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Erotic Massage: How To Give A Great Genital Massage

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Erotic massage should eventually lead you down to the land in between your partner’s legs. Here’s how to make her squeal with erotic massage “down there.”

At this point, your lover should be ready for some direct stimulation of her vagina and clitoris. In fact, many women are so ripe at this stage of the massage that they achieve orgasm very easily and very quickly.

The Right Lube For Erotic Massage Down South

Important note! As mentioned, when working directly in the area of the vagina, be sure not to use oil. It’s okay if there is a little oil on the outside of her vagina from when you placed your hand on top of it just before this point. Just don’t use it as a lubricant on the inside of the vagina or within the vaginal folds. Instead, use a lubricant made just for sex, such as Sylk, Astroglide, or Glyde. K-Y jelly will work, but it tends to be thicker than the other lubricants mentioned and doesn’t glide as easily. Be sure to prepare ahead of time by having a damp towel nearby. Use this to remove oil from your hands before warming the lubricant between your fingers.

How To Get Started

You’ll want to be the focus on her intimate zone by gently stroking her pubic hair over the outer portions of her vagina. Be sure to use very soft and gentle motions. Next, gently stroke and tap her outer vaginal lips with your fingers, making sure to keep a consistent and regular rhythm.

To stimulate her clitoris, gently spread her legs apart and place your hand between her thighs in the form of a fist. Apply the knuckles of your first two fingers to the outer lips of her vagina and knead them around her clitoris, moving forward and backward as you massage. Make sure you’re not pinching her skin. You should be gently kneading. Working your way downward, massage the entire labia with a slightly firm but gentle pressure. Make your way toward her anus and then lift your knuckles and start from the top again. You can also use your first finger and thumb if it feels more comfortable.

Better known as the “bread and butter” or “two-finger” stoke, this technique is one of the easiest ways to give a woman pleasure. Place your thumb and index finger comfortably just under the hood of the clitoris (just inside the lips). Gently rotate your fingers around the top of her clitoris and then move your fingers in a downward direction.

Things To Keep In Mind

Be sure to massage and roll evenly, rubbing up and down on either side of the vagina, settling into an even rhythm. When she opens her legs wider, raises or pelvis, or pushes against your hand, that is your signal that she is ready for more direct stimulation of her clitoris.

When massaging the vagina and clitoral area, it’s helpful if you imagine the face of a clock, with the portion just above the hood of the clitoris being the 12 o’clock position and the lowest point near the vaginal opening being the 6 o’clock position. Pay attention to what she tells you feels good and make a mental note of the location in terms of the clock position (9 o’clock, 3 o’clock, etc.) for the next time around.

Circular Strokes

Now, take the tip of your finger and move it around her clitoris in a circular motion. Slowly move down the entire length of her vagina, alternating between bigger circles, stroking, and teasing caresses with your fingers. Next, move back to her clitoris and circle over it with the tips of your fingers. Be gentle when doing this, as every woman is different when it comes to clitoral stimulation. Some women don’t like it. So keep checking with her on what feels best using the clock as your guide. If she enjoys what you’re doing, attempt to “pull” the clitoris between your two fingers through the hood. Although it’s not possible to grip the clitoris itself, the sensation the pulling motion creates is fabulous!

Fingering And G-Spot Stimulation

Next, you’re going to apply a stroke that works both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. If done correctly, it will bring your lady to orgasm.

After ensuring her vagina is well lubricated, insert one or two fingers, curving them upward so that you’re working on the vaginal wall closest to her stomach. Hold your finger motionless for a few seconds so that she has time to relax and get comfortable, then being feeling for her G-spot.

The G-spot feels like a small, spongy lump. When a woman is aroused, the area will engorge with blood and become much more sensitive to the touch. After you’ve found her G-spot, move your finger in a “come here” motion, as if telling someone to come over to you with your finger. Don’t apply constant or hard pressure. All she needs is a gentle stroking motion to experience intense pleasure. You can also try a zig-zag motion from time to time so that your finger avoids focusing too much on the same area as it passes over the G-spot.

With your other hand, continue circling her clitoris with your thumb, finger, or the flat surface of a vibrator. When you sense she’s about to orgasm, move back and forth over the clitoris.

