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Men, Unlock The Secrets Of Having Amazing Sex

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Sex tips can help you raise the bar on your sex life and start having better nookie than ever. Check out these sex tips that other guys don’t want you to know!

What are the best sex tips for guys? Look, if you are reading this article with the hopes of learning about the best sex position, the best way to give her g-spot orgasms or great oral sex tips to seduce your girl, then I would advise you not to read further. Why? Well, if you are looking for ways to improve your sex life, these things will not help you a bit.

When it comes to having great sex, there is no sneaky trick you can pull out of your bag. It is all about the fundamentals, the basics of sex, mindsets, so to speak. If you get this right, believe me, your enjoyment in sex will increase multiple folds.

Getting The Foundations Right

You see, sex would be a monotonous and lackluster affair if you use sex techniques without a proper understanding of how and why they work on women. Think about this: What makes a great lover in bed, a Don Juan who can seduce and bring any woman to the elusive heights of sexual ecstasy? It is not the repertoire of techniques he has learned, but the way he USES them.

Many men make the terrible mistake and assume that women are aroused the same way as they are. Men are visually stimulated; women are not. Men can reach climax within 2 minutes; women need at least a good 15 minutes on average. Women need good old-fashioned love, affection and attention to detail. Read that again. This means the way you touch her, the way you seduce her verbally, the mood you bring into the lovemaking, all play vital roles in your sex life.

Do You Know Her Emotional Underpinnings?

For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, emotions carry huge weight. This means you should never grope her right away. You need to value how she feels and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level. It is all well worth your time, because when you give her an amazing time in bed (and mind-tingling orgasms to boot!), you will be rewarded with much more from her!

So make her feel wanted and appreciated. This means when you kiss her, look into her eyes and run you fingers down the back of her spine. Spend quality time on slow, tantalizing foreplay and you will build up her sexual anticipation in a hurry. When you penetrate her, acknowledge her presence and ask if that feels great for her. Above all, be a man and focus on her needs exclusively FIRST. You will emerge a far better lover, one that she will be proud to brag to her friends!

Why Teasing Is CRUCIAL!

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Foreplay is critical if you’re going to have amazing sex and even better orgasms. Here’s why you DON’T want to miss out on incredible foreplay.

Most Guys Don’t Tease

That’s a huge mistake right there.

At times, many get overly anxious to make things happen – compelled by the need to impress. Compound this with ultra-high levels of horny and you have a cowboy ready to mount a girl the first chance he gets, (even before the condom has warmed on his thing) – somehow fearing if he wastes precious time, she might change her mind and flee.

Don’t get me wrong, women love to be mounted – when they’re ready. They beg for it – when they’re more than ready. When you hear, “For goodnessakes put it in! You’re killing me,” you know she’s not going anywhere. But jumping the gun can be the dumbest thing one can do. You’re communicating all the wrong things – proving your haste to get off and a bankrupt imagination. A person with nothing better to offer but old run-of-the-mill sex. It’s like shooting yourself in the foot 3 freakin’ times!

In this article, we’ll try to divert sexual focus by learning how to TEASE.

What Is Push And Pull?

Teasing brings into play the power of the Push and the Pull – that art of going forwards and backwards, (and a few sidesteps along the way.) It’s what keeps women on their toes, the power that keeps their hearts pumping as consequence of unpredictability, saving you from ho-hum encounters so prevalent today.

And if you want great sex, YOU HAVE GOT TO DO IT, YOU HAVE GOT TO TEASE – there’s just no way around it. You have to make your girl think: I wonder what’s coming up next?

Women want, wish and love to be teased.

They love it more than they care to admit. It gets their juices flowing and makes sex more interesting, challenging and exciting. Because for many, especially the hotties, sex has just been too easy. Give a guy a go signal, and before she knows it, his sweaty carcass is already performing contortions on top of her. A guy who gets teasing is hard to come by.

Do You Think Foreplay Is Easy?

