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5 Sex Positions You Have Never Tried

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Sex positions can be a lot of fun when you mix it up and keep things new. Boring sex with the missionary position constantly being implemented can make any bedroom experience go stale. Using new and infrequently used sex positions can bring new sensations and new intimacy into your relationship.

While some of these are going to be a little wild, you can pick and choose what you feel comfortable with. Here are five new sex positions that you can try out with your partner tonight.

1. Inverted 69

The inverted 69 is a lot like the original 69, however it has the guy on top. While there will be a lot of women that do not feel comfortable with this, this is one of the best ones for the man and the woman. When the guy’s on top, it puts his penis at a different angle than in the traditional 69 position. This also gives him an upside down angle to perform oral sex on his partner.

This is much different than using the traditional 69 as he will be licking down on your vagina, instead of going up. The reason that so many women will not feel comfortable with this position is that the guy has more control over putting his penis into your mouth. This position is more for the guy than it is for the girl, however, having him go down on you from this inverted angle can also be pleasurable.

2. The Acrobat

The Acrobat is one of the best sex positions for giving the guy new angle for his penis and for allowing digital stimulation to the woman’s clitoris. The position is fairly basic. The guy lays on his back with the girl on top as if she is going to do reverse cowgirl. The girl then leans all the way back so that her back is rested on the guy’s chest.

The guy reaches around with his hands and then puts them on her inner thigh or on her vagina. This allows the guy to play with the woman’s clitoris or breasts. The guy can also massage the girl’s inner thigh while still thrusting into her. Be sure that you are doing this position on the bed and not on the floor as your knees might get tired or irritated by surfaces that are not soft enough.

3. The Dancer

The dancer is a sex position that can easily be performed in the shower or in tight spaces. If you are going to be performing this sex position it is recommended that you and your partner be of the same height or within about an inch or two. Have your guy stand straight up and then walk up to him. Lift one leg up and have him support it with his hand while you wrap your hands around his waist.

You should be stable enough to keep balanced. Guide his penis into you and hold each other as you both thrust equally. His penis should be going into you at an angle that easily hits the G-spot and goes deeper than the normal missionary position. Have him pick you up a little bit so that he has more control over thrusting into your vagina.

4. The 68

The 68 is a sex position that is specifically designed for the woman. This position is very easily achieved, however, your partner must be comfortable in order to enjoy it. The basic position is very similar to having your guy give you oral sex while you are on top of him. Get on top of him so that your vagina is right over his mouth and then lean back so that your body is resting on his body.

Have him put a pillow behind his neck so that he is propped up and can give you oral sex. You should be leaning back enough so that you are relaxed while he is performing on you. This sex position gets its name because only one of you will be receiving oral sex.

5. The Amazon

The Amazon is one of the more wild sex positions that you can do. This position is specifically designed to give the guy a deeper angle with his penis. Have your husband or boyfriend lie down on his back and lift his knees up. Now you are going to go between his knees and have his legs rest on your thighs. Guide his penis inside your vagina and start riding him as if you were doing regular girl on top.

You should feel his penis deeper inside you and this angle will feel great for him. One of the best things about this sex position is the fact that you do not have to actually ride up and down you can simply rock back and forth and he will massage your G-spot.

What She Really Thinks About Your Big Penis

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A big penis is something to be congratulated on, right? Being well endowed is what every guy wishes for – and what every woman supposedly wishes for. But having a huge member isn’t all it’s cracked up to be when you look at it from the female perspective. Here’s what women TRULY think about a big penis.

Intercourse

Yes, having a big penis can come in handy during intercourse because it has the ability to reach and stimulate the g-spot. However, a guy with a smaller member can do that also, if he just knows how to use what he’s got.

So is having sex with a guy that is very large not always good? Sure.

A huge member can cause a woman pain during and after intercourse, and may even cause her to bleed. Special care must be taken when having sex with a guy who has a big penis, so as not to cause pain or discomfort. Although the vagina is made to stretch and accommodate a wide variety of things (think childbirth), so it’s most definitely not impossible for a woman to have sex with a very well endowed guy. But if it’s going to be any good, keep these things in mind:

  • Using lube will help ease you into her vagina more comfortably than without it. Don’t assume that you’ve turned her on enough that she’s so wet she doesn’t need any lube. Use it. Period.
  • Go slow. Give her time to stretch and accommodate your large penis. It’s not going to happen right away.
  • Warm her up first. Give her oral sex. Do what you need to do to get her really, really aroused. When a woman is aroused enough, the vagina can almost double in length, making it much easier and more comfortable to have sex.

Oral Sex

For a woman, giving a guy who has a big penis oral sex can be tough, especially if she’s not skilled at it. She might not know what to do with it since it’s so large, because she probably won’t be able to fit it all in her mouth and unless you’re with a PRO, she’s not going to be able to deep throat it either.

You’ll probably start out with quite a bit of teeth grazing your member, but just gently tell her what doesn’t feel good without criticism. Give her time to get the hang of it.