Don’t Overwork The Clitoris

An important thing to know about the clitoris is that it is very sensitive. Even when thoroughly lubricated, it is extremely sensitive. If your touch is too direct, too rough, or if you spend too much time stimulating the clitoris or even apply the stimulation too soon, it will become oversensitive. This will result in discomfort or pain, as well as a loss in sensation and inability to achieve an orgasm. So when it come to focusing exclusively on the clitoris, be sure to do so only when you know your lady is close to reaching climax. As soon as she does, back off from the clitoris until her sensitivity lessens.

Oral Sex: Female Erogenous Zones 101

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Oral sex is definitely something you want to include in your sex routine if you want your girl to have an orgasm. Don’t skip these hot spots though!

Don’t Speed Through The Kissing!

Remember making out as a teenager or college student? Remember how you’d spend so much time kissing your partner, kissing her neck and (possibly) touching her breasts through her shirt? You spent so much time on the non-sexual parts because, well, you weren’t allowed to touch down there yet. Now that we’re older and we are allowed to touch “down there,” we always cut to the chase.

If you want to gear your partner up for an extra-special and pleasurable session of oral sex, start by kissing her like you were both teenagers again. You can only touch “down there” if she lets you! Like we said before, depending on the occasion, you can speed this up a bit if you or your partner are not inclined to spend an hour making out, but at least give her a little bit to get her warmed up.

How To Kiss The Right Way

Kiss her, but don’t kiss her while thinking about what body part you’re going to lick next in four seconds. Kiss her while thinking about kissing her. Kiss her as though you were kissing her vulva and give her a preview of what she will feel tonight. Let her imagine those lips on her vulva – deep kissing like this will help you both get into the right frame of mind. Remember not to be too sloppy or too uptight. A little tongue will be nice, but let your lips do all the work.

Kiss Your Girl’s Neck

Not surprisingly, the neck is a very erogenous zone. Be careful not to kiss her too lightly or she will get tickled, but perhaps on this night, a little tickling might be nice. Also remember not to get too rough with her. Find a nice balance in between and stay for a few minutes. While in the neck area, you can also drift up to the earlobe and whisper to her how excited you are about what’s to come, or how tonight is just for her.

Put Your Hands And Mouth On Your Lover’s Breasts

This is most men’s favorite part, but be careful not to dive right onto the nipples – it can be almost as detrimental as going straight for the clitoris. If she is wearing her shirt still, make an effort to caress her lightly with both your hands and mouth through her blouse. She will feel the light touch and become aroused, but she will not be shocked with the more intense touch that will come when her blouse has been taken off. Speaking of, make a big deal about taking off her blouse. Do it slowly and deliberately. Take off her bra in the same manner, and give her the attention you would give her if you were seeing her naked breasts for the first time.

When caressing her with your hands, make sure not to pinch her nipples too hard – you can roll them between your thumb and forefinger like you would roll a cigarette, but don’t press down or pinch. When beginning to lick the breasts, again, don’t go directly for the nipple. Lick all around her breasts for several minutes, working your way down. Once your mouth is on the nipple, you can swirl your tongue around it like you were licking an ice cream cone. This feels divine!

Another technique is to flick the nipple with your tongue. Spend lots of time (unless your partner is nudging you downwards!) caressing and licking her breasts and nipples – studies show that there is a direct link between the breasts and the clitoris. Also, once you do begin cunnilingus, don’t forget about her breasts! Many women enjoy their nipples being caressed while their vulva is being licked.

Don’t Miss The Stomach/Belly Button

This can be a very erogenous zone, but it usually is not. Light kisses work best here, because there needs to be a transition between the top half of the body and the lower half. Extreme licking in this area may turn a woman off, but feel free to use your tongue a little bit – but again, light kisses work best in the stomach area. Don’t stay too long in this zone because it is not directly giving her pleasure. Waiting too long in between the pleasurable zone of her breasts and the actual cunnilingus may cause her to become frustrated.

Kiss Her Inner Thighs

This is a good place to go before jumping right into the vulva. If your partner is self conscious about her inner thighs, don’t spend long here, but you want her to feel the warm wetness of your mouth and your heated breath before putting your lips on her vulva. This will get her anticipating your tongue even more! Be careful of ticklish thighs, however, and avoid nibbling if your partner is ticklish. If she likes it, however, nibble away!

If you want to tease her even more, alternate between licking her vulva a little bit and staying in between her inner thighs. Again, be aware that too long in between pleasurable activities (or in this case, too long before finally giving her vulva pleasure) may frustrate her and turn her off. If you pay attention to her body language, you will know when she is ready for you to begin cunnilingus.

Sex Tips: 4 Lovemaking Mistakes You MUST Avoid!