And if you think it’s easy, you’ve got another thing coming. When you’re getting red-hot by the second, and you just want to unleash the moves and put on a show, teasing could very well be the last thing on your mind. There are guys who’ve never even done it! It’s a totally alien concept, for teasing entails going back a phase, toning down and avoiding the stuff one loves the most. Which is never easy for the goal-oriented fellows. They want to kiss those luscious reds, tear her bra and mash those perky breasts. They want to wreck her thing, pound it hard and show her who’s boss. But while teasing agrees on all these scintillating affairs, it says, “NOT YET!”

And that’s not easy. Delaying the stuff you absolutely crave, is no joke, it is the horny man’s Everest – for why wait and delay the inevitable? But when it works, it works! And your bed will never be the same.

Why Taking Your Time Is Oh, So Sweet

In this fast-paced, grab-life-by-the-horns society, waiting and delays are often maligned and vilified. Waiting is inefficient; delays are considered a waste of time. The world of instant noodles and instant coffee has robbed us of the luxury of planting coffee beans and making our own fresh brew.

But I hope it will hit you really hard, that when it comes to wondrous sex, YOU CAN’T AFFORD NOT TO WAIT, DELAY, and CREATE ANTICIPATIONS & EXPECTATIONS. Get a sexual reprogramming and embrace the virtues of delayed gratification, for unless you turn your mind in that direction, you’ll struggle every time you get an erection.

Waiting and delays may be terrible for government offices and the fast food industry, but in the world of sex, they are the stuff of legends. This thing could change the way you experience an erotic rendezvous.

Best Female Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

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Female masturbation is more common than you think – lots of girls are into it. However, not every girl knows how best to stimulate her clitoris or which sex toy is perfect for g-spot stimulation during a solo session. Guys can also gain a lot of knowledge about how to give a woman an orgasm by checking out these tips and how girls get themselves off when they’re alone. Some takeaways this year about women’s solo habits:

  • It’s completely normal! Masturbation is perfectly normal and even healthy for male and female teens going through puberty, adults, singles and even couples in a long term relationship or marriage!
  • Masturbation can help relieve headaches and other pain. An orgasm can make you feel lots better after a stressful day, or when you have a headache.
  • Sex toys are a must have! While doing it with your fingers is pretty darn convenient, very few things beat the kind of orgasms you can have when you bring a vibrator into the mix. You don’t have to have a whole slew of sex toys (although that’s pretty fun too), but one or two trusted toys that get the job done and done well definitely belong in your nightstand drawer. Our fave sex toys this year are the LELO Nea & The Wild G-Spot Vibrator (we love this one, so we got you a sweet 50% OFF deal). Don’t forget lube – our personal favorite is Pjur Lube!

Here are the most awesome women’s solo articles from this past year!

And our all time favorite, BEST article on female masturbation is:

If you’re a girl who doesn’t masturbate or masturbate regularly, make 2012 the year that you’re going to start exploring your own body and taking control of your own orgasms! Women who masturbate are almost always more sexually satisfied – especially if they’re in a relationship – than their non-masturbating sisters.

Oral Sex: Bring On The Sex Toys Too!

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Oral sex can be even more fun when you put sex toys in the mix also. Here’s how you can vamp up oral sex with vibrators, dildos and more!

If You Already Have Sex Toys

If your partner already has a vibrator, by all means use it. But if you need to go shopping for one, do it together so that you can both enjoy the myriad of shapes, sizes and specialties. Plus, you’ll get a better idea as to what she likes and is used to, while still interjecting your needs into the picture as well.

If You’re New To Sex Toys

So what kind of vibrator to choose? Foremost, you want one that performs well for the service you require, rather than one that merely looks good. As well, you want something that isn’t meant to penetrate or be inserted like a penis would be, but rather one with a long handle that makes getting it in between your bodies easier. Variable speeds are also important, as is something that offers a firm softness, much like your fingers or tongue would. You could also go for a G-Spot toy if you want to as it can serve other purposes as well. But no matter what you choose, find a vibrator that is easy to hold for long periods, doesn’t turn either of you off, and is simple and straightforward to use.