Encourage her to use her hand at the base of your penis, while she sucks on the head and mid-shaft. This is usually the best way for both you and her to enjoy oral sex if you’re well endowed. Alternatively, you can also stimulate the base of the penis yourself and allow her to concentrate more on sucking and licking the head of your penis. This can be very helpful for a girl who isn’t very skilled at giving a blowjob or isn’t coordinated enough to use her hand and mouth in conjunction with each other to get you off.

Anal Sex

If you have a really, really big penis, anal sex isn’t going to be something you want to try with your girl – or something your girl wants to try with you. At all. Even if she’s had anal sex before, it was most likely either with a smaller guy or a sex toy. The truth is, if you have a huge cock, she’s going to be terrified of the idea of it going up her bum, ’cause even small things can hurt when they go up there.

If you really want to engage in anal play with her, definitely stick to smaller sized sex toys that are specifically made for anal sex.

If you absolutely MUST try anal sex (and she’s on board with the idea), start small and work your way up. DO NOT just thrust your huge member into her! Begin with smaller sex toys and graduate to larger ones as she feels more and more comfortable. This can take several sessions, weeks, months or even longer for her to get to the point where she’s experienced and comfortable enough to consider taking your big penis into her anus.

Give her time! Don’t rush her, because if you do, she’ll probably cross that activity off the list and never revisit the subject again. Play by her rules and you might actually get something out of it. And one last tip for anal sex with a big penis – USE LUBE. A whole bottle. Not even kidding.

Clitoris 101: 3 Things Men Need to Know about the Clitoris

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Would you like to be a master lover and bring your partner earth shattering orgasms in bed? It doesn’t even matter whether you have an average, below average or above average-sized penis. As long as you’re familiar with the female parts which are located down south, you will be able to keep women begging for more – because you’re that good in bed.

Why it’s Worth it to Pay Attention to the Clit

 

For men, the answer to the question about which part of the body can be considered as their most erogenous zone, the answer is easy: the penis. All the sexual sensations are concentrated to that area below the hips and above the legs. In the area of oral sex, as long as a woman agrees to go down on you, you’re bound to experience an orgasm no matter how long or short a time she’s willing to spend on giving you some oral love.

For women, however, the answer is a bit more complicated. First, when it comes to her erogenous zones, there are her breasts and her vagina that you can focus on. Second, the vagina, unlike the penis, can be considered as an unchartered territory for most men. This is because the vagina is composed of different parts: the inner and outer labia or lips, the clitoris, and the G-spot which is located about a couple of inches inside the vaginal opening.

But one thing’s for sure: if you want to give that special woman in your life an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon, you can go for either the clitoris or the G-spot. Here, let us try to focus on learning about the clitoris.

The Top 3 Things that Men should Know about the Clitoris

Take a look at the top three things that men should know about the clitoris:

1. The ‘anatomy’ of a clitoris

Simply put, the clitoris is that tiny bud located just above the opening of her vagina, right at the top of her inner labia. Experts say that this is the only human organ which is solely dedicated for sexual pleasure. So just imagine just how mind blowing her orgasm will be if you target this spot.

The clitoris is as packed with sensitive nerve endings as the head of your penis and it becomes engorged when a woman is aroused. Don’t go heading immediately after her clit when you have sex, however. The clitoris can be extremely sensitive so she needs to be prepared to take it in, so to speak.

Another crucial information about the clitoris that every man should know about is this: most women do require clitoral stimulation – whether it’s orally or though penetration – in order to achieve an orgasm.

So if you seriously want to improve your skills as a lover, now is as good a time as any to learn everything that there is to know about the anatomy of a clitoris.

2. How to play with the clitoris

Before heading down south, remember that women need more than physical stimulation to be totally into the sexual act. Turn her on by using flirting glances, compliment her with your words and most importantly – never skip the foreplay. If you manage to get her as aroused as she can be before her clothes come off, the more intense things will be later on.

Now, there are two ways for you to stimulate her clitoris. You can either use your tongue and mouth, or your fingers. When deciding to use the latter, start by caressing her legs while working your way towards her inner thighs. Then, touch her outer vaginal lips before making contact with the area just above her clitoris, since direct stimulation might be painful for her.

The second method, you are probably already familiar with: cunnilingus. Using your mouth and your tongue, you can bring her to a mind blowing orgasm by eating her out. Enough said.

3. How to bring sexual fulfillment through clitoral stimulation

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the fact that vaginal intercourse alone is about as exciting for a woman as a bumpy ride on a beat up car. If you want to take her to new sexual heights, never take the clit for granted. Try to communicate or learn her body language so that you’ll know when to go faster or harder, when to stop or not stop.

Through clitoral stimulation, you will be able to send that special woman in your life to greater sexual heights and give her the best ‘ride’ of her life.

Are These 4 Things RUINING Your Orgasm?

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but many girls can’t get there. It’s not always easy to reach orgasm, especially if your guy doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing down there. But men aren’t the only culprits here – there are plenty of other factors that contribute to a woman losing out on reaching orgasm during sex. Are these three issues to blame for you not reaching climax?