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Sex tips will guide you in the right direction, but you must also know what to steer clear of. Don’t make these blunders if you want your lover to have orgasms!

Do you want to give your woman an amazing time in bed and more fulfilling orgasms? I am sure you do. Unfortunately many men, in their eagerness to improve their sex lives, ironically make the sexual experience less than satisfactory. Let us take a quick look at 4 common mistakes many guys make in the bedroom. Are you making any of these?

Trying To Get Your Partner To Have Sex When She’s Not Ready

Guys, if your woman is not in the mood to make love, she is just not in the mood, no matter what you do. Women are not like men who can get turned on visually. If she is not emotionally connected at that moment, there is always a better time! But on the other hand, if she’s in the mood for some sensuous lovemaking, you can very easily amp up her erotic temperatures and get her going really fast. Hint: Try deep passionate kissing with her. At the same time, gently stroke the back of her neck. This will drive her wild in no time.

Fear Of Doing New Things

Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to try something new, but held back because of what your woman may think? If so, it is time to break out of that rut. Why? Well, because there is a great chance that she wants to try something new, something sensual too. But like you, she is uncomfortable to bring this up. So don’t let these thoughts hold you back. Get creative, get bold and spice things up a notch in the bedroom!

Skipping Foreplay

Sex is not meant to go from start to finish in under two minutes. Well, that is typically how fast the average man comes to an orgasm during sex. What does this mean for the lady? She will be totally unsatisfied, to say the least! If you want her to enjoy sex as much as you do, take your time and make sure she is adequately aroused first. If you can focus some time on foreplay, you will actually intensity her orgasms later. Or for that matter, she may very well get one during foreplay itself! So heighten her anticipation first and the both of you will enjoy a far more sizzling time together.

Attempting To Give An Orgasm Through Penetration Alone

Truth? Most women are unable to climax from intercourse alone. So don’t waste your time trying to get her off by penetrating her with vigor. How about learning some oral sex techniques? Most women can climax within 5 minutes of good oral sex. Your woman shouldn’t be any different. Have a go at it!

Q&A: G-Spot Orgasm: How To Push Her Over The Edge

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A g-spot orgasm can be one of the best she’s ever experienced. Here’s how to tip the scales in your favor and give her an incredible g-spot orgasm, using sex toys, oral sex and different sex positions!

Question: My girlfriend has problems having a g-spot orgasm, she says it’s always been that way. So far we’ve gotten close but just not quite managed to nudge her over the edge. What tips could you give to make it easier for me to give her that extra nudge? She says doesn’t care about it but I really want to help her achieve something and make her feel special.

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Lots Of Warm Up And Foreplay

A woman needs quite a bit of foreplay and warm up time before she’s able to have a g-spot orgasm. First of all, her g-spot is difficult to find if she’s not completely turned on – when she is, the area fills with blood and becomes squishier and easier to locate. Second, vaginal stimulation just isn’t going to feel very good if she’s not turned on first. She won’t be as lubricated (you should have a good lube on hand anyways) and it may feel rough or painful to her instead of pleasurable.

Spend lots of time kissing and touching before you move on to sex, and oral sex is always in style. Cunnilingus rarely fails to get a woman so turned on, she’s ready to BLOW as soon as you penetrate her.

G-Spot Accessible Sex Positions

Some sex positions are better than others when it comes to stimulating the g-spot. Doggy style is a good one, because it allows for much deeper penetration than other sex positions. Woman on top is another good one, because it allows the woman to control everything about the sexual encounter, from the angle of penetration, to the depth of it and the speed of thrusting.

Note your anatomy. Does your penis curve to the right or left a little? Up or down? Or is it rather straight? Many guys have a slight bend in the penis which works incredibly well to stimulate the g-spot during penetration if in the right sex positions. Remember that a woman’s g-spot is located about two inches inside the vagina, on the top wall near her stomach. If your penis bends to the left, for example, you can lie your partner on her right side with her legs pulled in towards her chest. These sex positions allow a man with a bend to the left to use his natural anatomy to stimulate her g-spot! If your penis bends to the right, have your partner lie on her left side.

Keeping your natural anatomy in mind when selecting sex positions is an excellent way to give your partner even more pleasure and g-spot orgasms!

Oral Sex And Fingering

Again, oral sex is a tried and true tool to get a woman hot enough to orgasm. If you combine oral sex and fingering, you can actually very easily give your lover a vaginal orgasm or a blended orgasm. Alternate between licking her clitoris and stimulating her g-spot by using the “come hither” motion with your fingers, and as she gets hotter and closer to climax, switch to licking her clitoris and fingering her g-spot at the same time. Sometimes, a blended orgasm is much, much more powerful than a vaginal or clitoral orgasm alone!

