been consumed by the moment, maybe forgot where you are (or heaven forbid who you’re with), and just totally let go during your orgasm and expelled a ton of liquid, then you can be pretty sure you actually squirted instead of peed. If your orgasm was AH-MAZING and you’re totally and completely exhausted afterwards (and are so sensitive down there that you couldn’t even stand it if your man lightly blew air on your clitoris) then yes, you squirted.

Do NOT Make These 4 Sex Mistakes!

By loveandsex

Sex tips can help you avoid leading your sex life into a rut. Pay attention to these sex tips and DON’T make these bedroom faux pas!

It will come as a shock for those who think that it’s the guys who are willing to move heaven and earth just so women consider kinky stuff. Apparently, women believe guys are too boxed and set in their ways. Bedroom events have become fairly standard, easily predictable and therefore boring. It’s the same old stuff!

1. Always Doing The Same Thing

This ‘same old stuff’ happens to be the “foreplay, then penetration, then ejaculation” sequence – which has been regarded by many as the divine definition of sex. For most, this has been the way to go…the only way to go. It’s been so ingrained in the way we operate we don’t even notice. And if you’re thinking, “Well, because it’s just the way things are!” You are also not alone in that thought.

But FPE is just one of the ways. There’s clearly nothing wrong with it, but it’s not the only recipe for bliss. For example, you can leave out 1 element in the sequence and still have an awesome time. You can skip foreplay, for example, and still have great sex (uhhh, Quickies hello!) You also don’t need to penetrate every time, because sometimes, getting head is enough. And ejaculation doesn’t signal any end, you can treat it as if nothing happened.

2. It’s No Fun

Did you know that sex can be spontaneous, festive and FUN?

I bet you know that already. Still, many act as if they’re apprenticing to become masters of bedroom boredom. They get serious, silent and so intent on cashing-in those orgasms.

But when you really think about it, when it comes to sex, WOMEN SIMPLY WANT TO HAVE A GOOD TIME. Girls just want to have fun. That’s what it all boils down to.

As an avenue for good time and feeling good, sex need not be raw all the time, it need not be serious or heavy. You can be highly playful, allow your imagination to have a field day and have lots of laughter with your partner.

Sex is not a dead-end job, so quit being grave and bring that FUN FACTOR into bed. Bring a whole lot of horny, but don’t forget to bring a whole lot of fun.

3. It’s Too Impersonal

The You Factor – let it shine – that’s what makes sex with you unique.

It’s your distinguishing mark.

Bring in those emotions, sense of humor, sense of adventure, yes, even naivete. Don’t leave that guy out – he was fun! Your personality is one of the most compelling excuse she’s in bed with you (besides the fact that she’s married to you). Don’t fool yourself, you’re not that hot.

Sex needs a personal touch. Unfortunately, many guys have unconsciously objectified their partners and have depersonalized sex as a series of EVENTS. Women on the other hand focus on the PERSON. Can you sense the dissonance of genders here? Women focus on the person, men see the object and the event.

4. Doing It With A “Thing”

Is intercourse with a SEX OBJECT different? Does calling her ‘a piece of ass,’ ‘a piece of meat’ or reducing her to a cup size or a hair color, affect the resulting sex?

You bet it does, every last bit of it! For it clearly matters if you think your partner is a woman or a masturbation sleeve.

People don’t give squat about objects, we USE them, and their sole purpose is to delight our erotic whims. We don’t care about feelings, because objects don’t have feelings. It won’t matter if we serve them a lifetime supply of lame sex – they’re objects!

There is another PERSON (not thing) in the sexual act. It is very, very important that you treat the body next to you as a person and avoid treating a woman like a “thing.” Well, not because you’re a gentleman – not really. This is more for your sake than hers.

What To Do When Your Sex Drive Plummets

By serenapaige

Your sex drive is something you want enough of – if you’re not in sync with your lover’s sex drive, your relationship suffers. Try this if your sex drive’s low.

On a general scale, men tend to want sex more than women. Now, this isn’t always the case, but for the most part men want sex whenever they can get it. Men have been characterized in movies as being horny all the time, drooling over a damsel in distress. But what if you’re a guy who doesn’t want sex? What if the last thing on your mind is having sex with your wife, girlfriend or the hot girl who cashes your paycheck every two weeks?

Low sex drive in men is more common than you may think. Men who do experience low sex drive tend to make excuses saying things like “I’m just too tired” or “I’m not really in the mood right now.” This can put a strain on any relationship leaving their partner feeling inadequate.

For women, a boyfriend or a husband that doesn’t have high sex drive can affect their ego. They might think that they’re not good enough in bed or that they have something wrong with them physically that is turning the guy off. Although this might be true in some relationships, for the most part it’s not.

The problem with low sex drive is the fact that it is completely subjective. If you pair a man who wants sex once every week with a woman who wants sex four to five times a week, you might think that the guy has low sex drive. Sex drive is relative. If both of you only want sex twice a year, then you have good compatibility. The worst thing you can do is start comparing yourself to other couples.

Medication, Alcohol & Drugs

There are a lot of causes for low sex drive in men. One of them is medication. If you are on anxiety medication, anti depressants or anti psychotics, you will probably feel a lower libido than most men. This is a side effect of the medication. If you feel like you want to give your libido a boost, talk to your doctor about switching prescriptions or weaning yourself off of the meds. If you abuse alcohol or drugs you can also feel lower sex drive.

Busy Lives

Keeping busy is a huge part of having a lower sex drive. Problems at work or a new child can be stressful on the sex drive of a man. If you’re not getting enough sleep or you have experienced some kind of loss, sex is probably the last thing on your mind. One way to get through a lower sex drive during a busy life is to make time. Set a schedule for sex. Even though this might take some of the romance and spontaneity out of it, you can choose a time when you will be rested and not focused on anything else.

Relationship Issues

Another cause of low sex drive in men is an issue with the relationship. If you are not happy with your partner, you’re obviously not going to want to have sex with them. Trust can be a huge issue. If you feel like your partner is hiding something from you or that they could possibly be cheating, the thought of having sex with them is going out the window. Counseling and talking out the problems in your relationship is the best way to get over this. You must feel completely comfortable with your partner and sex makes your vulnerable. Having the support to be yourself in the bedroom and talk out your desires will make the sex better and give you a boost where needed.

Low Testosterone

The testosterone level in men will drop as they get older. If you are over the age of 40, you will start to lose about 1-2% each year after that. Low testosterone is defined as having less than 300 nanograms per deciliter in your blood. This can lead to low sex drive, mood swings, sleeplessness, ED and fatigue. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, you should have your testosterone levels checked with a medial professional.

Treatment

Lower sex drive doesn’t have to be a curse. There are a lot of ways that you can treat it. Exercise is on the best ways to relieve stress. When you eliminate stress from your life, you will feel better about yourself and the relationship with your partner. Running, playing a sport or doing aerobics are great ways to boost your sex drive. If you have low testosterone in your body, there are a lot of gels and patches that can be implemented. These will release testosterone into your blood stream and give you more sex drive.