1. Obsessing Over The Way Your Body Looks

Almost all girls obsess over the way their bodies look, especially naked. This is generally due to social conditioning – from the time a girl is a child, well into her adult years, she is conditioned that “beautiful” is being thin, tan, having perfectly straight and white teeth and wearing sexy clothes. Cellulite is a “no-no” for women, even though it’s a completely natural and normal thing to have.

If you’re thinking about looking “fat” or unattractive to your partner during sex, you’re most likely not going to be able to have an orgasm. Your brain is linked to your body in this way, and if you’re busy obsessing over finding the angle that you look the best in during sex (rather than the angle that feels the best), then you’re going to become frustrated when you can’t reach the peak.

2. Thinking About Your To-Do List

Again, a woman’s brain plays a very significant part in her arousal and ability to reach orgasm during sex. A woman must be completely and totally relaxed and be in the moment to be able to get over the “hump,” so to speak, and she simply can’t do that if she’s focused on other things. If you’re thinking about what you need to get at the grocery store instead of being in the moment with your partner and allowing yourself to be overcome with passion, then you’re not likely to even get close to orgasm city.

Spending a few minutes before sex relaxing and letting the stress of the day melt away is really worth it – and so is engaging in plenty of foreplay. Do something that you know totally relaxes you – like watching your favorite television show while drinking a glass of wine, or taking a warm bubble bath and meditating on positive things. Do whatever it is that you need to do to allow your brain to switch from thinking about all of your responsibilities to thinking about only pleasure.

When you’re in the right mind frame, sexual pleasure and orgasm will come much, much more easily.

3. Wondering Why You’re Taking Forever To Reach Orgasm

This is one of the biggest orgasm killers of all. You get going and it’s going pretty good, and then you start thinking about time. And how long you’re taking. And the longer you take, the more obsessed you get over how long you’re taking. It’s a vicious cycle that gets you nowhere close to climax.

If the sex is good, you’re going to forget about time all together. It could take you ten seconds, ten minutes or an hour to reach orgasm and you’d have no earthly idea. In fact, you may even forget where you are. If you are prone to thinking about how long it takes you to reach the big O, plan for you and your partner to have plenty of time to have sex. Instead of wondering when you’ll actually get there, focus on each sensation and how it feels in the moment.

4. Not Using Enough Lube

Some couples don’t think they need lube during sex. They may think it’s wet enough once they get turned on, or they think that saliva works just as well. This couldn’t be further from the truth! If you have trouble getting to orgasm often, consider investing in an inexpensive bottle of good quality lube. You can get all different kinds at supermarkets and drugstores, and you can even find some in specialty or novelty shops in the mall. Flavored lubes smell fantastic (but usually taste like liquid plastic), while higher quality lubes contain mostly natural ingredients.

Lube will reduce the friction between you and your partner, both in the vagina and outside on your vulva, where your clitoris is. If you’re slipping and sliding more, your going to become more aroused than if you have dry skin rubbing up against dry skin. Don’t be too proud to buy yourself a bottle of good lube – it is well worth the cost and you’ll be glad you did when you finally get that climax you’ve been craving!

Sex Tips – A Quick Lesson On Female Anatomy

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Intimate touching is more than just humping until you are done. You need to explore a woman’s body and find out which spots are most susceptible to kissing, licking and fondling. It’s not true that women need more to get aroused. In fact, women are more likely to get turned on faster than men. It’s difficult to believe, but it’s true. You just have to find her erogenous zones, and discover how to touch those areas properly.

Don’t rush touching your wife or girlfriend everywhere whenever you can. Sex starts by exploring with your hands, followed by your lips and tongue. You already know that a woman can orgasm just by touching her clitoris, vagina and nipples, but there are other parts of her body that contribute to her pleasure during sex. Here are some of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s anatomy.

The Nape Of Her Neck

As a rule, any part on a woman’s body that is often covered by thick hair is an erogenous zone. The nape of a woman’s neck is extremely sensitive because it is often hidden from the elements by her hair. Even if your girlfriend has short hair, it is guaranteed that kissing her on the nape will send shivers down her spine.

The Area Just Below Her Chin

When a woman lifts her head, like when you’re in bed and she’s throwing her head back in pleasure, she reveals the sensitive skin right below her jaw line. This skin connects her neck and her jaw and is very sensitive to touching. It takes so little effort to lean your head and kiss her gently on that spot.

The Inner Part Of Her Arm

Lift her arm to reveal the hairless inner part that is less tanned than the part of her arm with hair. The hairless area near her elbows is filled with nerves that send sensations of pleasure when touched.

Her Hip Bone

Just below her waist is her hipbone. The skin covering her hipbones is so thin that pressing on it will either cause pain or pleasure (depending on how skilfully you touch her there). When a woman is lying down, her hipbones are more evident, which should give you the opportunity to kiss and caress that part of her anatomy.

Perineum

The perineum is a sensitive spot in between the vagina and the anus. The skin is so thin that the woman can feel extreme pleasure if you touch her there with your mouth or with a wet finger. This is another hot erogenous zone you should know about if you want to learn how to please a woman sexually.