Sex Toys

Just like with oral sex and fingering, you’re not limited to your penis when it comes to giving your lover a g-spot orgasm. You want to use any and all tools at your disposal – whatever works, right? Sex toys are no exception. If you have difficulty giving your partner a g-spot orgasm through penetration alone, try oral sex with fingering or sex toys.

If she has any sex toys of her own, check them out – it will give you a better idea of what she likes (or just ask her). Get a few new toys to play with that feature things she likes. When using them on her, the same principles apply – always give her plenty of foreplay first to get her warmed up! Then start using the sex toys.

Women crave intimacy during sex, so continue to kiss, lick, rub and touch all over her body. Look deeply into her eyes and talk dirty as you use the toys on her to bring her closer to orgasm. She’s not going to like it much if all you’re doing is sitting there and holding the toy on her clitoris, or if you’re pumping the toy in and out of her like you were churning butter. If you have to use sex toys, step up the foreplay, kissing and cuddling so she doesn’t feel a sense of emotional detachment from you.

Foreplay – Why You Never Want To Skip It, Ever

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Foreplay is something that you should always do, every single time you have sex. Here’s why foreplay is absolutely essential to great sex.

Foreplay is often understood as the set of activities done before actual intercourse. The typical menu includes kissing, caressing, getting & giving head, touching, groping, hugging, fingering etc. Men feel like dogs if they don’t engage in it, and they’ve heard or read somewhere that plenty of it makes them a great lay – so they sign up. Foreplay makes gentlemen out of horny boys.

Doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie or an expert, foreplay works like a charm – definitely gets a woman going.

A guy only falls short when he thinks of it merely as a ploy to get his woman worked up and pre-heat her ovens. If he sees foreplay simply as a preliminary, he will effectively dismiss it the moment he considers her ready to receive him. That’s how a goal-oriented person behaves! When the goal is struck, one moves on to other things.

Why Women Love It

Because it largely embodies what women, the XX gender, are all about.

They want it far, far more than any other part of the program, yes, even penetration. Not because they need extra ticks to heat up, but because it is in foreplay that their physical and emotional needs are met.

She wants to feel needed, wanted and appreciated. Kissing, caressing and gazing into her eyes accomplish exactly that. It makes her gasp, “Wow, he thinks more of me than just a vagina on heels!” It’s the most personal part of the act, and probably the only time her presence is being fully recognized. (Because when the pumping begins, men often fly off to their own worlds and forget about their partners.)

But foreplay bridges the emotional and the physical. To her, it captures the essence of the phrase: Being with a man.

And something very interesting happens during foreplay. Eve not only senses the touch, the physical connection, but the emotional underpinnings as well. For example, when you kiss her, she doesn’t just feel the lips touching, she relishes the emotional bond. (This connection is what women fuss about.)

In addition to this, it is especially designed for the senses. The sensual bombardment is so remarkable, and the potential for pleasure so high, that it rivals the ecstasy of an orgasm. Being multi-sensory, significantly fascinated by process and details, women relish every drop of the stuff going on. The smell of candles, the sound of lip-locks, the caress of your fingers, the slow and steady build-up of sexual heat – women are sucker for these.

Not that sensual bliss is solely found in foreplay, but tastefully done, it can be like one long orgasm.

The Grossly Underplayed Card

In a committed relationship, there are certain physical accesses and privileges that only YOU, her partner, can avail of.

Foreplay is one.

No one else is licensed to connect with her in the manner that you are encouraged to. Not even her long time girlfriend can do that to her body, as society limits them to hugs & kisses. Only you are tolerated to caress her breasts, lick her body or slip your fingers without a lawsuit. Nobody else has that privilege of ravishing and indulging her.

Only you. Hands, tongue, any part of you, can mesh with hers – without apologies and without restraint.

Unfortunately, this is an underused card. Men take foreplay for granted, not understanding their total franchise of her body, mistaking kisses and caresses as means to an end.

The irony, is that out of the many uncontrollable emotional forces operating inside your woman’s body, one of the most potent is the yearning to be kissed & touched. She’s dying to be kissed and craving to be touched. She wants the warmth of another person. In a committed relationship, the source of all that (and more), is you. The only one who can fill such an unimaginable need.

Think about that for a moment.