How To Use Sex Toys During Oral Sex

To use the toy, introduce it anytime after you’ve made first contact with your tongue. Having said that, you’ll both probably enjoy its use more if you wait until she’s heading towards pre-orgasm. Use it in place of your fingers until then, and make sure it’s on it’s lowest setting for starters; all you want to do is build tension and offer her rhythmic pulses for now.

Then, take the vibrator and place it just inside her vagina. If it doesn’t go in smoothly, put some lubricant on the toy and try again. Don’t delve too far into her vagina, as most of her nerve endings are right around the opening.

Gently pulse the vibrator in small, defined motions in and out of her vagina. You aren’t looking to treat the toy like a penis, but rather are trying to massage the first inch or so inside the vaginal opening. Use the tip of the toy for the most part, and allow it to rest at times so that her pelvic muscles can build tension and stiffen around it.

After a few minutes, try putting your finger inside of her while the vibrator is still moving too. Push the toy up towards her belly button to really get at her g-spot.

Oral Sex: How To Kiss The Clitoris

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Oral sex is the best way to get your partner turned on and ready for sex – but first impressions matter. Here’s how to start oral sex by kissing the clitoris.

First impressions are always of high importance, but few more so than the first moment that your mouth touches your partner’s vulva. If done correctly? It’ll take her breath away and leave her primed for arousal.

Take It Slow And Enjoy It!

Try to view your first mouth-to-genital kiss with a woman as something to be savored, not devoured. Like an expensive wine or caviar, its first blossom in your mouth is something special and memorable. Allow yourself the time to smell its bouquet, swish it around to see how it reacts, let it breathe or move on its own, and then, with delicious anticipation, take the first dip. Avoid chugging it (metaphorically) in one fell swoop; instead, appreciate every moment that leads up to your first clitoral kiss.

Here’s how to get her craving it:

  • If she chooses not to remove her pubic hair, run your fingers through it gently, or, if she has no pubic hair, tap her labia gently with the pads of your fingers.
  • Tease and tantalize the flesh surrounding the whole genital area. Kiss her thighs, lick her Mons Pubis, nuzzle her folds. Make the first contact more sweet than sexy, more tender than pressing.
  • Use your breath to warm up her privates, making sure not to blow any air inside her vagina.

NOTE: We’re talking more a gentle kiss of warm air that hits her nether regions than a forceful fan blowing. Blowing air into her vagina can be very dangerous, and can do a lot of harm. So instead, breathe on her, blow lightly, but never blow into any of her orifices.

What To Do If She’s Still Clothed

If she’s still got her panties on, lightly kiss her from her vaginal opening all the way to where her labia meets the mons pubis. Then, look her in the eye as you take her panties into your teeth, and tease her with removing them. Prolong the tease, without hurting her or ripping her panties. You can get rough another time, today is just for her pleasure.

Next, pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris, and with incredible softness, breathe on it from mere centimeters away. Let her feel you right up against her clitoris, without actually touching it.

Peel off her panties, and look appreciatively at her vulva. Now is an excellent time to remind yourself of the pleasure you plan on bringing your partner to, as well as any mental notes. This is all about assisting your partner from arousal to orgasm – keep the focus.

Incorporating Dirty Talk

If it helps, you could also tell your partner:

  • How much going down on her turns you on, and that you are as excited as she is about the process.
  • To relax and feel like she has all the time in the world. That this is meant to pamper and savor her in full.
  • That she smells divine, will taste even better, and that you’ve never seen her look more beautiful or alive than you do at this moment.

Of course, if you don’t feel any of those things, don’t say them but then perhaps take a few more moments to get into that head space, because bringing a woman to climax with oral sex is more about both of your mental states than anything else.

Imagine if you can, that you’re at an event that you’ve been looking forward to for weeks. What do you say to the hostess? These are the same kinds of things you’ll want to say to your partner now: how beautiful she is, how much you’ve been looking forward to the event, how excited you are. Use this time to really tease the senses and mind. Make her think you’re going to extend this part of the evening forever, that you’ll never actually touch her clitoris at all. That all you’re doing is teasing her, leaving her frustrated – it’ll make her go mad for you, and turn her on even more. Then, when she’s almost at the brink of losing it because of the pent-up passion!